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She is bringing me down.
Long story short, my mom is constantly bringing me down. I'm only fifteen, about to be sixteen.
She tells me I'm selfish and treats me like I'm five. I'm a very forgetful person and I get punished for it. I think it is wrong. My mom tells me that I won't make it anywhere in life because I don't know what to do with myself. She expects perfection out of my sister and I and we are very sensitive. She is always bringing me down. She has no faith in me. She gets mad and pissy because I can't be what she wants me to be. She gets angry when I tell her things and she's always trying to control my life. I need some freedom. She is tearing me apart. Yesterday she threatened to smash my head through the windshield because I didn't turn down a certain street while driving. She always threatens to take my cat away and is always making huge violent threats. I am scared of her. I'm scared to go to her for problems so I go to my dad. My dad lives in California. My mom says I'm a two face because I talk to my dad after he cheated on her ten years ago. She says I'm just like him and that hurts because my dad isn't the best person around. I come to school in tears and pain because we fight all morning over the dumbest stuff. I can't take it anymore. Nobody has faith in me and everyone treats me like I am retarded. I feel worthless and alone. I tell her it hurts when she does certain things and she uses the whole, I'm your mom and I can do whatever I want, phrase. I can't take it anymore. I need help.
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I have been through the same situation. your mom needs another adult that she respects to talk to her about you. Your mom probably doesn't mean to hurt you with her actions but she doesn't know how to be a mom. Many mom's have this problem! Don't feel like you're alone because you're not, and you are not retarded. This is not a "over the nigh" process maybe you and your mom needs to go to counseling and talk to someone so you two can express your feelings to ea. other. your mom is prob. acting this way because of the void that she has after the separation that her and your dad went through. Try to sit your mom down with your sister and talk to her. Explain to her how you feel and how she hurt's you although she's your mom she has NO RIGHT to treat you how ever she feels. She needs to wake up and understand when no one else cares about her you will. She needs love! As well as you and your sisters and your mom needs to give you this. Tell your dad what's going on and have him get a counselor asap. Good Luck!
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I have to be honest, it sounds like your mom needs help. From the short bit that you wrote, I would guess that she is verbally and emotionally abusive, and if she hasnt started already, on her way to being physically abusive. You are not worthless, nor are you retarded...you are simply being hurt by a woman who should be loving and protective of you. I urge you to reach out to an agency for help, a school counselor, the boys and girls club, even a hotline for abused children, anything. She cannot do whatever she wants, that statement is being used to control you. I will; be praying.
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your mom sounds a little bitter. talk to your dad and see if her can lighten her up a bit. also, see if you can talk to an aunt or uncle or cousin that can talk to her. you shouldnt feel unhappy in your own home. hope this helps:)
p.s. i know how it feels to have no one to talk to, if you need more help just ask<3
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