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Today, I found out that my freind told this girl that I don't really know all this stuff. Here it is, my best freind(Jane) told this girl (Jess) that she didn't want this one boy (matt) to like me. See, Jess and Matt used to go out. And since they broke up I have been flirting with him a lot and he has been flirting back. We have a great connection and this Friday we are going ice skating together. Well, my freind Jane, and other freinds are coming and Matt is bringing his freinds. So, Jane told Jess to go prob. so I wouldn't flirt wiht Matt so much. But she also said that she didn't want Matt to like me and that I always flirt with him and he flirts wiht me. AND I guess in one class she had to tell her something that was very important and secretive.. something that is about me. Now I'm mad at her and not talking to her. I don't want to see her and I just want to be mad for awhile and errr. I think Jane has told other people about me too and she's my best freind and I told her everything and really trusted her. How should I act with her? What should I say\? How long should I be mad? Is this my fault? PLease answer... 5s are high!

Maybe Jane still has feelings for Matt. Ask her if she does. Tell her that you value the friendship that the two of you have and that you were disapointed that she was telling other people about your personal life. If she says she is sorry then just let it go. I don't think you should stay mad very long, this sounds like something that will just blow over if you talk to her about it. If you feel like you can't trust her just be careful with what you say around her for awhile.

Love
Kate

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Well, I took a midol at school, and I didn't have anything to wash it down with (my schools water is actually toxic..we've done tests)so I used saliva..well it didn't work to well, and I knew it was residing somewhere near the bottom of my throat. I figured it would go down eventually and didn't worry about it. Well 5 minutes later I started getting a very uncomfortable burning feeling in the lower part of my throat. The pain shot all the way down into my upper back. It went away after an hour (mostly) and I went on with my day. Well today during lunch I realized that everytime I swallowed (food, drink, air) my throat began burning alot, and it feels alot like the time I had broncitis and developed a lot of scar tissue in my throat...uncomfortable. Or the time I vomited 6 times in a row. I know it was the midol, but my question is, "What did it do to me? And should I tell someone or see if it stops...?"

Tell your mom or dad if it still hurts after a while. Drink lots of water and see if it goes away with time. Next time that happens try eating a slice of bread or two and it usually makes the pill go down your throat.

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does anyone know any music that isnt very popular (preferable alternative, indie type bands) or even singers that really no one knows about, but you think will hit it big in 2006? im looking for brand new artists that no one really knows of!! thanks a ton!

Paramore
Morningwood
Panic! At The Disco [If you haven't already heard of them]
Cherry Monroe
Houston Calls

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What are some good JROCK and JPOP bands?
That have some free downloads on a site...? Cuz every time I want to hear a band ..I can't find any online downloads or anything. And I want to hear the music before I buy, you know?

I've only heard of Dir en grey...But I'm sure you can find more online. I suggest you download Limewire from here : http://www.limewire.com
and then search for the bands/artists you would like to hear for free. I know that Dir en grey has several songs on limewire.

Love
Kate

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im 16 and trying to buy my own phone... what plans/services are the best AND cheapest(from your knowledge) I want it to include about 1000mins + unlimited texting...thanks!!

*sprint
*tmobile
*cingular...etc...

I Know that with Sprint and Cingular you get free calls to anyone else who has the same carrier as you. Cingular has something were you pay extra $ a month for free text messages to anyone else with a cingular phone. I'm pretty sure that Sprint offers that too. I don't know anything really about Tmobile. You should talk to your friends and ask what service providers work the best in the area you live. So you don't end up with a phone that never gets a signal.

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heyy i was just wondering if www.limewire.com and the program is illegal
thanks
ANK

Well....
It's sort of illegal in the sense that you are not paying for the music. But it's the same as getting a burned copy of a cd from a friend, as in no one gets in trouble for it.

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Ok theres this boy and i really like him but theres this girl i have known since ever and she is such s butthead cause like everytime i tell her who i like she goes and starts flirting and stuff with him! it makes me so mad! and after awhile she ends up goin out with him and she goes and rubs it in my face i cant take it anymore! and this has happened with every single guy! does anyone have any ideas for me to get noticed or asked out by this guy?

Well for starters stop telling this girl who you like! Just go up to this guy and talk to him. Give him your sn so you can talk online if its easier. Invite him somewhere with a group of friends. Just get to know him better. And this girl sounds like someone I know and I wouldn't tell her anything important.

Love
Kate

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how do you make the heart things not like this



^as you can see it does not work on this site. It doesn't come out as a heart in questions or answers, but it will work on your profile. That code works on websites like myspace and Livejournal too

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hey i have to read 2 books by january 9. one i have already read, and the other i havent! and i dont have the book either. its about 160 pages, and i went to the bookstore today and theyre out of copies for the book. tomorrow im going to 2 different libraries to check, but im afraid that there wont be anymore. what do i do if there arent any copies of the book i need??

PS: if i order it online, it takes 7 days to arrive

You could see if the book is listed on sparknotes and read the chapter notes.

http://www.sparknotes.com

If not you could type in the name of the book on google

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i know the how the saying goes " don't judge a book by its cover ", but i'm still wondering what is it about 'reality' shows that make them so popular. i don't really see anything so special about them whatsoever. im a guy, and i even hear other guys talking about tv shows like its the latest gossip or something. i really don't have time to watch any tv though... ive asked around and everyone always says " because of the drama ", shows like laguna beach, the oc, etc. is that all there is too it or is there more? thanks, will rate.

Alot of it is the drama. But I think another part of it is watching people make complete idiots out of themselves. On shows like "The Real World" the houseguests are given alcohol all the time. It's entertaining to watch people get plastered and end up in a fist fight. But not all reality tv shows are like "The Real World" Some are contests, like "Survivor". Personally I never have watched The OC, and the times I have watched Laguna Beach I felt the kids on the show were acting for the cameras a lot of the time.

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okay, ive tried multiple times, and i cant figure it out by myself. So i thought id just see if anyone on here would help me? FONTS. ive gone to dafont.com, picked out ones i like, clicked downlaod, hit save, and then a window popped up. and then i got confused. will sosmeone help me with getting fontss? Because the fonts on my computer are kind of, suckish =-/ SO if anyone could help me, because it sees like everyone knows this, and i get confused. Take me through it STEP BY STEP if you can!!

To download the font:
1. Click the box on the far right that says "Download"

2. A File download box will pop up and you need to choose "Save"

3. A "Save As" box will appear and you need to choose a place to save it to. I would recomend saving it to the desktop so its easy to find. click "save"


Now you need to install the font on your computer.

1. Go to your desktop and find the new font file.

2.It should be a zipped folder so you need to unzip it. To do this Right click the font file.

3. choose "Extract All.."

4. The winzip wizard should come up. Click Next

5. Now click the browse button

6. A new window will appear. click the plus sign next to My Computer.

7. Now click the plus next to Local Disk
(C drive)

8. Click the plus next to Windows

9. Scroll down and select fonts. click ok

10. Now click Next and finish

Your new font is now installed and you should be able to use it in all programs

If you need more help with this IM me at Pvbandfreak

Love
Kate

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ok i was just wondering is it a safe bet that someone is not a preditor if u have seen them on their webcam or what cause i really lik this guy who really likes me and ive never met him face to face. ive seen tons of pics of him and him on his webcam and hes 16. i would talk to the computer teacher at school or something, but i wont see him intil winter break is over. thanx i rate high

If you are worried that he is not who he says he is you could always ask him for a "proof picture"
Just ask him to take a picture of himself holding a piece of paper with his username or screen name on it.

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I have lots of best friends. But three that are really close. Two of them are guys. One is Steve and I've complained about him before. But I really like him and he's going out with my other really close best friend, Haley. My other best friend, that's a guy, Jeff just told me he liked me on New Year's Eve. He said his Goal for 2006 was to try to win me over from Steve. I LOVE STEVE SOOO MUCH! But how can I let everyone know how I feel with out losing any of my friends?
Okay so here are my main questions:
1. How to tell Steve that I really like him
2. How to tell Haley that I'm like in love with Steve
3. How to let Jeff know that I'd rather just be friends
Thanks a lot!

Ok you're in a tricky situation here...
First off with Jeff, Just tell him that you are only intrested in being friends. And tell him soon, because the longer you wait the harder it will be for him to deal with

You really don't have to tell Haley or steve how you feel. It could cause a major rift in your friendship. You could just wait until they break up and then ask Haley if it would be ok for you to date Steve. But if you are going to tell them I would talk to Haley First so she doesn't end up hearing from steve himself. Explain to her that you would never try to break her and Steve up but that you like him. She is probably going to be upset so choose your words carefully. Explain the same thing to Steve. He might be upset, but probably not as much as Haley will be

Hope this Helped
Love
Kate

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So basicly sense I was little ive been vergbaly and physicly abused.. and I really cant take it anymore I have gotten to the point i feel so low about myself I could crawl in a corner and hide for ever. I have reported my parents and so have other people but nothing has happend. What should I do now?

Someday something will happen and no one will be able to fix it. Im scared

Go to your school guidance office or main office AGAIN and tell them that you are not leaving until they call the police, social services, or another relative to come pick you up [or all three]. Tell them you are not going back to that house again and that you cannot stand around waiting for something terrible to happen.

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and you will get through this.

Love,
Kate

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ok.. this might be long.. so im gonna apologize ahead..

ok well im sooo stressed out i dont even want to live anymore..im sooo sick of everything cause of my friends and my family.. because my parents were divorced and are now getting re-married.. i always have to worryabout getting in fights with my friends because.. they just always wanna fight iwth me..and my mom is really mad at me and wont talk to me cause i said i hated my g-rents which is true.. cause all they do is find the negatives in me and judge me towards one little negative thing about me..and they dont even nkow me..and im sooo sick of being judge by people who dont know me.. and then there's this guy.. that i went out with but then he wanted to be friends except i was having trouble with it cause i think i loved him and i always will no matter how much he pushes me away.. but thats the thing... that hurts me soo bad knowing im uncapable of being loved..and im having soo much trouble with being happy.. cause all i want to do is cry and like hurt myself.. i hate it but i cant help it.. and i dont know how to smile and really mean it anymore.. i feel like no1 loves me and im always paranoid that people talk about me and call me ugly and fat.. and im always stressed..and i cry alot... so my questions are..
who can i talk to?
how can i regain happiness?
what can i do to be confident?
..what should i do..

please help!! i rate high!!

It is sometimes easier to talk to someone you don't know then someone you are really close to. You can email me at pvbandfreak@yahoo.com or instant message me on aim at Pvbandfeak I'm not going to judge you and anything you tell me will be 100% confidential. I have been in the same spot as you. There was a time when I couldnt go a day without thoughts of suicide. I tried to kill myself one night and left a post on my web journal telling everybody goodbye. I failed at my attempt and went online to find tons of comments from people I didnt consider my friends. Girls that i havent talked to in months called my house to make sure i was alright. Anyway the point of that story is .... YOU DO HAVE PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT YOU! And probably no one is talking about you...and if they are let them, its quite pathetic if you have nothing better to do than talk about other people.

I'm assuming that you are in highshool or middle school. I read this book called "High School's Not Forever" It really helped me get through all of the crap I had to deal with everyday...

Please feel free to email or instant message me

Love Kate

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http://www.misprintedtype.com/v3/fonts.php
im trying to download a font from that site
but i cant figure out how, i have the winzip 10.0 program
will rate 5s for anything
thanks so much

Ok this is how I install fonts on my computer.

1. Download the font and save it to the desktop.

2.It should be a zipped folder so you need to go to the desktop and right click the font file.

3. choose "Extract All.."

4. The winzip wizard should come up. CLick Next

5. Now click the browse button

6. A new window will appear. click the plus sign next to My Computer.

7. Now click the plus next to Local Disk
(C drive)

8. Click the plus next to Windows

9. Scroll down and select fonts. click ok

10. Now click Next and finish

Your new font is now installed and you should be able to use it in all programs

If you need more help with this IM me at Pvbandfreak

Love
Kate

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When people make things out of papier mache, how do they make it smooth? I mean, it's strips of newspaper, right?

You just smooth it out with your hands until before it dries =]

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i recently got limewire.. what are some good songs to download??

i like most stuff from screamo to pop

&& some of my favorite bands are hellogoodbye, box car racer, underoath, panic! at the disco and stuff like that

thankss

The Academy Is - Attention Attention
The Academy Is - Checkmarks
Taking Back Sunday - You're So Last Summer
Armor For Sleep - Car Underwater
Armor For Sleep - The Truth About Heaven
The Hush Sound - Hourglass
Fall Out Boy - XO
Fall Out Boy - Pretty In Punk
The Kinson - A New Way to Dance
My Chemical Romance - Drowning Lessons
Green Day - Pop Rocks and Coke
The Used - I'm a Fake
Taking Back Sunday - Slow dance on the inside
Taking Back Sunday - There's No I In Team
Taking Back Sunday - Cute without the E
Senses Fail - Lady in the blue dress
Senses Fail - Martini Kiss
Senses Fail - You're Cute When You Scream
Senses Fail - One Eight Seven
Story of the Year - Sidewalks
Acceptance - Different
My Chemical Romance - Helena
My Chemical Romance - Ghost of You
The Academy Is - Down and Out
The All American Rejects - It ends tonight
The All American Rejects - The Last Song
The All American Rejects - One More Sad Song
The All American Rejects - Stab My Back
Sum 41 - Pieces
Blink 182 - Adams Song
The Used - All That I've Got
The Used - A Box Full Of Sharp Object
Straylight Run - Existentialism on Prom Night
From First To Last - Emily
Houston Calls - Exit, Emergency


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ever since my parents have divorced and me and my 2 sisters and my brother have moved to LA my youngest sister (7th grader) has been acting older then she is she can definally pass to be about 16 but that never mattered much in NY but here she is hanging out with girls that were to much make up and not enough cloths. Shes learned how to dirty dance and is making out with tons of guys. She is never home nemore and she looks like a whore when ever she goes ne where! like this morning: she came home around 2am this morning no one new where she was er any thing and when she got in she was wearing a black mini and a hot pink holter top. she was wasted and she had on so much make up that when she took it off she went through 13 clearisel pads! what should i do? she is so smart and pretty but now shes acts stupid and is flunking school!

HELP!!!

xoxoKristen

It sounds like your sister is acting out to get some more attention. Is she upset that your famliy had to move? You really need to find her help. Drinking at such a young age leads to binge drinking for most of your life. Have you tried talking to her? Maybe you and you sister could spend some time one on one and just talk about things.

Hope I Helped

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1. Where is a good site to get psp brushes

2. How do u get them on there? I know to unzip and stuff but what folder do they go in

Be sure to download for the correct verison. Brushes made for psp 7 WILL NOT work in psp 8 or psp 9. But the brushess for psp 8 and 9 are the same

http://www.ftmagic.com/brushes.html
http://home.wi.rr.com/ashandmanda/brushes02.htm
http://aquired-taste.net/index2.php/?m=200507

You can also search for brush communities on Livejournal

To Install Brushes :

When you download the zipped file save it somewhere where you will remember where it is. I have a folder for downloaded brushes on my desktop.

After the file is complete. Go to where you saved the zipped file and right-click, "extract all" Go through the wizard.

Now open psp. Click File, Import, Custom Brush.

Now click "open" and find your unzipped brush folder.
Select one or all of the files you want and click ok
Then click "Add All" and then Ok

Your brushes are now installed!

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