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What to do
16/m.
ryt theres this girl i really like and i have know for like 10 years now. we have always been friends. about 3 years ago we started hanging out like all the time and i fell in love with her. i didnt tell her because my best friend was really in to her so i didnt want to do anything cause he is my best friend and it would have been like stabbing him in the back. so i contiune 2 be really good friends with her.
but about 2 years ago i started hanging about with the wrong people and we slowly drifted apart. we kind of stayed friends just with the conversations on msn and that but we stopped hanging out.
but recently (well about 6th months ago) when the new school new year started i sat next to her in a couple of classes we gradually built back up our relationship from before we started to hang out again. it was really good but as our relationship built back up so did my feelings for her.
just before new year there we were at a party and a we talked all night and we hugged for a long time at the end. then at new year my friend had a party and we talked and dance for alot again but i just wasnt able to tell her how a felt. this all gradually had been building up in me and i have started to become really depressed about things at this point she had notice this to.
so a month ago she had a party but this time she ignore me for most of the night for reason still unknown but then at the end of the nigth she started talking to me and i kind of made it obvisles (soory about the spelling) to her that i had feelings for her and the way she replied was that she had feelings for me to.
but in the last couple of weeks she has been talking to me much on msn or myspace and when we do talk she jst replies by saying kl or something similar. i have asked her why she has been so quite and she just says its nothing. but i recently found out that she and her friend have been going out with a couple of my best friends and not been telling me and my other friends this has really annoyed me and a couple of friends.
i questioned my best friend who had been going out with her what was happening and he said nothing and complety lied to my face about them going out. and now all of a sudden she is been talking to me constanly on msn again. am so confused what to do if i ask her out and she wat she says but she just seems to be messin me abou. and now the depression has came back and it is really bad ave been falling out with my friends and at the latest party i punched a wall and discolated my knuckle.
it feels quite good to be able to get it all out and any help would be appriocated thanks
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I'm not sure whether this is exactly what you want to hear, but it kind of sounds like she's using you. She doesn't exactly sound like the nicest person, and she has no right to toy with your feelings like she is.
How did you find out that she went out with your best friend? If it were me in this situation, I'd give my best friend the benefit of the doubt. Instead of confronting him again, I'd confront the girl that you like about it. Just ask her casually about what went on. If you get upset about it while you're asking her, chances are she won't respond honestly to you.
I know first hand that this isn't the easiest thing to do, but if you find out that she did go out with your friend, accept it. Don't get mad at anyone, and try to control your anger.
Sorry. This is kind of a tough situation. I really hope I helped in some way.
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i think you should just talk to her about it. nothing bad will come out of just talking. its not right for your friends to lie about things like that. her feelings are probably confusing if its just going back & forth. you should sit down & talk face to face & sort everything out. that way, you both know where you stand & what feelings you have for each other. if it doesn't work out, you can always be friends, but you'll have to move on by meeting new people & trying different things. seriously think about if you want a more than friends relationship with her & if you can trust her. it seems a bit shady that she wouldn't tell you about what happened with her & your friends, but that is just my opinion. keep trying if you seriously have strong feelings, just watch yourself & prevent yourself from getting hurt. good luck :)
-hope that helped!♥
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