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I'm Allie :)I love lacrosse, field hockey, running, talking, boys, summer, and Boston.
I'm very forward. If you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question.
I'll do my best. =P
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so, i was wondering. im interested in like, modeling. i love getting pictures made of myself and im photogenic.[sp] so, what does it take to be a model? im not talking about on the cover of 'seventeen' mag. or anything. but just like, modeling clothes or something for a company and what not. what age do you have to be, height, weight, looks...just what does it take to be a model? and are there any websites i can visit to give me info? btw, im a girl.
thanks everyone!
Most models are tall (5'7" or more) and very thin. If you notice, alot of the more serious models are not breathtakingly pretty. If you watch America's Next Top Model, you would know what modeling isn't just a pretty face, it's more about confidence and taking good pictures.
However, for modeling clothes in catalogues for instance, most models are thin and tall. It's mostly about making the clothes look good and appealing.
I would do a google search for the websites. But be careful about the website and make sure the company is a legitimate modeling company, a lot of websites on the internet are scams/inappropriate.
Good luck. =P
OKEY WELL WHERE TO START LETS SEE..UMM iM 17 && A GiRL && i HAD SEX FOR THE FiRST TiME LiKE A WEEK AGO ON TUESDAY && iT WAS WiTH MY EX. NO WE WERENT DATiNG AT THE TiME..BUT WE JUST HAVE A VERY CONFUSiNG RELATiONSHiP [MORE LiKE BEST FRiENDS] [JUST A LiTTLE SEXUAL LOL] BUT YEAH iT THAT WAS ALL FiNE && ALL. BUT THEN LiKE FRiDAY ONLY 3 DAYS LATER i HAD SEX WiTH SOMEONE ELSE. [iT KiNDA JUST HAPPENED] && i FEEL REALLY GUiLTY ABOUT iT. BECAUSE i LOST MY ViRGiNiTY[SOMETHiNG THAT i HELD DEARLY] && WiTHiN ONE WEEK i HAVE ALREADY HAD TWO SEX PARTNERS. i JUST WANT TO KNO iF THAT MAKES ME A WHORE. SiNCE LiKE NiETHER ONE OF THEM WERE MY ACCTUAL BOYFRiEND. && NOW THE SECOND BOY THAT i ''DiD iT' WiTH DOESNT EVEN TALK TO ME [HE AVOiDS ANY CALLS OR TEXT] iM TOTALLY CONFUSED. WAT SHOULD i DO. && DOES THiS MAKE ME A BAD PERSON?? PLEASE ANSWER HONESTLY. THNX. =]]]]
First of all I have a question to ask you, since you weren't entirely clear: did you have a boyfriend while you were sleeping with those guys?
If so, well it doesn't necessarily make you a bad person, per say, but was that really the wisest decision?
If you did not, which is what I am inclined to believe, then I honestly do not think you did anything bad. It may not have been the best thing to sleep with your ex or the other person you slept with, but since you are unattached, you didn't do anything wrong. If the people you slept with had partners, then it may not have been the greatest thing to do, but you didn't do anything wrong, and you aren't a bad person.
I think you should be clear with your ex: ask him if he's willing to take your relationship to the next level if both of you want to, but if not, tell him that you don't just want to be someone that he has sex with when he wants to.
As for the second guy you slept with, I would back off. If he's avoiding you, then he's not worth your time.
And you're not a whore, don't worry.
Good luck, and feel free to drop one in my inbox. =P
hi,i know this is long but i need help please!! im a 16/m and i like this freshman girl...we've been talking for about a week online but i never really see her in person so i dont get to talk to her in person..tonight i asked her if she had any free periods when i did and she said no why so i was like well i figured we could hang out get to know eachother...this is after i previously asked her tuesday if she could hang out this weekend hbut she couldnt...well now at the end of her away message it says uhmm stalker so now i am afraid this might be me so i dont know if theres anything i can do to find out if it is and if i dont find out what should i do? thanks in advance
She most likely is talking about you. Even though she comes off immensely immature for putting that on her away message, you should back off a little bit. Obviously she needs some space. Hopefully with time she'll come around, most people do.
Good luck. =P
Alright im gonna be excercising to lose some weight but a thought occurred to me. i noticed since well im fat (just avergae) that means certain body parts are like big like my thighs for example. well i have a lot of hair all over my body. when i get skinny will the hair on my thighs/upper body start to like fall off or will the hairs move closer to each other and will i start to have thick hair? because since my body structure is gonna change i wonder if my thighs/upper body are either gonna look hairier or less hairier. i would hope it would look less hairier cause i look like a gorrilla. lol
Nope. You're just loosing weight, the rest of you stays the same.
Ok so i'm in middles school and this year is almost over and i'll be in high school next year and of course i've been all about guys for a while now and it's kinda driving me crazy because all i can think about is if i like a guy and if he likes me and all that but well bascially my question is would it be better to figure myself out first and figure out who i really am first then worry about guys?
The way I think about it is that you need to like yourself before people can like you. This applies to not only relationships, but friendships, also. Being at a such a young age leaves you plenty of time to find yourself and a boyfriend.
I wouldn't stress over boys too much, it's not worth it.
I'm a lacrosse player (womens) and I was wondering if there are any "experienced" players here who could give me tips on how to get a more powerful shot. thanks in advance
Lax is awesome. =P Shooting will more or less become easier with practice, so I suggest getting a rebounder so you can shoot in your backyard to practice. As to get power, it has to do with positioning and aim.
Positioning: shoulders perpendicular to goal, feet parallel to front of goal. If you are right-handed put your left foot closer to goal, for lefties put the right foot closer to the goal.
Put your bottom hand on the bottom of the stick, and your free hand a bit above the bottom hand. Put your arms away from your body. This will help you with power.
You want to shift your weight from back foot to front foot to transfer weight. This will also help you get an accurate, powerful shot.
Aiming: aim for any of the four corners, so that it's harder for the goalie. Or aim for the space in front of the goalie so that the ball bounces up and out of the goalie's reach.
Hope I helped. =P
i may not be able to do soccer this year.. or if i will i want to train. what are some things i can work on? i have a soccer ball.. and sometimes i dribble around the house but outside is snowy, and even later theres not much open space for me to practice because our park has hills and my backyard is mostly forrest. whatare the skills i need to get? im a 13 year old girl, and i've played 3 seasons of soccer in recreation. im good at running, but i think i need more stamina. how can i pace myself when running around the neighborhood? so i dont run too little or too much and i can improve? like how many days do i need to run and etc? also what are some other things i could do so im in the best condition for soccer? thankyou.
from the foot fairy.
Like the person below me said, you should practice inside if the weather interferes with praticing. Work on dribbling around things, pulling the ball pack, to either side, etc.
As for running, you need to be in good shape. Soccer is very much a running sport, so be prepared to run a lot. At my school, the soccer team runs two miles every practice, so I suggest running two miles or so every other day. Work on some sprinting, also, as that is important.
Good luck. =P
everytime it starts to look like its turning spring the snow comes down like mad crazy. so a few days ago it was like 60 degrees or like 65 or something maybe 70 and it was so warm and i was so glad because i always feel so much better in the heat. like about the way i look my attitude everything. and then yesturday like we get 6-12 inches of snow. how depressing. any way i can get thro this? helpp.
Ah yes. I've lived in Boston my whole life, so I can relate.
The only thing I can say about this is: it sucks. It's normal and tends to happen. There's nothing that can be done about it.
I would suggest instead of resenting the cold weather, savor it. Maybe go snow-tubing or something with friends to enjoy it.
=P
ok i was wondering does gymnastics and cheerleading and doing stuff like cartwheels and handstands and stuff help u lose weight??!! please help i need to know,
Well gymnastics and cheerleading do count as exercise, so yes, they could help you lose weight, as both require movement.
=P
My mom is like addicted to alcohol. Every weekend, when she is off work, she has like a 12-pack of beer. Some times less; some times more. Even when she is working, on occasion she'll sneak in a few beers before work or after. And she never finds the time to spend time with the family. She makes promises she'll skip a weekend, or a day at least, to do something "as a family" but she ends up getting drunk when she gets home from work on Friday. She breaks my heart so much when she makes promises, then breaks them. I do know alcoholism is [like] a disease that's hard to cure, but is there anything I can do to help her??
She knows the long-term side effects, like liver disease and other problems. She knows she has a problem, but she is always denying it. And there are times when she does gets drunk she gets violent. I CAN'T turn her in or anything, because then my dad would kill me. But just personally, what can I do to help her?
Thanks
Hey,
In this situation, I think the best thing to do is confront her when she's sober. Tell her that her drinking is really upsetting to you and that if she gets caught, she could get into seriously trouble as she can get physical while drunk. Don't hold back when you're telling her. Maybe you'll get the message across to her.
Also, I would recommend talking to your dad. Ask him to talk to your mom also, and ask him to throw any alcohol you have in the house away. This could result in your mom drinking less, even if she buys the alcohol herself.
I hope things get better for your family.
Al
okay, so i really like this guy, and i am trying to give him clues that i like him like him. Today is VAlentines day, should i tell him that i love him? Also i pass him alot in the hallway, should i smile at him or would that freak him out? Also my last question, I see the guys name EVERYWHERE, in books, posters, people, magezines, movies is that like a weird sign or something?Please help me!!!!
Well, if you haven't given him any clues before this, then don't tell him that you love him. It might freak him out a little if you just went up to him and told him you loved him.
Smiling at him in the hallway is a good idea. Just a casual smile, nothing crazy. A playful smile would work, also.
About seeing his name everywere, I think it's a funny coincidence. =P
hey..im going into high school next year as a freshman...and im naturally shy and kinda a know-it-all sometimes...
im worried about friendships and other realtionships being strained....and how i will handle taking all honors classes...can anyone tell me how honors classes compare to regular ones??
if anyone has good advice on handling the freshman year of high school....please tell me!
thanks a bunch in advance...
Aww high school is awesome. Don't be nervous, you'll love it.
When I was a at freshman orientation, one of the first things the principal told us was that the people sitting next to us now most likely won't be sitting next to us senior year. In other words, people change and relationships sometimes take turns for the better or worse. Change is an important part of high school.
As for honors classes, take what you can handle. If you are a good student and excel in all subjects, take all honors classes. If you take all honors but think you can't handle the pressure, then drop. Advanced isn't so bad. I'm personally in honors english, hsitory, spanish, and advanced math and science. Everyone is different, though.
Good luck next year. =P
17/f
my boyfriend and i broke up about 1/2 a week ago. we found out last night that we both still really like eatchother. there are a lot of problums, like i hardly ever see him durring the day(our classes changed in the new semester) and, as i told him, we are both presented with new oppertuinities every single day and its hard missing out on other people for someone you hardly ever see, even if it is worth it. i kindof regret breaking up with him, but it seems like that doesnt even matter because we basicly broke up with eatchother at the same time, and he would have broken up with me, annyway. we care about eatchother a lot, and this is reallly bothering me. it was getting hard for me to trust him, also, because it seemed like he just didnt really 'act' like he had a girlfriend when i wasnt around, and i had seen him winking at other chickas when he didnt know i was around. i dont really know what to do. please someody give me some advice
thanx much xoxo
What is your question, exactly? Whether you should get back together with him?
I think that since you guys do still really like eachother, you should tell him how you feel. Tell him that you don't like the way he acts around you and you don't like that he winks at other girls. Just be honest, it will help you guys figure out what's going on with your relationship.
=P
Well you see, this girl at my high school knowns this boy who was making fun of me , since then she has been making fun of me. Friday and Today she made nasty comments at me and I responded and really cursed but really I was very offended. I don't get it why people keep on making fun of me for no reason and I want her to just stop. The worse part is , she is like 3 years younger than me and I do not want to seem like a loser to tell on her and she is the sister of one of my friends AND I don't want my parents to know what is going on. What should I do to get her to stop breaking my heart?
I'd say that even though words hurt, ignore her. She's three years younger than you, so she's probably at an age where she likes to aggravate and anger people. Since she's in high school, I'm assuming she's a freshman, and freshies can be wickedddd annoying. She'll most likely stop if she knows it doesn't affect you.
Telling the girl's sister is probably a good idea, too. Casually mention it to her, maybe even laugh about it. She might ask her sister about it and tell her to stop.
=P
well i'm 5' and i weigh 120 and im 13yrs old.
my thighs are muscular mostly except on the inside, how can i get rid of that flab?
like i do 100 squats a day.
also what can i do to get rid of the fat on my stomach and arms.
please helpp.
Jog/run/eliptical for your legs. Again, sit-ups/crunches are good for your stomach. For arms lift weights. Push-ups help, too.
The first person who answered said that according to her doctor, you should weigh 100 lbs. Don't compare yourself with estimates like this. Just because your not 100 lbs doesn't mean anything. You said you were muscular, which could be where some of the weight is coming from.
=P
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. Everything is going really well, but I have one concern: he's a Republican and I'm a die-hard liberal. Because I have this knowledge, I avoid any type of politial discussion with him. My friends are convinced that this will lead to our demise, but I don't know. I love him very much, we get along so well, and he makes me very happy, but I sometimes feel like I'm hiding my feelings about certain subjects from him. This is not like me at all; I'm a very opinionated!
I'm wondering if I should end it before we get in too deep because of this, or if I should just stay with him and allow whatever happens to happen.
Thank you all in advance!
If I were in this situation, I wouldn't let politics obstruct my relationship. Of course, this point of view is coming from an outsider, as I'm not too politically aware.
Just talk to him about it. Come to a compromise - he can't badmouth your beliefs, you can't badmouth his, no matter how much you disagree with them. I think it would be kind of ridiculous if you broke up due to politics.
=P
I liked this guy for four years in high school and it was really complicated becasue he liked me in the eighth grade and I hated him then because he would tease me but beginning of high school, I started liking him. Just before grad we started talking at parties and conversing but it was all cut short when we both graduated.
In high school, my crush was really intense. My other friends went through crushes but I always seemed to have this weird bond with him and I couldn't move on.
After high school, I put my little girl crush aside since there was no chance of us seeing each other again because I don't know any of his friends and even though I still liked him, I tried my best to get over him and I thought I was over him.
Two saturdays ago, at three in the morning, I was dropping a few friends off and I saw his car leave the street and I followed him (I think we live around the same side of town). My heart started beating so fast and I honestly started shaking. I passed him because he wasn't going fast enough and I wanted so badly for him to see me. Eventually, he ended up in front of me again and I followed him until he turned into another street then I moved on.
I can't stop thinking about him just because I saw his car and back of his head in his side window. Now I don't know what to do. I'm totally crushing on him again, daydreams and all. I thought I was over him, I saw him once in September and I was a little freaked but it was still early. I don't know what it is about this guy, I've been meeting so many boys since I've graduated and none of them have this impact on me. I just can't stop thinking about him and I've tried soooo hard to get over him but I feel like crying. It isn't fair, I'm just trying to move on with my life and he shows up out of nowhere and leaves me in pieces. I'm such a wreck. What do I do?
I'm just reiterating what everyone else said:
Tell him. You're out of high school, you're practically considered an adult, and what do you really have to lose? Like you said, you don't see him anymore. If you tell him and he doesn't feel the same way, you won't really see him around, so he won't affect you too much.
I know it's really hard to work up the nerve to do so, but it will be worth it in the end.
Good luck. =P
16/m.
ryt theres this girl i really like and i have know for like 10 years now. we have always been friends. about 3 years ago we started hanging out like all the time and i fell in love with her. i didnt tell her because my best friend was really in to her so i didnt want to do anything cause he is my best friend and it would have been like stabbing him in the back. so i contiune 2 be really good friends with her.
but about 2 years ago i started hanging about with the wrong people and we slowly drifted apart. we kind of stayed friends just with the conversations on msn and that but we stopped hanging out.
but recently (well about 6th months ago) when the new school new year started i sat next to her in a couple of classes we gradually built back up our relationship from before we started to hang out again. it was really good but as our relationship built back up so did my feelings for her.
just before new year there we were at a party and a we talked all night and we hugged for a long time at the end. then at new year my friend had a party and we talked and dance for alot again but i just wasnt able to tell her how a felt. this all gradually had been building up in me and i have started to become really depressed about things at this point she had notice this to.
so a month ago she had a party but this time she ignore me for most of the night for reason still unknown but then at the end of the nigth she started talking to me and i kind of made it obvisles (soory about the spelling) to her that i had feelings for her and the way she replied was that she had feelings for me to.
but in the last couple of weeks she has been talking to me much on msn or myspace and when we do talk she jst replies by saying kl or something similar. i have asked her why she has been so quite and she just says its nothing. but i recently found out that she and her friend have been going out with a couple of my best friends and not been telling me and my other friends this has really annoyed me and a couple of friends.
i questioned my best friend who had been going out with her what was happening and he said nothing and complety lied to my face about them going out. and now all of a sudden she is been talking to me constanly on msn again. am so confused what to do if i ask her out and she wat she says but she just seems to be messin me abou. and now the depression has came back and it is really bad ave been falling out with my friends and at the latest party i punched a wall and discolated my knuckle.
it feels quite good to be able to get it all out and any help would be appriocated thanks
I'm not sure whether this is exactly what you want to hear, but it kind of sounds like she's using you. She doesn't exactly sound like the nicest person, and she has no right to toy with your feelings like she is.
How did you find out that she went out with your best friend? If it were me in this situation, I'd give my best friend the benefit of the doubt. Instead of confronting him again, I'd confront the girl that you like about it. Just ask her casually about what went on. If you get upset about it while you're asking her, chances are she won't respond honestly to you.
I know first hand that this isn't the easiest thing to do, but if you find out that she did go out with your friend, accept it. Don't get mad at anyone, and try to control your anger.
Sorry. This is kind of a tough situation. I really hope I helped in some way.
1) so there's this guy and he's 17 yrs.old and i'm 14..i'll be turning 15 in october! would that be considered rape if we went out?[boyfriend girlfriend]
2) he's been sending me mixed messages online because we've been talking. i'm pretty sure he likes me though.[he got kept back 3 times so he's a sophmore] and i'm a freshmen] so if he sees me @ school we'll hug but he won't talk to me. i don't mind though because i think both of us are trying to keep our feelings on the "down low" so what should i do? he asked me for a kiss and i said yes,,, but i'm scared because this will be my 1st kiss and i'm pretty sure he's expecting it on the lips. so should i do it? and we'll be seeing eachother tonight @ the skating rink. i was thinking of dodging him.. but should i ??
i know this was very confusing to understand.. but please answer. thanx in advance.
1) It wouldn't be considered rape if you guys only went out. It would, however, be considered statutory rape (having sex with a minor) if you guys had intercourse.
2) Keep in mind that although he is still a sophmore, he's 17 years old. He's more mature than you are, and until you know a lot about him and his family, etc., I think you should probably remain friends. If you feel like you trust him enough to know that he won't take advantage of you, then you should be together if it's something you both want.
Why would you dodge him? Because you don't want to kiss him? If so, then don't. Tell him you don't want to until you know him better, and if he doesn't understand that, then he's not right for you.
Hope I helped. =P
The other day I had to step out of my dorm room to ask a question to someone but my hair was in really terrible shape so I coudn't go out there looking like that. So I put on my shower cap to go out because I lost my headscarf. But, the thing was my shower cap smelled and once I walked down the hall I could smell it and it was a strong enough odor for others to smell I believe. I was near about 3 people one girl was standing on the other side of the desk another girl was sitting at the desk I was standing at but she was sitting down and another was standing on my opposite side but she was facing the opposing direction of me. Do you think anyone else smelled it and if so how do you think that will effect me and people I comunicate with on a daily basis?
Honestly, I don't think they cared or even noticed. It most likely won't effect anything with the people you interact with on a daily basis.
Don't fret. =P