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i'm 13, male, and i've like this one girl for a REALLY long time, and i honestly think i love her, but she hates me and doesn't even acknowledge me when i say hi..it's like im not even there, and it hurts. a lot. got any advice?

Well maybe you did something wrong to make her mad at you, ask her if she's ok or mad. tell her how you feel gingerly, and ask her if you can be friends or maybe hang out. If she says no, its ok, it'll take time, if it never works out, you'll find someone perfect for you.= eventually. DONT WORRY!
tell me if i helped thanks :)

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I, really like this boy Alex. And he used to flirt with me, a little and stuff. Then i told him that i liked him. he said okay and was fine with it. Will my friend Alli asked him out for me today and he said Yes, then we had to play against him Gym (we were playing vollyball) and see i wasent going to get much in the game beacause my team cheats, and fights all the time. So i kinda just was in a little, and see Alex doesnt like how lazy iam, and stuff. So like right after that He told me that it was "over" pretty lame. I think its beacause im really lazy in his opinion..but i dont know. I honestly dont care but like i do? I want to get over him, i know he seems like i can do way much better and every body tells me that. but how can i get over him Im 13, and he's 13.

hmm...well i say if he is so picky and thinks your "lazy" then screw him. Everybody is right when they say you can do better, because YOU CAN!!! forget him and start over. think of all the bad things about him if you must. I say just get over him...i know thats harsh but thats all i can say. tell me if i helped thanks XD

cab~

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I have a new hamster. When she is on her wheel, it is really loud. It is keeping everyone up and I was wondering if there was anything I can do. I am going to try to find a different wheel, but I am not sure if there are any quiet ones out there. Does anyone know what I can do for right now, until I can find a new wheel?

Thanks!

i know this might be mean...but TAKE

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I really would like to make more guy friends. Guys talk to me and stuff, but how do I develop a friendship with them? I'll give all 5's. Thanks

hmm...well i have some guy friends and all i can say is that you just gotta be yourself....otherwise just idk use some of the subjects that they talk about....what i do is i act all not wanting to talk and this guy automaticly starts talking to me ( i just sit ther and act tired) it might not work tho...sorry i tried. tell me if i helped

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hi everyone, i am a 13 year old female, and although i am an advice columnist myself, i cant seem to find a way around my problem...please gove me any help you can...

ok well here it all is, ever since i was young i have been scared of the dark, like i see shadows, hear noises...the usual. and when i was about seven, i saw this movie, something about a leperchaun, and it scared the shit outta me, like whenever i had to go to the bathroom, i would be on the toilet(sorry for the prude language, hahah) and i would just imagine there would be this like killer leperchaun behind the shower cutain. and that STILL kind of scares me. and another thing, when i am watching television, or am on the comupter, i always think there is someone/something behind me, that is going to hurt me. now, i want to be an independent person, i really do, but unless there are lots of people around, i cant really live, because im so scared. like at night when everyone goes to bed, and i am downstairs, i freak myself out wondering if my mom locked the door, and if there is someone in the living room, so i bolt...and i mean BOLT upstairs and run into my room (which i share with my sister, otherwise i'd still be scared) so what i'm wondering is...how do i get over my fears? will i grow out of all this eventually? how do i become more indepentent?


please!please!please!please! HELP ME! anyone and everyone. i dont trust anyone i know enough to talk to them about this!

eh well.....I can't STAND scary movies so i know how ya feel. anyway, i think all you can do is read before you go to bed...thats what i do, that way your mind isn't on "leperchauns" and i also think about a fantasy like: a boy tells me he likes me...i get a car....or i go shopping... lol it works! keep your mind off anything scary and tell yourself FORGET IT ITS NOT REAL ITS MADE TO SCARE YOU FORGET IT!!!!!!!!! thats what i'd do i know its gonna be hard but try...ok tell me if i helped

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I know I know this isn't much of a friendship issue but I do consider my dog Bogie a friend. My dog is a labrador doberman mix and he is eleven years old. My mom says he has about three years left to live. I need advice on how to cope with the pain when he passes away. I know it's sorta silly but I think it will come in handy anyway.
-worried

theres no easy way to deal with doggy death. all i could do is give him all the love you have right now and enjoy him. he'll pass one day, and when he does, remember him fondly and show love to all other animals in that way you will be showing how you miss him and that you will show the love he gave you to others that need it. thats all i can say. haha sorry if i didnt help
-cab

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i don't even know what i'm asking really, but i'm really upset.

today my friends had a party to watch a movie and they said they called me, but there was nothing on my caller id, no messages, and my cell phone was on and with me and never rang. i really feel forgotten by my friends and really hurt. how can i keep myself from being forgotten again?

I FEEL YOUR PAIN! my friends seem to leave me, and hang out. but all i can say is tell them calmly (or else they might call you freaking out) that you dont like what they're doing and that you feel left out. hopefully they'll undertand and take you back but sometimes it backfires... tel me if i helped at all! -cab

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whenever i run i get out of breath real easily so what can i do so i can run longer without getting so tired ?

endurance! start with a short run with music and then build up....sooner or later you just might get better. tell me if i helped!

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Okay So to make a super long story short...i met this guy about a week ago(on the internet)....and i lied to him about what i looked like...where i lived, etc. etc. and well 2 days after meeting him, he found out i was fake and i had to confess and he stopped talking to me...well 2 days ago i IMed him and asked if we could start over...and he said no...he told me he was thinking about talking to me but not anymore because he thinks i'm weird and obsessed with him (because i was constantly sending him messages to try and explain) and i sent him one last message on myspace saying that if he would have just listened to me from the beginning then i wouldnt seem so stalker-ish.... :( is there any hope for me and him to become friends again in the future? or should i just forget him? I dont want to forget him because he is super nice and pretty cool from what i can tell...should i try and make things work or should i leave him alone and let him come to me....WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!?!?!? Thanks to anyone who answers :)

FORGET THIS JERK! if he calls you obsessed screw him. i mean i know you might like him but would you really like a guy that won't listen to your explanation and calls you obsessed? i wouldn't. so just forget him and move on! there are PLENTY of fish in the sea! tell me if i helped at all :) -cab

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since i was born ive had a huge birth mark on my neck. it hasnt really bothered me until this year. it makes me so self-conscious. its covered up pretty well when my hairs down, but you can still see it a little. but i do sports all year and i have to put my hair up and it just makes me so self-conscious like everyones staring at me. a few people have asked me about it and its so embarassing. i never wear my hair up for school or dances. only sports because i absolutely have to. i was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to get rid of it besides surgery because i know my parents wont go for that. thanks.

i know your pain. i have a "beauty mark" next to my lip. i HATE IT!!! i've been asked about it and it really hurts but i just say its a birth mark. (when i think its a mole) i want it removed but my parents won't go for that till later maybe. I would say if you can't get rid of it, enjoy it. its who you are! screw anyone that doesnt like it or thinks its wierd. just think it makes u Unique. and Unique is good. then if that doesnt work...think of all the things that are gorgeous or beautiful about you. pretty soon you'll forget it. good luck and tell me if i helped

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ok im 15/f. me and my bf broke up and are talking about going back out. but all of a sudden he has not been their everytime i called like i called 3 time friday.his niece was on the phone the first time so i told her i would call back so the second time the same thing happened then the 3 time she said he just left. when i write him emils and stuff he writes back and says that he wants me back and eveything but he just dont act like it. so can you guys please help me out and tell me what i should do?

well i'd talk to him about it, tell him you dont want your heart broken or hurt. then he'll know that you're worried a little. tell him in person or in an email(whichever you preffer) if that doesnt work then dont get together with him if its seems like a lost cause and that it wont work. GOOD LUCK! tell me if i helped at all

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Hey Guys =D
Okay I'm working towards a healthier lifestyle for myself ( less junk food, more exercising ) and so far its working out great! However I'm having the worst time giving up soda. I love love love coke and I drink like 2 or 3 cans a day! I know this is really bad for me but how do I stop? I can't just STOP drinking them, and I've tried drinking less and less each day but its not working out so great. Any ideas?

Thank you so much!

what i'd say is try not to buy or see any. that way you dont have any erges to drink some. If that doesnt work get addicted to gum or fruits instead hahahah sorry, tell me if i helped!

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I'm trying to go running or do some sorta of exercise for atleast 30 minutes a day. However, I'm TERRIBLE with commitment. How can I keep myself on track so my plan doesn't just become something I tried and Failed at.

make it your hobby. like listen to music while doing it so that you can make it sorta fun, then maybe just think about the results: you looking and feelings way BETTER. so just try it and tell me if i helped!

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My cat is in heat...what can I do to stop her from bleeding/cuming...or being in heta for less time?

haha my dog does that! i give her old underwear and a pad to stop it from going everywhere. believe me it does work! just put string or a rubber band around it so they don't pull it off. rate me if i was helpful!

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i want to kill a 6th grader but if i do fight him i will realy hurt him and might actualy break somtin wat should i do should i kick his ass or just let him be hes rele annoying. earlier thsi winter i was on the ground after a sledge crash and he kicked me in the eye. I didnt get to beat him up because all his friens (6 of them) were getting in my way. I need to clear my name even thought its already preaty clear but he never stops annoying me wat should i do.

eh well....beating people up isnt nice. (haha i know thats corny but o well) What you should do is tell him to fuck off or in other words back off, whatever you want to say but fighting isnt gonna exactly help. so just i dunno i'm not good with guy issues unless they're about girls hahah sorry!

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I've been going out with this kid for about a week and a half now. He has a very bad reputation for smoking alot, drug use, getting in fights and stealing things. Everyone is scared of him so they don't know his good side. Actually he is very nice, considerate, sweet and ready for commitment.

Sometimes he lies to impress me though. Just one example, he told me he is 100 percent Irish but when I said I was Italian, he said he was 50% Irish and 50% Italian. He also buys me lots of jewelry to impress me I guess, but he doesn't need to.

I guess I'm just kind of shocked. But if he really feels like he has to be like that to keep me, I'm not sure if I actually want to keep dating him. This happened with all my previous boyfriends because I figure out their flaws as I get to know them and I start to drift away.

So Is he worth my time? Is it just that I have really high expectations for a guy?

Please Help!

hmmm well first of all he sounds nice. if u like him stay with him, but if you dont think its gonna go anywhere i'd break up. He seems to notice you dont find him as atractive as before because he's showering you with gifts. thats a way of showing his insecurity of himself. so tell him that you dont need gifts to be happy.(if thats true) and i'm not saying your picky but girls just move on and want new things its perfectly normal, but just try to wait it out a little longer before you leave a guy. if he lies its again just trying to impress you. ok well tell me if i helped!
cab

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Okay, I'm 21/f and have always struggled with my weight. I'm 5'5" and I weigh just under 12 stone (I think around 167 lbs). It doesn't help that i'm pretty muscular as I play sports. I'm the sort of girl who can lose weight really easily but can also put on weight equally as quickly. I know the easiest way for me to lose weight is to do a lot of exercise, as I can lose about 3 lbs a week as well as getting toned up. Problem is I have absolutely no motivation to do anything at all, let alone exercise. Also I've just been living off takeaways and junk food for the past two weeks which obviously isn't helping. I know I need to eat right but at the moment like I said I ahve no motivation, so can't be bothered to cook for myself.

I don't know how to get myself out of this slump! I know what I need to do, but I don't know how I can get my motivation levels up. The whole thing is making me really miserable. Please help.

ok i feel your PAIN! i think i'm overwieght too but all my friends say i'm not. anyway...i think that you should skip the junk food and mcdonalds or whatever. then i think that you should buy more healthier food like: whole grains and drink A LOT of water. try and do atleast 10 situps everyday and to maybe walk or run once a week. Motivation? just the fact that you'd look GORGOUS! that will be enough and sooner or later you'll be fittin into cuter clothes and gettin second looks. ;) rate me if i helped! i'm new at this hehe

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OK...soo well i've always been pretty close with my boyfriends mom. and well now i dont know what to think. she's never really seen me and her son do anything. but last night she saw me on top of him making out in the hottub...and i dont know whatelse she saw.
is there anything i can do that would hopefully make her not think im a slut and stuff like that? becuase right now she donest think to highly of me

what i'd do is just confront her and say that (if you really like him) that you and him are getting more and more close. tell her that you love her son (again if you do) and she'll be able to tell that you mean the best for him. she could then tell that if you're serious enough to confront her, you must like him a lot. if all else goes wrong bake her something and make a sorry note hahaha. it just might work ;)rate me if i helped!

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So I have this great boyfriend. He is really cute and really nice and every girl is just dying to meet him. But the only bad thing is that he acts so clingy sometimes. I went on vacation and he called my cell phone and left 12 messages saying "Hey babe...I miss you..Are you okay...call me..please..i love you more than my own life." And thats typical of him. He says that kind of stuff alot on the phone and computer.

But then at school he acts all jumpy and weird around me and sometimes I will walk right by him and say Hi and he will totally not hear me at all.

And if this might have anything to do with it, he wants to hang out with this girl who he always says he hates. And he invites me to hang out as a threesome and I think it's a little weird. I thought maybe he was going to break up with me, but no, he is even more clingy-er now!

What does this mean?

ok, you love your bf right? and you want to stay together right? then ask him what he really feels about you (on aim or in person you choose) and see what he says. then ask him about that girl he hangs out with and then you'll either feel happy you asked or kinda akward, but don't worry! Then when you're done and he tells u how much he loves u, not that girl. i'd give him a hug (or kiss..hahah) just to show that you care. k well i try :) heh rate me! i'm FoReVeRHelpful2U

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