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I have new advice clounm Sweetbrowneyes06
talk u soon have nice day.. sorry wasnt another advice qestion (link)
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It's okay. We mostly solve each other's problems over email conversations anyway.
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Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:
I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." That day I came home and started crying. I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer. (link)
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Sorry it's taken me so long to answer. I've been really busy with college. I've been through this similar situation. If I were you, I wouldn't try talking to him again. I wouldn't keep trying to make the twosome work out. If the guy is unwilling to change, even though he promised he would, then he's not going to change. You did the right thing by telling him that you didn't want to talk to him or be with him anymore because he's hurt you enough. Those reltionships are very unhealthy for anyone. If a guy cheats on you once, he's going to cheat on you again becasue he grows to like the feeling. It's like an addiction to a drug. I hope I have helped you out. I'm getting better at giving advice, but I'm still new at it. I don't know if I help people unless I hear back from them.
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Hmm. KK im 134 and im not even 5 feet is that fat. i think im fat. all my frined says that im not but there my friends. and i have been going around and stuff and a normal weight for a 5 foot person is 98-128 hmm i dunno.. paranoid..
and i just get a sick feeling knowing im like 6 pounds more. maybe lose the six pounds??
in other words im not comftable with being me (link)
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You can lose the weight if you want. But, most often, it's okay to be 5 or 6 pounds overweight. It's not the looks that are important, it's your inner personality that is important. To lose a little weight, run on a treadmill for half an hour to an hour and eat healthy foods, drink diet drinks, preferrably water, stuff like that. Don't just sit around all day. Get up and walk as much as you can.
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i was thinking of babysitting for people..(most likely people i dont know) with a friend of mine..this way the job is easier. Is this a good idea? Do you think i`ll be successful? How should i get perfect strangers to trust me to babysit their kids...any tips? thank you :) (link)
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My suggestion would be not to have the friend along on a babysitting job. First off, this might alarm the "customer" and make him choose someone else, unless there are five or six kids. To get strangers to hire you, just type out a little resume, stating who you are, what skills you have in this area, and why you want to do this. If you do it that way, that will make the person look at it like you are a very mature and responsible person.
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i have this one friend of mine who whenever other people are around, especially guys, she gets really obnoxious. She become loud and annoying trying to be the center of attention. She put on her annoying girly act, and its just frustrating because she never acts this way when its just me. How can i show her obnoxious she's being without her screaming at me? (link)
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Get a tape recorder and carry it with you when you are around these guys, and tape record her actions. When you are alone with her, play the tape back for her. I don't know what kind of personality this girl has, but I hope she doesn't get extremely mad. Maybe she doesn't realize she's going this.
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hi im a 15 year old girl and my mom hits me a lot. i was wondering what you think i should do to get her to stop? (link)
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You and your brother need to contact the Family and Children's Services program near you (I don't know where you live) and let them know just what you said on your advice column. This is a serious topic and the only way to get her to stop is to get someone who is able to control her and keep her from doing it. They may take you away from your home (with your brother) and send you to a safer place or with a relative unti she gets straightened out. It may seem hard, but it wil be for the better. I'm actually adopted into a family that loves and cares for me. My real family would have probably been doing to same things, if not worse.
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my best friend went out with this guy that i liked and i found out that this guy doesnt even really like her and he likes me...he broke up with my best friend and then asked me out...i dont noe wut to do cuz my friend said shes not mad but i noe she is wut should i do? (link)
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Tell the guy that he shouldn't have dumped your best friend over you. If there was another reason other than you that he dumped her, he needs to come out with it to both of you. If there is another reason, and it's reasonable and not a rediculous reason, and your best friend still says that she won't be mad, then go for it, but not until he clarifies that you weren't the only reason he broke up with her.
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I'm a very quiet girl with social anxiety disorder...and I am going into the 9th grade...only two of my friends from middle school are going to the same high school as me...and Im even shy around them. I've known them for two years and I hate this...what do I do to make more friends easily..I know only a few other people from my middle school thatare going too but I was never really friends with them...I just don't know what to do and I'm starting school this Wednesday (It's Saturday now) and the nerves are really starting to get to me...
Not just as far as making friends go...but I also really really hate presenting projects or reports in front of the class and I'm just so scared. I can't help it at all...
And what do I need for high school? Not just socially, but what do teachers look for and stuff...
TY so much..
I appreciate it..
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Just sit down with someone in lunch or walk up to someone, introduce yourself, and start talking to them about their interests or something. It will come. You will make plenty of friends, I promise you. I started out with no friends at all and ended up with so many that I couldn't even keep in contact with them all.
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OK i think this is really sick, but for some reason, ionno why, but my dog love to sleep in the bathroom. I mean its not hurting me or anybody else. Can anybody enlighten me on why he does this every night? (link)
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If you just got him, since it is still warm and summer time, he may be sleeping on the bathroom floor because it's cooler there than anywhere else.
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i have acne...more then most of my friends...but not ALOT of acne...i want to try proactive but im not sure if i have bad enough acne...is there any other tricks to ged rid of them fast and make your face look clear and smooth?
(i get it around my nose and on my chin every once in a while)
Thanks for the help!!! (link)
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Things that I have used are Facial Astringent, Facial Cream, and Aloe that you would most usually use for sun burns. I also use medicated acne cream. I hope it works for you.
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everyone at school makes stuff up about me like rumors saying im a slut and my boyfriend from a different school wants to meet my friends, but i dont want them to talk crap. people also say stuff that is not true like saying i talk about people when i dont!!!
what should i do?? (link)
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Explain to your boyfriend what kind of people your friends are. Take him to meet them and both of you just need to ignore the way they are talking about you or anyone else. Just ignore everyone's negative comments and they will eventually stop.
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every once in a while (but not too much) I go to some sort of fancy dinner and I always get so confused when the first course comes with my silverware. Which fork do I start with? Usually I just use what the person next to me uses, but what if they're waiting for me to use a fork first? it could become very very confusing. (link)
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More than likely, if you know what I'm talking about, you won't be using the salad fork first. If they give you a salad, then of course you use the salad fork first. I hope that helped a little. I don't really eat at fancy dinners.
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My first day of school is soon and I'm going to be a sophmore in HS. Some freshman boys, that I know are coming to my school, are very mean to me and start rumors. One of them is my ex boyfriend and he always says spreads mean things about me. I don't know what to do, because the things they say about me are embarrasing and horrible. I'm so scared that the whole school is going to be making fun of me when they come. How do I stay calm and make sure they don't start on me this year? (link)
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The best thing to do in this situation is to stay calm, act normal, and ignore them. They are jerks anyway and need a lot of prayer if they are goig to be doing that. You will find a new group of friends that will help you through the hard times and pretty soon, these guys will see that it doesn't bother you and stop doing these cruel things. If you let them know it bothers you, they will just keep on getting worse and worse. Trust me, I've had that very same problem and that's the same advice they gave me. Hope it works for you like it worked for me!!
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ok well theres this guy and we had a relationship 4 a lil while but it ended so we talked on occasion. now he only wants 2 hang out when my best friend is here. i asked if he likes her and he sayd no but it doesnt make sense then. then i thought it was 2 hook his firned up with her but his friend has a girlfriend, my friend says its 2 try 2 get me jealous but i dont no if thats it, wha do u think? (link)
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From the sounds of your problem, I would thin that the solution is that he has more than likely developed a crush on your best friend. My boyfriend admitted at prom time this year that he had a major crush on a girl that he even acts like it around her at school. It scares me that I am off at college and I'm not able to keep my eye on him to make sure he doesn't make any moves. Anyway, if it's not that, he is probably trying to make you really jealous but more than likely, it's the fact he likes your best friend. I hate to break it to you.
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Hi everyone says that i am really skiny well when i look at mysealf in the mirror i look really big i just quit cheerleading and i want to go on a easy excersice diet but also eat at the sam time.i just wish i could just be like i used to plz help raiderhater121 :(!!! (link)
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Sometimes your own vision can play games with yourself. Though I haven't physically seen you, I'm sure you are a good looking person, no matter what your size. It's not the looks that people should look at, it's your inside personality. If you want to live a healthy life, pray to God and read the Word of God, exercise, and eat healthy foods. When you are craving something to eat, fix a salad or eat some fruit. Try just not buying junk food. Get maybe a bag of pretzels or something light like that, lite popcorn, diet pop, stuff like that. You'll get it. Just control it with food and exercise and prayer.
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hey guys! i got my hair chemically straightened with my cuzin back in march. my hair doesnt really dry straight from it though. its kinda wavy when it used to be loose curls. i still have to straighten it which used to take me an hour now its like 20 mins. but my cuzins hair dries straight .. mine doesnt. my hair took to the chemicals real fast so they didnt let it sit in my hair as long as they should have. ok well getting to the point.. i have to get my roots straightened again soon and i was wondering if i should say something to them and if so.. what should i say? (link)
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Don't worry about it. Just go out there and do what you got to do. Here's one thing: Just think you are the only one out there, you're on your own turf, and you are just practicing (minus the fact that you can't mess up). The most important thing to remember is to have fun. If you're not having fun, it's not worth it. Let me know how it goes. I'm sure you'll do great!!
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My girlfriend is moving three states over for 6 months because of family problems but will for sure be back by then. She says she wants to continue dating while shes gone but i dont know if i can do that. We would only beable to talk on the phone and maybe i could drive over a few times. Anyone else had a long distance relationship? Whats it like, what do you have to do to make it work? (link)
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It takes patience and strong love. If you really love this girl, you will keep in contact with her any way you can. If you can get her mailing address, email address, and phone number, write her and talk to her constantly. You can drive to see her occasionally if you want. It takes faith and courage and a really strong bond between the both of you to make it work. I had a relationship like that one time, and we broke up, but not becuase of the distance. He moved back and started pushing the relationship really fast, and found it was moving too fast and blamed me for it.
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all my life i've bin mostely put down about the way i look even if it wasent intentional...so now that i'm older (15) i am starting to get compliments from ppl(guys) but not many but even so i cant take them i always say something that disses myself and i'm staring to think maybe i do look good but when i look in the mirror i just see ugly and its bugs....i'm thinking maybe i just need a guys that will finaly treat me right so i might feel better but i'm not sure. maybe if that happens i will change cuz all the guys i've ever dated put me down in some way or another so that might have something to do with it but i dunno if you can help this problem i am saying THANK YOU! (link)
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Don't put yourself down abotu how you look. Think positively. Look at yourself in a different view. I'm sure you don't look that bad. I'm almost sure you have a beautiful personality and if the people (guys) would look at your inside self, and not what you physically look like, they might just see a totally different person than the had expected. God doesn't care about your physical appearance, just what is written on your heart. That's what other people should look at as well. Take it from someone who used to think just like that (me). Now, I don't really care what other people think, including my parents and boyfriend.
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Hows an easy way to tell your ex's( who hurt u really bad) best friend you like him? (link)
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Write him a letter. That's what I did. It made the ex-boyfriend really mad, but hey, look at it this way, it's his loss, your gain. He's the one who hurt you and mistreated you. He had his chance and lost it.
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My husband and I are adopting a cat today from the Humane Society. The cat is 4 years old, and has not been declawed. I feel it would be inhumane to do declaw her, but I am worried about her scratching my furniture, and me as well. Does anyone have any alternitives to declawing, or how to prevent her from scratching the furniture.
And any other tips for a new cat owner would be appriciated. (link)
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Get it a few scratching posts and set them up around the house where the kitten might wonder off to. If you catch it scratching at the furniture, lightly tap it's rear end and tell it no. Also, you only need to feed it maybe a couple of times a day. In the morning, give it some canned cat food (find it's favorite kinds), fresh water, and a little bit of dried kitten food. At night, refill it's dried food and give it more water if it needs it. Be sure to keep a litter box where it can get into it with cat litter in it. You may have to put it in the box a few times to let it know what it is for and to keep it from doing its business on the floor. Get it some toys like little kitten balls and strings. Make sure you pay a lot of attention to it, as well, to let it know early in life that you love it.
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