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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!
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If your gonna say something about skin cancer don't answer or I'll rate you bad.
alright. tommorow I'm going to the tanning salon.
I've been there once before. =] [the tanning bed kind] However I have a few questions.
~ How long do you stay in for?
~ What do you wear in there?
~ Please include some additional information if you want a five.
~ Is it alright to go bowling afterward?
Actually, its rare to get skin cancer from a tanning salon. Ok, first off, you stay in for about 20-30 minutes, You should wear a bathing suit {bikini} or just put on a bra and underwear. Have the person who works there recommend a tanning lotion for you. Make sure before you go in, you or the person who works there wipes off the tanning bed with a clean towel. Yes, its fine to go bowling afterward. Hope I Helped!
-Brina
To make a long story short, I used to drink, a lot. Well after a friend passed away from a drunk driving car wreck, I tried not to, but I still did. Finally, I was able to give up alcohol. Since Thanksgiving I've had not even enough alcohol to fill up a wine glass. I'm proud of myself, especially since I'm 15. The bad thing is, I've started to cut my wrists again. You see, drinking took my mind off my problems, and I know it didn't solve anything, because not only were my problems still there, but I had a headach to go along with them. To try to stop myself from driniking, every time I wanted to have some kind of alcoholic beverage, I'd write a poem instead. It helped at first, it kept my mind of the cravings. But then the cravings just got worse. So I turned back to my old ways of cutting my wrists. I really want to stop, but I don't know any other way to just get out my feelings. Well, I do, it's just that when you're so frustrated, or upset, it's hard to think straight so you do the first thing that comes to mind. It's kind of hard to explain. And I would prefer not being told to talk to anybody, because I have, and I don't just mean talking to friends, I've talked to responsible adults too. After talking, I stop what I'm doing for a little bit, but after a week, or a month, or even two-three months, the stress gets so overwhelming that I start up again, and it's just not something I want to be doing. I know I want to change, it's just hard.
Any advice is appreciated.
Hey. Its good that you've tried to talk to people, because thats a way to help you out a lot. I suggest, get some rubberbands, and every time you feel the erge to cut, just fling a rubberband so that it hits your skin. Your right, cutting shouldnt be something to take your frustration and anger onto. Why would you want to alter your body by doing that? Keep on talking to people, even though you probably dont want to. Deffinitly try the rubberband thing. And, ask your parents to watch out that you dont take pointy objects with you. I'm sorry if I wasnt able to help much, this is a very serious topic, so hopefully I helped you a little bit, if you didnt like my advice, please don't rate me low, i just wanted to help you in some small way. Good Luck! Seriously.
-Brina
Hi. I am 14. My mom is VERY hard to work with. I have talked about shaving before, and she says "Why honey? Who do you need to impress?" I dont want to impress anyone I just want to shave. Well, if you can help me try and talk her into it or something. THANKS~
Let your mom know your doing it for yourself, that you dont feel comfortable with a lot of hair on your armpits and legs. That having more hair under your arms causes body odor. That if your in gym class and your wearing shorts, you'll have people look at your legs, which i'm guessing are quite hairy since your 14. Good Luck! Hope everthing works out.
-Brina
Okay, well i dont have a bad home and im not severely depressed but i get upset easily and sometimes i do feel depressed. Last night i cut myself 4 the first time...do i need help..am i crazy...i cant tell my parents....what should i do?
plz help
Well, how did you feel after you cut yourself, did it make you feel any better? Think to yourself why you actually did this to sooth your pain. I've cut myself once before because everyone says its a way to relieve stress, and when I did it I thought, why the fuck would that relieve stress when it only causes pain. Don't take your anger out on your body. You should know there are people out there to help you, such as a guidence counselor, were you can learn how to cope with your emotions someway else.Your are not crazy, but you do need to tell someone how you feel. Don't be afraid to either.
Good luck hun.
My freind is on an un-healthy diet. She hasn't told my freinds and I but at lunch she only eats and apple AND she on this website she said she was on a diet. We are worried that she is not eating much. What should we say to her? Should we talk to her?
Don't have all of your friends confront her at the same time, because it'll make her feel bad if all of you at one time talk to her,and it will most likely make her feel uncomfortable and get on the defensive. You take charge, and ask her if everything is ok with her, ask her if anything is going on that she needs to talk to someone about. Just, try to be there for her, let her know how nice she looks some days etc. Don't just automatically say why are you on an un-healthy diet. She most likely is on the diet because she doesnt feel good about herself. Just be a good friend for her. Hope I Helped, and good luck to your friend.
-Brina
well theres this dance like Thursday, and I'm going. I have a boyfriend who is one year younger than me if you care. Anyways, if he asks me to dance, i know I'm going to be nervous.
this may be odd, but can someone explain to me how exactly to slow dance.
Like should i put my hands on his shoulders?
Should I smilke?
WHAT!?
5's if ya give a good one!
xoxox
thanks in advance..
Put your hands on his shoulders or around his neck. Spread your legs shoulder width apart and just go left right, foward and back like,striding. You'll get the hang of it. You could always sit a slow dance out, and watch how other people do it. And of course you should smile, your going to be with your boyfriend! Good Luck!
-Brina
if my friend is being a jerk should i dis them?
Well, don't necessarily "diss" them, just let them know that you don't appreciate the way they're acting towards you. If they get all mad about it, then they're not worth being friends with. Good Luck. Hope I helped.
-Brina
Donno if this helps and I doubt it does but...
f/14
I am really confused.
Do think that this guy likes me?
1.Me and him are good friends
2.His friends and a lot of other people say that he likes me
3.He helps me with a lot of things
4.We talk a lot
5.He tries to make me laugh
6.Everyone says he is always flirting with me
7.He stares at me every day
Hmm, well, never believe what someone else says about someones feelings towards you, even though it could possibly be true. Hmm, guys tend to stare of into space, but, it could be possible that he may think your beautiful and an awesome person etc. lol. I suggest find out from him, asking if he likes you,but just don't say that because he might think you like him. Just go up to him, be like hey, some people were telling me that you liked me, just wondering if thats true. Now, your asking my opinion if he actually does like you...hmm. Well it could be one or two things, one he thinks your just an awesome friend, and he likes to look at you because of your awsome friendness. lol, and two, he is madly in love with you. That usually happens when two best friends are of the opposite sex. Good luck. Hope I helped!
-Brina
P.S- Do you like this guy? Let me know in your feedback.
Me and my friend Olivia are making a DVD for my friend Heidi for a present for her 15th birthday this Saturday. Help! We need good suggestions of GOOD MUSIC to put on for the background of the slideshow. I will rate if you respond FAST!:)
So what is some good friendship songs that I could put on?
Thanks:)
A Friend Like You -Geoff Moore
Anytime you need a friend-Mariah Carey
Best Friend- Brandy
Crash and Burn -Savage Garden
Friends Bette -Midler
Forever Friends- Sandi Patti
For You I Will-Monica
If you want a ton more then just go to this page
http://www.friendship.com.au/media/songs/
Hope I helped! That sounds like an awesome gift too!
-Brina
hey...did anyone notice...that the new "in" thing is acting ghetto? last year,it wasnemo rock whatever....now its ghetto...what the heck? why cant people be original and now follow the crowd? how can i not follow ANY crowd? everyone in my school follows the trends...and im just there,i want to stick out ina good way...any way i could do that? thanks...also...are you with me on this?
I'm with you on this. Same thing is going on in my school, I try not to follow the trend. I died my hair dark brown, because I liked it, not because everyone else was dying there hair that color. I dress from Old Navy, and not Abercrombie or anything. A way you can stick out is wearing something, funky, that you think is cool. Don't let the trendsetters get you. Good luck.
-Brina
P.S- I suggest polka dots as a funky thing. haha.
you know the sweatpants at victorias secret ... that say pink or whatever ... around how much do they cost ? like a lot ? thx, i rate high
Hey, I just researched Victoria's secret for you and the prices for them is in between 30 and 70 dollars. Hope I helped!
-Brina
There is my school's culture night tomorrow. I need a Spanish food to bring in. Does anyone know any simple yet tasty recipies I could make or buy?
Hmm, how about mexican rice? Go to your local grocery store, and I'm sure you could pick up a few boxes of it. It wont take long to cook it all. Hope I helped! Have fun!
-Brina
Ok this Sat.im going to a semi formail dance with my best friend. But here's the thing .. idk how to slow dance, ive never done it before. What do you do? And where should I be looking, in his eyes, or just like around. Im soooo confused , pleaseee help. PS, i really like him so im prob. gonna be nervous
Put your hands on his shoulders or around his neck. Spread your legs shoulder width apart and just go left right, foward and back like,striding. You'll get the hang of it. You could always sit a slow dance out, and watch how other people do it. Good Luck, hope you have fun!
-Brina
I HATE my best friend. She just gets on my nerves. She NEVER listens to me and she crys alot and she says I make a big deal out of everything. But honestly its her.
What should I do?
Hmm, you might want to rethink about calling her your best friend, if she gets on your nerves. Maybe she's going through something at home that she hasn't told you about. Just let her know that your there for her if she ever needs to talk. If your thinking about not being friends with her anymore, then you don't have to. If it makes you feel uncomfortable to be friends with her, then dont have any regret with telling her that you dont want to. But, try to be nice about it. Good Luck hun
-Brina
Hey, ok i have nevr given head b4 and i want to but i dont know what to do and what do i do after he cumms do i get up or zippen his pants them bak up or what please help
bye
Hey, i've never done that before, since I'm not sexually active.Sorry that you thought I might be able to help you with that...Um, maybe ask it to a bunch of people and not just me. :-/ Good Luck
-Brina
My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. We're really close and I trust him with my life. I think we're ready to take our relationship farther, on a physical scale. But whenever we talk about sex we're just kidding I guess. And he seems really timid to talk to me about it. He's not a virgin, so he's been in the "wanting to have sex" position before. But I'm wondering, am I doing the right thing by talking to him about it, or should I just leave it up to him or go for it in the heat of the moment?
It's deffinitly a good thing to talk about it. Figure out how your going to stay safe, and discuss the feelings you have for each other. If your sure your ready to have sex with your boyfriend, then let him know, and discuss what will happen if your protection doesnt work..etc. Good Luck. Oh, just wondering, how old are you?
-Brina
what does it mean when someone has boyish charm?
lol, this may be random, but someone said this today and i was a bit confused.
Hmm, it pretty much means, that a guy with a boyish charm means that how he acts and looks is charming to a lot of girls. Like, take a guy for example, that is kind to girls, funny, and decent looking, he'd probably have a boyish charm. Like, just everything about them is attractive. Hope I helped.
-Brina
ok well one of my boobs is bigger than the other and i herd thats normal when your developing but in one of my boobs i have like a lump its kinda big and like not too bit but like hard and soft in some spots, my friend says its just because im developing, is that true?
It could possibly be true. But, just in case your worried, talk to your parental person and have them take you to your doctor. Don't be embarrassed about the subject lol. Good Luck.
-Brina
Every sole at my school listens to rock music.
I really do the music, and everything, but they way i ever find the good songs are by my friends.
How do you find good rock songs?
Hmm, well, usually my sisters friend tells me about really unknown rock bands. Or, I just listen to the radio, see what sounds good. Also, if I'm on the computer or something, I put up yahoo and turn on the yahoo radio to alternative rock, if i hear a song I like without knowing who it is, i'll write down there name, and try to find some more songs by them. I watch TRL, its usually on from like 3 to 4:30 I think, they usually have some top 20 stuff. Hmm, you could buy a music magazine from a store and see what music is in there.Hope I helped, if you want to know of some pretty good bands let me know, and I'll be happy to give you a list.
-Brina
My friend collects model horses (like the plastic ones, etc). I'm fine with it, but I'm just curious to know what people think about it. What are your opinions?
Well, its a unique type of collection. Does she like have them all over here room, because that would be a bit odd for a teenager { im assuming } to have all over her room. I collect pencils from around the world. I have a pencil from australia, england, ireland, paris, india, etc, but i keep them in a bag on my shelf. But, yea its normal for someone to collect horses. Hope I helped.
-Brina