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Boyfriend/mom issue
So my mom all of a sudden started freaking out about my boyfriend.It started from him not getting me a mum.Since he is a procrastinator && never gets things done, especially for school functions..anyways.I ordered a mum, thinking he would have paid for it, But if he didn't It wouldn't be a big deal since it wasn't his homecoming.. (he graduated last year) anyways.My mom just freaked out about it, But it wasn't like I could do anything.She ended up bringing everything about and yelled at me about it.That we don't go out on dates and stuff,But every once in awhile (when me & him AREN'T busy) we go to the movies, out to eat.. somewhere.We don't go to his house much because his dad pretty much lives in San An. and comes home every other Tuesday and every weekend.And his mom won't let him stay there unless he pays the bills and his mom doesn't even work, (she just graduated to be a nurse) but yeahh.So she tells me how bad of a person and boyfriend he is and that I should get a new boyfriend.I thought that was very rude and uncalled for when he hasn't been a bad boyfriend.Especially compared to me ex.It's just really hard when your mother just talks down on your boyfriend when he has no clue he's doing anything.I don't know what to do.Our 6 month is on the 9th and I love him so much. I don't want to lose him.. anyone have any input or advice for me?
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Is it possible that maybe you wish you saw your boyrfiend more? Maybe your mom saying it kind of touched a nerve, so to speak. If that's the case, tell your boyfriend you would like to spend more time with him. As far as your mom goes, just ignore her.
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Parents are protective, that's just the way it is. Pay attention to mom's complaints, but DON'T let them dictate your life. Find siblings or close friends and ask what they think about him. (Watch out though, advice from people jealous of your love will be biased.)
If you have a semi-close relationship with a teacher, coach, pastor, decon/elder from church, or neighbor, those are usually good people to get advice from. For one, they are older, so their advice is good. Two, they know you better than I do. Three, they don't have the "protective" thing that your parents do, so while they have your best intrests at heart, they will be more open to letting you make your own decisions.
I'm a procrastinator in a steady relationship, so yes, it's possible to be one and still love someone.
As for the fighting... everyone fights; it's just how they handle it. Couples who enter into a "discussion" knowing it'll be a hot one and make a concious decision to handle it with grace stay happy. Couples who are quick to point the finger, play the blame game, dish out guilt, bring up the past, yell, scream, throw things... those are the ones that turn bitter. Fighting starts at around the 2-year mark in most relationships. Learn how to fight without the anger part and you'll be good to go.
Hope that helps
-Evan
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