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Not sure of what to do
22 year old girl.
Been in a relationship for the past 2 and a half years with a guy that is 24 and is great. Funny, intelligent, ambitious, and caring. And things were wonderful until I found out he was talking to another girl ..Texting, snap chatting, face times.. I talked him he apologized. He then went to the movies with a girl that he went to middle school with that he hadn't seen for years and used to crush on her to "catch up".. He then went out of the country and met up with the girl that he was constantly face timing and texting.. That bothered me... I started to get very fed up and stopped caring as much yet he still claims that they're both only his friends and that its all in my head... But my thing is if I were to be the one doing this, he wouldn't even be with me anymore. He constantly asks where I am, who9 I am with, what I am doing and always questions why.. I don't even get these questions for my dad and when I ask him why he's always questioning me he says its because he cares and if I was hiding anything it wouldn't bother me.Fast-forward - I recently went out with a friend and met this one guy who is a cop. We kind of have the same history and let me tell you that every time I see this guy my heart starts racing.. I love talking to him and how much of a gentleman he is and I just feel so safe around him.. My feelings for my boyfriend are starting to fade and I just don't know what to do.. Advice greatly appreciated
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Dear Not sure:
As it appears that your heart is leading you in another direction now, I'd like to give you advice about what NOT to do. The guy you describe as funny, intelligent, ambitious and caring also has all the characteristics of a player. You really have little knowledge of the "cop" who you are presently infatuated with.
At your age, your relationships should be about having fun and learning. Don't get too serious about anyone right now. Let guys court you, take you to movies, dinners, events. Accept these kind of invitations from guys who appeal to you, including "your guy," and "the cop." Resist requests to just "hang out," which tends to lead toward - you know what.
As a young man, I was a player too until at the age of 28, I met a girl who couldn't be played. We've been married now for 47 years.
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