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messing around
well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and we're always messing around but lately we haven't it feels like our realationship isn't the same anymore.i told him i didn't feel like it was the same and he told me he was feeling the same way so he suggested that could be the problem that we haven't been messing around with each other and he thinks we should start again,but i feel that why should we mess around juss so we can feel that spark between us again.shouldn't it juss be like we don't have to do anything like that juss so our relationship could be the same.i don't like the fact that i always have to satisfy him juss so he can be happy with us.i feel like if i don't do it our relationship will not be the same.wat should i do?should i do it or not.he's not pressuring me to do it he was saying that as a suggestion but i don't know i juss need some advice i guess and i will rate a five for juss sum good advice
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After a certain amount of time, some of the initial spark does tend to fade and relationships do change. The point of this being that you're over what has been formally designated the 'honeymoon period' and what you should be left with is a stable secure relationship.
That being said, it sounds as though neither of you are happy with this. Yes, it can be a bit of a shock when you realise it's gone but at the same time, relationships take work. It would be nice if it all just sort of 'happened' and we didn't need to do anything but sometimes it means making a little extra effort to enjoy one another and trying a little harder to keep the relationship alive. A lot of relationships fail because they're not strong enough to withstand this change.
The bottom line is, this is totally natural but if you and your boyfriend aren't comfortable with it, the truth is it might be better to end the relationship. When the right guy comes along, the extra effort you need to put in after the 'honeymoon period' disappears won't seem like such a chore.
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well your guys relationship shouldnt be based on sex or ne thing like that. you should tell him that you feel like you have to do that kind of stuff to make him happy or whatever. it should be based on how good of talkers you guys are and that kind of stuff. you might want to try to do more stuff together like go to the movies and go to the mall and walk aroud and stuff like that to get your minds off that kind of stuff.
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If u guys always used to mess around, and thats what kept your relationship going, and now that youve stopped for a while, you dont feel that spark, then it just isnt working out. I had that problem, where the only time i ever felt like a liked this guy, was when we were talking about doing stuff, or doing it. It was just like he was my friend, and if we werent doing something romantic or at least talking about it, then it just wasnt a romantic relationship. it must really suck feeling like you have to be doing things with him, for him to like you. Im really sorry, but he should like you for who you are, not how much you put out.
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If you don't feel the same love with him don't do it. I mean it comes like selling your body...you have no love for the person you're just doing it to satify them. Anyway I think you lost the love because you didn't wait to have sex with him and now that it's all done...there's nothing to wait for. Anyway hope I helped
Lotz of Luv
Jamie
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