HEY EVERYONE, I'M KAT!
and i'm here to help :)
i love to give advice, and i've been told that i give some good advice, aswell.
i'm very dedicated once i get involved in someone's problems, and i'll probably make sure you're okay, and that my answer has been sufficent.
i don't 'sugarcoat' my answers, as just about every columnist on this site complains about, but i do present everything in a way that people will be able to handle, and relate to in their situation.
i could honestly care less about ratings, i just wanna help some people out. in my problems, current and past, i seek help through my friends, who i adore.
i'm a huge my chemical romance fan, and i know pretty much everything about them; so if you have a question on them, i'm here. go for it. ;)
i'm unique in my own way, so ask me for something, and i'll give you a fairly different answer.
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my friend thinks she is a few days pregnant...she keeps punching her stomach because she does not want the baby. does this hurt the baby or cause her to have a miscarriage? (link)
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I don't want to sound judgmental of your friend or anything, but that seems so low for someone to do that. Of course that could hurt the baby!! IF she's scared of being pregnate, she probably is trying to give herself a miscarriage
Explain to her that this isnt' fair. Even if she gives the baby away, it still has the right to live. Also, this culd cause health problems for her, too.
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I don't know if this goes here.....but....anyway...
I was listening to Carrie Underwood's song "Jesus Take the Wheel" and i was wondering...
is there an explanation to why people's lives flash before their eyes when something bad is about to happen (like the accident in the song)
I have always wondered about that!!
Thanks in advance~ I RATE (link)
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There's no real answer to this..but in my opinion, I think it's because the person goes through all of their moments they've experianced.
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my friend slept over at my house, and we both slept in my room. i have a computer in my room, and i told her that she could go on my computer if she woke up before me, which she did. when i woke up, i was still in bed and i just opened my eyes, but i didnt move or anything. i could see from where i was on my bed that she was going through my computer and looking at all of my things. i could see that she was looking through one of my word documents. then when i said something, i sounded tired and she closed the document immediately and i could see she was hoping that i hadn't seen her looking through my things. i know that i shouldve said something but i didnt, and i completely regret that now, because it shocked me that she would do something like that.
so my question is...should i just try to forget about this happening? and also, is it just me or is it wrong for someone to look around someone elses computer without permission, even if they are(somewhat) a good friend?
thx a lot. (link)
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Well...i dont' think it was right that she was gong through your documents...If it was anything important, definately confront her with the issue. If not, maybe joke around, and be like 'heyy I saw you going through my stuff! find anything good?'
just say it in a kidding way.
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so there's this guy that I have a crush on he's pretty cool because he's laid back and he's just pretty nice though its not like we're friends were just aquantances but I always get nervous around him like I begin to notice everything I'm doing like its weird like I wanna crawl into a whole and just stare at him... There's one little thing he has a "friend" she's a girl and they are close but I don't know if she's his girlfriend.... What should I do to become friends with him but in a friendly way? (link)
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Jokes would probably be the best way to go. AT least, that's how I see it. Laughter usually seems to bring people together.
Try to just plain old talk to him, not flirt at first. Make sure you gain each other's trust. Maybe get a screen name or phone number??
Just make sure you talk when you can, but don't make it seem too clingy or too attached.
Also, try to be friends with his friends, that way you'll have things to talk about ((things the friends did, ect.))
Good luck!!
WRite if you need an ything else.
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Hey so I was wondering if anyone knew where to buy this chanel shirt from..?
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=43235096&imageID=405999948&MyToken=96047c88-e1cf-456e-9132-794927c7f00a
Thanks much in advance! (link)
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wow..that's really pretty!! lol
Well, I'm not sure where there are chanel stores..since there are none around here, but if you're allowed to buy off the net, google would probably be good. =D
Also, check if Chanel has a website, most clothing stores have a website you can order off of.
Good luck with looking great!! lol
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My mom won't let me date till I'm 18 whicu basically is never cause once I'm 18 I can date anyways so its never I want to tell her 13 is a good age but I'm too scared of a NO and I just need advice on how to tell her and what I should tell her like reasons point and ideas please help I do not want to get my first bf and 30 or my first kiss at 28 please help me...
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Explain to your mom that you would make sure you're responsable, and that you wouldn't go against her rules if she let you date.
Maybe try writing out all the reasons and giving them to her on a card, that way, you'll get you word in, and she can see all of the good reasons right before her eyes.
There are no experiances, neither good or bad, if you do go out and live life.
Take a crack at that for her,l ol.
Good luck, Write if you need anything!
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Well today i wen't to my friends house.I wen't to keep my best friend company because our friend(the owners house) was in her room with a guy and she called me telling me she felt uncomftrable.So when i got there like 15 minutes later the guy left and my friend came out the room. When we were all kicking it outside they started smelling their hands talking about they smelled like weed!I was so dissapointed in my best friend because it had been so long since we hung out together and i didint know she had started smoking that stuff!So i told her "when did you start"and she said "we tried it last week" and i said "i thought u were never gonna do it again"and she stood quiet 4 a while and promised this was the last time.Then when we were in the back they took out the pipe and started smoking it and asked me to do it.I said i didint want to and they just looked at me like saying wtf!But the truth is i know i should trust her but i know shes gonna try it again.I don't want her to start doing it alot because shes barely 14 but idk wut to do so she won't!wut would you do?? (link)
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Tough love seems like it would work in this situation. Tell her that if she dosen't stop this, you'll have to tell a parent. It might not seem like a good plan now, because it will most likely cause her to get mad at you but it's for her well being.
Hopefully she'll listen to your warning, but if not, tell a parent, because she cant' go on thinking it's okay because she wont get caught, because she probably will and that will result in even more trouble.
Tell her how much you worry about her, and how big of a problem you really see this as.
Good luck with everything, and I really, truely hope this helps, because this is something I hate to see. Please, feel free to message me with ANYTHING you might need!!
By the way, I'd just like to say great job on not smoking it yourself. It takes courage to stand up to that!!
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my mom married my stepdaddy a couple of months of go and i told my friends about it at school and now everybody at school is making fun of me becouse my mom married a black guy iam not racist and i don't see what's wrong with a white person marrying a black guys it's just the color of your skin and we can't help it god made us that way,but how can I make my friends see it that way? (link)
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You shouldn't back down and make excuses, just tell them that the color of your skin dosen't matter at all, it's the person inside that skin that does. And you're right, there is nothing wrong with that.
Make sure you're strong when you stand up to them, don't let them judge someone for a really dumb reason.
Good luck, Write me if you need anything at all!!
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i eat way to much all the time. like im not overweight or anything but i know it will cetch up to me sooner or later so i jsut need ways to stop eating so much & thinking about food all the time. (link)
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There are some simple ways on how to control yourself. It's not all in how MUCH you eat, either, it's what you eat. If you find you're hungry, try to eat a low fat snack, and if possible, make it something that will fill you so you wont need more snacks.
Also, try to stop eating after dinner, since most people find they lose control when late night binging can occur. Maybe put a sign on the door that says 'are you really that hungry?' and make sure you take the question into consideration.
WRite me if you need anything!!
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I think I'd look alot prettier with longer hair. I am african American ( not actually african tho), and my hair grows slow....I understand that I dont need to have long hair to be pretty, but im way past that I need advice on how to speed up the process. I know I cant get a get long hair quick scheme without weave...but I dont want the appearance of long hair..I actually want it to call my own...I use dr. Miracle, and already use this thing called Hair Formula 37, but i dont know if its workin...I need my hair to grow (link)
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I'm not sure of any shampoos, but maybe try trimming your dead ends occasionally, maybe every three weeks? This will help your hair grow quicker and healthier.
Good luck, and hope ya turn out gorgeous!! =D
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F/UK
My husband and I are thinking of going to the USA and travelling around for a few months when he retires. Not knowing too much about things over there, I was wondering, as we wanted to use something like a winnebago for this, whether it would be better to buy, (how much roughly) or to hire, (from where)? Or is there a similar vehicle that may be better? We would want to start at one of the country and work our way to the other.
Also, are there any sights, other than the obvious, that we should take a look at? I do want to go to Sedonna, Grand Canyon etc.
Thanks (link)
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I would recommend Philedelphia or NYC, but it's very easy to get lost if you're not careful.
Maybe try Atlantic City, they have awesome beaches, and rental homes right on the water.
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So.. Cheerleading pictures are comming soon and I always manage to get sucky pictures.. blah. Anyways, I would realy appreate if someone could tell me some cute poses fora cheerleading picture.. or send me a picture..?
For Indv.
&& buddy pic..
Im a freshman if that helps any (link)
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Well, I've never heard of a buddy pic, i'm assuming that's either a picture with a friend, or a team picture? But I do know some things you could try for your cheerleading poses, other than plain ol' standing there. =D
One very simple thing you could do is a liberty to the side and looking at the camera. If you're flexible enough, there's also a heel stretch or a scorpian.
Also, youcould go down on one knee and do a pose. Maybe try different poses in the mirror and see how they look? Do something you normally wouldn't do. You wuld be suprised how good something can come out!! =D
Write me if you need any more help!
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My 17 year old sister is gone to bootcamp. She wont get out till January 17th 2007. I'm only allowed to see her 2 times between now and then. She is also allowed 1 phone call a week for a max of 5 minutes. Oh My God I'm so freakin' sad cuz we were so close and the day she left, when it came time to tell me bye, she went hysterical crying, that didnt make it any easier when I was trying with everything I had to suck it up and not cry. We were told to write her as much as possible but after 3 letters, I'm getting stumped, Ive already went on and on about how proud I was of her and told her things that were going on in my life, but I'm not that interesting lol so there's only so much I can say about that. I need help on topics to talk about in the letters, or what to discuss to keep her in on the latest news and stuff (She lovesssss music) I dunno... Any Ideas are much appreciated and I will certainly rate and give feedback for your time. (link)
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aw, I'm sorry about your sister going away. Maybe talk about old memories, or regular old things going on in life. Ask her about how she's doing, and what she's intersted in at boot camp.
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OK, this may seem like a weird question, but, I would just like other opinions about this subject. Now, I understand when it is cold outside, the importance of bundling up your kids so that they are not cold. Plain & simple, but, I am just getting so sick of people saying, "where's her hat, she's gonna get sick!" Just things like that. I believe that you get sick from the GERMS & VIRUSES in the air. Not just the cold weather. I mean how can just getting wet from the rain make you sick? How can you get colds just from some cool air? If that was the case, why don't we get sick from the fans & air conditioning? Because, it is what's IN the air that makes us sick, not just the air itself! I would really like any & all feedback on this because I don't have anything to back up my theory. It's just one persons opinion. Thank You. (link)
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What you said is partially true, though it is usually more likely to get a cold in a cool environment, because the cool air does something to the body that weakens the defenses.
I would say you should wear more, but not let those people get to ya. lol.
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hey i saw you on adivcenators & can you make me a sign? its a pic of you holding up paper with something written on it to me? if you say yes ill write back saying what i want. (link)
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Hi.
Um, write what YOu'd want me to make, and I'll see if I can do it.
Hope I can help.
=D
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My friend and i have been friends for 2 years and her parents dont let me hang out with her cuz i went out with a blck guy and they talk behind my back and call me a slutt cuz she tells me and they dont like my mom either and thats messt and racest and i need help so.. my ? is wat do i do were awesome friends and we can only hang out at skool!!!
thank i rate and give feedback
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I agree with the last answer. It's not fair to keep kids from their friends just because of the parents' disagrements. Make sure you stress it to your parents how close you and your friend are, and how much it would mean to you if you guys could hang out. Get your friend to talk to her parents too.
Maybe you two could get your parents to actaully talk to each other? Just make sure that if they do, they'll be reasonable.
Good luck with your problem, and write if you need some more help.
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I know that if you don't eat, it actually makes your body gain weight, or so everyone says. But honestly, if you ate nothing, or say 1 apple every day for 2 weeks..would you lose or gain weight? I've always been curious about this. Thank you. (link)
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I dont' think the apple a day thing is a very good idea, I'm sorry. This would slow your metabolism down and it would make it harder for your body to lose weight, since it wouldn't be use to burning fat anymore.
Make sure you eat a healthy three meals a day, but notice I said HEALTHY. Eat your greens, fruits and veggies, things like that. Maybe if you want to lose weight, try switching drinks around. Make a goal to drink only water for a long period of time. That way, you'll be healthy, and you wont be wasting calories through a drink.
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I get jelous way easily. I'm always jelous of my friends if I'm not hangin out with them or if I'm not being invited to hang out with them. I go into the slight depression stage and get all moody when I'm jelous. I HATE THIS. How can I become more uhh .. not jelous ? (link)
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I know this feeling.
There's no stopping jealousy, it's always there deep down, since it's an emotion, but there are ways to prevent it.
Just make sure you don't push your friends away or try to make them jealous. It causes a whole chain of events, and sometimes ends up in the friends growing apart.
Make sure you're always there for your friends, and try to be as kind and fun to be around as possible.
The occasional hang out dosent' hurt too much either. =D
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hey well im going through a very hard time right now... my dad has cancer and i have a feeling that my sister is going to move out... yea and well i cut myself kinda alot too.... but like i dont know what to do ... all my friends are worried about me(at leaset the 1s that know i do it) but like im split in half.... one siode is telling my im stupid for doing it and telling me never to do it again... and the other half is happy that i do it and it makes me wanna do it more..and i dont know what side to belive... none of my friends really understand what im going through and i scare myself when i do it...i just dont knwo what to do ... and going to a counsiler is out of the question because my family is almost broke from my dad and his cancer.. i just need some help and i really dont knwo what to do...
Thank you all so much in advance!! (link)
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Cutting may seem like it helps, but it dosen't. REally, it hurts. Obviously you, but also all of those aound you who care about you so much. If not for yourself, do this for your dad and stop, because it's doing no good.
Also, there are free help lines, and therapists you can go to, so there's always someone.
I'm sorry about your dad, really. =[
Just, please, try to keep yourself happy for him, and make his time left the best possible. You wouldn't want him to have to worry, would you?
Write me if you need any tips on how to stop cutting. Good luck with everything going on!!
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I have a feeling that i am going anorexic again...I was for about 2 years and i stopped..gained a lot of weight..but now im cutting down on food cuz im never hungry and my boyfriend makes me eat..but i keep on loosing weight SOOO fast...( like i was a size 8, 2 weeks ago and now they practically are falling off of me!) I dont know what to do! Help! (link)
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Is it that you actaully want to lose weight or you want to gain it back?
Thank God you've got your boyfriend to help you, but there are ways to gain the weight back if that's what you want to do.
For one, make sure that the things you eat are very filling if you don't plan on eating much. Also, try planning what you'll eat during the day. Try making it a goal on what you'll eat. There are also shakes that can help you gain weight, you can find them in pretty much health department in a store.
Try not to cut down on that food. Eat as much as everyone else. Maybe even make it a goal to fit into those clothes that seem to be getting bigger and bigger.
Good luck with your problem. Write me if you need an ything!
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