theres this guy named ryan who goes to my high school and he's in the same grade as i am. he's a MAJOR flirt and is also incredibly sweet and not to mention extremely cute.. our lockers are like right next to each other and we talk all the time. it's easier to compliment him because he doesn't make you feel stupid if you say something silly. (its hard to explain). i complimented him on his cologne and we hugged twice. however, the thing is, is that he sometimes hugs other girls as well.. i don't get jealous when i see him with other girls because i know he's free to do whatever he wants & i'm cool with it.
- we talk a lot
- i've seen him check me out
- he hugged me, twice! :]
- he smiles a lot when i'm around
- he looks at me in the corner of his eye whenever i'm around and he like sits in front.
- he always says 'hi' to me and is the first to start a conversation
should i just keep flirting with him?
Sure. Keep flirting, but let him make the first move: if he likes you, he will. If he doesn't, you're letting him waste your time by asking him out. Some guys are kind of thick, or lack the gahones to ask a girl out so you might have to flirt a little heavier if he doesn't get the hint.
Also know what you're getting yourself into. Yeah he's sweet, yeah he's hot, but he's also a flirt. That can be dangerous for both of you. Don't get yourself in too deep too fast. Yeah: he's really sweet now, but "date" him long enough to find out who he is. You don't want to be boyfriend-girlfriend and find out after the fact that his flirting gets worse the longer he's with someone.
Love is dangerous. Its good to find a good one, but there are no guarantees.
Hope this helps
-Evan
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So my mom all of a sudden started freaking out about my boyfriend.It started from him not getting me a mum.Since he is a procrastinator && never gets things done, especially for school functions..anyways.I ordered a mum, thinking he would have paid for it, But if he didn't It wouldn't be a big deal since it wasn't his homecoming.. (he graduated last year) anyways.My mom just freaked out about it, But it wasn't like I could do anything.She ended up bringing everything about and yelled at me about it.That we don't go out on dates and stuff,But every once in awhile (when me & him AREN'T busy) we go to the movies, out to eat.. somewhere.We don't go to his house much because his dad pretty much lives in San An. and comes home every other Tuesday and every weekend.And his mom won't let him stay there unless he pays the bills and his mom doesn't even work, (she just graduated to be a nurse) but yeahh.So she tells me how bad of a person and boyfriend he is and that I should get a new boyfriend.I thought that was very rude and uncalled for when he hasn't been a bad boyfriend.Especially compared to me ex.It's just really hard when your mother just talks down on your boyfriend when he has no clue he's doing anything.I don't know what to do.Our 6 month is on the 9th and I love him so much. I don't want to lose him.. anyone have any input or advice for me?
Parents are protective, that's just the way it is. Pay attention to mom's complaints, but DON'T let them dictate your life. Find siblings or close friends and ask what they think about him. (Watch out though, advice from people jealous of your love will be biased.)
If you have a semi-close relationship with a teacher, coach, pastor, decon/elder from church, or neighbor, those are usually good people to get advice from. For one, they are older, so their advice is good. Two, they know you better than I do. Three, they don't have the "protective" thing that your parents do, so while they have your best intrests at heart, they will be more open to letting you make your own decisions.
I'm a procrastinator in a steady relationship, so yes, it's possible to be one and still love someone.
As for the fighting... everyone fights; it's just how they handle it. Couples who enter into a "discussion" knowing it'll be a hot one and make a concious decision to handle it with grace stay happy. Couples who are quick to point the finger, play the blame game, dish out guilt, bring up the past, yell, scream, throw things... those are the ones that turn bitter. Fighting starts at around the 2-year mark in most relationships. Learn how to fight without the anger part and you'll be good to go.
Hope that helps
-Evan
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Okay. My life is like apple pie. I get straight A's in school, am fit, am reasonably pretty (not sounding conceited), have a lot of really nice friends, my teachers seem to love me, I can speak French, and dress well. Everyone says to me how likely I will be to succeed, and that I could do whatever I want. But, I always feel like something's missing. I have no idea what it could be, but there is definitely something that could make me happy and I don't have it. Any help please?
God. It seems to me if he blessed you with a near-perfect life and you haven't thanked him for it lately, he'd cause a little pang of emptiness, or a feeling that there is "something that could make you happy" and it's missing. He doesn't want you to feel bad, he just wants to get your attention...
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ok well im a 15/f and my bf is a 16/m. we have been together for over a year now and i know what people are going to say your 15 sex can wait and i know it can. i mean i want to wait until later on in life but yet i sometimes feel like im ready to do it with him.. i mean me and him have talked about it before and he says he thinks hes ready but it all depends on me. i mean i love him to death and never felt this way about a guy before..he tells me he loves me alot and wouldnt make me do anything i wouldnt want to..hes told me that hes never felt this way and wouldnt know what to do if he lost me. but i mean when i say i want to i know for a fact ill chicken out because im so self conscience and like because of pain and possible bleeding. we talked about it last night and like when he wants to and stuff but he told me its up to me. like how do i know if im ready? how bad does it hurt? and like would i bleed alot? like i dont want to screw up and stuff like im scared to do it how do i get over it?
sorry its so long
thanks
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You are such a wonderful person. You actually took the time to explain the situation, and how you feel about it. That helps when people are trying to write back.
Most people who have had sex say they wish they would have waited. I wish I would have. Maybe you'll marry this guy, maybe you won't. It will be more fun then than it will be now though, let me tell you. Staying a vergin these days is hard. Really REALLY hard. Everyone always talks about how fun it is, or how good it feels, or how much they love who they do it with. What people don't talk about is the morning after. Sex is a powerful thing, and the emotions that run through your head the next morning are incredible. You worry: "Did they have like it?", "was I good enough?", "Am I pregnant??" and much more.
Love is a very complicated thing. I suggest you spend at least 3 years with someone before you decide you want to have sex. There is such a thing as "puppy love". I hated it when people told me that I wasn't "in love", and that it was just puppy love. But that's what it was. Durring the first year to two years, you love some one, they are perfect, and if they are not, their shortcomings are not a big deal; you shrug them off. After those two years or so, you do begin to see their faults. All of em. If you decide THEN that you still want to be with them, THATS what love is... It can wait, at least 2 years...
I hope to hear back from you about what you decided to do...
Good luck, I hope all goes well with you...
-Evan.
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Hello,
I was just wondering if anyone can give me some good vacation ideas? OK, we live in Latrobe, Pa. We only want to go for a weekend. It will be me, my husband & our 2 kids, (3 & 6). We would like it to be somewhat cheap & close by. Even in the Ohio, West Virginia range would be fine. As long as it is in driving distance. So, if anyone had any experiences with any place fun & inexpensive or has any ideas in general it would be greatly appriciated. We can also go to places offering military discounts. Thankyou.
Go camping! It's more work (as far as packing) than going to a hotel somewhere, but sleeping in a tent and walking around in the wilderness is WAY more fun than sleeping in a hotel and walking around on a sidewalk/driving in your car. Plus, when your vacation is over, you will have to drive home, and no one likes driving that much. 6-year-olds love camping. The most fun I've ever had in my entire life was white water rafting, (not camping) but my very best (and favorite) child hood memories are from going camping. Campsites are also cheaper than hotels. If you haven't camped before, talk to freinds who have to give you some pointers. Bug spray, and food to cook on the fire are definate musts.
Have Fun!!!!
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my friend jim is really upset. its because his dad has lung cancer and it doesnt look too good. also his brother got hit by a car today and his leg is definitly demolished. and he saw his brother totally covered in blood and everything. some of the things he says put me in such a terrible position too. he literally says he wants to die. and i dont even know how to react.
can someone help me figure out what to say to my best friend? thank you
Tell him you love him (or care about him, or are concerned, etc.) and that you will always be there for him.
I hate being sad. It sucks.
Many people tend to lash out at someone when they are grieving, even if that person is just trying to help. We as helpers need to realize this is just part of pain, and not really intended. Also, as being someone who has dealt with death, I can say there is hope.
My grandfather died of lung cancer. This really upset me because I didn't hardly know him, and I wish I knew him better. My dad is getting older, and I know he will eventually die, and I will HATE IT. I love my dad... But that's how life goes. However, I can take solace in that fact that I will see them again in heaven. Maybe Jim is not a Christian. Maybe his father is not a Christian. Maybe you are not a Christian. But it's at times like these when we need Christ the most. There are several members at my church who are, or have been, painfully injured, there are three that I know personally that have cancer, some of which may be terminal. They might die. But as a result of this pain, there families have gotten closer, they have made unexpected new friends, and the friends they already have have gotten closer. They are happeir now then they have ever been.
Don't give up on Jim.
There is a light at the end of this tunnel. When he lashes out, forgive him. Just try and listen, and comfort him, if you can. If you can't; that's not your fault. But be there for him if he needs you. There are worse things in life than death, and after you die, there will be better things. Maybe God is using these hard times to pull Jim closer to himself... it's hard to know.
Thanks for opening yourself to others advice, and hopefully something I've said helped in some way...
-Evan.
P.S. I am personally praying for you and Jim, and his father. Right now.
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help!
im going to a dance next week with a guy i really like, i have no idea what to wear, how to dance, and how to style my hair! IM not very good with all this girly girl stuff it is all new to me and i can't spend a lot all my friends are wearing dresses what do i do??
plz help
scared
Easy. Wear something you like, and something that's comfortable. If this guy is a good guy, he won't really care what you're wearing, just that he gets to spend time with you while you're there. Don't stress out about it. Dances are just dances. It's the memories that you make while you are there that you will remember.
To give my advice some credibility... I have to look at my prom pictures to remember excatly what my girlfriend was wore to senior prom, all I can remember off the top of my head was it was some pale silvery lavender something. What I remember with picture perfect clarity is the way her eyes looked up at me when we were slow dancing. I remember her cute little smile, and they way we ran to the car afterwards because it was raining torrents that night.
Just keep in mind that it's about you and him, not what you guys wear.
Hope I helped...
-Evan.
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hey everyone! this may sound gross but im 13/f and my arm hairs are like very dark brown and almost black. its not like its a little hair, its a ton! it looks gross and its very dark. i do not want to take on waxing/shaving or any type of hair removal. i just was wondeirng if i bleached it blonde would yu still be able to see teh large amount of hair? also it is worth my time? what are the pros and cons of it? this question is especially directed to this who have experience wiht this type of thing. cait♥
Waxing would be the best, because it takes longer to grow back than shaving, and it also thins it out, so it would be less noticeable. I donno about bleaching... it seems like your arm hair would grow out and you could see the regrowth just like when you color your hair. It may be worth a shot. The other thing you could do is just go outside a lot, work on that tan. The more your hair is in the sunlight, the lighter it gets. Plus sunlight is free!!
Hope this helps...
-Evan.
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I'm 13, female, and I weigh about 113.
I'm happy with myself, except for the little "pooch" at the end of my tummy. The rest of my stomach is flat, except for that part. I already do 100 crunches a night, a work out from Seventeen Mag., and I don't drink soda, but I can't loose those extra few inches down there. What should I do?
I'm 19, male, and attracted to attractive women. You are at a good weight for someone your age. My girlfriend weighs a little bit more than you, (of course she is, she's older) and also has a little "pooch" at the end of her tummy. Don't worry about it, it's normal. I think it's sexy.
If you REALLY want to try and make it smaller though, do inverted sit-ups. That's where you strap 2 hooks to your ankles, hang upside down from a bar, and do a sit up until your body is in an "L" shape, or a "V" shape, if you can get it there.
Hope this helps...
-Evan.
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I am so sexually confused! One second I'm bi and another I'm
gay! I am 14yr.s old a freshmen, confused on what my sexuality is. People says I'm gay, but I still think girls are cute, but I would
rather go with a boy. So what am I!?! Need answers...
It's insane that people get so crazy over topics like this. Are you gay?? Are you striaght? Lez? Bi? Trans? Who knows, who cares? At 14, this should be the LEAST of your worries.
I would try some relationships with girls first. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to be anti-gay or anything, but from personal experience, and from people I know, it is emotionally more satisfying to be with someone of the opposite sex. I've known quite a few gay AND bi people, and most of them have been happier with the opposite sex. Not all, but most(and this is from JUST the gays and bi's that i know, not everyone i know). I'm not saying it's easier, because it's not (it's pretty hard), but it IS more rewarding.
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hey
I was wondering, how come everyone all of a sudden hates preps?
Like my friends and I were at the movies tonight. And i hate labeling myself but im deffinetely in the prep catogory. And all these punk emo girls were mocking us and and following us saying " like omg im like such a prep like omg" And all this other stuff. MY friends thought they were jelous but i dont know. Does anyone know why everyone doesnt like preps? Like on myspace people are posting bulletins saying " Wow i hate preps" and all this other stuff. Im just being myself,and who i am.
Does anyone know? thanks
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I just met the nicest guy over at plentyoffish.com . It's an online dating site that's free. He is smart, ambitious, lives in the same area, is the same age as me (28), and has similar values and goals. He's also quite attractive from his photo! We've been emailing each other for the last few days. So far I've found out where he works, and he knows where I work. We've also asked each other which highschool we went to, and found out that neither of us enjoyed it. We seem to have a ton in common.
My question is, being that I am very shy and havent dated in a long time (with the exception of a blind date in January that was disastrous), how should I handle this new guy? Should I wait for him to ask me out? So far we have just been writing each other.
A couple of things: I don't pretend to know everything, this is just advice, not "The answer"
1. Let him make the first move. If He's into you, he will. Even if he's shy. There is no backing out for a guy if he's into you. It may take a while, but it'll happen. I used to be painfully shy. Took me 4 or 5 weeks to ask this girl out. It was definately worth it. If he never makes a move, he's not worth it. Plus, if he asks you out, there will never be any doubt in your mind: "would he have gone out with me if i didn't ask him?"
2. As far as online relationships go, you never know who your going to meet, they could be crazy. You could bring a freind, double-date, or if those would wreck the "mood" then go alone, but tell someone where you are going, and call them by such and such a time.
3. If you really really dig this guy... Like, you've met him twice and you think he could turn out being the one... Bring him to meet some friends and family. See if they like him. It's easier to let your friends/family get to know him (or not), and then fall in love (or maybe not), than it is to fall in love and then try and work it out with your friends/family.
4. Good luck. It's hard to find love, especially for us shy people... ;) Hope you find what you're looking for.
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This might get a little lengthy.
My friend and I got into this argument last week in which we realized we both thought the other a bad friend and we had been kind of been unknowingly avoiding each other because one thought the other would be a bitch and all of that fun stuff. Typical female passive aggressive bullshit. We talked it out and made up. Then I invited her to see this concert with me of one of her favorite bands, since I had some free tickets.
Today we were sitting in English and she starts ranting and raving about how shes going to a really good place to eat right after class gets out. We both don't have any class after English. I kind of hint that I want to go because it's my favorite place but I just assumed it was a one on one thing with another friend so I didn't come on too strong. 10 minutes later she brings it up again and says to our other friend, Hey you should come with me! I'll sneak you out... just ditch the rest of the day! (she doesn't get out early like us).
So let's recap. I just saved her 30 or 40 bucks by taking her to this show with me tomorrow, plus I'm going to be giving her a ride, and she knows I had nothing better to do and could have gone to lunch with her, and yet she sits there and begs this other girl to go, and she said last week that *I* was the bad friend.
I assume I should confront her about this before the show so I don't have to spend the whole time with her being pissed off... but I just wanted to double check I was being reasonable and maybe get some pointers on how to go about starting this.
you saved her $30-40? Was it a nice thing that you did for her? Or does she OWE you for it? Obviously, if she doesn't appreciate it, you don't want to be dropping money on tickets for her... but that's a different matter.
As for the lunch thing; don't hint, ASK. I mean, if you really want to go, just ask, right? Some people are really dumb. You can throw hints and clues and even suggestions and they still don't pick up on it. Sometimes you HAVE to ask.
I would definatley talk to her about it though, it's good to talk and get stuff worked out. And if during the course of the conversation she says something you don't like or agree with DO NOT raise your voice. Bite you tongue. Some of the best things I ever learned from people I did by just listening.
Hope all goes well with you,
-Evan
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me & ryan ex boyfriend, we're realllyyy close. we used to hang out everyday and always talk on the phonnee. then about 2 months ago we stoped. he stoped calling and stoped hanging out with mee. then about 2 weeks ago a girl who likes everyone, started to like him. and i thought i could trust him and no that he wouldnt like her. well he told me he didnt and was pretending then 5 days after this girl sent me proof. a myspace message that he sent her. it said blahblahblahblah i love you. =[ it made me really sad because i knew he wasnt kidding. and he wasnt. i talked him about it and he was like "im sorry for lying and messing things up but there nothing i can do now to make us the way we were. so this is bye." it was very hurtful.=[ then 2 days after that day. i was walking in the hall (in school) and then he was behind me so i tryed to walk a little faster then he was saying my name i knew i shouldnt of awnsered. but i did. i turned around and was like yes... and then he just told me an inside joke he had with someone. i was like okay. but i think he kinda did that just to talk to me. but then that same day on the bus (were on the same bus) me and him were talking and i was like can i just have one more hug and he was like yeah. then while we were hugging my best friend emily said "do you still like her" and he shaked his head no. but he always says he doesnt mean anything he says when were in fights.
so im really confused. should i try to get over him. or maybe talk to him about this.. or something =/
ohh yeah and then the other day i was in the car, and then i relized i missed him alottt. and bursted out in tears.
--confused.
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If he left you, that's his deal; he has his reasons. Does that mean your a bad person? No. You are great. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. You may never know why he left, but the fact that he's already talking to someone else makes me think he's over you. If he's over you, you may as well get over him. Telling you "there are more fish in the sea" probably isn't of much consolation, but there are. There are more out there. As far as getting over him goes: Get out, hang out with your friends, play some games. Laughter may not be the BEST medicine, but it definatley helps. Laughter and friends...
Feel free to post back. Hope you feel better! :)
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I can't go to the store and stay there for hours browsing through for books ...so I need titles of books that you think are worth reading and buying. I suppose I'm into fantasy, drama, horror like books. Any suggestions?
9th/10th grade level please.
If you haven't read the Tolkien series, they're a safe bet. Some of the best fantasy you will ever read. And if your into Sci-Fi at all, get Ender's Game by Orsen Scott Card. It's Great! I've had my copy for only a couple years, and read it about 14 times, and lent it to my brother and a couple friends, who also loved it. Absolutely recommended.
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How do slow down fast metabolism? Any tips or something?
Dont eat much. Eat 2 big meals as opposed to 3 small ones. Cut snacking out completely.
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