so my boyfriend and i are going on three years together and we both just turned eighteen. we live together with a friend but we cant support ourselves yet............so we get a phone call one night saying my boyfriend of three years has a kid with the girl he lost his virginity too which was like five months before we got together. how do i handle this? i want kids but i want them to be mine and way way down the road. i love him but does that mean i have to love the baby too? what should i do?
I find it pretty ironic that he has a child that is three years old and it has never been brought up until now? Either your boyfriend has known about it or she may not be completely honest with him. The first thing is for your boyfriend to get a DNA test to make sure that the child is his. Once he is certain that it is his, it will be his responsibility to take care of the child. As for you, if he has known all along and has not told you, it may be time for you and him to have a serious talk. This isn't something that should be kept from someone you are in a long term relationship with and these are issues that need to be addressed. If he just found out and it is indeed his, you are not obligated to love the child or take care of the child, however, if you choose to stay in a relationship with him, then you are agreeing to support him in whatever needs to be done for the child to grow up healthy and happy. The reality is, is that things will change. The question is is whether or not you are willing to make the sacrifice for this relationship. Over time you will also play a role in this child's life, simply because you are a part of his life. Your combined income with partly go towards child support, medical and any other expences. Part of your time with your boyfriend will be shared with your boyfriend. The question you need to answer is if you are willing to live your life like that. If the answer is no, then you may want to reconsider this relationship. I hope this helps.
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Can I go to schol if I'm on house arrest?
You will have to talk to your Probation Officer about the stipulations of your house arrest, however, if you are a minor, most states require you to attend school. Your PO should give you the information you need and let you know if you are supposed to go back to your school or of he has alternatives to comply with state law, such as continuation program, homeschool, or independent study, ect. If he has not discussed this with you, you or a parent can call and he will advise on what to do.
If you are an adult, over the age of 18, depending on the conditions of your probation, there are usually several options such as work release and going to school. If this is not part of your house arrest, discuss this with your PO and see if he/she could work with you on getting this approved.
Another option is to attend school online. The k-12 program and connections academy both offer online schooling, that usually complies with state laws, but you will need to research to see which will benefit you, if this is something you'd be interested in. If you are over 18 , you can enroll or , if you are already enrolled, ask the collage to transfer you to online classes until you have finished your house arrest. I hope this helps.
Angel
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Well here is some info about our situation. I am 17 f from Canada, he is 17 m from Usa. We met on the site omegle and ever since have been talking everyday for almost 13 months. We have never met in person. we only see eachother on skype from cam and voice. We have been planning for him to come up and meet me this summer. But...we are still waiting to see if his parents are going to allow him to or not. But there is also an issue of us getting jobs in the summer as well as him gettin the money to come here. Passport and wat not he has 2 get, but hes parents havent said if he is allowed to or not yet. so 4 or 5 months we are thinking a bout meeting. Dunno if its gonna happen though, weve been waiting for an answer for 13 months pretty much. I love him. He loves me. I know we are 17, but we are capable of love and it is my decision if i love some one or not. so please dont say i dont know wat love is. Yes everything is over the computer...you can still fall in love.
Well...i was talking to my cousin lastnit at a hockey game, and she was really talking to me about my whole long distance thing. ALot of wat she said made sense, and i have actually thought about them for months now. the idea that say he couldnt make it to come see me...what do we do then? still sit on the computer everyday and hope hell come next year? I love him so much, but my cousin said that ill regret not dating and doing stuff because im waiting for him. which is true, i feel that way. We both think that no one is going to come our way and that we are the ones for eachother. My cousin also said how his gonna be in college for 4 years...in that 4 years how many times is he gonna see me? which i tihnk is going to be very low not to metion its going to be harder because well only b able to see eachother for like 2 wks then he goes bk. There is alot more things on my mind, but i cant put them into words.
What i am asking is...should we still talk to eachother, but we can still date other people, as long as they know about the whole situation? should we try and do this because our love is so strong for eachother...in the mean while we have no clue how we are gonna be in person because its completly differnt? Should we end it and only b friends, but the thought of that makes me sick...cause we are so simular, he makes me so happy, he makes me laugh, he cares for me so much and does so much for me and hes always here for me. Iv never had a bf before...never kissed or had any physical contact with a guy ever. There is a guy i have been talkint to that wanted to hang out sometime...but id want my first date with Jake (the guy frm usa i talk to), my first kiss with him etc cause it means so much to the both of us, i just dont wanna do that for just anyone one.
There is alot on my mind at this point, it is extremely hard to do this, i cry at points because i just want to feel him or know how he smells or kisses ect. We are young, we do understand the positive and negative parts of this realtionship.
I just dont want us to regret dating within that 4 years or missing out on potential experenices. I dont want us to waste our lives on the computer when we could b in a real relationship with that physical intimacy. but we are perfect for eachother just no in the perfect situation. I cant see myself being with another guy besides him cause he has everything i want and need.
What do you think? Are you in the same situation?
what do you think we should do? Sorry for this being really long...i just have alot on my mind lol.
Ps. He is going to college next year...where there will me tons of new people and girls...so i think in ways us talking to eachother but we can still date is a good way...but he doesnt like it. he doesnt want to loose me. He was on verge of tears lastnit cause he doesnt want me to be with another guy. this is really hard decision...i just need some adive? thank you so much for your time and effort, i really appreciate it! thank you
Before throwing away something you might regret, here is what I suggest. Meet his parents and have him meet yours. Get both of your parents to talk and both your parents and his parents will feel more comfortable with you meeting each other, in fact, they may help out financially, especially if one set of parents are really looking forward to a vacation. If they choose to tag along, let them because it's only for your safty and visa-versa. This will be the best way to see what your feelings for him truely are. The second thing is to examine your feelings and what your fears are about pursuing this relationship. From what is written, you are afraid of wasting your time on a long distance relationship, which could lead to heartbreak, however, no relationship is a waste of time because it teaches us to believe in love. It gives us hope and forces us to get out of our comfort zone and be able to give our hearts to another person. Whether or not it works in the future, is really a mute point. Even marriages that last 25 years could still end up in divorce. No relationship is ever guarenteed. What matter's is that we take the chance. Win or loose, we always win, because we have created special moments that will last a lifetime. if it works out, you could have a beautiful life together. If it dousn't, then you have had some special moments together and a better idea of the type of relationship you desire. If you love him, then love him, whether it be for the moment or a lifetime, but nothing is worse than living with the regret of "what if". I hope this helps.
Angel
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Hi I'm Bailee and I'm a cutter, I am 14. I have cut for..two years and I have recently stopped. I, for the longest time, cut heavily. My arms so badly scared that I can barley fine any unscared skin. I want to know if there is a way to get rid of them so I can wear short sleeved shirts. I do realize that I'm gonna have to live with them for the for the rest of my life. I don't want any bad talk or put downs.
Bailee~
Hi Bailee, I'm glad to hear that you decided to stop cutting, but it dous concern me on whether or not you have dealt with the issues to caused you to cut to begin with. If you have dealt with those issues, then you've taken the first step to healing both physically and emotionally. If you haven't, please talk to someone like your parents, grandparents, school councilor, ect. Fixing the outside will not fix what it inside of you.
Alot of scars will change and fade over long periods of time. This is due to the collagen that is produced anytime there is trauma to the skin. Vitamin E is a natural way to help reduce the effects of scarring and may help your skin heal. This could be found at any walmart or drug-store. You can use a lotion with vitamin E or find the capsules in the vitamin section. Open the capsule and run it on the scar a couple times a day. It will take some time so you will need to be patient. I am also giving you a link that may also help. HOwever, before you do anything you need to discuss this with a parent and make sure that you are not allegic to it and that they are in the loop about what you are trying to do. Communication is the key and they may be a great resource to help you. You may also want to check with your doctor, especially if you are taking other medications that might cause an adverse side effect with vitaminE.
Here is the link :http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/2534.html
Again, I am not a medical doctor and you will need to discuss this with your parent and/or doc before trying anything new. I wish you the best of luck and congradulations on your road to healing.
Angel
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So my baby's father and I broke up officially like a week before Valentine's day . This guy Sam that I like and have known for a while, claims that I never told him on that day , but I did.. not directly like "IM SINGLE" but I told him we didn't have to keep secrets anymore.. Since I've been single we've talked less and less.. I really like this guy and want to give it a shot. He never texts me good morning or good night anymore as we used to wether it was me or him now it's always ME texting him .Because before the baby's father and I broke up he would always text me at random times , and tell me cute stuff.. We even saw each other three times and kissed but not like crazy sexual just cute crush like kisses and then he'd also tell me he was going to take me jetskiing and if I wanted to go to lunch and all these great things. and Now its come to a complete halt, but yet when I text him he still flirts and acts like he's intereseted.. Like today I was picking up my daughter from the babysitter's house after school , and on the way there I saw him and my friend yelled out the window "SAM" and kept going cause I was late but I had to go back that way to go home so I texted him and I said "We have to stop running into eachother like this. " & he was like "Hahaha , I knew it was you for some reason, you need to stop running and say hi !", SO I TOLD HIM "I'll pass by now when I get my daughter." he said "ok" ... When I went back he wasn't there. So I told him, "You say I'm running but when I went back you weren't there", and he said, "he didn't know". Im just so confused by him and Idk what to do. I just want an upfront answer like if he is still interested or not, cause I can just easily leave him alone if he isn't . How would I confront him about that without being to 'clingy' ..or bitchy? Please help me sometimes I'm so dumb found when it comes to guys. : (
Even though you are now available, it sounds like he isn't. There could be a few explainations such as being in a relationship himself, but no matter what the reason you are no longer safe ground for him. You are single and available to pursue a relationship that he has no interest in being in. I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but he's giving your signs that he has no interest in a commited relationship with you. It's time to cut the cord and find the relationship that will good for you and your daughter
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Over a year ago, I had what I thought to be a very irregular "period" for three months. (Although my cycle's never been irregular.) I'd spot for 2-3 days and then it would be over. I didn't have any cramps or the typical symptoms that would accompany my menstrual cycle during these months, or warn me that it was coming. I felt odd, but I attributed it to stress (even though again, my cycle's never been interrupted by stress.)
At the 3rd month, I had my last 'spotting' period. It only lasted two days, and I ended up getting a yeast infection. I opted to get OTC medication - and I took it accordingly, for a week. Towards the end of my treatment, I had the worst "cramps" in my entire life. It literally felt like a stabbing pain. I was curled up in bed attempting sleep, on the verge of tears, it was that bad. I checked to see if somehow cramping was a symptom from the medication, and it wasn't. However, the pain subsided over the night, and things seemed normal again, until a week later.
Then I got my "period" again. Needless to say, I was entirely confused - and the only thing I could make sense of to myself, was that my body was 'catching up' and maybe I had a yeast infection the entire time. (It somehow seemed logical in my head.)
This "period" I had, was the worst period I've ever had. I was passing blood clots that would soak through a tampon/pad in less than an hour. I'd stand up and I'd flow through a tampon. I could virtually do nothing without risking bleeding through my clothes. This "period" I had was 12 days along. I'm not kidding you. Nearly two weeks. I went to my mom, friends and even relatives about it, and they all told me "don't worry, you're young, sometimes your cycle's crazy." I never felt content with this answer after my period did finally end after that outrageous period of time.
All of that aside, I've also had weird changes in my body. I'm 20 years old, and the majority of my teenage years I was one certain cup size. I've doubled that in less than a year, and only a few months after the incident.
The bottom line is, even though it's too late to get a 100% explanation, I'm just hoping somebody could possibly make sense of one.
Without a physical examination from a doctor it will be virtually impossible to say whether or not you had a miscarriage. Even though this happend a year ago, it may be possible for them to be able to tell due to modern technology. If you have even been pregnant, there will always be some type of sign to show this, but again, only with a thorough examination would they be able to tell.
I was three months pregnant when I had my miscarriage. In fact, I only found out 3 weeks prior when it dawned on me that I haven't had my period in three months and that I didn't have any pms symptoms. I took the test and it came up positive immedietly. I made my appointment but it would be a few more weeks before I could see anyone. One day I started spotting at work. I called the doctor and they had me come in the next day. The next day, they did their examination and I knew there was a problem when they couldn't locate the heartbeat, so they gave me an ultrasound. They said I had everything there but the baby and that my body terminated the pregnancy. I was advised to go home and that it should pass on it's own and if I experienced any excessive bleeding or pain to come back in. My husband's father had a heart attack and so we made the three hour trip to see him. We stayed for an entire week and I spotted and past large clots in the meantime. The bleedings finally stopped so I thought I was done. One the way back home I started getting really bad cramps to were I was doubled over in the car. I was soaking pads every hour and finally made it to the emergency room after a friend forced me to go. By the time I got there I soaked 3 pads in 5 minutes and was hemmorageing. They wheeled me in for an emergency D&C and after that I was fine. Had my friend not made me go, I could have bled to death. The thing about miscarriages is that there are some typical signs but often the cramps will feel like contractions and extremely painful. Anytime you start bleeding that heavily or having the symptoms you described, you need to see a doctor immedietly.
I would suggest that you make an appointment now. Tell them your experience and your concerns. If it was a misscarriage, your body may not have disposed of everything and this could create health problems or prevent you from having a healthy pregnancy later on.Hopefully everything will be fine, but it is better to make sure. I hope this is somewhat helpful.
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Hey
I'm 21 years old/female. I am on birth control and have been for a little over a month. I get a lot of spotting while on the pill.. and last night I got a few period pains (its not even close to the time my cycle should begin).. but anyways.. period pain are normal for me while I'm on birth control.. even if I'm not close to having my cycle, but last night I went to the bathroom and I got very lumpy discharge. The thing is, it wasn't normal discharge... it looked a little bit like two eggs clumped together (not saying it was one, just comparing it to the shape)...they were smaller than a dime... and it sorta just sunk to the bottom of the toilet bowl.
It really grossed me out and freaked me out to be honest. What could this be? It looked like there was a dot in it.I dont know.. please help.
Honey, it sounds like you may be worried about miscarriage. Only a doctor, after an examination, can tell you whether or not this is something to worry about. It is common for woman to "spot" and have irregular periods when first starting or switching birth control. Discharge is also common and it could be possible that your is simply adjusting or may be rejecting the contreceptive.
I can tell you that having a miscarriage is similar to having birth and you will often get severe cramping and heavy bleeding. The cramping often feels like contractions. If you've never given birth before, it feels like someone is squeezing your back and/or abdomin and then letting go and squeezing again. For some it may be a continous sqeezing and bloating feeling. I would suggest that you make an appointment immedietly to to make sure that you are ok and not experienceing a serious medical problem. I wish I could be more help, but I'm ot a doctor and there will be no way for a doctor to know without the physical examination. I wish you the best of luck.
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Okay, so I'm an outcast. It's hard to choose a friend because all my classmates are mean and bullies. They get mad at me even though I'm not doing anything wrong. I used to have this friend, but we're not friends anymore because we have different activities. What should I do to have friends? Or should I follow what my heart says (which is don't have friends 'cause you'll become left out again)?
Sometimes doing to right thing can come at a very high cost, but you've chosen to stay away from your classmates because of the type of people they are, which tells me alot about who you are. You hold yourself up to a higher standard and have certain expectation of how people should be acting. There is nothing wrong with this, in fact , it's very honorable for you to do the right thing and for you to stand up and be your own person by not following the crowd. You see people as sensative human beings, not objects to toy with when you are bored or have nothing better to do. You may not see it now, but this will take you a long way when you are older. It only takes one person like yourself to save a life and there is no greater feeling than that.
You deserve to be around people like yourself, so my advice is to figure out what activities you like to do. It could be anything such as sports, debate clubs, or even teen help lines. There will always be people who have the same interests and this is a good way to start making the friendships that will last. Your not an outcast, you fit in just perfectly, it's just a matter of finding where you fit in. Once you find this out, you will be much happier. Have faith in yourself, for it's people like yourself who grow up to change the world and make it into a place worth living in.
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Okay, so my friend found out that the guy i like does like me. The problem is i am 15 and he turns 19 on saturday. 2nd problem... he has a child who turns two in October. I have posted a question about this before a few days ago. But now i have decided i want to try to see if him and i can make this go somewhere. BUT, my mother and I are having serious trust issues with me. She does not want me hanging out with dirtbags, and i told her i did and she flipped. But i want to know how i can tell her that he is 19 and has a child. My mother got pregnant at 16 with my older brother so i want to think of a way to make it sound decently okay. I know it really is not but I want to try it. Does anyone have any kind of way that i can tell her this in the nicest, mature , understanding way? I would HIGHLY appreciate it! Thank you so MUCH!!
Your going to run into alot of obsticles by pursuing a relationship with this man. The first will be possible legal consequences because you are a minor and many states do not recognize adolescents having the legal right to consent to sexual intercourse with an adult, which may eventually lead to grounds for statautory rape. This could get him into alot of trouble, especially if your parents are against this relationship. The second obsticle will be that he dous have a child, so his time will be divided between you and his other responsibilites, such as the child, work, and school if he is going to school. In order for a relationship to work, priority will need to be on the child's best interest and needs from both you and him. Even though the child has a mother, the people in his life will also be a part of the child's life and you will have to take extra care to make sure your actions will be a good role-model for the child. He will need a partner that is mature and will be flexible and understanding about the responsibilities that he must take care of and may not be as emotionally available as someone your own age would be. The expectations on you will also be higher because of the child. The relationship will no be you and him, it will be you , him and baby, so make sure you are ready for this. If you feel that this is still something you want to pursue, then showing your mom how responsible he is for taking care of his child may make her feel more comfortable with you dating him.
I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck, Hun.
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while having oral sex just a bit of my sperms touch my girlfriends vaigaina but she washed in a second but now sheis not getting in periods its 37th day now????????can she be pregnant????????????we even did a test of pregranacy its negative means she is not pregnant so what could be the reason for not getting in periods?????????
It's not uncommon for a woman to be late or even miss a period, especially if she is irregular. I would have take another test in a week and see what it say's. It is possible to get a false negative if the test was taken to soon. She may also want to take notice if she is having any pain, irritation, itching or any other changes in the vaginal area, cramping, nausua or vomiting. If the test is negative after she retakes it and she is not having any other changes, then she may want to wait until next month and see if she get's her period. If she is experiencing some changes or is concerned then she should make an appointment to see a doctor. Only a doctor can tell her for sure whether or not she is pregnant or there is a problem.
I hope this helps.
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I have a boyfriend. He had a girlfriend before me.And he loved her since 7grade.. now his a freshman and they broke up 2months ago&&now his going out with me. But i don't know if he really loves me&&he is honest with me.
Alot of people who have been in a long term relationship that abruptly ends and very soon after gets involved in another relationship may be on the rebound. I don't have enough information to say whether or not this is the case, however there are usually some signs that you will notice if your guy is on the rebound.
What you want to look out for is frequent text messages or phone calls from the previous girlfriend or him acting strange when he gets phone calls or text messages, such as walking away, keeping the phone call very short, or saying that it was nobody when you ask who called. If it is her and he tells you, he may say that he still cares for the person but are just friends. This contact may indicate that emotionally they are not ready to move forward in another relationship.
If he starts becoming secretive and lying to you about where he is or where he is going and with who, then he may not be ready for a serious relationship.
Dous he still have pictures of her in his wallet or stuck on his bedroom wall?
If he suddenly stops returning your phone calls or makes alot of excuses as to why he can't hang out with you, he may not be ready for this relationship.
Though these signs are not a guarentee that he is on the rebound, it is something to look out for.
Take your new relationship slow and if it is for real, your relationship will continue to grow.
I wish you the best of luck.
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thanks. but does every girl bleed after sex? like wat r the odds?
No, not every girl will bleed. It's difficult to say what the chances are, so let me explain why a woman would bleed after loosing her virginity. Most women are born with a membrane that covers the outer area of the vaginal opening. This membrane is called a hymen. When the hymen breaks, this is what causes the bleeding. Some reasons for the lack of bleeding may be that the girl was not born with one, which is not very typical, but possible, if she was in gymnastics other sports, the use of tampons or other varies way's. For more information, you can visit this link or other web-sites that can give you a more detailed description about the subject.
http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hymen.
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Age: 20
Female
I need advice concerning my boyfriend. We've been together for nearly 5 years now. He has been depressed since he was a child, and he still remains depressed. He loves me very much and he treats me very well. Its not that I want to leave him because of any abuse. I want to leave him because I feel like he doesn't even want to live life. He plays video games all day everyday as a release from reality. Everytime we get in a fight he tells me, "if it weren't for you I'd be dead. I will kill myself because I make you so unhappy. I don't deserve you."
I care about him and I love him but I feel like there is so much more to life than I have. He wants me to marry him but I don't want to because I feel like I would always be longing for a better relationship. He doesn't work, or go to college so I feel like our future would be unsteady.
There is also someone else I've become very interested in. I can't get him off my mind. I feel like my thoughts are betraying to my boyfriend which creates my heavy conscious.
So what should I do? Thank you for your response. I feel irrevocably trapped.. I can't keep this up.
He is emotionally manipulating you and guilt tripping you into staying in a relationship that you are no longer happy in for his own personal gain.This is a form of abuse emotional abuse. Your boyfriend needs help that only a professional can give him. He has had this problem before you came and he will have this problem after you leave. By allowing him to continue this behavior you are basically telling him that what he is doing is ok which encourages him to continue the cycle of abuse.
The first step you will have to take is to accept that fact that you can't change him, you can only change yourself. Accept that this isn't the type of relationship you want for yourself or future children and the hardest part, that you are NOT responsible for what he chooses to do. When you decide to no longer take responsibility for his negative behavior, this will take a huge weight off of your shoulder. If he begins to act out and threatens to commit suicide, call 911 and leave at that.
Once you let go of the emotional aspect, you will be able to a clearer perception on what you need to do for yourself. You live with his mother and to be able to completley move on with your life without getting hooked back into the relationship, you will have to move out. This may take some time and some compromising on your part. If you have to move into a house that is less desirable, but not placing you in harm's way, then make the compromise. By going to school and working, you will have little time there anyway's while giving you an opportunity to save some money for another place to live. It's not going to be easy to make changes, however, it will be the first steps to a happier future for yourself and that is who your priority needs to be on right now. I wish you the best of luck.
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Okay so I have had two incidents were I wanted God to make me be sure he was there. Once when I was about 9 and once just now. The first time I asked God, I asked if He would make the phone ring at a certain time. It rang a few seconds after the clock changed. Then I asked for me to get a text mesage or a call at 7:07 and I was still praying at 7:07 then I stoped praying and it was 7:08 and as soon as it turned to 7:08 I got a text. I thought it may have been a cowincidence so I Asked at 7:19 for me to get a sigh. This time my phone rang at 7:20 and I am wondering if God is doing this like tring to make me do something or think something. Please help an give opinions on what you think It is? Do you agree It is in fact God?.
You asked God for a sign three different times and each time you got what you asked for and you are still doubting his exsistance in your life? The problem isn't from above but more within.
Instead of asking God to prove himself to you, you may want to analyse your beliefs and figure out why you are lacking faith.Now that you got the physical proof it is up to you to believe whether or not it is God and to decide where to take your spiritual path.
I can't tell you it is God because to some people God dousn't exsist. For you, it sounds like you are still trying to decide. Every spiritual path, no matter what you try choose to believe will always rely on faith, the exsistance of something that can't be seen.You can gather experiences that may help you decide whether you believe it or not, but true faith must come from what it is your heart and what your spirit knows to be true. The hard part is realizing that what you believe may not be consistant with what someone else believes. This dousn't make that belief false, it just makes it individual. The bottomline is I can quote you a million scriptures and give a thousand examples of his exsistance, but it won't prove a thing unless you believe it yourself. If your heart tells you this was a sign, then it was a sign and don't let anyone else tell you differently. I wish you the best on your journey.
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My mom is always taking her anger out on me and my brothers for the smallest thing. She likes a clean house so if we leave a book or something on the counter she accuses all of us-my brothers and I-of making HER house dirty and a pig sty and leaving our crap everywhere. Also instead of going to the person who made the mess she just yells at all of us telling us how we should be smart enough to use our brains and to clean it up. She always goes on to my dad about how bad we are and how disobedient we are when she doesn't even give us a chance. One time I made Mac and cheese and I left the pot in the sink and was going to wash it when I was done and I told my mom that because she said she wasnt going to clen up my mess. In the middle of eating she cleaned the pot up for me. Then later when my dad got home I heard her complaining to him on how much she does around the house and how she had to clean up my mess. My mom has called me from my room-the basement-just to walk across the room and get the tv remote for her because she had already sat down. It wasn't even like she was tired sick or even old she just didn't want to get up. My mom doesn't trust me with anything she always thinks I'm lying even when I'm telling the truth. My mom has over reacted and has gotten so mad or the tiniest thing before that she has even hit me. Like on my back and arms. Sometimes she hits hard one but other times she hits hard several times in the same place. I've gotten bruises before. I've tried to stand up to her when I was ten but she lashed out and hit and yelled at me even more. I don't know what to do. I'm scared to tall to her because I never know how she's going to react. Someone please help me. I need to know what some of the things that I can do are.
You need to talk to someone about this whether it be your guidance councilor at school or a relative you are close to. You may also want to talk to your dad and let him know what is going on. He may not even be aware of this. But you need to talk to a grown-up who can intervene.
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i'm 18 year old girl
i wouldn't categorize myself as a "sexually active" person.. but my boyfriend and i have talked about it and he really likes to get horny and mess around. I told him i'm willing to do some things with him because i want this relationship to work. i really want this relationship to work. i think i'm in love with him.. i think he's the one.
we have been dating for about 7 months now and we recently had another discussion/argument/kinda fight about oral sex. he said he really wants me to give him head and wants to give me head. I've done it before. i'm no virgin mary. but i'm not crazy about it either. I just don't really "get off" when i do oral sex. can someone help me?
when he gives me head, it tickles. like sometimes i will start laughing because it will tickle. it doesn't really get me horny, but its not like uncomfortable. its just like enjoyable i guess. but i dont get off from it. does anyone know why i don't get off of it? and how i could?
when i give him head, i tend to gag a lot. I don't like the taste of cum or pre cum. i tried licking it and it just made me gag even more. there was a point when it felt like i needed to throw up.. so then i tried just sucking it without tongue and that was ok but he wasn't too crazy about it. so any advice on how i can get past the gagging? we tried putting a condom on him but it just tasted like latex :/ blech.
please help!!!!
thank you!!!
If your doing all of this to make the relationship work, then you are doing this for all the wrong reasons. Relationships need to be built on love, respect, trust and open communication. Sex is meant to deepen the relationship, not the basis for it. It may be time for you to evaluate where your relationship is and where you would like it to go. If this is the only real problem in the relationship, then you may want to examine why you feel that you need to do this in your sexual relationship in order to keep him happy. It's normal to feel some insecurities in a relationship and this is where you need to communicate with your boyfriend about this.
Ok, now for the sex advice. Some men prefer oral sex over intercourse and when the partner isn't to into it this could create a problem. This is where compromise and imagination comes into play.
It's possible to limit the oral sex by getting him involved in other things, such as creative foreplay or getting him excited to try out a new position you just read about. One thing my husband likes is to be teased. Place a blindfold on him and gently tie his hands behind his head. Not tight to where it hurts or freaks him out. Rub some oil onto your hands and gently touch him in different areas of his body. The anticipation will get him very excited. Spend some quality time doing this and take your time reaching his sensative spots. When you notice him responding, you can start moving up and down the inner thigh and slowly make your way to his manhood. You will notice when he is ready, slide yourself on top of him and remove the blindfold. This usually works like a charm and no oral sex needed. If you want to give him a little extra treat, you can use whipped cream or chocolate syrup and spend a few minuted down there before you get on top of him. It's a matter of being creative and compromise.
For you, the very top of the clitorous can be overly sensative and may not feel good if he is licking that area. Try to move his mouth down further and have him suck lightly. This should take away the oversensativity to where you can enjoy it. Being able to make a woman cum from oral sex makes the man feel more like a man. If he is unable to please you, move him off of you in a way that makes him feel that you are so turned on that all you want to do is pounce on him. This may save some hurt feelings and ego. Another option is food items or cherry flavored lotions. Grinding into him will also help. If none of this works, sit on top of him and move back and fourth. When he is licking you, slightly lean back. This should help you find your "feel good spot"
I hope this helps and best of luck to you.
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Ok, here goes, try to keep up. I'm a junior (guy), and this means junior prom and all that goes with it, getting a ride, getting a tux... I've hit a snag when it comes to finding a date. There is a girl, a freshman, she and I both play trumpet and sit next to each other in band, and are both in jazz band so I have had plenty of time to talk and get to know her. However, there is a problem, she is my friends sister. He is a good friend, we ski together, we hang out on the weekends etc. I'm worried that if I ask her it will really screw things over, any advice?
You need to be straight forward with your friend and ask him if it would be alright to take his sister to the prom. If you are a good friend that he knows and trusts, chances are he won't have a problem with it. However, if he say's no, respect his wishes and ask someone else. Communication between you and your friend is the key to preserving the friendship and will also build respect and trust.
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I'm 14 and a chick.
My friends expect me to be some hard core rock metal fan because I have blue hair and combat boots. Truth is, I'm a die hard Simon & Garfunkel fan, lol. I like old people music. Is this normal?
It's normal for you and that is all that matter's. Tell your friends that you march to the beat of your own drum and that they are more than welcome to join you. They may think it's a little weird at first but will admire you for being your own person.
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yeah but like i heard it had to do with blood an stuff and im kinda confused.
The phrase itself has nothing to do with blood, however, most women do bleed for a few days after loosing their virginity. Intercourse is also uncomfortable and sometimes painful for the first several times. I hope this helps :)
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okay. so i dont completely understand what "popping the cherry" means. like i no it has something to do with sex but like whats the details?
This is a term used for a female loosing her virginity.
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