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22 year old girl.
Been in a relationship for the past 2 and a half years with a guy that is 24 and is great. Funny, intelligent, ambitious, and caring. And things were wonderful until I found out he was talking to another girl ..Texting, snap chatting, face times.. I talked him he apologized. He then went to the movies with a girl that he went to middle school with that he hadn't seen for years and used to crush on her to "catch up".. He then went out of the country and met up with the girl that he was constantly face timing and texting.. That bothered me... I started to get very fed up and stopped caring as much yet he still claims that they're both only his friends and that its all in my head... But my thing is if I were to be the one doing this, he wouldn't even be with me anymore. He constantly asks where I am, who9 I am with, what I am doing and always questions why.. I don't even get these questions for my dad and when I ask him why he's always questioning me he says its because he cares and if I was hiding anything it wouldn't bother me.Fast-forward - I recently went out with a friend and met this one guy who is a cop. We kind of have the same history and let me tell you that every time I see this guy my heart starts racing.. I love talking to him and how much of a gentleman he is and I just feel so safe around him.. My feelings for my boyfriend are starting to fade and I just don't know what to do.. Advice greatly appreciated
Dear Not sure:
As it appears that your heart is leading you in another direction now, I'd like to give you advice about what NOT to do. The guy you describe as funny, intelligent, ambitious and caring also has all the characteristics of a player. You really have little knowledge of the "cop" who you are presently infatuated with.
At your age, your relationships should be about having fun and learning. Don't get too serious about anyone right now. Let guys court you, take you to movies, dinners, events. Accept these kind of invitations from guys who appeal to you, including "your guy," and "the cop." Resist requests to just "hang out," which tends to lead toward - you know what.
As a young man, I was a player too until at the age of 28, I met a girl who couldn't be played. We've been married now for 47 years.
One my friends is moving away and I want to write her a goodbye letter. I honestly don't know what to say. What are somethings that I can say to her? I also have a crush on her soo
I'm a girl btw.
Here's a template that perhaps you can modify into something that represents your feelings: http://www.goodbyeletters.net/preview/Best_Friend_Moving
My friends did the challenge but we didn't know we had to say charlie charlie can we stop? before we could stop playing! Are we all going to be haunted until we die or just the person who first asked to summon the demon?
SCARED PLEASE HELP!
While it's not a good idea to summon spirits of any kind, "Charlie" can't "possess" you or force you to do anything that you don't want to do. It's possible, since you invited "him" in, that "he" may stay around for a while and try to harass and scare you.
I am scared to report c porn because i am afraid they will blame me. i don't know why. please report these sites for me?
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please help me and report sites above!
all i searched for 2was teen! OMG! i m a girl!
It's too bad there's no one to filter out junk like this.
hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it?
Have confidence. Our Lord has commissioned each of us to share the Good News and "seek the lost." He said: "Go and make disciples of all nations"; and "Go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation" (Matthew 28:19; Mark 16:15). It's our greatest calling, then, to share the love and forgiveness He has given us with those who have never received Him as their Savior and Lord.
Witnessing to friends and family members isn't easy; but it's absolutely necessary. Swallow your fears and love them more than you love yourself. Be wise in your presentation. Pray in preparation and wait for the right opportunity to speak to them. Then, present the law and the gospel with humility, honesty, respect, patience, kindness and love. Trust the Sovereign Lord in your efforts.
How do I see a psychologist/psychiatrist for free? I have no source of income.
Your community mental health center is your best resource. Fees are assessed based on the client's ability to pay.
I dont know bike riding everone making my fufuni have decided to suicide i think iam weight on earth i ththink i have to go to somnath gujrat and suicide in sea?
Going to somnath gujrat and then committing suicide would be very wrong as suicide brings a bad reputation to your family and they may have to live with the stigma forever. Therefore it would be a very serious mistake on your part to escape from your rightful responsibilities and cause this distress to others.
Suicide in Hinduism is considered a mortal sin. Manusmriti states that libations of of water, which are usually offered to departed souls, should not ne offered to those that commit suicide. Suicide in Sansckrit is "atmahata" - murdering of the soul.
All life is sacred, even the life of insects and animals. Human life is especially unique and precious and is attained only at the end of numerous births and death. Only as a human do you have the opportunity to work for your liberation.
Your human birth has certain obligatory duties and responsibilities to yourself, the gods and your ancestors. If you commit suicide, all of these duties remain unattended and it creates much bad karma, not only for you but everyone who will suffer for your action. At your death, you will not go to either heaven or hell but will remain here on earth as a bad spirit and you will wander aimlessly until you complete what would have been your normal life span.
Please realize that your life is a rare opportunity and should not be wasted. Instead of suicide, practice yoga and find a purpose that's greater than yourself. Think of helping others and working for social or environmental causes. Talk to your family and seek medical help.
My interview is on 30march monday.m scared of Wat sorts of questions are asked? M confused of some questions.my subject is bachlore in business administration with international business.so how this course will help me in making career?and wat is the answer of wat will do after completing ur study course in usa?
Plz answer such question
If you study the material on this website, you should be sufficiently prepared. http://travel.state.gov/content/visas/english/immigrate/immigrant-process/interview/prepare.html
Your degree should be very helpful to you no matter where you are.
My friend said it contains carbohydrates, a diabetic patient shouldn't eat corn.
Your friend is right. Corn definitely is a starchy, carbohydrate rich food that many warn against eating by a diabetic But corn offers plenty of nutritional benefits that make it worth the extra effort to include it as part of a balanced diabetic diet. Make sure when you eat it, do it along with foods containing protein or fat and limit your consumption to one ear of corn or 1/2 cup of kernels at any given meal.
I heard that dark chocolate was healthy for you for many reasons and was gonna try to start eating more of it. I don't want all the high sugary stuff, I want a kind that is pretty high in coco percentage but no too bitter. As of right now, I only have York chocolate because it was given to me. It seems kinda sweet even though it's completely sugar free, but I'm more concerned about how much coco is in it. I heard the higher percentage of dark coco was in it, the healthier it will be. I searched the Internet, but couldn't find the answer anywhere. Can anyone tell me who much coco is in it? It was the small bite sized pieces with peppermint
There's been study after study proving that dark chocolate is not only delicious, it's packed with healthy stuff like flavonoids and theobromine. It's good for you and good for what ail's you. However, when they add milk, sugar and butter, it's good for your taste buds but not always good for your health. Stick with chocolate that's at least 70% cocoa if ya' know what's good for ya'.
I don't want to hear about 'there's always a chance'. I know that already. My question needs a simple Yes or No answer.
Question- If the condom has no breakage, no holes, no leaks, no slip, no nothing and correct usage; Is it possible to get pregnant?
Yes!
I own a lenovo B460E laptop which i bought 3 years ago. Last november i wasn't able to turn it on and after taking it to a repair store i was advised to replace the motherboard. Since i did not have the idea of buying a new laptop, i went ahead and replaced it. I use my laptop for gaming around 3 hours straight and it has a dying battery whose charge lasts for around 20 minutes. So i usually use it plugged in. I would like to know whether i can use my laptop like the way i am using it now or are there any precautions that i should follow. Thanks in advance.
Because you're gaming a lot, one thing you can do is monitor your laptops components and temperature it's essential to maintain the correct temperature and you'll want to know of any problem right away. You can use a laptop monitoring software like "Speccy" which will monitor every piece of hardware in your computer. Including CPU, Motherboard, RAM, Graphics Cards, Hard Disks, Optical Drives, Audio support. Additionally Speccy adds the temperatures of your different components, so you can easily see if there's a problem.
Hi there,
Should I follow the teachings I found in David Servant's book: The Great Gospel Deception?
I found some guy that really hates this guy, but when I look at David Servant's website, the points that the guy who hates him keeps making seem to obviously be false... So, how do I tell what to do and who to believe.
Is Mr. Servant an honest man I should listen to, or not?
Thank you!
Because in matters of religion, everything is based on faith and belief. If I were to give you my personal opinion about David Servant or his teachings, it would be totally subjective, based on my own religious beliefs and prejudices.
The best way to approach this is to investigate him and his writings for yourself with a completely open mind. There's plenty of material available with a simple Google search. Don't let the guy who hates him poison your curiosity. As you learn of Mr. Servant, you will begin to form your own opinion which is the only one that really counts in religious matters.
This will be very long sorry, I just need to understand....
Okay, so I'm 16 from the USA. I'm a very shy home schooled church girl and I'd never really talked to a guy let alone dated or did anything with one.
One day my one friend(we're super close we basically consider each other family) and her boyfriend went mud bogging one day and I tagged along. They went with a bunch of his friends that I didn't know and most of them were of course guys.
After that when I went home my friend(let's call her Meg) messaged me and said that one of the guys there was going to snapchat me and to look cute and be nice.[this happened on Wednesday]
So I did talk to him, and I liked him a bit so the next day we ate lunch together at subway(I'm homeschooled and he's graduated but the age difference isn't too big of a deal because it's the same as my parents) so we talked for a while and I went home right after and we texted the rest of the day. [Thursday]
The next day I texted him all day because me and Meg were babysitting but after she and I went to go see him for a few hours at his house. It was also the day of our(and also my) first kiss.
[Friday]
The next day didn't go so well. Me and Meg were going to work with her horses for a bit then we drive 45 minutes away to go shopping then pick up her boyfriend from work since his truck broke and go to 'my guys'(as Meg calls him) house. Thanks to Megs mom we didn't end up leaving till way later than we wanted to so we didn't get back in time to pick up him up so we asked 'my guy' to since him and her boyfriend are friends. He didn't want but he did. When Meg and me got to his house there were people yelling and it was awkward so we left right away taking her boyfriend with us and 'my guy' was going to meet us at my house. Before he got there he said he didn't want to come because he was mad about something that happened earlier, I told him he didn't have to but he came anyway. All four of us when to subway and it was fine until 'my guy' started just making mean comments to Meg then said something about us being there the night before not letting him sleep and such. Obviously every one got pissed off by this and we all left, Meg taking her boyfriend home and I was left to talk to him. We did and I forgave him and everything then he came into my house talked to my mom for a while then left. (Saturday)
This day my parents were gone for a funeral and wouldn't be back until the next night. He came over to my house around noon when Meg was there, Meg got her boyfriend and we were all at my house even though most of the time me and him were downstairs in my room while they were upstairs in the living room. They left around 6 or 7 to go to her boyfriends and around 8 someone was coming to my house to stay with me because my parents were gone. We stayed in my room for a while then went upstairs and sat on the couch to wait for the person to get there and that was when we had our(my) first make-out session. When the person got there I sat upstairs with them while he went down stairs. I went back down after a bit and we layed there and watched a movie, during the second movie though we started kissing again and he started to get a little touchy. The two times he started to touch well, that area, I'd grab his hand and he'd stop(he knows I don't want to lose my virginity for a while and said to let him know if he did too much) after that he went on his phone and he got upset because his ex was giving him shit after that we sat on my bed and started talking and he said that he cared for me a lot but like didn't feel 'like' was a strong enough word but it was too soon and to strong of a word for him to say love. I said it was the same for me too which it is, but I'll say more about that in a bit. But we started kissing again and I felt bad that he wanted to do more but I wouldn't let him and that his ex was upset with him(which is indirectly somewhat my fault) so when he put his hand on his, well you know, I didn't fight it. Nothing went in my mouth(or vagina but you should know that) but you can guess what I did.
This was when I realized I cared about him way too much for such a short time and I was a little frightened by it. A week earlier I never would have considered so much as kissing yet here I was doing this no matter what my reasons were..
We laid there after for about an hour and he left.
[Sunday]
This is the day when I need the most advice from.
Me and Meg were hanging out all day until around 5 when we went to my house and he came. We sat upstairs with her until she left at 7 a first nothing happened we just laid there and watched a movie. When the movie was over we started kissing again and started to do stuff but again I said no the most that happened was that he cupped and kissed my boob for about a minute and he started rubbing above my pants for a little bit when I pulled his hand back. I was sitting on his lap and we were kissing when Meg walked in absolutely terrifying both of us. She came in to grab something then left, we talked for a bit about it and he started rubbing above my pants again and said that he'd wait until I was comfortable before doing anything else then stopped after a minute he asked if i felt anything when he did stuff and I said yes, and it scares me a little so we talked about that and I said "maybe we should slow down we did meet 5 days ago." he said he understood, we said bye and he left.
After he left I messaged Meg(She knows what we did the other night and had been making fun of me for it ever since I told her) saying how long did you laugh about this time? expecting her to joke back but she messaged me and was totally serious and said "what were you doing" i said nothing like last night because we didn't. And she was even more serious saying "what did you. you've known him for 6 days, not been dating, known him. Do you realize how fast you're going" And i said yes, you're right and I did tell him we needed to slow down(I also texted him after this conversation and told him so again) she asked again and I told her I was sitting on his lap and we were kissing that's all since that pretty much was it. and that was Yesterday... haven't talked to Meg since that conversation and haven't talked to him since around 10 last night
I guess I just need advice, any all advice you are willing to give... should I tell Meg everything in detail or is it not a big enough deal to bother with? and I don't know...(and don't says something like it's none of her business, because we've known each other long enough and are close enough where it is and she's only concerned for me.)
Also I like him alot... I'm falling hard and since I've never so much as had a crush before, it's almost overwhelming and I don't know what I'm turning into... I actually considered the things he wanted to do and my virginity is a big deal to me.(but common sense and my own stubbornness took over and I couldn't say yes) If it weren't for the world we live in and the fact that I don't know if I can wait that long I would wait until marriage happily. I don't want to stop talking to him but I don't want to do something I'll regret or get hurt either... i don't know.. anything you would be willing to say would be appreciated, and sorry again for it being so long
My dear, you're playing with fire. This guy is going to continue to manipulate you until he scores.
It appears to me that he's much more interested in getting sexual satisfaction from you than he is in establishing a loving relationship. I suspect that he's going to push you further and further every time you're together and when you finally give him what he wants, that's all you'll ever do together.
Don't become just one of his conquests. If you want to continue to see him, invite him to meet your family and see if he can pass their muster. Don't just hang out with him, insist on attending functions together and doing fun things. Make him prove with actions that he truly cares out YOU and not just...
Hey! I am a 16 year old girl who is having some difficulty with relationships. I am currently talking to a 15 year old boy (the age difference isn't an issue for me) but he seems to like taking things fast. I feel entirely comfortable with him and I have no problem talking to him about most things but I'm afraid he'll use me for sex and then take off. I don't want to stereotype every high school boy by saying they only want sex but I'm afraid of getting myself into that situation when I'm not ready for it. I'm not looking for a commitment that leads to marriage but I also don't want to play games. I really like this guy and don't want to lose him but I also don't want to do anything I'm uncomfortable with. Any advice is appreciated greatly!
I applaud your keen insight and that you trust your intuition enough to be cautious.
Young men (15 year old boys) are notorious for their interest in sexual activity. Unfortunately, they usually lack the judgement and discretion necessary for establishing a meaningful relationship with a girl and many focus entirely on satisfying themselves with little or no regard for either the girl's health, well-being or protection from possible consequences. Because they love to keep score and delight in sharing the intimate details of their "conquests" indiscriminately with their friends and associates, the girls reputation can be irreparably damaged to the point that every boy will want just the "one thing" that their friend bragged to them about. Not to mention the damage done to the opinions of her girlfriends who may also hear of it.
My advice to you is to continue to be very discriminating in sharing your love and affection. Men become seriously interested in women who have self respect, modesty and don't present themselves as "easy" or "pushovers"
Hello
I am 17 years old and I recently started wetting myself. Not massive wee's but big enough. The other night at 4 in the morning I rolled over and felt this sudden wetness like an someone had just broke my waters. I had to get up it was all over my legs! It happened again today. I'm just unsure what to do I have been on 6 months treatment for thrush so know its not that? I'm just super embarrassed and don't want my partner to find out!
Thank you😊
If you have only recently started to wet the bed, it could be caused simply by you producing of a lot of urine. If so, the problem may resolve itself in time. It could also be caused by many other things, including: a urinary tract infection, alcohol, coffee or diuretic medicines, sleeping tablets, diabetes, stress and anxiety. It can even be the the result of neurological problems and sleep apnoea.
My advice to you is, if you can't pinpoint the proximate cause and take the corrective actions yourself, you should be seen by your physician. In any event, you must tell the parent you feel the closest too. Don't worry, it's nothing to be ashamed about, it's merely a condition that must be dealt with
Why do I like having bruises on my body? Is there something wrong with me or does someone else feel this way too? Thank you.
Self bruising along with the other forms of self harm is the way some young people express their feelings and emotions or to punish themselves. Many have a history of sexual or physical abuse and find these means of coping with it is easier than dealing with the pain of their emotions. Some come from broken homes, alcoholic families, etc. as well.
It's known that those who self harm may suffer from depression and in some cases, bipolar disorder along with the whole range of mood disorders. Some are also apt to abuse drugs or alcohol too.
This isn't something be brushed aside as a small problem. The very nature of self harm is physical damage to one's body. It's important to seek out help because once you get to the root of the problem, you can find alternative methods to deal with the pain.
My advice to you is to reach out and talk to someone, anyone who you can trust, about how you are feeling. In the meantime, whenever you feel the need to bruise yourself, try punching a pillow or just draw on your body instead of hitting it.
I'm planing to get a tablet and the one I plan to get says wifi enabled? What does that mean? Does that mean I can use wifi anywhere for free or would I have to sign a plan? And if so, how much would unlimited wireless wifi cost?
Absolutely! It means that the tablet can connect to the Internet for free when there's a local Wi-Fi network connection available. No plan is necessary.
My parents give me no freedom whatsoever and it drives me crazy. My friends are allowed to do whatever they want, even the ones with overly strict parents get more freedom than I do. I know right now, there is nothing I can do about it, but when I turn 18 I want nothing more than to move out of my parents house. The problem is I doubt ill have enough money, im trying to get into a very expensive college my parents were planning to help pay for, I don't have a car yet, and I live in Mississippi so the legal age is 21. Can anyone help me with these issues? I read online that there was a way to move out at 18 even if your from one of the states that say to be 21. Would the police make me return home? I know this is many questions, but I'm very desperate
Mississippi has a legal process by which a person under the age of 21 can apply to become an adult in the eyes of the law. The process is referred to, in Mississippi, as the "Removal of Disability of Minority" and can allow for a minor to become responsible for his or her own decisions regarding education, health care, residence, and other matters. Mississippi statutes do not provide a minimum age for emancipation, the court will decide emancipation cases in the best interest of the minor.
I have known this guy for 3 months now.We started with friendship. He has been dating for a while. I have been single recently so have not really dated. He looks very easu going. Earlier he was so much interested - msgd daily till we kissed and got intimate.Its been a week - I believe in equal relationship so I really did nt care who is asking whom. Earlier he used to ask ...now I stared asking. I asked him once - his reply was already plans to night...next day he has some plans so he said how about weekend. I did nt reply. Friday he went to city and next noon msgs me what are you upto. EVening he asked the same questions. What does he mean? After all this, I dnt even see him as a friend...because I feel its all when he is available he asks him...he never makes plans he used to do. Like in noon he could have said lets do something in evening. WHen I asked him in the evening...he said he is with a friend. I am confused...where is this going?
Men are pursuers. They're designed to chase and conquer. It's always best to prolong the chase long enough to make sure that he is someone by whom you would like to be "caught." It takes a lot of time to see how much of a man's behaviors and attention is based on who he is or how much he simply wants to win the chase. Allowing your man to "catch" you too soon, only makes you vulnerable to disappointment and rejection. At the end of the day, men want a woman who will make him earn (and deserve) your love and affection.