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Q: hey advicenators! ok heres my story: me and my boyfriend have been going out since new years eve, and we see each other at school and hang out on the weekends, and talk at night, but it doesnt seem to me like we are going out! its basically like hes my friend, except we hug before we leave. how can i make it more like hes my boyfriend, and less like one of my friends? thanks guys!

Well You should just start fliting and hold hands more and keep close to him more...like as in love...boyfriend and girlfriends always think the are not going out but if you want to You have to love him more like a boyfriend...Hope i Helped you out
Ashley

Q: O.K. This is sad and I have no idea what to do. My best friend, Haley, wants to kill herself. She's never met her dad and her 200 pound 7 year old brother gets all the attention and her mom's a total slut. She gets books about death and she's writing letters to the devil and God. I don't know what to do about her. She's threatened me that she will kill herself and it scares me that she will. I don't know what to say or think about this. We met last year but got really close. She's two years older than me and I could really use advice on what to tell her. I need help, or my friend does. Please don't be sarcastic about this because I'm scared and you will only make it worse by replying rusely. Anyone who answers nicely, I'll love you forever.
~~~Kayla~~~

OMG! i was about doing the same way... i can relate...you need to let somone know this!! and dont let this happen...I would say this is really not a joke and you need to tell somone! Your friend might be hurt about sumthing and might not tell anyone maybe somone made her really mean and deep inside. As a friend, you should help her out. No matter what she says or tells you to back off or w/e i would not care dont let her do that! that is a very bad thing and i almost did it...well if u want me to tell u more you can visit my site Addie14's advice column or email me at Ashbug203@aol.com! Hope i helped and i am scared too!
Addie*

Q: okay, there is this kid named Tom, Tom is annoying beyond belief but hes my neighbor and our parents are real tight. moving on.. he was flirtin n touchin (he was like touchin her back n lookin at her thong) this girl named Sara. well Sara got extremely annoyed and asked her boyfriend to beat up Tom. whenever i stick up for tom, he jus blows it off nd whenever i tell him to stop being annoying, he denys it. ive tried calmy talking to him but HE DOESNT GET IT. so here is my question: do i stick up for Tom and have him totally ignore it, or do i let him get beaten up and learn his leason.

I say maybe he should learn he own lesson. its nice that you are sticking up fo tom but maybe he rather take care of it himself... try and see what happens...hope i helped ya! Addie*

Q: i think my best friend doesnt like me anymore its just somtimes well ok alot of times recently she seems really pissed at me and it seems like she trys to avoid me but i ono please help me out

We are on the same page! me and my best friend do the same thing! well just kinda try and find new friends to hang with... wait until she comes around...that is what i am doing right now...waiting for my friend to come and talk to me...she has tho but see if your friend will. Hope i helped ya!
~Addie~

Q: There's this guy I like and i thought he liked me too. But then my friend had to go and mess everything up. She ran up to him and started bugging him and told him I was in love with him (which I'm not-I just like him). And now he's acting all weird around me. What should I do?

(I'm 13 and in 7th grade and I'm a female)

PLEASE HELP!!

I can see your point! that is what happend to my sister kinda! but that is not a true friend if she is gonna do that to you and if you like him you need to tell him "hey look i am not in love with you i just like you" hope he will inderstand. hope i helped! luv ~addie~

Q: Ok this is weird but i want to get my ear pierced and my friend has a peircing gun. But my parental unit had a problem with it. But i am 17 i should be able to pierce my own ear. So the question is should i just go pierce it and come home to see what happens or not?

Yea i can see your point of view... i say your old e0nuf to have it done but if your parents dont think it a good idea maybe talk to them or try and see if they can be there with you...well i hope i helped ya! luv Addie*

Q: ok im 13/f and im goin out w/ a 12/m...yea i no its werid but im one of those ppl that says age doesnt matta lol. so we started goin out a couple of days ago but hes liked me for a long time. the only prob is when im around he doesnt treat me like his gf...i dont know wut to do cuz i really like him but i wanna be treated like his gf...not jus a friend.

I say talk to him...if u really like him and you wanna be his girlfriend then tell him. You prolly dont wanna be treated like that i know i sure wouldn't! So just talk to him! hope i help ya! luv Addie*

Q: hey..ok so here's the problem..i've liked this guy Chris for like Ever. he was going out w/ my friend for about two months and i had liked him the whole time. they broke up awhile ago, and i just found out he likes me. and one of my friends was talking to him and he said he'd ask me out. and i dont know if i wanna go out w/ him..i mean i've liked him for so long and i still Really like him..but we have this Fun Flirty friendship that i deff. don't wanna lose. and i'm scared that if we go out, and break up that we'll be all akward and not even talk to eachother..but i've liked him for so long and i dont think i could turn him down! ahhhh Help pleaseee! I Rate!! xOxO

I would go for it! and if u are scared to whatever to lose your friendship with him then dont... it what you want and your heart to feel.. cause i can understand you like this dude and you should try it but if u dont wanna lose he's friendship then dont..all i am saying it to choose what is best for you...

Q: My ex boyfriend and me broke up because he said ive always accused him, which i didnt know i was, I always just asked him if he was doing stuff with this one gurl.. well anyway the gurl that i heard he was doing stuff with he is now going out with her, and I still really like him and i dont know whether i should tell him i still like him, because his girlfriend hasnt been at school for the past two days and today in the hall he said hi to me and waved and he never does that when his gf is in school.. do u think he still likes me and how would be a good way to get him back?

i think just ask him. Ask him what is up! and hope he will understand... if he is gonna be 2faced or w/e then foget him but if he likes you and the other gurl he is just playing...you should just talk to him and if he doesnt listen then thats he's fault! just talk to him...need more advice on it? IM me on Ashbug203 or go to my site...
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Q: I am thirteen and I have lots of friends at school but my best friend is scared to spend the night at my house. In order to try to get her to, I have to either pay her money or give her my most valuable possesion. It's really gay. If she spends the night at my house, she has to have another friend come WITH her and she picks people that I hate to come so she's never been over to my house! How can I get her to spend the night at my house without having to bribe or pay her? HELP!!! ASAP!!!

I think that maybe you should talk to her and say"why?" because if your best friends u need to ask her why. if she has a problem with staying then ask her what is it? You should talk to her or maybe ask some of her other friends. Hope that you find out. And best friends should always tell u everything!!

Q: A couple weeks ago, I had a dream that my guy friend kissed me. I woke up not wanting it to stop and I was really mad that it was just a dream. I started to think that maybe I had feelings for him just a bit and when I saw him a few days after that I was acting all weird and shy. I dunno what I should do. I'm too scared to talk to him!

xxx Keely

I think that you should ask him or maybe talk to him about this. maybe he'll think its okay. I say talk to him and tell him about your dream! tell him why you were acting shy and hope he will be okay with it. Just talk to him...if he dont understand maybe get some friends to help you out. Try it. and if it doesnt work then try to forget it.

Q: ok theres this one kid i have known for about 3 months and i think he is really cool and i have liked him for awhile... well my best friend has only known him for a month and went out with him... and like i really liked him the whole time but wanted her happy but she broke up with him bc she didnt like him all that much and now me n him want to get together but iono what she will say... should i talk to her bout it or just tell her i like him n i am prolly gonna hook up with him? some one plz help me
Thanks so much Love alwayz
Lost and Confused

Hello, i think taht you should ask your friend if it would be okay or just talk to her about him... if u really like this guy then try it but if u dont wanna loose your friend then dont... i wouldnt want that to happen.. i had a friend like that and she talk to me and she sisnt go with him.. so make th right choose

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