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Q: ok im 13. i wear a 34 DD. yeah im not fat either. just huge boobs my mom is almost an E! yeah so i need help. my boobs they are big bu they kinna sink and they have the cleave i want my boobs to not sink and much and get like pushed up... my mom wont by me a push up bra either.. soo how can i make my boobs like perfect so when i wear a low cut shirt boys will ... heh you knoww..

I feel silly to say this but I saw it on "E"..the show was 10 ways to get skinny or something with skinny. Anywhhhoo tthe trick is using duct tape. Like you hve one a bra and under it wrap like duct-tape and of course wear a top under the ducktape so it will like not stick you....I duno if it works but I think it will

Q: I know that people say you are too young to be in love. But does that mean I can't tell my boyfriend that I love him?

13/F

Thanks so much !!

Gosh the best advice I can give u, being 13 also, is that maybe it might be infatuation. I mean it doesn't necessarily hve to be because maybe you do love him. Don't push it too much and I guess it's ok to say I love you...but jus remember it doesn't hve to be the real deal!

Q: my moms bf irritates the HELL out of me, like you have no idea. one time after i was getting over a fever we were going out my mom was like "do you want to take your coat" and im like "no im fine" and hes like "even IM taking my coat" and im like "okay..." and he's like "fine, stay sick if you want, i dont care" and i seriously wanted to backhand him. like, he doesnt even DO anything for me when im sick so why should i give a shit weather he "cares" if im sick or not. i dont think he was intentionally trying to be so bitchy but he seriously does that all the time and, to me, i dont see him as someone that has any authority over me since they've only been dating for 5 months or so. he lays it on too thick with my mom always saying "omg your such a good cook blah blah balh" allllll the time and i feel like i never get to hang out with her. i mean, obviously i have friends i hang out with a stuff, but it feels like i never get to see her anymore unless hes not there.
oh and he moved in with us.
joy joy.

sorry this was long but does anyone have any ideas of how i can talk to my mom about it??
thanks

First of he's just trying to fit in. Try writing a note to your mom and tell her you all need some family time. Save up some money and take her to lunch or a movie and try to build back your relationgship. Maybe your mom jus doesn't realise you need her...so try to let her know you do!

Q: Does proactiv really work and get rid of all or most of your acne? A girl told me it was great for her and her friend, but other people say its junk. I just wanted to know cause I always have acne and i want to know if this stuff really works.

I have not personally used it but my friend does. She has really bad acne and she started using it like 1 year now and she still has some. IT does work i guess but it takes a bit long...n yeah you have to keep using it. If I were u start with a facial or something and go by a doctor and use something else. cause the price is relly high!

Q: does anyone have some good ideas for a house/birthday party?

some decorating/food ideas might be nice.

and definitely some help with what things we could do?

thank you :-D

Well try too keep it simple and not make it look fake. Finger foods as snacks are relly good and for a course meal try pizza or lasagne and stuff. Pin the tail on the donkey was sooo LAST century...try stuff like twister and stuff. Board games that everyone like are always a plus. Also I guess 7 minutes in heaven is good...and if your having a girl party try truth dare double dare promise to repeat.

Q: Well lately my armpits have been getting SO sweaty. It's pretty cold where I am an i don't know why they're like that? And if they stay like that I don't know what I'm gonna do wearing tee's in the summer. So I have a couple questions:

Does shaving your pits help them not sweat as much?

Is there any deoderant that works for it? (Only answer if you've TRIED it though)

Thanks so much!

Yes shaving does help. When you start shaving though wen the hair grows back it becomes itchy...so shave regularly. I use secret platinum..it doesn't only smell good but it works. And the aerosol for secret's really good 2!

Q: my name is Rachel and iam a 16 year old girl from georgia and my mom's making me break up with my boyfriend Donnie just becouse she says since he's 18 he's to old for me and becouse he smokes,but I still have feelings for him what should I do?

Sit down with ur mom over breakfast and have one of those daughter to mother talks. Tell her how u like him and ask her if there are other reasons that jus because he's older and he smokes. Tell her he's only 2 yrs and ask her y she's acting so because he smokes. Maybe she had a past experience with smoking or something.

Q: hey guys whats up? i have my sweet 16 soon and i was tryin to think of songs for my candle lighting. I cant think of any songs for my 3 brothers, my aunt (godmother)& uncle, my grandpa, my other uncle ( godfather), all my girls, all my guys. If you have any idea of any good songs PLEASE HELP i would greatly apprictaite it soo much you dont understand. If you ever need help ill always be here to give you advice too.. so if you know any please respondddd thanks a bunch xoxo

byeeeee

Sweet Sixteen by Hillary Duff.
Or...
try some song with like moving on.
But I wuld like hillary's song if it was me

Q: Me and my friend want to start a "band" so there would be two singers. I was wondering if anyone has any songs that have two singers in them. We already have a couple of Aly and AJ songs. But we would like some more. If you have any ideas please help.
I rate 5's for good answers.

Hey...I don't know much 2 ppl bands...except veronicas, aly n aj but you should try doing the duet things. Like you know ciara and missy elliot in 1,2, step and stuff. Good Luck...

Q: im a 13 year old girl. im really nervous that ill get my period one day in the middle of school. are there any signs that will let me know if im about to get it?

Symptoms are really differnt and it varies. I relly didn't have any except a little bit of discharge and I got the flu. The maid gave me some tea to drink and wen I woke up I got it! You have to realise it can happen at any time and if I were you keep a pad or Tp wen going anywhere! you might get relly horrid belly aches, mysterious flu, your head aches, you body hurts and sometimes you can't stand to be outdoors. If this happens though it might not be the same day. And you should try using a panty shield...so it will not mess you up in school and you don't have to worry about it!
Chill out it will come in time!

Q: Does anyone have any good advice on how to remove candle wax from carpets, wooden dressers, and plastic items? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

On wooden Items you can either heat a pin over light fire and scrape it out and on plastic you can scrub it or scrape it also. I'm not sure about the carpet but you can probably try flaking out

Q: well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and we're always messing around but lately we haven't it feels like our realationship isn't the same anymore.i told him i didn't feel like it was the same and he told me he was feeling the same way so he suggested that could be the problem that we haven't been messing around with each other and he thinks we should start again,but i feel that why should we mess around juss so we can feel that spark between us again.shouldn't it juss be like we don't have to do anything like that juss so our relationship could be the same.i don't like the fact that i always have to satisfy him juss so he can be happy with us.i feel like if i don't do it our relationship will not be the same.wat should i do?should i do it or not.he's not pressuring me to do it he was saying that as a suggestion but i don't know i juss need some advice i guess and i will rate a five for juss sum good advice

If you don't feel the same love with him don't do it. I mean it comes like selling your body...you have no love for the person you're just doing it to satify them. Anyway I think you lost the love because you didn't wait to have sex with him and now that it's all done...there's nothing to wait for. Anyway hope I helped
Lotz of Luv
Jamie

Q: I have a male friend who has this annoying habit. Well everytime that I phone him, if I start talking to him he'll always cut me off about 5 minutes into the converstation and say "my ears are getting wet". What does that mean, and is it some mean way of him saying he doesnt want to listen to me? Other times I've phoned him and he sounds happy to hear from me at first, but then if I tell him a story about another guy he'll say in a huff that he has to go. What's up with this?

Yeah he likes yah...hey but the ears gettin wet thing that's relly weird. I doubt it's literal! Maybe he doesn't want to hear you...or he wanted you to change the topic. I hope I helped a bit!

Q: I go to a school thats about.. 40% black/minority. I'm a 17 y/o senior in highschool and many of my friends are black (I'm white).. and many of tha guys I've dated are black. I listen to mainly "black" music, but I don't discriminate, its just what I know. But my uncle is soo racist and ALWAYS harrasses me. He calls me n-lover (you know) and does tha dumbest things like knocking on tha front door and saying "Chelsie, its an N, better come get tha door!"..hes so immature. My mom always yells at him when shes around (a lot of her friends are black too), but I dont live w/ her and shes hardly ever around.. I live w/ my grandparents and they dont say anything to him about it. He just makes me so angry b/c he comes around a lot and acts like hes better than black folks but hes NOT.. he doesnt take care of his kids and he has a 6-year old daughter who hasnt even started school yet which is ILLEGAL! Ugh, hes gay. I cant stand him. I just dont know what to do about him. He always says stuff like "I know this girl who would kick your ass for $20".. thats hilarious to me. One time I told my (black) friends cousin about it (hes 27) and he ended up coming to my house when my uncle was here and trying to get him to come outside so he could fight him.. and what did my uncle do.. NADA! Stayed inside like a little -----! well.. yea, what should I do about him.. I just feel like shooting him. LOL. Sorry.. long rant.

Well since you live with your grandparents maybe it's not a good idea to shout with him and they pick up for him and throw him out. I don't see the problem in having black friends because if you're not purely white you're black! Anyway maybe you should just let him hear what you think in a non direct manner. And if that doesn't work write a letter to him and tel him you don't appreciate him doing those stuff around you...and he should not judge people by their race but how they live and their personality and let him get it straight that most of them have their lives straight and he doesn't even have his kid in school! And if that doesn't work...(it might be tough) but just try to forget him and ignore him. Maybe he just likes the attention he gets wen he does these things!

Q: I'm in an origanization at school and it's my job to get the tshirts made, i was wondering if anyone knew where i could have reliable and hopefully well priced shirts made?

Well if's it's t-shirts u can get in walmart or something and it's just prints like footballs and stuff maybe you should try making them. There are these papers you can print on and irong them on the shirts. You should try them...but if you want professional try goin to a local arts and crafts store or somewhere that sells locally made tshirt with prints and ask them for the company. I hope I helped

Q: my boobs itch REALLY badly. they have lately. what's going on? is this normal?

Yeah they're growing but use cream or cocoa butter. When they itch and grow they get stretch marks...oh n try ur best to keeo it moist so you don't hve to itch!

Q: doesnt any one know where i can get a henna tatoo get like the ones you get on vaca

i want the kind taht lasts for like 2 weeks (i think thats the only kind but im not sure) and i want one that shows up black not brown (like those idian ones)

also if you can recommend a brand you used so i know its good and w/e

I don't know where you can get a kit but I do know that you shouldn't buy the black henna. I actually do henna and stuff for occasions (for myself) and the truth is that black henna is poisonous. Iff you want the henna look really dark trying putting it on and wen it gets hard...use a glove (non fitted rubber glove) and sleep with it in the night. In the mornin flake it off with a butter knife and try not to wash it with harsh soaps or prevent from washin at all!
Yeah I know it's poisonous because on many sites I saw it. It also had it on a tv program and I was watching it.

Q: ok my youngest is 11 and he still sleeps with me. i have tried everything to get him in his own bed, but he just continues to sleep with me...any advice on how to get him sleeping alone in his own bed?

Lol I feel ashamed to say this but I'm 13 going on 14 and I sleep with my grandma! I don't think you should let him move just yet because maybe he feels more secure and safe with you and I don't think you should move him just yet. Leave him and I'm sure he'll grow out of it...hopefully I will too

Lotz Of Luvvv
JAmie

Q: So i have pin straight hair, like you can not curl it at all no matter how long you leave the iron in for or sleep in curls, it does not work. I was thinking about a perm, but how long do they last? Do they damage your hair? Can you still straighten it? Is it hard to straighten? Are there different types of perms? Yeah I am a perm-dummy so all the help and information would be helpful :] I will rate high if I get a good response.

I don't want someone come out like my great aunt so I'm gona tell yah! The fact is perms relly relly damage your hair. Oh and it thins it too when you do it alot. Also wen they put that rediculas hat thing with holes on your head...the spaces with out holes stay in your head n it look horrid! So don't get one! Try doin other stuff lke cuttin it and stuff to enhance your beauty...cause perms jus guna spoil it!

Q: Omg. Is it true that some schools have their students shave their heads? That's abusive!!!

I'm not relly sure and I don't expect on a rating but I think it's more tribal schoools and like religious ones. Cause I know like nuns do it and stuff n so do some african tribes!