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Q: My semi formal is the same night as my Dad's dinner for winning employee of the year. I didnt go to my semi formal last year and a boy that I really like might ask me to the semi.. What do you guys think I should do? ( They're at the same times too!!)

try going late to the formal... if u dont go to ur dads dinner at all itll hurt his feelings. talk to him and tell him that this formal is really important to you i hope u figure it out!

Q: Recently, i found my dad constantly going to chatrooms and talking to random ppl like he likes them better than my mom. every day he would be doing this but once my mom got home, he would close out of them. i dont know what to do. my brother knows about it too, but i dont know if i should tell my mom. please help....:(

maybe try asking your dad about it first... and be like if u dont stop this now then i will have to tell mom! haha hope it works! good luck!!!
*BeCcAh*

Q: k.. im a freshman, and i like a junior.

my friend to the guy i liked him and told him she would show me to him and then he would decide if he wanted to talk to me or not.

I really like this guy. And i dunno wut to do. Cause wut if he says im fugly or something. I dunno wut i would do. But i dont want that to happen.

Hes gonna meet me on friday n i wanna kno wut i should do and wut i should act like and how i should look and if he does wanna talk to me what to talk about.

Thanks soo much!

*Confused n Scared*

ok try and look really cute on friday like spiral or crimp your hair or sumthing. and dont where too much make up guys dont like that... and just make sure u smile and flirt be yourself!! good luck hope it goes well!!
*bEcCaH*

Q: Okay I am 13/f and I have never kissed a boy before. Well my boyfriend and I were playing Truth or Dare online and I dared him to kiss me. He said he would but he would have to do it between two of the buildings at school so we don't get a PDA refferal. This is not what I am asking advice on. I am nervous to kiss him because like I said I have never kissed a boy before. I need to know like what to do, how to do it, how to keep myself from being nervous and stuff like that thanx.~*Never Been Kissed*~p.s.I rate, good.

i havent kissed either and since its his first kiss too theres not really anything to worry about. just be yourself and think of good thoughts when doing it lol. good luck!
~Beccah~

Q: Hey I just found out that my new boyfriend was cheating on me with another gurl, Im crushed!
But last night after I broke up with him He called me alomst 6 times before I answered it.
well he said he wanted to met me on the cornor of my road well I went but he didn't show until 12:12am, Then he wanted to make out I didn't and I left Did I do the right thing?

yes!!! if u didnt leave he could have done something... he doesnt deserve a kiss if hes gonna cheat on you! good move girl! ;)
*Beccah*

Q: Theres this girl i really like thats in my class. The problem is my best friend likes her a lot too. He works with her so we both see each other a lot. I dont want to lose my best friend but i think she likes me more than she likes him. What should i do?

try talkin to him about it and like try to hang out with her more and flirt a lot but dont make your friend mad.... hope it helped! bunches of luck!
~BeCcAh~

Q: My friend i was talking to the other day and she told me about all the symptoms she had that made her doctors diagnose her with Bipolar disorder and my mothers ex boyfriend was bipolar and i acted just the same way he did before they{the drs} diagnosed him with Bipolar disorder. I also have another friend my best friend in the world is bipolar as well i talk to her about it and asked her and she said no way i was but i don't know what should i do?

try talking to a doctor or ur parents and totally make sure u know if you are or not! hope it helped! *BeCcAh*

Q: Okay, Im so upset! My boyfriend broke up wit me like sept 5th or somethin like that and he hasnt talked to me about it..He was so immature he did it online. hes almost 18 and im freakin 15 years old! Ive called n left messages tellin him I need him to explain to me so its not left all open n shit n me wonderin bout everything. He doesnt wanna call or anything. My friends have even tried n talked to him. They have gotten thrugh him and told me everything n shit but its juss not suppose to be like this. He liked me A LOT n i liked him. I fell for him hard and I think he was my first love. Maybe I juss liked him ALOT but I dunno I never had these feelings for someone so bAD before. I dunno what to do. I have been in a depressed mood ever since and I cant move on and everyone says I should. someone please gimmie some advice on everything..I juss dont know what to do anymore..he broke muh heart

tell him that u guys are practically still going out till he tells you why. bunches of luck!!!!!

Q: Hey, do you guys know any styling products that you can put in your hair while its damp and makes it straight when you blow dry it? Thanks

i cant think of anything but try buying a straightener. way better!

Q: i have a dance this friday and i dont know wut to do w/ my hair. i have straight, thin, brown hair that goes a little past my shoulders. thanks!

for dance, its usually best to put it up. cuz if u have it down it gets really annoying cuz it gets in ur face and stuff. beleive me ive been dancing since i was 3 so yeah maybe ponytail or messy bun and if its like a certain type of dance that ur not sure of wut to do with ur hair, then drop one in my box! good luck and have fun!

Q: I wanted to find some good love quotes and stuff and wanted to know if anyone could help me out. thanx a bunch! and i will rate you.

ok well i know this may sound kind of weird but go to awaymessage.com and look at the romance ones theres some really good ones!! hope u find some!
*BeCcAh*

Q: Well, i thinki might be starting an eating disorder. It started when i was trying my hardest to go on a Diet..and i just couldnt lose weight! i jogged for 20 minutes every day, drank about 7 bottles of water every day, and did 200 crunches every day. and within 2 weeks, i lost 8 lbs. And i ate strictly salads and small portions. I know im overweight (5'4 148 lbs) and im 13...so, one day i just threw up my food. i waited a few weeks, then i did it again. And now its becomming ruitene. Every day after school i PIG OUT on choclate/chips, eveything i can find. Then about 10 minutes later, i barf it up..anyone know if this is serious, or how i can stop?

that is called being belemic... or however you spell it it is an eating disorder and its really bad for you... good luck on stopping it i really hope u do!!! ~BeCcAh~

Q: I'm 15 years old and have a 20 year old brother. We are extremely close and we usually tell eachother everything. He has this girlfriend who I absolutely hate though. Everything she does is annoying and she's pretty much a slut. I feel like he can do so much better than this girl but he's supposedly 'in love'. How can I get over this grudge or tell my brother how I really feel? Should I even tell him? Even our mother doesn't like her!

try sitting down with him and tell him wut ur opinion is and you think that she isnt the right girl for him and try to talk to him about it without hurting his feelings or anything hope it helped! please rate!
!BeCcAh!

Q: i like this guy and him and his girlfriend just broke up today.. if i ask him out, is taht bad? because me and his ex are like friends but not really

no but dont ask him out so soon. wait a few days or even weeks and make sure it is ok with his ex first... less conflict... good luck!
please rate!
~Beccah~

Q: I went on vacation and met this perfect guy there. We hung out everyday for 2 weeks. We "were a couple" for about a week. I havent seen him now for 2 months and it has been the hardest thing ever. We both still have really strong feelings for eachother but i am kinda starting to like this guy at skool. I am going to go see him for Thanksgiving. Should i totally forget about this guy and go for someone who lives in the same state (since i will only be able to see him about 3 times a year)?? I dont kno what to do so please help me!
Thanx a lot

try talking to him about it and like maybe once you guys are older u could got to the same college or sumthing and try to work something out if u guys still like each other. lots of luv!
*BeCcAh*

Q: Well, I'm 13. I just got my boyfriend
only about 5 days ago. And we just met each
other about 3 weeks ago. We really like each
other. Already, we went to a Football game
and people were chanting us to kiss...and
we did 4 times. I think we're rushing, but
I don't want to hurt anything between us. Though
I know he'll probably be fine with it if I tell him how I feel...I just can't get the guts to. What should I do?

-Mystie

if u cant talk to him try talking to one of his friends or one of ur friends that knows him and maybe tell them to ask him if he thinks u guys are rushing or u could write him a note or talk to him online. hope i helped good luck! please rate!
~Beccah~

Q: I'm 13 and I got my period November of 2003. My mom doesn't really like me using tampons, I never have, and I never really wanted to. Until now. They seem some much easier, and more conveniant. My question is, which kind do I buy? Mine aren't usually really heavy, but they aren't light either. So what brands to you reccomend?

o.b. is the best tampons and they are so much more comfortable then any other and they come in small boxes so if u dont like them u dont really waste your money! hope it helped and good luck!
*Beccah*

Q: One of my good friends is dating this guy, Erik, that I liked for 2 years, but she never new it. And so they been dating for 7 months, and Ive been a bit down latly. He just recently broken up with her, And he said he did it cause he wanted to go out with me cause he heard I liked him. But I don't wanna hurt my friend, beacause she's really down, and crying and all. I feel really bad, but on the other hand I really wanna go out with him. What should I do?

~Amberlynn

maybe try talking to her about it and make sure its ok with her to go out with him b4 u do hope it helped!
~Beccah~

p.s.- i love ur name!

Q: is wakling just (or close) as good for you as running? like can i loose weight from walking 20 minutes a day or does it have to be running? thanks i rate!!

yea pretty close try walking fast or jogging slowly just experiment with differnt things... lots of luck!
~Beccah~

Q: Ive been going out with this one boy for about 2 months. and i like him a lot but we havent kissed! and i do not make the first move. how can i make him kiss me?

14/f

well maybe talk to some of his guy friends and ask them if they would talk to him or if he doesnt want to kiss you at all... it works beleive me ;) good luck!