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Ok well, on October 1st my boyfriend and I are moving out of my parents house and into our own, we have a 6 month old puppy and im just curious on a couple things. We first adopted her when she was 9 weeks from the SPCA and they said to expect a little diharrea from her just due to her being in a new place and a little nervous, well that did happen but she adapted quickly, and now that were moving ive started packing up some of our things that we wont need before we move and now whenever i pack if shes with me, which is almost all of the time, she whines, she doesnt wanna go outside because i tried that and she doesnt want food, i tried that to, i sit down and play with her and when i get back up, a few minutes later she does it again, i try to talk to her and pet her as much as possible, but do you guys think she knows something is up and is worried about going back to the shelter? and if so what should i do about it to make her feel sure that she isnt going anywhere? please help i feel so bad =[
Dogs are smarter than most people give them credit for. She's probably feeling like you are going to leave her. Just give her a lot of attention. You still have to get your packing done, but when you're not packing play with her a lot. It will probably be a tough time because she will be scared your leaving her until you get to the new house. Once you're there she will understand what's going on and be just fine. Until then, it might be sad, but there is not much you can do to make her feel better.
i wanted to know what i should do about this girl i have been seeing for about 6 months, we've known each other for 5 years we both know each other ins and outs. i have never felt this way for anyone in my life, shes perfect. every time i see her its like the first time every time, my stomach gets in knots and i get light headed when she smiles at me. i think about her 24/7.we like the same things. we dont do drugs nor do we drink, our ideal nite is staying home and watching a movie instead of partying. i love her with all my heart. but my real question is should i stay with her or not? i forgot to mention that she has 2 kids by my brother and they broke up about 7 months ago and he still loves her. he doesnt know we are together. she left him because of his drug and drinking problem, which was bad. what should i do?
Wow. This is a heavy situation to be in. First of all, if you want to make this a serious relationship you have to let your brother know eventually, no relationship can grow if it is kept a secret. Secondly, it will ruin your brother's trust and he probably will be crushed. You would have to decide whether your brother or your girlfriend means more to you. A third problem is the kids. First off, morally, is it right to be with the mother of your nieces and nephews? Secondly, what will you tell the kids when they are older. It's a very odd situation and probably not a good one to be in. Also, if you have been together for 6 months and they broke up 7 months ago don't you think that is a little quick, considering they have children together... I would be careful with that...
In the end it comes down to this. If you stay with her, A LOT of terrible consequences will come from it. You might get some good out of the relationship too but it will not be easy.
You have to decide if it's worth it. I can't tell you straight up yes or no if you should break up with her, because you could never exactly explain the intensity of your feelings.
Remember, there are PLENTY of other people in the world for you to fall in love with, It's a sticky situation and probably not the best one to be in, so I would be careful with your decision.
Girls come and go most of the time, but family will ALWAYS be there, so don't betray your brother.
ok so my best friend and i have feelings for each other and I told him how I felt and he told me how he felt. We want to get together but he has a GF so we are just friends.Well he went off to collage and last night he came back. Well We met u pand he was with his GF. Well every 5 seconds he wanted me to hug him and I didnt feel right about it so finnaly I huged him and his GF gave me a dirty look. then after that every 5 seconds he gave her a kiss right infront of me. It hurt me sooo bad so I left without saying good bye and went to the school dance and all my freidns were there so I tried to have a good time but he was on my minde the hole time
Well, to me it sounds like he is trying to make both of you jealous. He is begging you to hug him to make his girlfriend jealous, and he is kissing her over and over in front of you to make you jealous. When guys make girls jealous they feel like they are cool, like all the girls want them and they are just this awesome person, when really, they are just acting like tools. If I were you I would forget about this guy. Any guy that really wants you would be with you, not some other girl. And they certainly wouldn't be doing things they know would hurt you like kissing another girl in front of you. You don't need him. Find a better guy. Though most people don't believe it, there are good guys out there.
15/f
Well, the title pretty much explains it.
Last night i got really mad at my boyfriend "dan" we'll call him.
We were having a normal phone convo and having a good time and laughing.
When, he asks the question "How many boyfriends have you had baby?"
and we've talked about this so many times, and he KNOWS how many i've had.
I'm the ONLY girlfriend he's ever had, and i know it. His best friend told me, and he certainly has a number of times.
So i tell him "Four."
And he goes 'I mean, real boyfriends that you kiss and stuff, not go out for a day and dump"
and i said "well in that case its you."
and he snickers and goes "I've had nine"
Me: NINE?! you always told me i was the only one.
him: well, i didn't want to make you feel bad.
Me: but then why did you freak out when we kissed for the first time? You always told me that was the best night of you life because you got your first kiss.
Him: I meant on a date.
Me: .... so what are the girls' names?
He never even told me their names, i forget wat excuse he used but all i know is i felt like crying on the phone.
I know what you guys are thinking that he might be teling the truth.
If you know him like i know him, you would most definatley tell me hes lying. He lies to me ALL THE TIME.
And he think i wont notice, i'm not stupid, i notice and then i ask him about it and then he lies some more.
he tells me he loves me all the time but when he lies to me it just makes me think hes doing it to make me feel horrible.
for example, we'll be in the pool and my top will fall just a tiny bit down, but i'll fix it right away.
Then i'll joke around and say "You didnt see anything did you?"
and he'll say "yeah, actually i did."
and just things like tha he does to make me feel horrible?
I really don;t know, he says he loves me, and i love him.
And this may sound like B.S
but to tell you the truth i've never lied to him before.
and its just other lies here and there.
Like, ill say "Ohmygod imagine if someone did _____"
and he'll say
"Ive done that before"
and i KNOW hes lying.
It makes me feel like he doesnt care about me, and that hes going out of his way to hurt my feelings.
has anyone ever had this happen to them?
Please help.
I would say, as hard as it might be, dump him. You need a guy you can trust. Right now he is just lying about small things, but if he's okay with lying about this, he'll be fine with lying about important stuff. The main component of any relationship is trust. Without trust it's not a real relationship. Since you obviously can't trust him it's not a good place to be in.
There are a few reasons why he may be doing this:
1. He has a mental problem that makes you feel like you need to lie about everything, no matter how big or small. This actually does exist and is pretty common. If this is the case, it is not someone you should get serious with.
2. He thinks these lies make him look cool, either to you or to others around you. Even though they just make him look like the jerk he is being, to him it looks like he is cool because of these things he is saying happened.
3. He really just like to mess with you. Which is a terrible thing.
So no matter the reason, you should probably break it off with him.
Sorry.
Best of luck.
Hope I've been of help to you.
how do you become the life of the party, if its just me 18 my bf 20 and his roommates 20-21 and there gfs?
Just always be ready to have a good time. Don't get too mushy with your boyfriend when everyone is around, it kinda bugs people. Try to become friends with everyone. Especially the girls. Whatever everyone is doing, always be ready to be a part of it and have a good attitude. People can tell when you want to be there. And when people are in a good mood it puts others in good mood. So just have fun yourself, and it will make others have fun. Try putting on some music if you guys are bored, try to get your boyfriend to dance so your friends can laugh at him. Stuff like that, things that make people laugh always helps. Hope I've helped.
Okay, since like ever I've always been the guys best friend. Theres been prettier girls then me, and thats who my friends go for. Most of my friends are guys. I've always been flat chested, like a board and it would sometimes bother me when someone pointed it out, but then i just realised-- Whatever.
Well over the summer I went from like nothing to a C. I don't honestly know how.. but I did. And my Mom also said that I got curves.. [embarrasing..] No one failed to notice the changes over the summer and its weird. because most girls went through this like in the 6th grade, and im going through it in the 8th but now all the 'friends' I have which are guys are diffrent around me. I'm really into sports, and we usto always play football, and Im not good at it but I can run. They catch up with me and Im dead.. and I dont care that they tackle me but some either tackle me to hard and claim I got hurt cuz "She has those huge tits to worry about now." or are way to soft. Yeh Ben actually said that to me and I was like =XX Im not into makeup, or skirts or any of that and they didnt care before... but now I guess there flirting with me. My only girl-friend Becky says that they all are- we can choose our seats this year and Im always at the guys table and they're always poking me, and love to make me scream from some reason. Its all diffrent, and it used to be okay to walk into a room full of guys where I knew they were my friends. But now they look down my shirt, compliment me constantly, which isnt so bad but i cant walk into the room without known There The Oppiset Sex. its weird.
I dont know how to make things go back the the way they were... =[
Unfortunately, it happens to everyone. There is a time when guys and girls change and it's not easy to just be friends anymore. You will get used to it more, but it will probably be like this for a long time. Start making some girlfriends that you can hang out with, people you won't feel awkward around. Don't completely ignore the guys, but just accept the fact that this is what's going to happen to everyone. Look on the bright side. Guys are noticing you now, though it's not as easy to be friends anymore, dating is a great thing. Dating is one of the most fun parts of most teenagers lives, so enjoy it and make the best you can out of the situation.
is it okay to pluck my white heads around my nose.
NO! It's okay to pop white heads anywhere else on your body. The only place where you shouldn't it around the nose and eyes. It leads to a strong chance of infection and can scar VERY EASILY. Just let them go away on there own.
http://www.seduflatironsonline.com/store.php
is this a safe place to buy with my credit card?
also, do they have reallly expensive tax and shipping? LOL!
umm and if its a website for Sedu irons, how come they sell CHI too?
The shopping on that site is powered by Amazon.com, so there is no reason why you shouldn't trust them.
16/f.
I wanted to lose like 3 pounds, so I ate really small meals for a week. Like, one meal. Ever since then, whenever I eat like something I get a stomach ache.. like just right now.. I ate a piece of watermelon, I felt fine, but then I ate another one, and now my stomach hurts.
My mom says im fine, but i dont know.
i'm not anorexic or anything..
You aren't anorexic yet, but what that means is that you are in the beginning stages of getting it. You HAVE to FORCE yourself to eat and your body will become used to food again. You shouldn't feel sick after a few days of eating normally.
Hi, I hav a Compaq laptop. The company isn't around anymore, and my laptop is currently "snapping in two" slowly. this happened to my friend too, and she had the same one as me.
I am currently trying to save up for another laptop, so I was wondering what laptops are good. I'm looking for a durable, widescreen one. But, just brand names will work too.
Thanks SOO much! my life is in my comp.
I would suggest IMMEDIATLY backing up ALL your data to an external source in case the computer finally crashes down. HP makes really good laptops. If you have an insane price rang I would suggest checking out alienware laptops. They are custom made to fit your needs and are really great machines, but have a pricey range.
Edit:
there are a few ways to backup your data.
The best and easiest being buying an external hard drive. It's is bassically a hard drive just like the one in your computer, but portable. You would need to buy one the same size as the one in your computer and then you could easily transfer your data to the new computer and store it until then. However these can be a bit pricey, though always useful to have around.
You could try burning your important files to DVD-R discs, but that isn't the easiest way to do it and is very slow. If you do this, I would recommend taking only your most important files.
i forgot my yahoo email password
when i try to recover it i can only change it, however i would like to find out what my old password was without changing it
is there anyway to do this?
There is no way to find your old password. sorry.
im 16. the first time i got my period was in may of 2006, when i was 14. it was really irregular at first, like normal. it was pretty heavy too, and really red, and would last about a week.. but in between i'd always have weird, dark brown, really light periods that didn't last as long.
well skip ahead to now, over 2 years later..(shouldn't it be regular by now?)...
i don't remember the last time i had the heavier, red, longer period. i kind of called that my normal period.. seriously it was like i had 2 different types.
so basically i havent had my "normal" period in at least 3ish months maybe? all summer, i havent had it. at one point, it was brown, extremely light, almost more like discharge than period blood..and it was random..like i had it for one week, then it was gone, and then a week later it was back, but only for a few days. it's just been really unregular. and i havent had anything since early july i think it was.
i'm scared something is wrong with me..im not sexually active, not on the pill..idk? is this normal?..at all? thank you
This is a question that should not be answered by someone online. This sounds like a serious health problem. You should go see a doctor. You need a professional opinion. Anyone on here who tells you anything, one way or another, is probably not sure and is making a guess.
Alright, first, i am sorry if this is really long but i have a lot to say. Okay, well i like this guy and he "supposedly" liked me. (we "talked" for a week over the summer.) Anyways, tonight i went to a party and he was tickling me and hugging me and picking me up...etc. Well, all my friends (which is a lot) told me they think he likes me because of the way he acts around me and he even told my friend he liked me. Well, later at the party (at the end) he comes up and gave me a huge hug. He was like "I'll see ya later, bye!" Then, after the party my friend told him that i really liked him and he told her not to tell me but he likes someone else and he is "talking" to someone else.I mean, i even admit, he was flirting with me at the party and then he just tells my friend right after that he likes someone else and not to tell me. I don't get it.
I really don't think he is a player. He really is a nice sweet sensitive guy and he dosen't have a "bad" reputation. I am so confused! He is always really nice to me and everything. I mean, all my friends were telling me that they hear he likes me. My questions are,
1. Why is he doing this?
2. Does he like me and the other girl or just her?
4. What do you think?
5. What do i do and how do i act around him now?
6. Should i still flirt or should i lay off?
Thanks!
1. he is just confused, he probably DOES like you, bt right now he is more focused on someone else, so he doesn't want to lead you on too much, but still likes to flirt with you.
2. he likes you both.
4. You forgot number 3. and I already said what i think
5. If you want to win him over just keep flirting with him.
6. Keep flirting.
My boyfriend was sucking on my nipples a lot for a couple of days and now they hurt very badly. My nipples hurt to touch. When a shirt runs over the nipple itself it feels like sandpaper. I'm afraid to wear a bra because it might rub against the nipples when I move. My boyfriend kissed one of my sore nipples since it wasn't feeling good, just as a sweet gesture, but it felt like grinding sandpaper against my nipple too. It even hurts for my nipples to get hard and pointy!
It's just really uncomfortable and frustrating to put on clothes and not have them rub against the nipples.
What can I do to make my nipple pain go away? I am totally clueless and feeling very uncomfortable! Please help me figure out how to soothe my sore nipples--and advice or suggestion is highly appreciated.
There is really not much you can do now. It will go away soon enough.
I'm just one of those crazy anime girls. I've watched a lot of Japanese anime in my time. I have a few favorites (like Midori no Hibi, Naruto, Bleach, and even Dragon Ball Z) but am still looking for new anime to check out. I know I can buy anime on ebay (and watch some animes on YouTube) and other various sites but I need some good anime suggestions.
What is your favorite Japanese Anime? Could you tell me a little about the anime to see if it catches my interest?
Even if it's a very popular anime it's alright to suggest it. Like I said, I'm one of those crazy anime girls so I even like to hear other people just say which animes they prefer and why. I could talk about anime all day long!
My FAVORITE one is Deathnote, it's about a kid who finds a book that belonged to a death god. The kid can write peoples names in the book and they die. He uses the book to kill criminals. Eventually the police catch on and try to hunt him down. It's a great story about him using the deathnote as a tool to help him escape the police.
You should check it out.
Okay so I'm 14 and a want a vibrator.
I picked out the one that I want and I have a bunch of those gift credit cards so i can buy it descretly. They ship it in a plain brown box with an unidentifiable label. What I'm worried about is if one of my parents find it, what do I say? I mean, I doubt my dad will find it because he's nearly never home, and my mom gets home later in the day, so I'll probably be getting the package. But seriously, WHAT IF SHE FINDS IT? what do i say? should i ask her about it beforehand, I mean I really really don't want to. But how would I even ask something about that? Don't tell me that I'm too young or anything, it's better than me finding the nearest manwhore eh?
It's a really risky move. If your parents find out they could seriously freak out. They may jump to conclusions about other things. Just think about the consequences before you make your decision. Do you REALLY need one that badly? You can always just masturbate...
I've been on and off with this kid for over a year and right now i guess were "together" but anyways, me being really curious and in a way physoctic ,went onto his facebook, like hacked in. I read his inbox and like wall to wall with girls and he acts like hes single and talks dirty to them and it got me soo upset. Like one wall to wall with a girl was like bring a friend, (basically for him)? We go to different schools and barely see eachother so as far as i know he could be living a whole different life, trying to hit on girls and stuff. The problem is i cant confront him and tell him because he'd know and i know what him to find out i hacked in. Anyways i dont know what to do? ahh!
Well, if he is cheating on you, which he obviously is, then you should break up with him immediately, and if you're going to break up with him anyway, who cares if he knows you hacked into his myspace?
14/f i was just wondering if kissing comes naturally because i havent kissed a guy b4 and im pretty nervous about it...also if you have any kissing tips that would be great thanks =) muddymidfielder
Kissing does come naturally, it takes practice, but it's easier to just learn from experience than to have it explained to you.
is it normal after sex for like.. your vagina to throb like it feels like theres a heart beat and that lasts for a couple hours??
Yupp. Perfectly normal. Don't worry
im a sophomore in high school, and i really would like to learn to make professional graphics. I'm taking a web design class, that will help me with it. But I think it would be cool to make professional pictures for movies, dvd cases, anything like tht too! But how much does a professional computer graphic artist make? And what exactly do they do? And I would like to take some classes on computer graphics. im 15/f/usa
im really creative too =]
Well, being creative will put you on the right foot. A GOOD graphic artist can make good money. You just have to get a stable job. Work for a company doing their graphics. Don't be an independent artist. You won't get very much work probably, unless you are insanely good. Make sure to get some good programs, obviously Photoshop, which is pretty expensive unfortunately. You can take classes in most high schools on graphic design, if you can't take classes, there are many photoshop tutorials on the web you can learn from. College graphic design programs are where you are going to REALLY learn your stuff though.