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ive been going out with my boyfriend for a while now but he hasnt told his parents at all so they dont know about us but i think they know something because all of a sudden me and him started hanging out a lot more and so the other day at our track meet his mom was spying on him and since it was cold outside we were sitting pretty close and he was holding me and his mom got all upset and was yelling at him i dont know what to do because i dont want him to keep gettin in trouble for being with me he says he doesnt care because all he wants is to be with me and his parents dont want him to date until he is 16 but he is already and has had girlfriends before me but none have been as serious as ours is now and i think he should tell his parents but i dont want his parents to make us break up because we really love eachother please help -- should he tell his parents about us-- sorry its so long!! x0o

Make him tell his parents. They arent going to respect him anymore if he keeps lying to them, and they find out. Maybe if they realize how mature he is for being truthful they wont care as much?
Also, if his parents make you break up, then maybe its for a good reason. Wait to see if you guys stand the test of time. You can still be good friends, jsut cool it on the whole boyfriend/girlfriend scene. If you do stand the test of time, and DO get back togehter once he turns 16, then I bet it would work out even better than if you guys keep lying and snekaing around.

Good luck with that

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How can I get my mom to let me get my ears pierced? She says I have to wait until I'm fsxking 16! I just turned 15 two days ago!!! She says people would say I look like a sissy. Ok. Well, only the shallow asshats would actually say that out loud, and even then I don't care. They can bite me. But she says I have to wait until the age even SHE got them! 1) I am not a woman 2) I am not my mother.

M/15. I'm just /curious/ as to how I would look in them! If I dont like them I could just let it cover up. I seriously don't see her logic in this other than the usual parent crap 'I want you to be just like me and grow up the same way.'

Well i think your mom doesnt want you wasting the mnoey on it if you dont like it. You say if you dont like it, you can just take them out, or cover it up. Well, earrings cost money-- depnding on what kind you get--so maybe she wants to wait until YOU are paying for it so ou dont waste your money on it.
Also, maybe she wants you to wait until your older because she thinks this is just a phase you're going through? Ask her about it, say you'll pay for half of the expenses of the piercings.
Plus, you should explain to ehr that you are not like her, and that you aren't a woman. Make these two points known and maybe she will let you sooner. Don't whine about it, she may jsut change her mind altgother, and definatly dont push it if she says no.

Hope it all works out for you.

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A while ago, one of my guy friends started pestering me, calling me at random times of night, being mean to me, then being scarily nice to me, then being very flirty with me. We quickly figured out that he liked me, and a few days later he asked me out, and I said yes.
However, as soon as he asked me out he started ignoring me, finally getting one of his friends to dump me a few days later. According the the friend, he was just shy.
Now I'm really confused, not only because as soon as he asked me out he ignored me, but because now we are just ignoring each other totally.
This is stupid, I really want him back as a friend, I really enjoy being around him. And I actually do still have feelings for him as well.
Why did he start ignoring me? And how do I get him to stop?

This seems like the answer to everything-- but talk to him.
You say hes really shit, so you're gonig to have to approcach him. Sit him down in a quiet place, after school or in a park or something where there arent too many people around to make you feel uncomfortable, or too little to make you feel akward as well. Just ask him whats going on, explain how it hurt you when he ignores you, that it makes you uneasy when he treats you certain ways, and that you still want to be friends. Say how you understand that he is shy, and that he may not know how to act around people in certain situations, but you're not there to judge him-- just to be a friend.

I hope that all works out for you

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what do i do if people are writing bad things about me on somebody elses column??

ignore it.
people are immature if they are spreading rumors on the internet. be the bigger person and ignore it.

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well aim is my life and i go on ALLLLLLLLLL the time, but lately it hasn't been allowing me to go in as my name. it allows everyones but mine-i really need help :( please help me!
-i rate high
thanx

Make sure you have the right password. Have them send it to your e-mail account. Also, your warning percentage might have been high the last time you signed off, and it may not be letting you on because of that.

Make a new-- temporary screen name until your old one works again.
Good luck!

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the hair on my legs grows back so fast. ill shave with a brand new razor then the next day hair is back. how do i keep hair away for a long time.
ill rate!!

Wax. Or use nair. Nair gets below the surface of the skin and makes it hair free for longer. Its messy but it works. it also smells really bad.
waxing hurts and may be expensive, so only do it as a last resport. however, the hairs tays gone for about 3 1/2 weeks!

hope it all works out!

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Me and my boyfriend love eachother to death. But we can never find time to ourselves we have talked a lot about exploring other places and getting away from all the hatred we see in our lives right now. the thing is i want to spend the rest of my life with him and i know i do-i just dont want n e one else to get in the way . . . . should i ask him to runaway with me or wait till' we are older and go through school then college then get married?

Wait till you are mature enough to make a decision like that. Also, you should be older so you know you have a good background- like college or a good job lined up before you plan on "running away" with him. Nothing is as bad as it seems and you will have the rest of your life with him, afterall-- whats the rush?

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I'm a lacrosse player (female) and it is my first year. I just started to become athletic, and since I'm running so much, my toes/feet hurt a lot if I run a lot. Is there anything I can do to get used to running a lot so my feet don't hurt as much? Thanks so much!

soak them in warm water everynight before bed for about a half hour, although you probably already knew that. Try giving yourself a foot massage, or if you family is nice, get them to do it. There are cool little massagers at store like bath and body works that let you roll them on your feet and stuff. They look like balls with bumps all over them...try thouse too, probably will be worth the investment. However, Only time will get you used to the running, but the massages and soaking may ease the pain.
GOod luck with all that!

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I'm going to be applying for a job soon, and on my resume..do I put on there that I do a lot of community service hours or does that not matter?

YES!
do it! community service gets you BIG APPLICATION POINTS!
good luck on finding a job:)

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I'm so fed up. A year ago I moved house and I hate it where I am now. My 'friends' hate me, they're always making fun of me and sneering at me and saying stuff about me which isn't even true. They're just so immature and I don't join in with the childish things they do. So they call me boring. I never go out, I just stay at my computer at weekends because I have no friends to go out with. I hate my life so much. I used to have the best friends in the world, and sometimes I cry because I miss them so much. although I sort of keep in contact I've only seen them twice and I can't get used to not seeing them everyday at school like before. I want to move back to where I came from because my friends hate me, but my mum likes it here and won't move back even though she knows I hate it. She says I'll get used to it and she doesn't understand. I think I have social anxiety anyway but she doubts it, it's like she thinks bad things can't happen to us or something. It's not really the actual place, just the fact that I have no friends, no life and my old friends are so far away and I miss them so much. I can't make new friends because I'm way too shy, I can't just go up to people and start talking, they probably hate me anyway. I often think about dying and stuff but I'm too much of a wimp to actually do anything though. Please help, I need to get my old life back, but how can I when I have no friends and I can't make any more? Thanks x

WOW! This is perfect! Honeslty, I went through the SAME EXACT THING!
I moved when I was a freshman in highschool-- lost most of my friends (altho some stayed in contact) and I had no friends here and the people were a little less than retarted.
Seriously, just stick it out. You are a strong person wether you realize it or not. However, the sooner you realize that things arent going to change, and ou mite as well make the best of your bad situation, then its just going to seem worse by the day.
I know it will take a while, almost a year and a half for me, but you really cant put a time limit on your emotions. Just give it time. The poeple will ALWAYS be stupid and immature, but you just have to learn to deal with it until you can break free, then hay-- look at the bright side-- you dont have to see them anymore!

I hope all works out for you soon :)

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Someone told me that washing your hair every day can damage it. Then someone else told me that it wasn't true unless you blow dry it everyday (which I don't so)
So which person is right?
I've been washing my hair everyday for ages because there's nothing better to do, haha. I don't want to damage my hair from it though!

Well, i used to wash my hair everyday, and my hair is super oily. I also heard that it damages it, but really, i just think it either makes it more oily, or dries it out.
Now i only wash it when it feels like i need to, or if its been a few days (ive noticed it takes longer for it to get more oils on it now). The oils in your hair are natural and when you use shampoo it washes them away. Throughout the day it replenishes the oils, plus some. So if you dont wash it everday it may be a little less oily, and you wont need to wash it as often.
Blowdrying, or adding big amouts of heat, like straighteners, is ALWAYS bad for your hair. Doing it everday is even worse. It dries out the natural oils on your hair and starts to burn the actual hair after the protective oils have been dried off (causing those icky split ends). I wouldnt worry about it if you dont do it everday, but either way its bad to an extent.

If your hair seems fine now and you've been washing it eveday for ages, as you say, then really, dont fret. Your hair is fine.

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Can anyone reccomend a good face lotion that is oil free with an spf of at least 15 that I can wear underneath makeup? I can't seem to find a good one that I like!

there used to be this neutrogena stuff that was out there. my sister used it and it worked wonders, also elimiated zits (and the need for make-up). I am not sure if its on the market anymore, but look for a good sports facial lotion, that usually has at least spf 15 and alot of sun screens are now oil-free.
good luck!

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ok can some one please help me here
my gf keeps getting her ass smacked by dudes and its realy getting me pissed off anyway should i beat the liveing shit out of the guys who are doing it? or just tell them to stop?

Even though it pisses you off, dont do anything physical towards the guys. It may be dangerous for you or them. Just tell her to lay off the flirting (if thats whats going on) between the guys and her, or to just try and avoid them.
She may like it if you seem kind of protective over her, but dont take it too far by knocking some guy on his ass. Just ask him to knock it off, but do it non-violently.

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it's that time of the month again for me and i had a question about tampons. i use them all the time, but they always seem to leak so i have to wear a pad with them too. i would get bigger sizes, but they're too big for me. well i'm on the track team at my school and we hafta wear runderwear, bun huggers, whatever you call them, and a pad is too obvious, so do u have any suggestions on how to get my tampon to stop leaking? thanks so much - i rate! p.s. if this helps i use tampax pearl

well. tough shit. It's part of puberty. All girls get their period at some time or another and who cares if your pad shows? Unless its uncomfortable to run with the pad, i say just go with it. Or, wear the tampon for your heat, and then go to the bathroom and put a pad on for the remainder of the meet.
Its a pain in the ass, but it mite be worth it.

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This guy and I are friends, and we have gone out twice before. I am entering eighth grade soon, same with him. His name is Kyle. He seems like a great guy to start a 'serious' realtionship with. He is EVERYTHING I have been looking for. I wrote him a note maybe two weeks ago. He didn't write back or anything. It said like I really like you.. etc. you know the drill. I mean seriously I am like totally in love with him. I don't know what to do. Talk to him, go along with everything[which he really hasn't said a word to me]. Likr I need help. What do I say to him. Summer is coming and I don't really plan on having a boyfriend for summer. But like during school, maybe two weeks before school. I am just so confused on what to do. Please Help, and don't pass this question up.

A "serious" relationship entails having one over the summer. If you were truly commited to wanting to be in a "serious" relationship with him then you would be willing to have one over the summer too.
If you have gone out twivce before, why didn't you stay togheter? Honestly, I say ditch the kid. You are too young to be worrying about petty things like what boy likes you and when you want a "serious" relationship. Besides, he didn't write back, and that upset you, didn't it? If he liked you back he would have either said something to you or wrote back to you, so I don't think there is a chance that he might like you as of right now.

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My younger sister has a lot of girlfriends, and they go out to places and meet guys, so my mom and one of my sisters' friends moms have been listening to her conversations on the phone, lets just say they aren't liking what they are hearing. My sister talks to a certain guy that has had a very sexual communication with her, she hardly knows this guy. I've known my boyfriend for over a year, and I know my mom wouldn't like the things we talk about either, and she talks about how she should take that guy away from my sister, and so now, me and my boyfriend fear that I will be banned from him, he moved, so the phone is all we have now. We really love each other, my younger sister would get over it if that guy was taken from her, but I know that I can't live without my guy if I were banned from him. We would go on and do the smart thing and cut off all "bad talking', but is that what we should really do? We are so used to it that sometimes it slips, but would it better or does anyone think we might be safe?


I RATE HIGH I SWEAR!

Your mother is just worried about your yonger sister. I'm sure that if you go to her and explain how YOU feel about her listening in on your sisters conversations, she might not do it to you. Also, tell her exactly what you and your boyfriend talk about. I mean, don't go into great detail, but just say something like "well, sometimes it slips because we are so used to it. I am more mature though and I know when enough is enough and I would appreciate it if you respected my space."

I don't think your mother would have a problem with that if you were mature and open about what exactly was going on. Tell her your feelnigs about your boyfriend and just explain the situation.

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Today in English we were reading some story about something to do with someone having a disability wanting to play golf. He had trouble walking and had to use a cart to get around to the hole while everyone else had to walk (obviously I wasn't paying much attention). But, towards the end of class my teacher brought up a good point about what the word "fair" meant to us.

Her question was, "Is being fair treating everyone equally, or giving lea-way to those with disabilities so they can be like everyone else.

I was wondering what it meant to you guys.

To me, I think it would be to give lea-way to those who are disabled and cant be like everyone else. It gives them a chance, a fair chance, to be "normal" and allows them to feel less akward.

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