Gender: Female
Location: California
Age: 16
Member Since: April 24, 2011
Answers: 47
Last Update: April 27, 2011
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i want to become a Christian but i don't no how someone help? please? (link)
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Find a christian church and attend one Sunday morning and see how things work out for you. If you have any friends that are christian see if you can tag along with them one Sunday and experience it. Good Luck!
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i am 13 and i just started cutting myself on my wrist i mean they arent deep but there still cuts idk what to do bc it feels so good but i really want to stop i look at the cuts and i do it again i use bobby pins what should i do i told my mom and dad anad there getting me help but i dont think thats going to help ill still do it what should i do ?
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You should find other activities that give you mental pleasure. I use to cut my wrist because of problems i had at home. This isn't healthy i stopped by finding other things to do to relieve my pain or stimulate my body. I really like drawing and singing so when i feel down that's what i run to. So find something that you enjoy and continue to do that. Good Luck!
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I don't smoke, I just want to know.
I hear all sorts of rumors, such as:
- It makes you stupid
- It damages brain cells
- It contains the same carcinogens as cigarettes
Are any of these true? Are there any other physiological / psychological effects? (link)
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Weed does damage brain cells. When you loose brain cells you are not able to regain them back so that's where the whole stupidity comes into play. I think of smoking weed as if the smoke suffocates your brain by killing off brain cells. Plus it's bad for your lungs and body. Ask a doctor and they can tell you exactly what weed does to you! Good Luck!
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Hi.Im 11. I have been expieriancing the following for a few weeks:Frequent urination Unusual thirst Extreme hunger Unusual weight loss
Extreme tirdness and stomach pains, What could those be symptoms of and should i go to the hospital? Thanks (link)
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Go to the doctor so you can know exactly what's going on. You don't want to guess because we may be wrong. Hope you are ok and healthy. Good Luck!
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how can i burn fat?
my friend told me things like walking, runnning and jump roping can help? she said that's what she does. (link)
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Those are great ways to burn fat! Other ways are jogging/running, using treadmills for 30mins every other day, walking up steps repeatedly. Active stuff will often allow you to burn fat. Good Luck!
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I am 13/F
There is this guy that i really like a lot and i know he used to like me to, but i am not sure if he still does. I want to get to know him better, we were on a the same team for a turnement for P.E. and we were pretty good friends and he sat by me a couple times in my history class instead of his assined seat, and I want to hang out with him a lot. I don't what I should, some of my friends are telling me to ask him out, and others are saying are you crazy? He is very popular and im not, but i really don't know what I should say to him, or if i should ask him if he wants to hang out, or just forget about him. (link)
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Please do not let popularity stop you from making a move. But first, try to just go up and talk to him when he is not with a big crowd. Spark a small conversation and see where it leads. The best time to talk would be prob. in your P.E class. Maybe when you guys are next to ea. other playing a game or something. First start the conversation off with what's going on in that class then lead the conversation to a movie or something that just came out. If he seems interested ask him what he is doing the weekend that's coming up and offer to hang out and maybe go to the movies with you and some friends. This will give you a chance to hang out but not alone in-case you freeze up. Don't be afraid to make a move but don't come off to strong because he might not like you as a girlfriend or he might have a girlfriend. Good Luck!
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My boyfriend chats with this other girl while we are talking and I'm not stupid I can see they are talking but he doesn't tell me. It feels like a knife in my stomach and I start shaking so I end up telling him good night and going to bed where I lay awake for hours crying. Now I know that is probably pathetic crying over a guy and all. But this is stupid. Why can't he just be honest with me and TELL me that he is talking to this girl or something. I hate her already. I've already talked to him about it last time when he said I was over reacting and I asked him to PLEASE tell me if he talking to her instead of letting me FIGURE IT OUT. Idk what to say to him today, I'm .... in a very bad mood.... should I avoid him or not... this is so messed up. He loves to say that "well I can be friends with whomever I want" I KNOW THAT OKAY GOD I KNOW!!!! But what if that girl is KILLING ME ON THE INSIDE... geez
ADVICE PEOPLE PLEASE!!!! (link)
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Sounds to me like he's being secretive and hiding something. Hmm, you need to talk to him on a more serious note. Let him know why you want to know if he's talking to this other female. Just tell him that you're tired of guessing and just want the truth. Let him know that you're not accusing him of anything you just want to know what's going on. If he's innocent he shouldn't have any problem with telling you what's going on. If he makes up more excuses then you have a problem.... he could be cheating. Just bring it up and see where it leads if he avoids the question then somethings is going on. Good Luck!
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i like his girl and she kinda likes me. but she still really likes her ex boyfriend.what should i do age 11 male (link)
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She's 11 and she's in love? That's really cute! Well, if the guy was her first "love" it is kind of hard to forget. It might take time for her to loose her feelings for him but just tell her that you like her. Once she see's how sweet you are she will start to forget about him. Good Luck!
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Ok this may sound kind of wierd but bear with me while I give the set up please. I am a teenage male and I have been dating this girl for about 2 1/2 months. When we hang out in a group of friends we have a mutual friend who is a boy. When ever my gf walks into the room he is always hugging her and sitting with her and she lets him. The catch is that this boy is gay so I should have no problem with it except that I want to be the one she hangs all over and sits closely with. She is not big on PDA but I would like her to be able to walk up to me and not act like complete strangers when we are in public. Is there something I can say to her about this mutual friend and also on a general note of mild affectionate PDA as a whole. Please help, I am not sure what to do and it is ruining the relationship. Thank you. (link)
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Is your girlfriend ashamed of you? You should ask her this question. It shouldn't matter if her friend is gay or straight she is still showing more affection to someone else rather then to the one she is in a relationship with. You need to talk to her. Simply call her up or pull her aside and let her know how you feel. It's not fair to you that she disowns you when she's around a crowd. If it was vice versa she would not like the feeling. So talk to her and ask her if she can change a little maybe be more affectionate with you. Let her know that they way she hangs with her friend it kind of makes you a little jealous because you wish you had the same connection. It's ok to be a little jealous haha it's not a bad thing sometimes girls thinks it's cute. Good Luck!
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i've known this guy since the 8th grade, we were like best friends, I could tell him every or anything and trust that he would keep it a secret....we were so close, and we both had a crush on each other but afraid to say...anyways i left the school in 9th grade and lost touch for a year...thats when he asked me if i want to give us a shot and i agreed...then he started acting like an ass, one second he is sweet then the next he makes insulting jokes about me when i'm around his friend and always trying to dictate to me what i can and cannot do. we keep breaking up and getting back together. Now we broke up again because he went too far this time and he keeps ringing my phone off and i'm not answering, i'm confused. HELP!!!! (link)
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Well by reading what you wrote it sounds like you are confused on staying with him or leaving for good. Am I right? If so i advise you two to talk and tell him how you feel. Guys sometimes need to hear it from us girls mouths how we feel, because what we think they should know they truly don't. Tell him about how you dislike how he treats you around his friends and you don't find anything humerus about the nasty comments he makes. If he makes excuses of why he does it let him know either he needs to change or this is IT!!! A guy shouldn't be sweet one day and mean the next they should always stay sweet. If he isn't treating you like the princess that you are then find another guy that will. He is one out of a million guys that would give you the world so you just have to think... Is he worth the pain? If not move on girl you can find better. Good Luck!
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there's this guy friend. according to all who know him, he's kind of a player, he makes out with girls (or more heh), bt doesn't want a relationship (a really friendly guy though). the problem is i like him but i only want him as a kissing friend. I have witnessed lots of messed-up relationships among my friends it made me somewhat relationship-phobic. im currently busy studying, and I really dont have time for a relationship (makeout might be good for studying stress, or so i've heard). and i dont wanna involve sex in this. i really really just wanna be kissing friends (like sex buddies, but sex-less). is that weird? and what do guys in general think of that? and how do i make it happen? pls comment (link)
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No that's not weird at all. Although, you should not want to kiss a guy that has kissed multiple girls. You can catch Mono. look that disease up! Anyway's if you still want to go forward with this just simply pull this guy aside and tell him. Let him know you don't want to involve sex in this, because kissing leads to touching and touching leads to sex! Another thing beware because many girls may get jealous of you if you are making out with a popular guy. Lay down your rules if he agree's to be your "Make-out budy" ! Good Luck!
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I'm 18/f he's 19/m
So basically I posted on here before about how I have really strong feelings for my best friend. And how he had a mystery girl and I wanted to know whether or not it was me. Well basically I decided it just couldn't be me and well I got pretty upset trying to accept it and move on...and that's when one of my friends I hadn't spoken into a while (also mutual friends with the guy I like) told me I have nothing to worry about and asked me if there was something going on between us cause she's noticed he treats me alot differently and whatnot. And that's when she called me to tell me something cause she could see how upset I was getting over him. She then told me that he told her anything, and that I'm not meant to know yet..but she had to tell me before I moved on. She told me that he does really really like me, but he wants to stay single for a little bit longer. And how if we end up together he's 100% committed to me and how the thought of me ending up with anyone else really upsets him. He also said he's scared of relationships because of his ex and is still struggling to get over her. He told her he will talk to me about all this and tell me he likes me in person, and that he wants to know exactly how I feel. I should be happy the most amazing guy likes me but I'm struggling to believe it...he hasn't contacted me for the last two days at all and now I'm worried...then today I read something I really didn't want to see...he said on fb how he wants to stay single and "doesn't want a girlfriend for a long time cause it only leads to heartache and fights" I was hurt by this because I want to be with him and I know I'm alot different to his ex, I would never ever hurt him like that, ever. I understand his lifestyle and whatnot and I wouldn't ever dream of hurting him like she did. I just feel like giving up, maybe we weren't meant to be after all... :( (link)
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The reason why he is drawing himself from you is because he is afraid to get hurt again. His ex gf maybe never intended to hurt him but at the end left him with heartache. He see's himself falling for you and is just afraid of the consequences. He doesn't know what may happen in the relationship whether you may hurt him or he may hurt you. It seems as if he really cares for you and doesn't want to jump in a relationship with you until he is stable mentally. The only way you will understand how he truly feels about you is if you come out to him and let him know how you feel. Because if you never tell him you will miss your opportunity. Just call him one day and ask if you guys can meet up and then start pouring out your feelings and letting him know how you feel and that you would never hurt him.
Oh, and about the fb post don't worry about that. what he said he didn't mean. It was just how he felt at the moment it's not permanently. trust me feelings change in a amount of seconds he could have just been depressed! Good Luck!
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Are there any clinics that I can free tests and gyno check ups my parnets knowing? I'm 16/f and sexually active, and I do not want to go with my parents knowing until I have final information about myself, such as pregnancy. (link)
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When ever you visit a doctor your intimacy life is totally confidential. The doctor is not allowed to tell anyone about what goes on in that room unless it's under your consent. You can go to many free clinics you just have to look them up in your community/area. The age that you are now i will actually advise you to talk to your parents so they can help you rather you doing this alone. Good Luck!
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I'm a 32/female. I work as a server and worked til midnight on Thursday. I drank alot of caffeine while working so I thought I would stop on the way home and get a drink and order some food for my boyfriend who i live with. I ended up drinking 3 beers and got some wings for him and talked to this girl who said she had just moved here from LA and had no girl friends here. When i got home it was almost 2:00 in the morning and when I walked in the cushions were gone off the couch, the tv was gone, computer was gone, mattress gone. My phone had been dead so i put it on the charger and called my boyfriend. When he answered he called me a whore and said i had been out whoring around. I said first of all dont ever call me a whore, and that i had gotten him some food and had money for him as he had said he was broke before. He called me a liar and this made me very angry. I have never cheated on him. I have since been able to get him to bring back the tv and computer but have been sleeping on the box spring with no mattress and thinking what should I do? I do love him very much so this has really hurt me. None of my friends or family like him which makes me feel even more sorry for him. I guess I will move out the first of May. He will not take my calls except once to tell me he loved me and hated this sitution yesterday morning. What should I do? ANY ADVICE?!!! (link)
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Do you still want to be with him? If so you can simply call him over or meet up at a local restaurant to talk about the situation. It seems to me that their are many doors left open and unsolved questions. So a nice dinner/lunch will be great to air out some frustration and sadness. Simply explain to him everything that happen that night just as you explained it to us! Either he will accept your truthfulness or continue to think that you're lying. If he continues to think you're lying and you have no way to prove to him that you're telling the truth simply move on. Ask him these questions... Are you finished with us? Is this it? Do you want to try to work things out? Where is the trust? If he fails to acknowledge these questions just remember that their are many bee's in the hive that would love a precious rose like you. So don't let one guy stop you from living life, his lost! Good Luck!
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does ANYBODY know how to seriously get rid of stretch marks. i know this may not be possible.i know they eventually go away because a few years ago they were red and now their like white or silver. i just need some remedy or an ingredient to look for in sunscreen or something. also, laser removal is out of the question. help please! (link)
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Your body is beautiful with or without stretch marks, but since you would like to remove them they do have many cremes that will blind them in with your original skin tone. Just go to like a pharmacist and ask them.They can help you.
PS; it may be a little costly. Good Luck.
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16/f
Okay, so me and this guy I've known my whole life have been talking lately, just as friends. I kind of like him and he does me too,but until something as far as a relationship happens he wants to be sex buddies and I kinda want to too.. Is there anything wrong with that? (link)
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Hello, friends with benefits can be a good and bad thing. Sometimes when people try to be friends with benefits it ruins the original friendship. For example you or him may grow feelings for one another and the other may not feel the same way. But remember you're only [Friends] so what if the other get's into a relationship? If you grow feelings for this person and the other one doesn't know it or doesn't feel the same way it can come between your original friendship. So before you two decide to get sexually active you should agree to no strings attached. Meaning no feelings involved! Good Luck!
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I took my friend to walmart to get something on the way back i had an accident and he went with me to take pictures of the car and he showed people we both know, but then he was also showing random people the car. then i got mad and cursed him out and talked shit about him on facebook. Was that as awfulas it seems. i think i have some validity i felt he was going to far to get attention and having my business out there all at once. (link)
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If you were mad about what you're friend was doing you should have pulled him aside and talked to him personally. Talking badly about someone is never right, especially if it's on a social network such as facebook. If your friend wanted to he could sue you for ruining his reputation, and life or what ever. So if he hasn't found out tell him admittedly what you did and why and talk about the situation and solve your problems. Good Luck!
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Long story short, my mom is constantly bringing me down. I'm only fifteen, about to be sixteen.
She tells me I'm selfish and treats me like I'm five. I'm a very forgetful person and I get punished for it. I think it is wrong. My mom tells me that I won't make it anywhere in life because I don't know what to do with myself. She expects perfection out of my sister and I and we are very sensitive. She is always bringing me down. She has no faith in me. She gets mad and pissy because I can't be what she wants me to be. She gets angry when I tell her things and she's always trying to control my life. I need some freedom. She is tearing me apart. Yesterday she threatened to smash my head through the windshield because I didn't turn down a certain street while driving. She always threatens to take my cat away and is always making huge violent threats. I am scared of her. I'm scared to go to her for problems so I go to my dad. My dad lives in California. My mom says I'm a two face because I talk to my dad after he cheated on her ten years ago. She says I'm just like him and that hurts because my dad isn't the best person around. I come to school in tears and pain because we fight all morning over the dumbest stuff. I can't take it anymore. Nobody has faith in me and everyone treats me like I am retarded. I feel worthless and alone. I tell her it hurts when she does certain things and she uses the whole, I'm your mom and I can do whatever I want, phrase. I can't take it anymore. I need help. (link)
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I have been through the same situation. your mom needs another adult that she respects to talk to her about you. Your mom probably doesn't mean to hurt you with her actions but she doesn't know how to be a mom. Many mom's have this problem! Don't feel like you're alone because you're not, and you are not retarded. This is not a "over the nigh" process maybe you and your mom needs to go to counseling and talk to someone so you two can express your feelings to ea. other. your mom is prob. acting this way because of the void that she has after the separation that her and your dad went through. Try to sit your mom down with your sister and talk to her. Explain to her how you feel and how she hurt's you although she's your mom she has NO RIGHT to treat you how ever she feels. She needs to wake up and understand when no one else cares about her you will. She needs love! As well as you and your sisters and your mom needs to give you this. Tell your dad what's going on and have him get a counselor asap. Good Luck!
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ive recently gained a lot of weight in a short amount of time.
i use to b very small and skinny but i gained so much weight due to binging nonstop.
i ordered the hollywood diet and i plan on doing it however i am aware that after the diet you gain a lot of weight.
how do i prevent this?
when i am done with the diet how do i keep the weight off? (link)
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To prevent gaining wait after the diet just exercise and eat healthy. Make sure you exercise at least 3 times a week. [ Ever other day for at least 30mins Vigorously.] Eat healthy foods, look at a food pyramid to see what need's to be in your reg. diet. Make sure to eat the right portion not too much but not too little. Good Luck!
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I am 15 and me and my boyfriend have been going out for a month or two now. My boyfriend always tells ME to kiss HIM he wont ever make the first move. Then when I say no he keeps on pushing the subject,asking me to kiss him and he then starts kissing my neck and rubbing certain areas, what do I do?!?! (link)
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I'm sort of confused on what you're asking. If you're asking about how do you begin to kiss him well that's easy. Are you aggressive or more passive? If you're aggressive do this.
1) While your boyfriend is kissing your neck slowly lift his head up and kiss his lips softly. Start with a small peck
2) If you feel comfortable with the kiss and are ready for a [ french kiss ] that's tongue action then allow him to take lead or meet him half way.
- It's ok if you're not the best kisser your first time it's always room for improvement.
Another thing if you don't like him feeling you tell him to STOP before it leads elsewhere. Good luck
Oh before i forgot if you are passive and when it comes to kissing tell him to meet you half way , he leans in 50% then you lean in the other 50% and start off with a peck.
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