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Q: I was wondering...what stores sell good sunglasses for teens at good prices. If you could tell me the price ranges that would be really helpful too. Thanks!

The SunGlass Hut is always a good place to start. Lots of different brands, Police,Stussy,Ray Bans,Armani to name a few. Prices from about £40 ($70) to £200.

Q: 16/f
i was wondering, what are some ways to help cheer up someone who suffers from depression? my friend suffers from it a lot and she gets down really easy. thanks in advance.

You need to help your friend find the things in life that make her happy. I understand that when she is depressed this will be hard to do, but you need to think about what is making her depressed.
Once you know what the cause is a solution should be close for you. For example if it's a family matter that is bringing your friend down, then maybe she just needs to talk about the problem and realise that she has friends close by listen and understand.

Hope this helps.

Q: My Boyfriend and I were involved in a car accident friday afternoon... We are alright though. The car is totalled he hurt his shoulder and I hit my head.. but anyway.. I am terrified to ride with him.. or for that fact even drive. Since his car is totalled we've been driving my car and I've been driving. and hes like I'll drive.. and I tell him no that I Am.. I really trust him. I mean we've been together almost 11 months. and this really hurt him when I told him I was scared to drive.. and now he feels like I dont trust him anymore. and I don't know what to do to fix this. I even told him that I trusted him that he's just got to give me sometime to get over the accident that it just happened... What Can I Do?? :( Sorry This Is Soooo Long.

Hmmm.
I had a bike crash a few years ago and was in hospital for nearly 8 weeks.
I was right on a motorbike the day i came out of hospital, but i can't stand being a passenger, it's a control issue.
I think your boyfriend feels the need to prove to yourself and more important prove to himself that he is a good driver and is capable of driving again.
This may take some time to get over, as my crash was 3 years ago and even now i don't like not being in control of a bike.
I'm sure if you reassure him that the accident wasn't his fault or couldn't have been avoided he will eventually be fine.

Hope this helps.

Q: Ahh Ok well..well..i'm only in 8th grade..and all i ever do is dump boys! I dont cheat or anything and people call me a slut for dumping tthem in such quick time!..Idk what to do!..

help!!=(((((((

Just tell them your far to young to be in a long term relationship.
You should be out with friends having fun, not looking for Mr.Right.

Q: 13/f

ok my friend and I are going to babysit together. What would be a good price to have parents pay for our babysitting? there is 2 of us and we both need money. but also we cant charge too too much cuz then we wont get any bizness. also, is there anything else about babysitting i should know?

♥

If the parents are gone for about 4-5 hrs i would say £10 each would be fair pay.

THE most important thing about babysitting.........

take extra good care of the baby.

Q: Ok. There was this baby i was babysitting and a little kid. i put them to sleep and i was watchin TV. then i heard the baby cry. i ran upstairs and the little kid was ontop of the baby! i do not know hwat to do!! i dont want to tell the parents but the baby might be hurt. HELPP

I think you should tell the perants right away.
Maybe the little kid was just playing and didn't realise that the baby could be hurt.
But it's better the parents know the truth than suspect you for any harm done to the wee baby.

Q: I am 13 and I'm a female. A few of my guy friends seem to act real nice around me, but when they're around each other, they say bad things about me. I'd like to know if I can trust them.

I asked that question earlier and I forgot to mention that one guy is an ex-boyfriend, one likes me and I think the other likes me too. My ex and the guy who likes me are very good friends and the guy who likes me is good friends with the guy who I think likes me. I hope this will give me more help.

Very confusing about who likes who and so on.

The short answer is no. Don't trust them at all.

Q: 17/f
Alright, i feel silly asking this question but sometimes i feel weird that my boyfriend is a bit shorter then me. I love him very much and he loves me back even more and a feel like this could last for a long time. Should i talk to him about this (but i guess its not like this is going to change it) or what should i do? Am i stupid for feeling like this?

Hmmmm, Just look at Tom Cruise & Nicole Kidman, every picture you saw them in she never looked taller than him. ( I think he had shoes with a big sole on them and she wore flat shoes all the time)

Q: okay, I have tried thousands of deodarants including Exta-dry and none work for me! I want to be able to wear nice shirts and all that stuff but the only thing that stops me are my underarms what advice do you have for me? What deodarant do you suggest? You should know that a girl having sweaty armpits is not atractive. HELP ME OUT!!!!!!!!

Have you tried Gillette Anti-Perspirent??
I know it's a men deodarant but i smells great & works a treat.

Q: When I would sit in the tub for like 30-60 minutes, I would notice that the water would get gritty and then I would rub my skin and it would come off!!!!!! Then there was a lot of DIRT or something on the sides or the tub when I got out, is this normal!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Thanks in advance for helping me (IF YOU DECIDE TO BE RUDE THEN I WON'T EVEN RATE YOU!!!!)

I wouldn't say that it's normal, unless you've been out working in a field all day.
But then why would you just sit in the bath waiting for the dirt to fall off??
Try being a bit more pro-active and use a brush or sponge along with a nice soapy bubble bath.
Hope this help.

Q: In scotland/uk what's the lega l age to get a tattoo??
If there's anyone on glasgow or Edinburgh who can suggest any good places to get it done it would b much appreciated. Oha and how much am i looking at??

All help appreciated
Anthony

All depends on what you want done,colours and size effect price. I've had 2 done in Glasgow, and 4 in 3 other countries. Prices i find don't vary that much.
I think you have to be 17 or 18 for a tatoo in Scotland.
I've had tatoos done at Terry Tatoo Artists in the Trongate of glasgow.(My father had one done at Terry's in the 70's so the place is well known)

I'd recomend taking a look at his shops website. Just Google search it.
Good luck.

Q: okay well my friends birthday is coming up... shes turnin 16... but her birthdays a a suprise! so i really need ideas for what to get her... her parents are gonna buy her a car i kno... and her bff is buying her a really really expensive jacket... so what are some ideas!! please help! thanks... ill rate

When i was 16 i wanted a top of the line Laptop PC, but if that's out of your price range then how about a day trip somewhere.
She could drive and you could pay for the shopping and food.

Q: It was my week to feed the dog and I totally forgot because I got so caught up on going to a a carnival thing where "famous" people were going. I kept getting out of the house with my friends looking for good clothes and stuff like that, you know getting ready. So I TOTALLY forgot about the dog and left the poor thing with no food. I know it was my fault but I didnt want to get grounded from going so I blamed it on my brother. I told my mom that we switched weeks and we didnt. My brother will not talk to me because hes grounded for the rest of the month since the dog is sick. And it really sucks because its summer! Well I want to tell my mom that it was really my week but I dont know if I should. I am driving myself INSANE over this. Please helppp!!

Britt

Honesty is the best way forward here.
Take a look at your dog, i'm sure he won't hold a grudge.
Today you lie about this,tomorrow it'll be a bigger lie and before you know your behind bars wondering where it all went wrong for you.

Make the change now before it's too late.

Q: Do you have to pay council tax if you rent a house and recieve incapacity benefit? i am unable to work and on long term incapacity benefit and want to rent a house but dont know if i have to pay council tax too.

You will probably find that you will get a rebate discount on your Council Tax, this would be depending on a few factors,such as who is living with you in the house,the income of the house,and the benifits that are paid to those living in the house. You can call your local council office and they will send you a form to fill in and send back for review.
Good luck.

Q: what should i name my dog?

I have had a multitude of dogs and breed Rottwielers. Here are some of the names that we have used......

Riggs,Jade,Snoop,Bruce,Shorty Harrison McScott,Zeus,Lopan,Finch,Rita,2Pac.

I think you should look at the breed and traits of your dog before naming it.

Q: i went to the doctor to find out if i was pregnant and the nurse came in before hand to ask if i wanted to be or not and i of corce said no and the lady left the room to get the results and then came back to tell me that i wasnt. but that if i didnt start soon to try the test again because i could get a positive later on. i've heard that doctors can tell you that your not so that when you finally do find out its to late to have an abortion. is that true? and does it sound like that's what was going on in this situation?

I don't belive for a minute that a doctor would tell you this just to bring an unwanted child into the world. It would be against everything that a doctor is sworn to do.
I sure someone has been telling you a lie,but it's not the Doc.

Q: I have a friend named Bailey. One day she did a prank phone call to me with a bunch of her friends. And it got me real upset because I thought she was my friend. So the next day she called me and asked if she wanted to hang out with me. And she sounded like nothing happend with the prank phone call. And I said, I thought you were mad at me, and she said never! And I asked her why did you prank me? And she said.. it's only a prank, and she hung up. What should I do?

-x Lauren x-

Just because someone playes a joke/prank on you it doesn't mean that they're mad with you.
She probably pulled a prank on you because she thought you were a strong enough friend not to take it the wrong way.
Ask youself, was she wrong?

Q: Hi. im not writing this question for people to tell me im unique and crap, but lately, ive just been feeling bad. I think im ugly. People always tell me that im ugly. its just my face..i mean my nose is just so weird that i feel so self conscious and whenever im with my friends it hurts me so much always seeing guys all flirting with them and stuff. ive never been asked out, and people always tell me that im ugly. i know its mean, and only sometimes i feel pretty. i know that if i feel beautiful, i am beautiful, and being confident is bueatiful, but i dont want that crap. i need some way to make me feel better about myself....any suggestions?

Buy yourself a man whore for a night.
Just like the movie Duece Bigalow - Male Gigalo.

Most of the ladies in that movie felt a great deal better about themselves, so i'm sure it would do you the world of good.
As we all know, movies always tell the truth.

Q: My boyfriend and I are having a debate about whether or not sperm is still active when it hits the air. Sometimes after we have sex (we use a condum) sperm will be on me or him and he worries that it will travel into my vagina and make me pregnant. I've always heard that once sperm hits the air it's dead. Who's right?

I don't belive that sperm dies on contact with air, that is just a myth.
Also it's not possible for sperm that is on you to travel by itself into you and inpregnate you.
Give your boyfriend a slap and send him back to human biology classes.

Q: Ok so on Friday i am going to my freinds house for a "movie night" we're going to paly volleyball outside earlier and then later we're going to watch hide and seek. well no big deal. she invited 4 guys and 3 girls (shes the 4th girl). well its kinda like a paired off thing. she invited couples. except for me. she invited this guy. i kind of like him i guess. same with him. he told my freind he kind of likes me. well i dont know i thnk it's goign to br really weird. because all the other people are goign ot be with their girl/boyfreind and then there will be me and this guy. i like him and all but i dont know i think it will be weird.and im kind of worried that he's gonna like try something, because thats just the the kind of guy he is...so i guess i dont know what to do.
((14/f))

I guess you have two choices here.

1. Go to the party,just relax and enjoy yourself,if you just want to be friends with this guy and nothing else then i'm sure he will respect that choice. I'm sure he'd rather know you than a friend than not know you at all.

2.Don't go to the party.Sit at home and think about what is happening at the party and if you regret not being at it.Watch a movie and have some pop corn. Take it easy. Life is to much fun to be stressed about what other people are thinking. Live your life for you.

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