Hey Everyone It Is Irishdude405
I am A very Understanding person that likes to listen to your thought and i can relate to many of you hear because I've been through many Situations that you may be going through. I'm not to into sports but i love being active. I dont Have a girlfriend at the current moment. I am Attending Highschool Next year and im Hopefully going to go to college raise a family and be a writer. Now Dont hesitate asking me a question They Will be Answered and They will have Advice for every specific Need!
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i recently went on vacation with my family and a few cousins whom i hadnt talked to in a long time to california. me and one of my cousins started getting somewhat close, and i am ashamed to say i like him. eh. any help? (link)
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Yes, STOP. Liking a family member is like messing with gasoline and a lit match. Friends will think you are weird, Familys will talk. people will talk about you. I may be sounding a little harsh but, I'm trying to stop you from making a terrible mistake!!!!!
Irishdude405
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ok so here it is.....
i really like this guy and i have known him for about a year know. He likes one of my friends and he always tells me how much he likes her. I dont know what i should do. Should i give up and move on or stick in there and hold on to him??
please help me
Thankx* (link)
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Well it seems like this guy really likes your friend, That sucks things like that can really suck and make you feel awful. The only think you can do is let time run its course. You might wanna take this time to just flirt around and just get to know other people.
You ask , I'll answer
Talk to me anytime
~Irishdude405~
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i don't know what to do because my boyfriend got grounded and he says he's going to sneak out to see me but last time he did that he got caught and got grounded for even longer. I've been trying to talk him out of it but its not working. what things can i say to him to try to talk him out of it because if he gets caught then we won't be able to see eachother for even longer. (link)
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Say to your boyfriend, Listen I'm happy that you want to see me but you've got to use your head. The more you sneak out the longer you will stay grounded. Say i need you to stay in Do it for Me Do it for our relationship. I hope that will make him think about sneaking out. Hope i could have been a help. Tell me how it goes and Send me any advice you need.
You Ask, I'll answer ;) Irishdude405
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Ok, there is this one guy that I know likes me. But I don't like him. We are really really good friends. How can I tell him I don't like him without hurting him? (link)
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Sometimes in this case things are better off unsaid. You dont want to hurt his feelings but i bet deep down inside he already knows you dont like him. It is just something that your heart tells you. But you might want to slip him hints like" You and I are really good friends your like my Brother!" therefore he kind of understands what you mean but your not flat out saying " i dont like you" its a better way of doing it i think
you ask, I'll answer Irishdude405
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Well my family is a family with 5 kids. We are running sort of low on money. How couild I help them out. I mean my mom could nopt even buy shampoo the other day! (link)
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Try getting a paper route or something or even do a lawn mowing service ALOT OF SENIOR CITIZENS NEED THIS AND THEY PAY GOOD MONEY. Now if you have all of your siblings do this it could help. Yard work is something many people need in the summer and it gives a good amount of money. I strongly reccomend doing this
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Ok, there is this guy that I like. My friend found out that he liked me too. He was mad about me knowing I liked him. I told him it wasn't a big deal because I like him too. So now we both know about our 'secret' crushes. It's just weird because he was acting different. I don't want to ask him out right now though because I'm going on vacation Sun. and I won't get to talk to him. So don't tell me to just ask him out. Does anyone know why he's acting different? Or what to do in a situation like this?
Thanks!
p.s. I'm 13/f. (link)
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i said this in one of my other advice tips. Boys tend to get awkward around situations that he cannot control. Like now if he flirts with you it is because now he knows that you know he likes you and it is putting him in an uncomfortable position. and people will be like OoOoOo you like her!!! and its something that boys like to avoid. Boys also tend to want what they cant have untill they can get it. Boys are weird that way . I'm a boy so Yes we are weird a lot!:) but a lot of boys will stay away from a girl because he is shy and he doesnt know what to say but hang in there!
You ask Ill answer
~Irishdude405~
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ok there is this guy on myspace thats wants me to hang out with him. i don't know if i should. i know my mother wouldn't agree with it, so what should i do?? is it good to meet someone from online?? (link)
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BIG NO NO, BIG NO NO you NEVER meet someone that you dont know online. They could be saying that they are a 17 year old football player, but a 36 year old reapist. This isn't a good idea and i WOULDNT DO IT. This is stuff that happens everyday. People being tricked into hanging out with people and then they are reaped and murdered. Im concerned for your safety PLEASE DONT DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Irishdude405
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I'm really worried about my girl friend her grandpa is in the hospital. Well she's sad and streesed out. I'm sad for her, but I don't know what to do for her. So my question is... What should I do for her? Or should I do anything at all? (link)
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Buy her some flowers and tell her that you hope everything is all right kiss her and then let time take its course. thats all you can do my friend.
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I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 16(I'm 14), because he didn't want a relationship and I did. All he wants is friends with bennefits. I told him I wasn't going to do that with him, and he said that was ok. He asked if we could hang out today, just hang out. so I said yeah, and I told myself that I wasn't going to do anything with him and then he came over, and the next thing I know, im straddling him (fully clothed) and making out with him. It got carried away and I ended up giving him a hand job. He thinks it was just friends with bennefits and I'm a piece of ass. I don't want that, and I want to know if I should just cut off all relations with him and stop talking to him, I dont need him as a friend. or a boyfriend. what do I do!? (link)
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You should get rid of his sorry ass, its only gonna get worse. He thinks he can get anything he wants off you but that aint gonna happen. you tell him that you want nothing to do with him. Your better than that and you deserve someone who is willing to understand and appreciate YOUR rights and YOUR wants. You dont need that from anyone
Irishdude405
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ok there is this guy that i like and he is my best friends brother.
well i went to his house one night and we ended up kissing and i couldnt help but to fall even more for him...
he acts like he likes me but im not for sure if he does,....
because after that night we went a while without talkin and now we are like the best of friends but i wanna be more/please help the best you can i am open for any advice (link)
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This is one of those things that boys do when they feel awkward about something, like staying distant will make it all go away. Keep at it and maybe he will begin to like you more than a friend (( if he doesnt already)) ;)
you ask I'll answer Irishdude405
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How can I be sure that I am ready for sex? I want it, but im scared. So how will i know? (link)
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Well sex is a beautiful thing and i think it should only be shared between married people. but Knowing when to have sex is like picking out clothes in a way. They need to make you feel comfortable. It has to be something that is like you and in your style like the guy your with. They have to fit just right and make sure its not something that can fall off easily like an uneasy relationship.You always gotta keep them clean and take the dirty spots off them and keep it protected. Hope i helped
you ask, I'll answer Irishdude405
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ok i've been rele horny lately.. and i've been having sex with my boyfriend aggressively i mean i don't think he minds but i don't like it..how do i stop becoming as horny all the time? i mean i dont watch porno and im as average as average can get? i dont get it? (link)
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i think you need to distract yourself somehow. try doing crafts or something to get your mind focuse on something else and stay acctive so your not sitting around thinking about your urges.
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Ok my family is very strong believers in Christianity but I believe in Kabbalah (which is very very different). I've never said anything about it b4..I just went along with them and went to church and stuff. Well I guess that because it's never caused a problem before. Now they know that my boyfriend isn't a Christian and they're all like you can't be with him..and see I've been with him as long as I can remember and I love him to death. If I tell them I'm not a Christian I'm really afraid that they'll either ground me forever and treat me like crap or send me to bording school. What should I do? Because I can't go the next two years without my man. (link)
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I am not going to say anything about your faith because your faith is your faith, but i am a very strong christian and i think you should talk about it with your parents as hard as it may seem. Try to
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My friend told me that he was moving away...I'm very bummed about it but I dont know what I can do...Can someone please help me like how did you feel and what did you do and everything. Thanks a lot! (link)
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When Friends move away it can be very hard to deal with. i lost a bestfriend, ex girlfriend who i still liked, and im going to lose another best friend. There is nothing to do except remember the good times, keep pictures. Try to stay in touch with them by writing letters, E-mails AOL. I tried to keep in touch with most of my friends that have gone away it can be tough but it gets easier to deal with once it happenes
always here
~Irishdude405~
Goodluck:)
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Ok...how the hell can i get stress out. When it is caused by my family...and im grounded for a while, so im stuck here? PLEASE help...im going crazy! (link)
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Well stay in your room and listen to music, that helps. stay out of everyones way so you dont have to deal with stress. Write about how you feel that can sometimes help get out what you need to say in a nice calm manner
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i told my parents to f**k off and i got grounded for 2 weeks. do you think this is fair? because i was really pissed off.. i coulndt help it. lol. (link)
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Telling your parents to fuck off is deffinitly gonna get you grounded lol. But parents can get pretty frustrating and annoying as fuck after a while, but you still need to watch wat you say.
Keep it clean;)
Irishdude405
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So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help (link)
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You sound like a beautiful girl and if he cant repect you as a person and covers his heart with pride and popularity dont you waste one more minute with him. if he isnt willing to express his love for you infront of people then you need to find someone who has the balls to do it.
you ask, ill answer Irishdude405
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Ok so, my crush asked me out last night so of course I said yes. I'm new to the whole dating experience, im only 14. I like him a lot, but whenever the thought of going to the movies or something comes up, I automatically make up an excuse to not go. I don't know why. I'm very co-dependant and I would be too scared to go anywhere unless it was a double date or something. He says hes okay with that but I dont know whats wrong with me. I think my main fear is making out. Yea yea laugh, but I guess im just scared to do it. I dont know whats wrong with me and why im so scared to go anywhere with him. I'll rate you high. Thx a bunch (link)
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you just started going out with this kid and its your first boyfriend and this is everyones reaction" oh what about kissing and stuff" Trust me everything slowly falls right into place and you will start to feel more comfortable with him and what you do with him. Trust me your not alone in all of this;)
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I'm 14, soon to be 15. He just turned 19. He's so sweet and calls me baby/beautiful/sweetheart. All that stuff. I like him alot, and he likes me too. We've hooked up }not sex{ and I told my close cousins. They all make fun of me now saying that he's 19 and stuff like that. It really pisses me off because they don't know him. He's amazing and he likes me too. We live 2 hours apart, but I see him when I go up to my cottage. Which is alot. I really like him and I want it too work and so does he. But I want my cousins off my case. Should I tell them that I broke up with him??
IF you have any other advice about my situation I would greatly appreciate anything you have to offer.
Thank you soo much.
Love,
- Ashley (link)
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Even though i think 19 is WAY to old for you, tell your cousins to back off and that they are just jealous because guys of numerous ages want you and not them;)
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Okay so a while back, me and this kid, Will, hooked up .. we weren't going out or anything we just 'liked' eachother for a while. He was always really shy around me and the relationship wasn't going anywhere, so i moved on from him. For a while i didnt like anyone, and now i like this other kid, Mike, who is a little cocky but very sweet. He is not shy and i can really talk to him. hE LIKES me also. But Will got really pissed at me for being with Mike. Will is absolutely heart broken... Will is definately a better kid, and i liked him before so i could probably like him again if i tried. Mike on the other hand is the kid i really like now.. what shouuuld i do!? please help me ....... (link)
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You shouldn't make youself love someone because you feel bad for them. this may sound rude but people get hurt its life. you cant help who you like now and i think you should give mike a chance. Will had his chance but he didnt do anyhthing with it. It is Mikes time to shine. Tell me how it goes ok?!!!!!
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