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Q: I love the guy i'm with but he doesn't give me freedom with my friends and my phone. he's also the jeslous type. he's just like this control freak and he wants me to give him attention all the time, and we argue. should i stay with him or break it off?

break it off. I dated a guy like that and trust me it didnt go well he was constantly blowing my phone up i had to change my cell number and my house phone i slammed on the floor and broke it he just drove me insane.

Q: Please do not judge me if you are dont bother leaving a comment. Im stressed out enough please. I just recently found out i am pregnant and im so unsure of who the father is. My last period was Dec 16-20th I had sex Dec 25th, And then again Jan 1st. My due date is Sept 26th, Im confused i dont understand at all and i have no idea what to do. Alot of people say sperm stays in your body for 5 days, i dont know how true that is. Id like to get a dna test while im pregnant if anyone knows anything about them id really appreciate it.

There are DNA tests like that but they have to test the amnotic fluid how they do that is sticking a needle in your stumoch to draw some of it. dont wait to long but you have to be so far along because i HAD to have one done to check my son for down syndrome i was on bed rest for 2 weeks and couldnt lift more than 10 pounds.it could be either guy but the day your due date it it looks like december 25th guy

Q: I am a women in a relationship and I feel like I want sex more than my boyfriend does and I feel like I'm always begging for it shouldn't it be the other way around? I hate being the only one wanting it. I mean when we do have sex it's amazing but it only last about 10 mins and he talks about when he was younger he could go so much longer but he's only 19! So I've searched the internet and I've got him on vitamins and they worked for a little bit but not so much anymore and he says it's not me he think I'm attractive so idk what to think or if it's even worth it anymore?

You just have to learn to deal. I am in the same situation with my husband and im 19 hes 24. Our sex is amazing but it lasts like 5 minutes. The only other way to do it it kissing foundling etc.

Q: Ok I know a lot of people think this after a break up but I really feel that I won't. I'm the kind of girl who is a lot different to my friends, like my friends will go in and out of relationships and it doesn't mean the same thing to them. I rarely meet a guy I really like/love so when I find love it's even more amazing to me.

I'm not really the type of girl who will strike up a conversation with a guy, mainly because I'm too shy. I have confidence in myself and I know I'm a great girl. But since my boyfriend broke up with me 6 months ago I have felt down. I feel like nobody will make me feel how he did. It's a real shame to me because neither of us really wanted the break up but he felt it was right to end it (maybe it is for the best) he's started seeing a new girl recently and it hurts because although I am happy for him (because she seems so nice and good for him) I still hurt thinking I wish that was me.

What can I do to make myself feel better? :-(

you will feel this way hun. I know that is not what you want to hear, but when my ex boyfriend and I broke up due to cheating lies etc. I felt like my world had ended. There are alot of guys out there. You dont need to look for love right now. focus on your life. what do you want to do. are you employeed? if not where do you want to work at. get your life together and a man you love with just fall into place. youll figure it all out stay strong and have fun with your friends. good luck

Q: Valentines day is right around the corner and I dont know what to get my 18 year old boyfriend. For valentines day last year I got him sunglasses that he really wanted and for his birthday I got him the video game he wanted but no I'm just not finding anything that he needs or that he would want. Any suggestions? I know I could always make things ( i have in the past for anniversaries and such) but I really want to make this valentines day special.
Thanks so much for your time :)

Honestly I am not getting my husband anything for valentines day. We found a movie that is playing that we both want to see and I am taking him out to eat. I am the same age as you guys so dont think im older giving you advice about what to give you teenage boyfriend lol. im just 19. My husband agreed with me when I finally asked him what do you get a guy for valentines day he told me nothing that is my job.

Q: My friend is mad at me because he thinks i told on him, but i didn't and now he's ignoring me what do I do

Just tell your friend the truth tell him. I understand why you are upset, but I am not the one who told on you. You are my friend why would I do something that could ruin our friendship.

Q: so my girlfriend, 4th time being my girlfriend. shes cheating on me like its nothing. i think shes using me. im suicidal and would like help. any advice? im 16 and male. shes 15

You are young. Boyfriend and girlfriends come and go. You can find another girlfiend one day trying with your relationship 4 times and you are only 16 is crazy and not worth it. You have friends spend some time with them and focus on your school work. If you are feeling suicidal, call a theripist and schedule an appt. I know its a stranger but sometimes a stranger can see something that you cant and it helps to talk to them. good luck hun.

Q: ok so I dated this guy for 3 years and it was great in the beginning but it ended terrible and we been seperated for 2 years now and he came to see me from a different state just for my birthday and he asked me to marry him I kinda want to but then agian I wanna no hes changed but i dont want to keep him waiting so long he moves on plus my dads opinion means the world to me and he doesnt really like my ex and telling me i aint aloud to marry him idk what to do i feel trapped in a age with everyone pulling at me please help!!

If you have been seperated I would say no. Marriage can wait. Get to know each other all over again before getting married. I got married young and pretty quick and for like 2 years it was the hardest thing I have ever done.

Q: long story short: my boyfriend and i got into a heated argument last night and things just went a little too far (i was drunk and he was drinking a lot too). i said some things i didn't mean, but he took it to the next level and said some REALLY mean things.... what should i do? my feelings are completely hurt and i feel like i could never forgive him for saying those things... any advice would be great, thanks y'all.

Make a pact together and do it together to quit drinking. Then no one will say hurtful words.

Q: I went into a store to purchase a phone, I meet with the woman behind the counter and she was working alone. I discussed with her the price of the phone and decided that i wanted to buy it, i gave her my cc and she stated that she did not accept cc, so i left went to the ATM took the money out and went back. I had to swap my information over to the new phone an gave her my personal information and she walked away from me I stood there for a while waiting for her. While I was waiting I saw some on the other side of the counter reach behind and take a phone out and put it in there pocket. The woman behind the counter walked right over to him and didn't even notice what he did. He then walked pass me and asked me if I was buying a phone. I pointed to the phone that I was about to purchase. He grabs the phone and walks out the store. I was so scared didn't know what to do because I didn't see the lady so I walked out the store. When I got home she had someone else call me to tell me that the phone was missing and that I came into the store with the guy and one of us took the phone, she has it on camera and that she was going to call the police. I then went back to the store to inform the lady that I didn't take the phone, as soon as she saw me she started saying give me back the phone and something about the guy she has it on camera. I explained to her that I would not give her my personal information an then steal the phone. Could I have warrant? What should I do

Just contact the store manager and explain to him what happen or even talk to the police department about it. No you will not have a warrent. exspecially if they don't even know who you are. Explain to them that the man asked you if you were buying a phone and you pointed to the phone you getting ready to purchase when he reached over the counter took the phone and walked out of the store. just tell them exactly how it happened.

Q: My parents don't like my best friend at all. Just because of a little thing that happened like 7 months ago that i swear, wasn't a big thing. i asked them why they don't like her and they just said "i dont know, just something about her." i've been friends with her long enough and shes a good person. they won't tell me anymore and when i asked more questions they yelled at me. and my status on facebook was about my parents hating my friend and she commented asking if it was about her :/ why, i dont know. but do i tell her? and how do i get them over not liking her? please help me

Parents just want the best and safe live for their kids. Bring your friend around the home for awhile instead of going out. Ask her over for dinner with your family. Everyone play a game etc. Ask if you guys can all go out to eat and if she can go to. interact her with your family so they could get to know her.

Q: If you say anything about "There's a reason for you to be here" or anything about God or giving life a second chance, shove it. I'm 22, have had diabetes since I was 9, have had multiple sclerosis for over a year, have been the president of a club on faith, and have done so many other things that people have suggested. No one gives a shit about me, and that is that. People who I've taken care of for years don't care about me.Life, is bull shit. What is the best way to end it, in your guy's opinion? The least amount of mess too, I've thought about using my pistol, but then there will be brain matter for others to clean up. What is the easiest and cleanest way to commit suicide?

No one on here is going to be willing or allowed to give you any type of advice on what you are asking. You may not want to hear it but there is always someone who is more depressed than you are. Medical problems or what ever. Read up on stuff a woman was just shot in the head because of an idiot, parents lose their children, People are trapped in egypt and cant get out. People who are scared for their lifes and you just want to go ahead and end yours. Its a dumb choice you could be out doing something with your life and helping others weather they care or not make yourself feel good. You can make good friends. Its not the fact of giving life a second chance its not of not giving up now. I have sat on the floor of a shower and slit my wrist because I am 19 married with two kids and had a husband who wouldnt do a dand thing. life sucks im losing my hearing I am starting to lose my vision i just had to have my gallbladder removed i have nodgel on my ribs which any day could turn into cancer. LIFE SUCKS learn to have a bad day and move on to the next if you want someone to talk to write me back im willing to talk if you just need a friend.

Q: im between the ages of 14-17 and i want to be a cosmetologist when i grow up. is it a good career? how much will it pay? wat classes do i need for it?

PS. i decided to choose this career because i love doing hair,makeup, nails etc. so its a job im intersted in.

You start off slow in this field because you have to make your self known. So the more school and training you have the more clients you will have. They pay depends on what you want to charge. I believe the least you charge and they good hair that you do you will make more money because they way the economy is people cant afford expensive hair cuts

Q: don't you guys hate it when people write they whole life on facebook status. like for example if they are shopping they will write "shopping" if they are bored they will write "bored" what do you guys think about this type of people who take facebook too seriously. like twitter..?

It is their buisness what they want to post on their facebook if you dislike it don't have any friends or dont own a facebook. People like letting people know what they are doing " Shopping" im busy dont text my phone. its rude to think people should just post what you want them to post. Thats not life.

Q: it was 2:10 on february 3rd that i noticed i was getting cramps in my legs and slightly in my stomach. this usually means i was getting my period, so i went to the bathroom and, sure enough, there was a little bit of blood in my underwear. the flow was pretty average. then when i came home, i was going to change into a regular sanitary napkin when i noticed the blood had stopped. all that came out was brown discharge (which i knew was dried blood mixed with usual vaginal discharge) this went on for about 5 hours until i started bleeding again. this time, the flow was EXTREMELY heavy. i've used 3 pads between midnight last night and 3:00 this afternoon. now, the blood is still flowing but its still so heavy. i usually don't have flows this heavy. and what was up with it stopping for 4-5 hours? that never happens, either.

I have had periods like this in the past. Now my periods were irregular, I dont get them now (due to birth control) but when I did they were, I am sure you are fine if you are really worried contact your doctor, but periods can always be a little different.

Q: In my daughter's school there will eventually be a swimming unit coming up soon and both boys and girls have the class together. Isn' t kind of wrong to force young people to be in bathing suits in front of each other? Even if its one piece? I assumed they would be seperate. Daughter is in 8th grade by the way

You know your daughter more than we all know her. I can honestly say if I had to take a swim class in high school I just wouldnt. I dont feel it is right to do something like that. I am older now and have a young daughter and if she didnt want to do something like that i wouldnt make her and id do everything i could to get her out of it it should be optional.

Q: my boyfriends daughter is now sick and my kids are not i also got sick after she was back with us after a few days and he says i blame everything on his daughter why does he say this to me he does it quite often?

He might be right. I have a step son and I mean I will do anything for him but I can say that I dont love him like I love my kids its just not the same. He has behavioral problems and is out of control and i felt it was his fault even though its the way he was raised by his grandparents. its hard having step kids you just got to try and treat them same and dont ever talk neg. you cant blame her for getting you sick she cant control when she gets sick. gets get sick we confrot them and then we get sick its the way of life.

Q: Wife caught lying about old (boy)
friend.

You did not post a question or any information about your problem. Is this a problem before you to got together, current, is she talking to this old boy? We don't no any information and cant supply you with information although that answer on here about all woman lieing is not true. I have been married and mmy husband has lied to me even about stupid little things that I dont even care about and he knows now that if he continues lieing that he cant get his stuff and get out but I have never lied to him. Not about money not about anything I tell him straight up how I feel if im upset i talk about it and there are other woman like that to. If you would like to repost your question or ask it to me in an inbox I would love to help you.

Q: so the guy I've been seeing for a good 7 months now came over last night and he said "I can't kiss you my mouth hurts"
and I said ok? well later that night he's like I want to show you what's wrong and he pulled down his lip and there was this white blister type thing, there were two actually. I immediately thought herpes and I gave him this blank stare and he's like "no it's not what you're thinking I've been getting them since I was young" so I though ok..
but this morning we're laying in bed, I look over and he has all these zit looking bumps on his chin. he has 5 o'clock shadow like 24/7 so I never noticed.
now I'm worried it's herpes. anyone know for sure?

There is always a chance that it could be but it sounds more like sores and a heat rash type in the summer my husband gets them real bad he actually got them all around his mouth the day before our wedding my photographer was able to photo shop the out but you put vasiline on it and it goes away.

Q: Hi,
I'm 16 going on 17 year old girl
My boyfriend wants me to go camping with him and his family for a few days my mother says its innapropiate
But we won't be sleeping in the same bed or anything like that.
Is it innapropiate ?

I don't find it innapropiate. I think it sounds fun.

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.