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the short version: i toldGod i wouldnt masturbate for 3 monthes if he would watch over one of my close friends while she wasnt in a good spot, and of course shes fine now, but now i feel like i shouldnt have done that because i should've trusted God in thef irst place, so i dont know if i should do it to show that i do trust him, but one of the seven sins is lust anyway so i dont know which one would be worse: to do it, or not to. and i know it sounds really stupid the only reason why i said it in the first place was because im trying to do it less and less, but im saving myself for marriage and i kinda need something up until then you know.....
gah i feel silly. any advice would be good. thanks. (link)
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a promise is a promise (thats what i think )
if you make a promise to God you should keep it
i understand that your trying to save yourself 'till marrige and u need something til then but also the bible is there to guode you i hope youve made the right decicion and choose whatever you want
just think about it though
keep it zen
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Well, my friend told me that nail polish if you drank enough would kill you. Please don't lecture me or anything....but, recently I have been just really sad and mad at the world and I feel like my world is crashing down. I drank about a third of the bottle about 30 minutes ago. Nothing has happened so far. I don't know what to do. I was talking to my bf at the moment I made the decision and he kept telling me please, no, don't do it. But I didn't listen and I did it. He was mad at me when I told him I did, and he's never been this mad at me before. He won't talk to me now. If I live, what should I do now? I still feel like theres nothing to live for, and what is worth living for, him, everyone keeps me away from him. Or will I even live? And I'm dead serious on this question. This is not a joke, so please give me serious answers, and no lectures, I've heard it all before. (link)
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if your sad dont do that thats taking a cowards way out your obiously naive and you need to take a second look at yourself were you happ after you drank that portion of mailpolish?
did you feel like you accomplish anything by feeling that you had nothing to live for?
i suggest you either get help or find some other type of coping device writting always helps music was my life saver if it werent for music i wouldnt be giving you what i hope is help
letting of some steam martial arts frends talk with someone tell them how you feel
*just promise you wont do that ever ever again its not the way out i know i lectured you and im sory but one more lecture never hurts
LIFE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING DONT LET A MOMENT OF SADNESS PREVENT YOU FROM LIVING YOUR LIFE!
*i hop i helped
*keep it zen!
feel free to e-mail me
my adress is on my advicenators page !
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I am eighteen an never had my first kiss (never even close). . . . . .nor have i even had a boyfriend. . . i know. . . . . is there something wrong?
18, Female (link)
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girl chill theres nothing wrong
*same here *HIGH FIVE
you probably just havent found the right person
*if your shy:
open up more and be more out spoken
go up to a guy and start a conversation get to know them then maybe sumthin will stirr up in a big pot of good ole love!
*keep it zen !
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im a twin and i feel as if my dad treats my sister differently than me .. she snuck out of the house and got caught and she didnt even get grounded while me on the other hand didnt tell my dad all the details about my friends sweet sixteen and i was grounded from my boyfriend for a week .. does anyone know what i can do? (link)
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TELL HIM
just tell him how you feel
I feel like your treating me *different Blah blah blah *thats unfair blah blah blah *we are equals blah lah blah stuff like that
your dad shouldnt treat you different at all
if that doesnt change then i dont know what 2 tell you
sry ?
hope i helped sorta?
evs
keep it zen!
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In class yesterday I was sitting next to a girl who I don't really know, and she rolled her sleeve up and I saw she had cuts all up her arm, and that some of them were bleeding. She didn't know that I saw. Now I don't know this girl at all, but I do know one of her flatmates a bit. Should I speak to her flatmate and see if she knows this girl is cutting herself? Cos I think her flatmate could help her much more than I could.
Thanks! (link)
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woa thats hard but no fear *great advice giver ZEN is here
u should tell a counceler about that
and if there is any reason for this girl to be doing that to herself she does need some help
there is other things you can also do if your school has like sum hotline nuber you can call and tell them *sum people dint ask for names and stuff
keep it zen *
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I'm very shy. I'm so shy that I don't even want to get up to go turn in my paper because people stare at me. I don't even raise my hand to answer questions in class because I'm scared that I will get the wrong answer and people will make fun of me. If a person is shy (like me), are they always going to be shy for their whole life or do you eventually stop being shy? If so, how? (link)
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you really shouldnt be so shy
theres no point to it
what do you get by being the one thats always quiiet?
the one that no one really knows?
just stop caring about what other people think and dont be afaid to be wrong that way ull never learn anything
i suggest to open up more socially
u wont be that way for the rest for your whole life unless you choose to thats totally up to you
i guess what im trying to say is open up to people more and it will make life and school alot easier and more fun and interesting
*HOPE i helped yo !
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I have a mom tht is a control/protect freak she always wants things her way. I have to have my room the way she wants it my computer has to face the way she wants it and she always says when im with her im on her time and the problem is tht she always wants me to do her stuff. I run to the car, get the mail, take out the garbage(sumtimes), and do everything to care of my dog and she still doesn't appreciate me. She is way over protective. She doesn't like me goin places without her or my dad even tho i end up goin it usually takes hours of fighting and begging and crying. I am tired of her controling my life especially my room. I want my room to be MY room not hers. I like my room messy cuz then it feels like i actually live in it. What should I do? I dnt know how to talk to her cuz she always blocks me off but she never blocks my brother off when he is having problems. I dont get it she always says i have to wait till my dad comes home to discuss what is happeneing When i try to talk to her she takes things away and says she is in control!!!! i hate it she always says i dnt understand anything and i never will. When my brother calls me slut, dunce,bitch, etc. and i tell her she doesn't do anyting about it she just tells him not to and when i do those sort of things she punishes me. i cnt take it anymore HELP MEE!! (link)
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questions like these are the reason i started this for people who really need teh advice
*your mom doesnt control you she here to be your mom to guide you and help you during tough times tell her like write her a letter and tell her how you REALLY feel tell her all the names shes called you and how they affect you
hope shell understand and change and not call you all those terrible names
if she comfronts you about the letter tell her straight up how you feel and talk to her about it if that doesnt work
just dont let your emotions get the best of you
hope i helped
zen4evr
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ok im 15/f :) my best friend and i ride the bus. she met her boyfriend on the bus and now shes trying to set me up with her boyfriends best friend. she made sure that i sat next to him while her and her boyfriend were right beside us. she kept telling me to talk to him and i was like i dont even know him. so i asked him a few questions like his name and grade and some stuff. he seemed pretty nice. and hes pretty cute! but i didnt want to seem like an idiot. the rest of the way home tho i ran out of things to say and it was so awkward...how do i \"talk\" with him without seeming weird like because we dont even know eachother. and how do i talk to him casually so he wont think im crushing on him! im pretty sure my best friend and her boyfriend are gonna try to keep making us sit by eachother, so what should i say to him? and also, when my best friend gets off, and her boyfriends best friend gets off, its just me and her boyfriend. i never say a word to him because i dont know him and its awkward, but how do i talk to him without seeming stupid? because my best friend is like what did you and my boyfriend talk about and im like nothing and shes like you should talk to him more! please help thanks! (link)
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just like dont be scared to act like an idiot but dont seem desperate talk about things u think that both of you would have in common
guys like girls that arent shy to be themselves !!!
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Okay I know a lot of people are asking a lot of questions about being a goth or a punk rock emo kid. I would just like to say that I've always been one at heart but I've never been able to wear the style or express myself through my room.
I cant do the following: paint my room. buy anything very expensive as decoration.
I can do the following: buy clothes (but which store is best). Create (but what) stuff and put on my walls.
Any ideas? All will be appreciated!
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that style means nothing if u over do it too much ppl will think that youre a poser if you want to put like posters of the bands you like out them on your wall just do whatever you want the point of this syle of music is like not caring what other people think
so just dress how you want to dress and dont worry about what other peope think
so just do whatever !!!
zen4evr!!!
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when people ask you if u do drugs, is vicodin considered a drug? (link)
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depends how your using it if a doctor prescribed it to you ITS NOT but if your abusing it then it IS just dont do stupid stuff its really not worth it at all
keep it kool :)
ZEN4EVR
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i have a great relationship with my family, but my mom lately has been driving me absolutely crazy! Every day her and my dad come home in a not so good mood and same with my sister so i have to be happy even when ive had a bad day too. my sister and i do chores and ive been doing everything lately. i bring it up with my mom but she just gets ticked off and says my sister is struggling with school and all this other stuff. shes 19 and im 15 but we seem closer in age. She doesnt get that im working so hard to try to get all A's to make everyone happy, she keeps over looking it.I'm struggling in some of my PAP classes and i try not to talk about it because i dont like to complain about school. she says she understands how i think but i KNOW she doesnt. see, when i think, everything has to balance out, like a proportion in math. thats why she doesnt get me. its like my sister is going through alot right now, more than me, but im still having a difficult time in sooo many different ways its like a little kid carrying 15-20 pounds and an adult carrying like 30 or 40. the adult has more but the little kid is probably struggling too. she thinks just because my sister has more, things are harder for her than they are for me. she doesnt know what ive been through the last year of my life and itd difficult to talk about so i dont plan on cluing her in, but its nothing that i havent already taken care of. she thinks she knows me so well but really, im like a stranger living the life of someone she thinks she knows. how can i make her understand. im so frustrated i feel like crying!! thanks so much (link)
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family is always frustrating at this age TRUST me i know little things start to bug you and school work its a lot to deal with for a person at such a young age yor parents dont know whats happening and im guessing that neither does your sister (they always try to do everything with the best intentions)if your having a bad day and you dont want your family bothering you i suggest telling them maybe it will change what they want to tell you or at least not bug you as much tell your sister too if she does bug you intentionally well then maybe she just mean :(
just tell them strahight up theres nothing better than that !!!
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My dad says that I'm too skinny and need to put on about 10 pounds. I'm 5"1.5, and I'm 86 pounds.
I'm almost literally skin and bone. If I put on weight, where would the weight go? Is there any way to control where it goes, so it doesn't all go to my belly or my thighs? (link)
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it really depends how old you are if you still think that your gonna grow you dont have to stuff your face to gain a couple pounds
plus you cant control where the weight goes so
just try to eat helthier three times a day and excercice right i hope that helped
ZEN4EVR!!!
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I went out with Adam about three months ago. Before I went out with him, my friend Lanie went out with him. Me and Adam broke up, but we remainded close friends. However, Lanie and Adam started dating again.
Now Lanie won't let Adam talk to me at all anymore! It's so stupid, she thought we were flirting, but I have a boyfriend! Its really annoying, cause now he won't talk to me or else she threatens to break up with him. He'll try to sneak over and talk to me when she's not looking, but sometimes she`ll catch him and get super mad! What should I do? I miss my friend!
Thanks, Haylie. (link)
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here my brilliant answer
wel its not really an answer its like a comment thing whatever
i think that shes probably mad at you for going out with him now she doesnt want that to happen again try to avoid confict with her and him at the same time
stay close to your boyfriend right now he wouldnt want you stressin"
i doubt that i helped but its just another opinion !
~zen*
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I have been astral projecting since I was about 5 and i never told anyone it was something that i always did during the night time or during naps sometimes it would happen even when I didn't what to, but my whole family finally relized that I astral project that thought I was weird and said that's it's fake and that's witchcraft but I never thought of it like that and now my family thinks i'm messed up what should i do. I can't help astral projecting it's in my nature....Please help me (link)
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dont ever let anyone judge you ever
your not differenty or weird in any way
if you cant help it then its just natural its nothing you can do to help it
just explain to them what it its and hopefully theyll understand
all i can say just hope it works
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I have a friend that is so wrapped in herself and shes the friend that i feel like i can go to with anything, but all she cares about is herself and shes spoiled in getting her way. i don't want to give up the friendship. so, what do i do??? (link)
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i hve the exact same problem just try to avoid conflict w/ her thats the best thing i can say when she starts talking about herself and she like nagging and conplaining just try to change the subject or like make a joke w/the whole spoiled thing i dont think i can help u
i probably didint answer your question but theres not much to do cause yall are really close friends
hope i helped at least a lil
zen4evr
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I've liked this guy for about 10 months and he went out with me for sympathy because he felt sorry for me. Should i just give up and move on or should i keep trying to get him? (link)
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guys like that arent worth liking if he doesnt like you
* dont try to force a relationship with him it would just make things awkward
*and if hes low enough to go out with you because he fells sorry for you hes not a real man he should have had enough of a pair to tell u straight up
*he just hurt your feelings even more by doing that
*theres plenty of many guys out there he just happened to get in your way!
hope i answered your question
(damn im good i cant believe im only 14!i rock)
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I was in a relationship notice i said "was" it seems like that now, he came across as sweet and caring in the beginning, then after awhile he became demanding, manipulative, controlling and then finally he just stayed around for the sake of torment. I got out of it by the only means I knew how and he wanted to sit there and watch as I took a knife to my wrist and sliced away, do you know what it felt like? Numb.It was far better to do that to myself then to constantly listen to the verbal abuse everyday,i shut myself away and figured hurting myself for getting myself into this situation in the first place was my own punishment for me to constantly remember how overpowering someone can be on you.Guilt at first was mine for not having the strength to walk away and tell him to go to hell...now i hear that he still verbally abuses about me to anyone who will take time out to listen to his sorry ass. am i glad i am not talking to him anymore? i guess i shud be glad im still breathing and he has no knowledge where i am. im safe for now but i dont know what to think anymore about people. (link)
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im sorry that the only way that you felt that you had to cut but plese dont do that anymore its not the way
abusive people dont deserve the light of day
im just happy that youre safe now
but i agree w/that other columnist you should see someone professional i dont want to be wrong
goes to show you cant trust everyone
keep safe
and thanx for acctually making the time that i answered this question meaningfull
theese kinds of questions are what convinced me to join advicenators
luv*lots
hope everything works out
zen*pshyco
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Okay let me start out by saying that im 13 and the middle child in my family. Well, my mom and me used to get along all the time..like she used to be my best friend and ever since i turned 13 everything my sister (7) does..gets blamed on me. When my sister once called 911 to see what would happen when i was in the shower, the police came to my house when i was babysitting her, and i got blamed for "not watching her." When duh she should know better not to do it. i hate getting blamed for everything. what can i do to help the relationship between me and my mom..and not get blamed for everything? (link)
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its always tough to be the middle child esspecially now that your growing up
maybe your mom thinks that you could take on a little more responsability and having a smaller sibling is always tough but you have to remember that you will be given responsabilities and your sister is just one of them
just keep calm and try to avoid a fight w/ your mom
hope this helped in any way
but im just 14 too but age is just a number
luv*lotz
zen*pshyco
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recently i broke up with my boyfriend that i was really good with-or so people thought-c evry1 only new the good side of us and not the torture he put me and my emotions through. after i broke up with him i began to go out with a guy i had slightly fallen for but who was my best friend. My other friends now dont really approve of my new relationship but i am really really happy now, happier than i have been in a long time and i dont want to give him up. what should i do about my friends? or should i do something bout my bf? (link)
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if ur friends dont aprove of your new boyfriend (so what ??!!?) as long as your "happy" with this guy then stay w/him
(if your happy then your friends shouldnt dissaprove )
but thats just me
good luck w/this thingy
ZEN*PSHYCO
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theres this guy ive had a crush on for a while. we always talk, and weve even hung out outside of school once or twice and i even think he likes me alittle, but none of us have ever broughten it up. today he signed my yearbook and he said "i hope you find the perfect man this summer" which i find wierd because normally guys dont write that kind of stuff. anyway, im going away this summer for 2 months and i wont be back for a while. im debating telling him i like him just to get it off my shoulders cause i just want him to know already and i wont be seeing him for a while. should i do that? or do you think it will freak him out and he wont want to start any relationships this summer?? (link)
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Ithink you should go for it hey
why not i mean its now or never
good luck
ZEN*PSHYCO
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