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this name is old and stupid....well first off my name is stephanie.dont judge me before you know me.im pretty nice.i like meeting new people,so im open to friends, but im extremely shy, so yeah. i dont give that good of advice so i'll help you as much as i can

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Hi, im 13 years old. Well i think im fat, i weigh 90 pounds. All my friends think im like one of the skinniest people in the school, but i dont think that, so i decided to not eat, except for a small dinner because my mom would make me eat dinner. People try to like put food in my mouth for me to eat but i wont let them. In 3 days, i lost already 2 pounds. People think im anorexic. what should i do?

sorry tho tell you this but you are anorexic and you should tell someone. its either you tell someone or you die...

i have a naturally quiet voice, especially when singing, any advice on how to sing louder? i have to sing in fron of judges ina couple weeks and thats one thing i would like to work on

sing out of your lungs

Hey
sorry this is kind of a wierd question and please dont delete i really need to lknow...like what is sexually harrasing(sp)? Liek what does a person have to do inorder for it to be sexually harassing

The making of unwanted and offensive sexual advances or of sexually offensive remarks or acts, especially by one in a superior or supervisory position or when acquiescence to such behavior is a condition of continued employment, promotion, or satisfactory evaluation...or....employment discrimination consisting of unwelcome verbal or physical conduct directed at an employee because of his or her sex; also : the tort of engaging in such discrimination....or..... unwelcome sexual behavior by a supervisor toward an employee

**right from the dictionary**

I love to draw but the only problem is that I never know what to draw.I need some ideas on what I can draw!And if you name something that is very colorful and takes a while to color than I will rate you a perfect five!!!

maybe landscapes..like haave different colors...like for a sunset try purple..you know be different..go out and look for an insperation(sp)

ok, so i like have this guy friend... and i like really like him alot, more than a friend. Last night i went over to his house with my best friend and he invited her crush over too... it was weird because like for a half an hour they kept asking us who we liked... if it was someone else i probubly would have told them... but now they are going to keep bugging us and i usually crack under that kinda pressure.. but i cant crack this time because im afraid it would be weird... and he wont like me as a friend anymore... because he doesnt feel the same. what should i do.. i mean im not like pretty.. im not ugly... im not popular.. im not a geek... but i dont think that he will feel the same and i dont know if i should tell him...
should i...
[a] not tell him and say i dont like anyone
[b] tell him and possibly kill our friendship
[c] stop talking to him
[d] try to see if he likes me first

which one.. or do u have a diff suggestion..
plz i need help
sry if this is like wayyy too long but i really am confused and it would be great if u helped

thankz a billionz

tell him that you like him..or ask him who he likes but usaully if someone keeps asking who you like,they like you,but not all the time

I have been sick since last night...I ate left overs and about 3 V-day Chocolates. Well I feel as if I want to throw up and yet and I can't and I occaisionaly get some pains on my side and of stomach. My mother said I could have Appendicitas. (Spelling?) In my family Appendix, is a big deal. (My family has a history)
I have tried to google info but perhaps some of you could tell me some main things that go along with appendixcitas.

Thanks

well if it hurts on the right side go to the hostpital(sp)..if its something else tell your mom and go to the doctors

Can you skip your period and not be pregnant? In other words, if you miss a period, is the only explanation pregnancy?

no,you might be active..or you could be in your first year and its all off track and everything unless you had sex

I have a long haired domestic black cat. I also have beige carpeting throuout my home. He leaves clipms of hair all over the house and not even vacuming seems to work in pickking it up. I am sick of spending hours on my hands and knees trying to get it off of the floor. Any suggestions?

you could put tape on your hands and pick it up like that or you could put it on your feet

I've been majorly depressed since May of last year. and I went through a lot of stuff during that time, including therapy. Two days before Christmas, my boyfriend (Kyle) broke up with me and made the whole depression thing worse, until I eventually got over that.
Well, after Kyle broke up with me, this other guy that has always been there for me through anything, being kind of like an older brother, confessed that he has feelings for me. Hes the sweetest anyone has ever been to me. I love him. But, a couple weeks ago Kyle asked me back out, and I couldn't go back out with him because he broke my heart, and our relationship wasnt that great to begin with. Anyways, since then I've been really really depressed, I got the the point where I was suicidal, and I almost killed myself. I told the other guy that I can't date him now, even though I really want to, because I think I should wait until I start to get happy again. I've been seeing my schools "crisis counselor", and I'm starting to feel better...slowly but surely. And now I'm scared to get my heart broken again. I dont know what to do, because I really want to date him. I know he would wait for me until I feel realyl ready to date him, and I want to date him now...I dont know what to do though, Im just confused. Any advice?

is the other guy kyle or your friend..if its kyle then i wouldnt go out with him,once its done you shouldnt try to put it back together.if its your friend it might feel a little weird to go out with him because it might feel like your going out with your brother but everyone loves there best friends so i might give it a try

13/m

hi,

i've taken the whole am-i-fat testing and stuff from different websites, and they all say the same thing, that i don't weight enough. i don't have an eating disorder or anything like that. my doctor i guess knows about this, but hasn't really told me to do anything. so... what can i do? i eat until i'm full, and thats it. please don't say "eat more!". i'll rate you if you give extremely good advice, give extremely funny advice, or give extremely bad advice.

yours,

the thin one

i think you have a fast metabolism..or you might exercise a lot. i think your fine dont worry..and it all depends on your height

I need advice on how to make cleaning my room fun... it's so boring and i just hate doing it. My room is large, and there is stuff all over it. Any ideas to make cleaning it more fun? and maybe easier? Thanks very much! I'll rate good ideas!

you can listen to music for fun.thats what i do

I am a gay male in my 30’s, and have been in a loving, committed relationship with another male since I was 18 years old. I plan on being with this man for the rest of my life.
This year marks the 10th Anniversary of my "coming out" to my parents. Back then, my relationship with my boyfriend was already in its 5th or 6th year, and it saddened me that I could not share its joy with my mother and father for whom I loved dearly. My honesty had brought me close to them again, and their acceptance has been a true blessing. I am grateful, for I know many others whose stories are not so lucky.
But this is not why I write.
My question has to do with my father. He does not judge me for being gay. He is very proud of his tolerance, and we have had many open and frank conversations about homophobia and my experiences with homophobia.
My problem is although he is not critical or judgmental about my lifestyle, he is overly critical and judgmental about every other aspect of my life. My job, my car, my driving, my diet, my finances, my clothes, my speech, my hair, my skin, my schedule, my everything are open territory to his persistent nagging. A thirty minute phone call with him can set me into a depression for a week. It would be easier if he hated me for being gay.
I often ask him questions about life and the lessons he has learned, but he replies with mean, personal attacks on my character. I am a very successful man in my field, and I feel his concerns are unwarranted. I have frequently told him as such.
Today, I feel I am fed up with trying to make him happy. During the holidays, he made me miserable because I did not live up to his regimented expectations. When the slightest thing is not perfect in my life, I cannot be honest with him and dishonesty is what I ran from 10 years ago. I fear his lectures, and I am starting to lie to him again. I love him because he is my father, but I do not like him.
He is so proud that he is man enough not to judge his son for being gay. Believe me, I am thankful. But, how do I get him to not judge me for being HUMAN?

for the added info. you shouldnt walk away like you said.you have to face it tell him how you feel and that you are who you are and he shouldnt be telling you this stuff he needs to see things in your point of view.talk to him.

I'm a 15/f and I me and my family are thinking of going on a cruise this summer. None of us have ever been on a cruise. I get sea sick pretty easily, but I heard that on a cruise since the ship is so large, you don't get sea sick. Is this true? Also, what was your experience like on a cuise and which cruise line did you take? Lastly, we are debating about where to go on the cruise (it's between Alaska and the Caribbean)... have any of you been on one/ both of these cruises, which one did you like more... or what was your experience with one of them. Also, are there more teenagers on one or the other. Thanks so much!!! I rate 5's for serious answers!

i've been on 2 cruises and im going on another one feb.21..both on the carnival cruise line.there so fun just to tell you that,if you do get seasick quick there are patches that you can put on your neck and it will make you fell better but it made my mom,dad,aunt,uncle and all them sick.i havent been on those but the mexican rivieraiaa is really nice.but it might be to hot in the summer but the caribbean sounds really nice.

One day my dog just started shaking all of a sudden and we didn't know why. It only lasted a few minutes and then he seemed fine but still scared. It's happened three times so far. My aunt thinks it was seizures, and was probably caused by the heartworm medication. Does anyone know what causes seizures in dogs or how to prevent them?

i would take him to the vet..it could cause something bad

Tomorrow is valentines day. Ive been going out with my bf for 2 weeks now and we havnt hung out once, just at basketball games. I feel kinda wierd when its just us two. I want to hang out with him tomorrow everyones saying how pathetic it is that we dont hang out but none of my friends can come because they are ganna be with their bfs. What should i do?

ask him to come over your house or his...maybe go see a movie something like that

i earlier asked a question about doing 200-250 crunches a day.. nd people sed that would tone your body.. would that mean you'd get abs? and like a 6 pack?

it will flat-in your stomach. but you have to do it every day and eat healthy and stuff like that.you might get a 6 pack but im not sure

hello!! okay in my school there is this girl who thinks she is al that because her dad is "in the mafia" she has to have been like "my dads so busy cuz hes in the mob" or "im a mafia princess becuz my daddy is in the mafia". so the other day she sid "my mom was showing me this picture and she was pointing to all these guys and she was like 'hes in the mafia, and him, and him, and him too....' and then i asked who they were and my moms like "oh theyre your uncles" so i was thinking SHUTUP! in my head but instead i just said "right..the mafia" and she gave me this look like "omg" and like a really snotty look!! but i mean she ALWAYS talks about her dad being in the mafia! its so annoying she has to have said it like 20 times already im NOT kidding, i sit right behind her. I live in chicago illinios, preferably oak lawn, are there really mafia?? what should i say to her? what if she gets her dad and her dads mob to kill me or my famlily? thats why im scared to tell her 'honey, keep dreaming' or something but im getting really mad and i want her to shutup what shouldi say?! thanks for anyone who answers!

first if hes in the mob she shouldnt be braging,he could get arrested.and if she keeps going on and on shes lying. just tell her to shut up or you'll punch her..well thats what i would do

for any of you on AIM.. there's a virus going around saying "PICS ON THE BEACH" and it gives a website.. i accidentally clicked it because someones profile popped up while viewing a website, and now i have this virus and i have no idea how to get rid of it! it pops up as an away message, and i tried using my anti-virus software, and it won't let me use it! i used my ad-aware and it said i had nothing! does anybody know how to get rid of it ? im me if u need to see the thing (shad 0 w x5) .. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!

buy some virus stuff, if that doesnt work then get a person who is good at computers/professinal(sp)get it out

i used 2 always see matthew in school and hes always stare at me and smile. then i met him and he was friends with my boyfriend and whenever my boyfriend would go to the bathroom matthew would say mike if i was you i wouldnt get up your girls kind of cute i wanna sit with her..so it was sort of weird.. all the time in school he always says hi to me and yesterday i was in lunch and hes in the same one but i was walkin out of the caf to go to the bathroom and he was walkin in and like hugged my hips with like one hand and was like hey beautiful where are u going.. then later i was walkin by and he said hey and i said hi and kept walking and he was like how come you always walk away from me? so i stayed and he was like call me tonight if you want to hangout.. do u think he lykes me

yeah it sounds like it. ask him if you want to find out

im 16 and havnt had a period for just over a year.im not preganat cos i dun tests.i cant have cancer so young can i?i stopped having them about a month after losing my virginaty.i havnt got std cos i ahd a screening.wahts wrong i started like when i was 13.neone know?plse help swn cheers xxx

first yes you can get cancer young. but maybe you should go to the doctor again sorry..

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