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Need Help :\
Well there's is this girl, I really love so much & adore with all my heart and care bout' so dearly. She lost her grandma, someone who was so so special to her like a mother. Now she's suffering and crying due to her loss & as a guy I feel worthless and ashamed that I don't know waht to do to help her. Waht shud I do ? :\ I don't like seeing her like this. Any advice I can give her ?
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maybe send her something sweet or try to take her out to get her mind of it. or just be a sholder to cry on
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I'm going through a similar situation right now with a friend. And its really hard I agree with you, you wish there was something that you could do to take their mind off of it but nothing really works. What I would suggest is just let her know you're there for her and that if she ever needs to talk that you're there. If she needs to "rant" or cry or just wants to talk...just listen. She may be angry and upset but just listening will help her and maybe even give her a hug just to let her know that you care. You seem like a nice guy...heck maybe you and your friends could take her out some night to hang out and have fun! If she doesn't want to then maybe offer coming over with some food or something. The best you can do right now is be there for her!
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When a girl is sad, 9 times out of 10 she doesn't want advice to fix it or really any talking. The best thing to say would just be something like "She's in a better place". Or if her grandma was sick and suffering, you could say something about her not being in pain anymore. But other than that, just be there for her. If she is sitting with you crying, don't say anything, just hold her. Stroke her back, touch her lovingly etc. Don't talk. If she wants to talk then listen, but you don't necessarily have to say much. Just being there and listening really makes us feel better.
In the end, it's her issue and she has to deal with it on her own time. There is nothing you can say or do that will make her feel better, because bottom line is that it won't bring back her grandmother. Just ride it out with her and be there for her. It will mean a lot to her.
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Just give her a hug and tell her that your there for her and that she can talk to you and just tell her that losing somone special is hard but tell her that her grandma will always be around her watching out for her and that if she ever needs to just talk or just needs a shoulder to cry on that your there and just take care of her and tell her that everything is going to be fine basically comfort her in anyway you can.
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