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scared out of my mind.
hi everyone, i am a 13 year old female, and although i am an advice columnist myself, i cant seem to find a way around my problem...please gove me any help you can...
ok well here it all is, ever since i was young i have been scared of the dark, like i see shadows, hear noises...the usual. and when i was about seven, i saw this movie, something about a leperchaun, and it scared the shit outta me, like whenever i had to go to the bathroom, i would be on the toilet(sorry for the prude language, hahah) and i would just imagine there would be this like killer leperchaun behind the shower cutain. and that STILL kind of scares me. and another thing, when i am watching television, or am on the comupter, i always think there is someone/something behind me, that is going to hurt me. now, i want to be an independent person, i really do, but unless there are lots of people around, i cant really live, because im so scared. like at night when everyone goes to bed, and i am downstairs, i freak myself out wondering if my mom locked the door, and if there is someone in the living room, so i bolt...and i mean BOLT upstairs and run into my room (which i share with my sister, otherwise i'd still be scared) so what i'm wondering is...how do i get over my fears? will i grow out of all this eventually? how do i become more indepentent?
please!please!please!please! HELP ME! anyone and everyone. i dont trust anyone i know enough to talk to them about this!
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Nightlights. everywhere. Also, you might want to consider going to bed while people are still up. Doesn't have to be like 8 p.m.; I'm sure your parents are up later. And if you're going to watch a scary movie, try to see a "Making of the Movie" if available. When the costumes become plastic and the monsters become actors, it helps a lot. I know this sounds weird, but get a ton of sleep, too. When you're tired, your subconscious comes to the front, and makes you scared more easily.
If this doesn't work, there are a lot of decent anxiety medications out there.
It's ok to have phobias at 13. I mean, I know some 30-year-olds that are afraid of the dark. I'm not kidding. And anyone who says they're not afraid of anything is not only lying but unrealistic, too.
p.s. Most people generally do become less afraid as they get older. I was more frightened than you at your age, and now I have my own place and walk to my car at 4 a.m. alone and am fine. It'll get better. Hope this helps.
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oh my gosh. im the same way. ( im also 13 female) . yeah ALL the time.. Whenever i go into the bathroom i open the shower curtain and shut the window shades(if at night) and when im going upstairs i run like crazy and even when im going down the stairs. and like i even jump halfway down the stairs and fall becuase i scare myself so much. i think its normal but i dont know hah. but even when im in my room i always look under my bed and in my closet before i sleep. and i always imagaine things coming in my room at night. i know its not gonna happen but i still think it. i know this probablly didnt help you but i want you to knwo your not alone l o l. =)
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okay see i used to have that samee problum (im 13 to) i just go out of it see i used to think someone was in my shower to so everytime i would go to the bathroom i would hurry up and open the curtin! well wat i did was one night i sat in my room with all the lights off (even tho i was afaride) and said no ones here but my no ones here but me and it worked realli and when i was in the bathroom i didnt open that curtin because i rembered how it was all a movie its all fake and nothing is realli there! just u have to always remeined yourslef!
hope i helped xox lindsay xox
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You'll probably grow out of it, if that's any comfort.
I had a similar problem, but I managed to get over it at an earlier age. Basically, I decided that since I KNEW that the things that I was scared of were imaginary, I could make an imaginary barrier to stop them. So I started by imagining a circle around my house, and deciding that nothing scary could get inside that circle.
It wasn't foolproof; I did have a nightmare once in a while. But even in my dreams, I remembered that barrier. And it helped.
Later, I expanded the barrier to protect my entire town. Soon after that, I made it cover the whole state. I visualized imaginary monsters being pushed backwards into the ocean and far away. The barrier extended in every direction, so they couldn't fly over it or tunnel under it. Eventually, the barrier expanded to cover the entire planet.
And after that, I stopped worrying completely.
If that technique doesn't work for you (or even if it does), it could also help if you were to practice relaxation breathing techniques. They're really easy to do, and can REALLY help you deal with fear.
Start by taking a long, slow breath all the way into your stomach - don't use your chest muscles, breathe down into your belly. Take the breath, and then let it flow out of you, relaxing as much as you can. Do that two more times. That alone should relax you a lot.
Here's some more info:
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Lastly...if none of that helps, you may want to talk to your doctor about this issue. She or he may be able to suggest something, or recommend that you talk to a specialist. There's no reason to live in fear, so please don't let that happen.
Oh yeah - I'd recommend avoiding scary movies from now on. And don't drink anything with caffeine in it.
Good luck!
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TO START OFF YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY PERSON WITH THIS PROBLEM. YOU SHOULD STOP THINKING THOSE THINGS CAUSE THEY ARE NOT TRUE. YOU ARE JUST SCARING YOURSELF ..... ALOT!!!! SO TRY TO THINK HAPPY THOUGHTS THATS WHAT I DO WHEN I START TO SCARE MYSELF.IT REALLY WORKS!!! I ALSO THINK THAT YOU SHOULD TALK TO SOMEONE IN YOUR FAMILY ABOUT THIS BECAUSE YOU MAY NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP TO GET OVER YOUR FEARS.
SO GOOD LUCK
MUCH LOVE
KRYSTAL<333 i did not write in all caps to like be mad, i just forgot it was on! lol sry!
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eh well.....I can't STAND scary movies so i know how ya feel. anyway, i think all you can do is read before you go to bed...thats what i do, that way your mind isn't on "leperchauns" and i also think about a fantasy like: a boy tells me he likes me...i get a car....or i go shopping... lol it works! keep your mind off anything scary and tell yourself FORGET IT ITS NOT REAL ITS MADE TO SCARE YOU FORGET IT!!!!!!!!! thats what i'd do i know its gonna be hard but try...ok tell me if i helped
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