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Self harm
In class yesterday I was sitting next to a girl who I don't really know, and she rolled her sleeve up and I saw she had cuts all up her arm, and that some of them were bleeding. She didn't know that I saw. Now I don't know this girl at all, but I do know one of her flatmates a bit. Should I speak to her flatmate and see if she knows this girl is cutting herself? Cos I think her flatmate could help her much more than I could.
Thanks!
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You should absoloutely say something. But, try to be tactful about it because it's a very tricky subject. Clearly this girl has some problems that she is dealing with and you don't want to end up talking to someone she doesn't trust about this. In my experience, people who cut tend to close themselves off to others and a sudden intrusion could make it worse for her.
Try speaking to one of her flatmates and just asking how well she gets on with this girl. Find out if they are friends and if they talk about things. She's bound to ask why you want to know so when she does this, if you get the impression they are quite close, tell her the full story about seeing the cuts. If you get the impression they are friends but aren't that close, tell her you think she's depressed because you sat next to her and she didn't seem like she was in a good place, metaphorically speaking. Try to give her the idea that as far as you are concerned, this could be a serious problem and tell her that as her flatmate, it might be a good idea to sit down for a heart to heart with her and try to get to the bottom of it all.
If you really don't think that is working, you can either try to find someone else who is close to her to talk about this to or you could try to befriend her yourself. It might be that she feels very alone at the moment and having someone new in her life might help to make things more bearable.
Whatever happens, I always say you should never turn your back on someone in need if you are not endangering yourself in any way. Do what you can to help her but remember also that it is very much a problem she needs to deal with. She needs the support but nothing will help until she accepts it and with that in mind, trying to find people to help her or being there yourself really is all you can do right now.
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woa thats hard but no fear *great advice giver ZEN is here
u should tell a counceler about that
and if there is any reason for this girl to be doing that to herself she does need some help
there is other things you can also do if your school has like sum hotline nuber you can call and tell them *sum people dint ask for names and stuff
keep it zen *
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When it comes to safety and health, its always better safe than sorry. I would goto a teacher, a counsler etc to let them know what you say - if you're school as an hotline where you can leave a message w/o leaving a name - that would work too.
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If you have reason to believe she is cutting (which you do) you need to tell a teacher or counciler, and not her flatmate.
Go to a higher authority before anything else. If she really is doing it, the higher authority can help alot more than her flatmate.
I hope I helped
-Ryan
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yes you should tell her flat mate just incase this girl takes it to far one day and really hurts herself but you could also try becomeing her friend aswell and talk to her maybe she just needs someone to talk to and that purson could be you just have a think about it good luck x x x
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