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16/f : sorry its so long. i need help!
so over a week ago my boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me. it was random because nothing was that wrong that week. normally things use to get really ugly because i use to get frustrate because we couldnt see each other during the week and i took it out on him.
once he broke up with me he texted me right after saying it was a break for now and i believed it because he had nationals this weekend and this is something he needs to focus on cause its do or die for getting in to college. but the next day after he broke up with me i texted him bugging him by what he had meant by the break and he said that we were done but then the next day he said we werent then again the next day he said we were done again. i was confused but i know i pushed an answer out of him and i think he just wanted me to shut up but im not sure? does he really mean its over or was he just trying to get rid of me so he could focus for this weekend?
the only reason he gave me for the breakup was that his feelings faded but then the last text he sent me was im just busy and i got that. it just made it seem like things were still open and he just needed time away.
im not sure if im just making this up in my head or if we could still get back together. his regionals were this weekend and i havent talked to him in five days because everyone said i should keep away which i have. but his birthday is on thursday and im gonna say happy birthday but is that all i should say? ive been thinking myself about things and i figured some stuff out and i would like to tell him but i dont know if it would be too much or not. (link)
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I think whether he wants you or not today doesn't matter. As difficult as it is, you should move on. A. You don't ever want to be with a guy who wants you one day and doesn't the next. There is no trust in that relationship, and certainly a lack of care and commitment. B. You should NEVER have to wait around for a guy, no matter who the guy is. There are other guys out there you should be scoping out. If you wait on this guy and put your own life on hold, it's like saying that his life is more important.
If I were you, I would text him and tell him that. Tell him that you don't know whether he wants to be with you or not, but that frankly you don't care. You're moving on. etc. After 8 months, I know that will be really difficult. But honestly, it is the most healthy thing you can do for yourself right now. You deserve better than this loser.
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im about to get my braces off and im really afraid ill have little white boxes around where my brackets used to be....i brushed and flossed really well the entire time i had braces, so should i expect them? im not worried about any pain....just wanna know what to expect. (link)
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i didn't have little white boxes on my teeth and i have mine for a little over 2 years. Unless you drank coffee every day or smoked and that made your teeth a lot yellower, then youll be fine.
You're teeth will feel really slimy when they come off though. Besides that it's a great feeling! I got Crest white strips to whiten my teeth when my braces came off just to kind of show them off I guess :]
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I want to go sun bathing so I can get some color on my skin. I'm very white without the sun. Yesterday I got burnt pretty badly when I went out for an hour and a half. I know that that's way too much exposure of UV rays. So from now on, I'm just going to go out for 30-40 minutes. 15-20 minutes on each side. I need advice on how to tan healthy without suffering from a sunburn. Will I tan well with spf45+ or spf30? Or do I need tanning oil? I don't know what to put on my skin. I don't want the sun totally blocked because I want a tan but I'm not really sure how sunblock works when it comes to tanning. How long would you suggest that I spend out in the sun? What procedures should I take in order to be tn with little damage and to be as tan as I could get? (link)
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Put sunblock on all over, and the spf doesn't matter all that much because no matter how high you get, you have to re apply every hour and a half to two hours or so. Otherwise you will definitely burn. Never sit out in the sun without sunblock. You will still get a tan with sunblock on! Tanning without sunblock is really dangerous and greatly increases your risk of skin cancer! It's not worth it. Plus, when you get old if you have tanned too much your skin will get more wrinkly and rough like leathery! ew
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My friends are ALL talking about Justin Bieber's interview today.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DkKqihEUmH4&feature=player_embedded
Here is a link to the youtube video if you haven't seen it.
So since he doesn't even know what the word German means even when he reads it off a card, why are all my friends still crazy about him? I was the only one who thought he sounded like a girl and had stupid scene hair. Now he shows he is a moron and they just "think it is cute!" AWWW! I could vomit.
Can you tell me why morons with stupid hair are sexy? I don't get it.
I will rate you! (link)
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Well I think he did know what the word German meant, he just didn't understand what the guy was saying. And he probably didnt see where the guy was pointing on the notecard for the 2 seconds he saw it.
Besides that, girls like to follow trends and fads just for the sake of fitting in. Justin Bieber is just another fad, and he will be out of style within 2 or 3 years, I promise. Look at Miley Cyrus and now even the Jonas Brothers...people could care less!
Don't worry, some annoying new teen pop sensation will come along soon
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Hi I am a 19 year old college student and I've noticed that whenever I eat a fiberOne bar a few hours later I get really bad stomach aches. I was just wondering if you knew why this happens? Thank you! (link)
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Basically, our bodies can not digest fiber. These granola bars are high in fiber (obviously). The reason fiber is good for you is because when the fiber is moving through your digestive system, it is essentially abrading the lining of your intestines. In other words, it cleans out the bad stuff and moves digestion along more quickly (this is why you poop more when you eat a lot of fiber).
Not to be gross but it could also be gas. Bacteria in the colon can partially digest the fiber, and the gas is a byproduct of digestion.
Your body may adjust to the recent increase in fiber consumption, and it may gradually go away. If you don't want to wait, just try something with less fiber and build up to eating more fiber every day.
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Well there's is this girl, I really love so much & adore with all my heart and care bout' so dearly. She lost her grandma, someone who was so so special to her like a mother. Now she's suffering and crying due to her loss & as a guy I feel worthless and ashamed that I don't know waht to do to help her. Waht shud I do ? :\ I don't like seeing her like this. Any advice I can give her ? (link)
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When a girl is sad, 9 times out of 10 she doesn't want advice to fix it or really any talking. The best thing to say would just be something like "She's in a better place". Or if her grandma was sick and suffering, you could say something about her not being in pain anymore. But other than that, just be there for her. If she is sitting with you crying, don't say anything, just hold her. Stroke her back, touch her lovingly etc. Don't talk. If she wants to talk then listen, but you don't necessarily have to say much. Just being there and listening really makes us feel better.
In the end, it's her issue and she has to deal with it on her own time. There is nothing you can say or do that will make her feel better, because bottom line is that it won't bring back her grandmother. Just ride it out with her and be there for her. It will mean a lot to her.
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17/F senior.
Okay so I'm a little worried bout the age diference between me and this guy I like who I'm going with to prom too. Here's the thing: he's a freshman and I'm a senior. We have the same birthday week so when he finally turns 15 I'll be 18. In other words right now he is 14 while I'm 17. Although he is extremely mature for his age like already has a job ad everything. He definately does not act like a freshman. I'm bout to graduate and he's only gonne be a sophmore. So if we dated this summer I would be a freshman in college dating a sophmore in high school. Another thing is if we date I know it will be endless crap from my guy friends for dating such a young guy even if it's only 2 years because the whole college to high school thing makes it sound bad. Basically I'm wondering your oppinions on this. Is he too young? Or should I ignore what everyone will say and go for it anyways? Thanks!! (link)
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Well, a 3 year age difference seems pretty big when you're young. But honestly, I don't see anything wrong with having a little summer fling with him before college. As for when you get to college, you probably won't want a boyfriend back home holding you back. Especially depending on how far away from home youll go to college, it would be difficult to do, no matter the age difference. Most of my friends who were dating people younger than them have broken up already (I'm a freshman in college now). Your priorities change when you get to college. You aren't going to want to constantly make trips home. Plus you'll be meeting all kinds of new people, including new boys! College boys!
So I would say unless you are like...absolutely in love with this guy, don't start anything serious. I would go for something casual.
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I am applying for a job and on the application it asked:
Why are you suitable for this position?
and:
Why are you applying for this position?
and I don't know what to answer!
First one is ok because it is an entry level job and I can say something like "Because I am a fast learner" but please tell me something better sounding than that?
The second one, I just don't know. I need the money, but it sounds bad to say that, right?
Thank you! (link)
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when asked why you want a job, always answer something about wanting the experience. Say you want to grow/learn and build on your skills etc. Never say you need the money, because obviously everyone needs money.
And as for suitable, fast learner is good, but consider what the job is. If it is a waitress, say you are good at multi tasking. If it is some kind of sales person, say you are a people person. Target your answer to the specific job you are applying to rather than generic "fast learned" responses.
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There's this store that my mom always goes to. And I would describe my mom as a kids but not really; she asks so many questions and stuff that some people may get really annoyed, but it's part of the job right?
So at this store there's a make up section and she wanted to return stuff and the usual lady that works there didn't allow her to and my mom said that she didn't use any of it and the lady called my mother a LIAR and she seems pretty bothered by it and now I'm bothered by it. So in the end SHE apologized saying that she'll keep it and left! Unbelievable that she got..abused? and apologized!
Can there be something done about the lady or is it freedom...of speech? I just think that that's rude and while lots of jobs have rude workers, this is a store that many older adults go to and workers should be mature and patient too. And if the lady was like this to my mother, imagine how much worse she could be with someone else! (link)
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talk to the manager of the store. if the store is part of a chain, ask the manager if there is a number you can call to talk about customer service of the chain. I know my mom tried to do this at a Walgreen's and instead of giving her a hard time, they just gave my mom the product for free.
Also, if it is a larger company, contact the Better Business Bureau. Companies care about their ratings and how they are perceived.
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im a junior in high school, the school years is about to end and i'll be a senior next year. My brother recommended out of the blue that in the summer i should take jr college classes in order to get units. I already signed up for it and i plan on taking 12 weeks with 4 classes total, which is about 11 or 12 units. My brother said that by the time i graduate, i should get 30 units, so i'll be taking a few classes during my senior year and during the summer after i graduate, and including this summer coming up.
i was wondering, will this help me? my brother said it will look really good on a university application and it will take a year of college away, so i'll only have to go for 3 years? Is this true? how will this benefit me? and is it a waste of time? Thank you! Let me know some advice! (link)
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Yeah I agree with the person below me. Definitely check with the university you plan on attending to see if they accept community college credits. If they do, it would definitely help you immensely to get ahead.
First off it's easier to make better grades at a junior college than a full time university, so if you take hard classes there to get them out of the way (like calculus or physics) it will definitely help you. Also, the money. It will save you SO much money. If you graduated with 30 hours of credit, thats about a year of college you dont have to take, which will save you anywhere from $20,000 to $40,000 depending on how much your university costs. That is huge! You will definitely appreciate it later.
You could also look into taking AP classes, and taking the AP test at the end of the year if you school accepts AP credits. The class would be free to you since it's through the school and you can still get high school and college credit at the same time.
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So my family has At&t, my phone always gets great service, but recently in my home I have a ridiculously hard time sending messages, and I dont recieve texts. Neither do my brother or sister, and we are getting really frusterated. I have the Lg xenon, and my sister just got a new phone. I called At&t and trouble shooted with them, but they said my phone is broken so they are sending me a new one. My sister still has a problem, so Im starting to doubt its the phones. What could it be? HELPPPP please I need my phone for more than just socializing. (link)
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It could be the phones, I'm no expert on phones and I can't see your phone right now.
What I can tell you is that At&t has some of the worst service simply because of the iPhone. So many people have an iPhone that it has completely overloaded all of their systems, and causes other people with at&t to get bad service/reception. Short from changing phone companies, there's not a whole lot you can do.
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Can you get armpits waxed? And if so, how does it compare to shaving?
thanks. (link)
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yes, definitely. I do and I love it. It stays SO smooth for like 3-4 weeks. It kinda hurt at first, but if you do it in one fast, swift motion it's really not that bad. I think it's worth it and i love the smooth feeling. Plus theres a lot less surface area than if you were to wax your legs so its not that big of a pain. THe only bad part is waiting for it to grow out enough to be able to wax again, so sometimes I end up shaving in between.
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so i have a boyfriend. we're both 17. i can't figure out if he's using me for sex or not. he knows i'm a virgin and i didn't give up my virginity my ex who i was dating for like 14 months. we've done everything but actual intercourse. he always mentions it to me and i told him that i'm not going to do that with someone i've been dating for like amonth. he does text me everyday and sometimes he blows off his friends to hang out with me or he invites me to hang out with him and his friends. whenever we hang out we always end up doing sexual stuff like oral and stuff. i like him but i just don't know, i don't trust guys..
oh and we've only been dating like almost 2 months now. (link)
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if you waited 14 months with your ex, but are already thinking about it with a new guy after barely 2 months, theres a red flag right there. if you're questioning it and arent sure, that is not a good sign. relationships should be built on trust, and i wouldnt have sex with someone i wasnt willing to trust my life with.
as a general rule of thumb, don't listen to what guys say ever. pay attention to what guys DO. this is a much better indicator. ditching his friends for you doesnt count, especially if hes getting action. trust your gut feeling on this. if you have doubts, there is probably a good reason.
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I just recently turned 16. lately I've been peeing a lot. like it's a good amount so it's not an infection. I was wondering if hormones are causing this and when it'll stop. (link)
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are you drinking more caffeine or alcohol than before?
both of these inhibit the production of antidiuretic hormone, or ADH. ADH causes the body to reabsorb more water. when you drink caffeine or alcohol, you body doesn't absorb very much of the water and you just pee it out. You can easily get dehydrated from this, so be sure to drink lots of water when drinking caffeine or alcohol.
the kind of hormones you are talking about, the kind you get during puberty, do not affect urine as far as i know.
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Everytime I pee lately, my bladder stings afterwards, and twice a tiny bit of blood has come out. Also, sometimes it feels like I have to pee a lot more than I actually do. Whats wrong! (link)
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This sounds like a urinary tract infection. You can by a test over the counter to see if you have one. Eat cranberries/cranberry juice and buy cranberry supplements. On the label of the bottle it should say something about UTI's
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19/f
I was going to go away for college until I found out the day after I graduated that I was adopted. I decided I wanted to stay home for a little while. I do not attend community college or junior college. I am in the university. So, there are dorms. As of right now, I am living at home. I live with my mother and my grandparents. Although I love them very much, there are some issues with living with them. For one, my grandparents are older and this IS their home. They have their habits, which I cannot break. For one, my aunt (who lives across the street) comes here EVERY NIGHT to watch soap operas with my grandmother. They are not in a private room watching these quietly. They watch it VERY LOUD in the living room.
Recently, I fixed my room to make it more adult-like. But, that was not the solution. My mom spends all her time inside of my room listening to music and playing on the computer. I asked her if she could please relocate the computer to another area of the house. I would not mind it because I have a laptop. But, having the main computer of the house located in my room is a problem. Not only is that the computer everyone uses, but my cousins (who live across the street) come over all the time to use my printer, when the internet is down, etc. That room is NOT mine. It is like a community room where the privacy is handed to me after midnight... sometimes.
I am on a full scholarship at my school. Therefore, I do not pay anything. In fact, I get money back. This is usually about $3000 per semester. I try to use my money wisely and not spend it on things that I can't really afford. Don't get me wrong, I like to treat myself too, I'm just saying I'm not spending money all over the place. Aside from that, i do work part time. I make about $1000 a month. I cannot work more than that because I am a student and my priority is school. I also need time to exercise and go to club meetings and society meetings at school. As far as a dorm goes, I cannot afford it. They will not give me extra aid to go get a dorm. I would have to take out loans, which my parents are completely and totally against. I'm not too big a fan of loans either, unless there is no other way.
My other option would be renting an apartment. But, realistically, with the way the economy is, I don't think there's a way. What if I don't keep my job? All my money would go to the apartment and I wouldn't be able to do ANYTHING (like eat). lol. There has to be something I'm missing here. Living in my house could be an option if I had a shed or something... but I don't. I came from a school where everyone was really rich. I've always had less money than they did and I'm not exactly poor. But, these people were RICH, like millionares. I need an option here, because living with my parents isn't cutting it. This is not a place for a student. If I were older and working, and had nothing to do when I got home, then maybe yeah. But, when I get home, I need quiet to study. I need to unwind because I'm juggling school, work, and my certification to become a fitness instructor. I'm a little older now and I need my own space.
Going away to college is not an option anymore. Everything is here: family, friends, boyfriend, work, and organizations that will find me a job in the future. I love my school and I can't leave my dog here either. I know it sounds crazy, but I've had him for a while and there's just no way that I can leave the dog. lol.
If you can offer me advice, there HAS to be something I'm overlooking. Please only answer if you have a real, genuine idea for me. Please don't say look into cheaper housing or find a roomate. No one here is willing to room and I refuse to room with a stranger. I just need an idea to have more privacy and my own space. (link)
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Could you just move the computer to another room yourself? Explain that you need to study and that you are taking college seriously, and can't be interrupted. As for the loud TV, you could go to either the school library or a local library to get your studying done. Or use a computer or whatever you need to do that requires quiet.
If you can't afford any apartments at all, even the cheapest ones, and refuse to live with a stranger..it doesn't sound like you really have many other options. The only thing I could say is you could look for a roommate and meet & talk to them a couple times so they wouldn't be a stranger. My college's newspaper has classifieds all the time for people looking for roommates. Also, for whatever reason, small houses are cheaper here than apartments. A lot of the parents of the kids living in them own them, so they are more willing to give you a better deal. Check your schools newspaper or see if there is a special place on the schools website where you can search for people who are also looking for roommates. Living with a stranger isn't all that bad-they aren't a stranger for long. And because they are in the same situation as you (ie working college student) they are more likely to relate to you and respect your space.
I would also reconsider student loans. Fill out the FAFSA and you will probably get offered student loans. You don't have to pay them back until after you graduate and find a job. And once you do start having to pay them back, you only have to pay up to 10% of your gross income. They won't be as big of a burden later in life as you think. Plus the loans I have don't accrue interest until after I graduate. It just depends on the loan.
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I completely take responsibility, as it’s my own fault, no one else’s.
I am with a guy, but he treats me crap.
I mean really, like total crap.
I’ve finally found the courage to break up with him, until I remembered that, earlier in the relationship, I let him take some….embarrassing photos of me.
I’m now kicking myself for being so naive in trusting him, and I can’t break up with him, in case he holds these photos against me.
I know this was stupid, so spare the lecture, I’ve certainly learned my lesson.
What do I do? (link)
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If there is any way to get the photos and delete them/throw them away do that. If theyre on his computer, maybe go to his house and tell his parents you want to surprise him and then delete them. or if theyre on his phone wait for him to leave it somewhere and then delete them.
if this isnt an option, the next best thing would be to get him to break up with you. whatever annoys him, do it. be mean or ignore him or whatever it takes. ask him to see chick flicks and buy you stuff and buy him a love fern! ever seen how to lose a guy in 10 days? haha :]
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so my best friend and i are going to be going to the same college in the fall. i never really wanted this to happen, but i got wait listed at my first choice so this was one of my only options. she had been switching back and forth between commuting and dorming, and she finally chose dorming. i was always set on dorming just because i want that experience. now...she says she wants to room with me. i love my best friend to death, but i don't know if this is a good idea. hopefully we would get a suite so i would share a room with her and then have 4 other girls in 2 other rooms in the suite, but still. she says she would go home a lot and everything.
i don't know what to do. part of me would love to room with her and other girls, but sometimes when we are together i feel like we are competing. i've always been shy so i was hoping that being on my own with ALL new people i would just be able to open up and everything. i dont want her rooming with me to hold me back from doing what i want to do. neither of us are big partiers/drinkers, but i would LOVE to attend lots of parties and maybe even join a sorority.
ive also heard lots of stories about best friends being roommates and it tearing them apart, and i definitely dont want that to happen.
i dont know what to do. should i room with her and hopefully end up with 4 other girls in a suite? or should i just tell her i don't want to room with her at all? (link)
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living in a small, cramped dorm room with someone is tough. it's even tougher if it's with your best friend. You will see them all the time, and because you are already comfortable with them, it's a lot easier to get mad and lash out. My advice would be definitely do not room with your best friend because yall will end up fighting, and probably often. and when you do fight, youll live in the same room, so you wont be able to get away.
Go potluck. More than likely, you will definitely have issues and get annoyed with your roommates. Especially by the end of the year. It's inevitable. Don't go into it thinking you're going to be best friends with your roommate, because the chances of that happening are low. You'll make tons of new friends, and still can hang out with your best friend. You will meet the all new people in classes and organizations and stuff, but probably not in your own room/suite. Maybe in the rest of the dorm though. It's just hard to become friends with the person who sleeps 8 feet away because they are the one keeping you up at night or leaving hair in the shower, and that will get to you.
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I was wondering what are some things to cut out of my diet. I know fast food, but what else? Also is there anything I should start eating more of. Im not trying to diet, more of a life style change. (link)
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You never have to cut out anything completely because more than likely you will eventually crave that thing and end up way overindulging in it later? So you can have fast food 1-2 times/month and still have a healthy diet. Just make smart food choices when eating out.
A major thing to cut out would be soda/coffee. Both dehydrate you because of the caffeine. Soda is full of sugar, eats away at your teeth, and is basically empty calories.
Things to add to your diet: salmon/tuna/other fish that contain omega 3's. They are good for your brain. A handful of nuts like walnuts or pistachios are good for your heart health. Yogurts have probiotics to promote your immune system. Obviously fruits and veggies, and eat protein. I like Kashi products..especially their cereals. They are rich in fiber and protein and keep you full for a long time. Raspberries/blueberries and various other fruits are rich in antioxidants.
If you want to know if something that you are eating is either healthy or unhealthy, you can google pretty much anything :]
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Ok, so i'm 15 and I just started my period about 4 months ago? lately i've been using pads because i'm waaaaay to scared to use a tampon.
But, pads are really starting to get on my nerves i'm constantly having to check to make sure I didn't bleed through, and they're really uncomfortable I feel like i'm a diaper.
soo here's my question, i've never had sex and i'm really tight so will putting in a tampon hurt for me? (link)
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I was definitely scared the first time I used one too. The first time I tried to put it in, I didn't do it at the right angle and I used a cardboard one and it was somewhat uncomfortable, but I wouldn't say it hurt. My advice would be to make sure and get tampons with plastic inserters, not cardboard. So much easier to put in. I like playtex pearl tampons. Start with the smallest size if you're scared.
Also, make sure you angle the tampon upwards, not straight in. Read the directions that come with the box, they're actually really helpful!
Don't forget, you should only keep a tampon in for 4-8 hours. Longer than that could result in toxic shock. Also, don't take out the tampon if it's dry and hasnt soaked much up yet. That is also pretty uncomfortable.
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