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Is there anything wrong with being friends with benefits?
16/f
Okay, so me and this guy I've known my whole life have been talking lately, just as friends. I kind of like him and he does me too,but until something as far as a relationship happens he wants to be sex buddies and I kinda want to too.. Is there anything wrong with that?
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I have had a friend with benefits before, and it broke my heart. He never wanted to comit to me, and in the end he founf another guy and ended up totally cutting me off, making me feel terrible. It is not a good idea. I have been there, and in the end, it hurts way to much; the immediate fun is not worth it. I highly suggest you wait until he wants to commit to a relationsihp before even kissing, because (if you're like me) kissing only lasts a minute or two and then it moves on fast. Hope this helps!
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It never works. If you try it, in 3 months you're going to be right back here asking "Why doesn't he want a relationship? He always says the nicest things, but he says he doesn't want a girlfriend. Why?" You're going to do what you want to do. But when it turns to crap, remember this question you asked, and learn.
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Take it from me, friend with benefits is never a good idea at any age. But the choice is upp to you, no one can make it for you. Just be careful and make sure you know his sexual history and if has been tested with in the last month or 2.
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Hello, friends with benefits can be a good and bad thing. Sometimes when people try to be friends with benefits it ruins the original friendship. For example you or him may grow feelings for one another and the other may not feel the same way. But remember you're only [Friends] so what if the other get's into a relationship? If you grow feelings for this person and the other one doesn't know it or doesn't feel the same way it can come between your original friendship. So before you two decide to get sexually active you should agree to no strings attached. Meaning no feelings involved! Good Luck!
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather; hopefully the wisdom that comes with age and life experiences will be helpful.
If you read some of my answers to sexual questions, you will find I have a very liberal views when it comes to sex. I also try to tell it like it is and I don't hide things from anyone because of their age.
Wittyusersnamehere made some very good points. Friends with benefits is a term for sex without commitments adults coined for those who just want sex but not looking for a relationship.
Your friend is trying to find a willing female to get his rocks off with because as a 16 year old boy going through puberty he is constantly horny and doesn't want the frustrations of dating.
There is another problem with 16 year old boys you need to consider as well; they can't keep their mouths shut. If you give into him before you know it you will have every other boy in school knocking at your door wanting to be a friend with benefits. I'm wrong; no I'm not, you see I was once 16 too and we had a girl in my class who was easy. Is that the reputation you want?
Yes I was blunt, I felt I needed to be to make my point. Your to young to be thinking this way. Your to young to be having this type of sex life.
If you were my daughter I would be telling you to wait another year or so. That you should still be letting him fight you for a feel or letting him grope you or maybe finger you a bit. You could be giving him a handjob or maybe oral sex. At your age the best birth control is keeping your panties and pants on.
Masturbate at home in your bedroom when you need to. The further away you keep your vagina from his penis the less chance you have of becoming pregnant. A little over kill there but I think I've made my point and yes this is what I would tell my daughter and it is to a certain extent what I told my son.
My advice is to tell this friend your not interested in being his booty call.
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Friends with benefits is something that adults created out of a need for people with severe time commitments to not be absent a sex life.
Imagine the grad student who spends 75 hours a week doing school related work, or just about any other high powered career with similar hours. They are adults. They know what relationships are, have had several, and know that they don't have time for the kind of relationship they might want. Hence, a friend you can watch movies with and sleep with.
You are 16. You do not have a high powered career or graduate studies. Friends with benefits isn't something you do so you can get laid while you figure the relationship parts out.
Sex before relationship is always a bad idea, by the way. If you want to date someone, figure that out and get a consensus before you sleep with them. Several reasons.
1) If you like them more you could get crushed.
2) If they like you more you could get stalked.
3) If you both like each other sex could get in the way of or substitute for a genuine emotional connection, which means when the sex gets boring for one of you you're left with two people who barely know each other and the honeymoon phase is already over.
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This can be fun when you get a little older but things can get a little complicated when you're so young. He may tell you that you'll be his only booty call but chances are he's already asked a few girls and may already have one on the side. When you've been friends with someone for a long time, the chances that you'll fall for him after sex, increase dramatically. Just try to weigh the pros and cons and consider what you'll be gaining from this before you jump in. I hope this helps and good luck.
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well everybody has their own perspective but from my personal point of view i don't think that it's a good idea because i've been in that situation and girls after sex tend to get emotionally attatched unlike most guys, so if he begins a new relationship with somebody else this would be hard on you and i don't think you want that on the other hand it's okay having that kind of thing with your friend because there are no strings attatched but if you don't see yourself falling for him in the future unless he would feel the same way then go for it
best of luck!
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