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I just hooked up with this reeallly amazing guy and now On Friday we are going skating, well we arnt gonna skate just to see acouple of my friends and I invited him along.. I duno if it would be concidered a date seeing as though we will be together.. but im so nervous...
HELPPP! (link)
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It's true, there is a fine line between "casual get together" and a date if you two just started going out. You don't have to be all lovey-dovey around your friends. You might gross them out. If you nervous, just relax. Your boyfriend shouldn't be pushing you to do anything that you don't want to do so you shouldn't have to worry about anything.
-Joce
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Hi my friend katie is a little over weight... but the thing is i dont think she realizes it and its not a big deal that she has a few extra pounds but its the clothes she wears. She wears really tiny mini skirts and tight shirts that do not flatter her at all. Everyone makes fun of her behind her back for it and she doesn't realize it how can i confront her about this without hurting her feelings, she is a really sensitive girl and she cares about what she looks like more than anything.. very superficial so i don't want to hurt her feelings, I think that it would hurt her ore if she heard what people said about her.. please help (link)
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You probably don't want to confront her and tell her strait forward "you are chubby." Even though appearance isn't everything, just let her know that the clothes that she wears aren't exactly trendy. You can suggest going to the mall and buying clothes or getting her clothes that you think better suit her for her birthday and other occasions. Sooner or later, she will pick up your hints and maybe even adapt to a new style. Try it and if this strategy doesn't work then just mail me. Just don't hurt her feelings. Watch yourself
-Joce
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Hi, im 13 years old. I am a female. I am having a problem with a lot of girls in my school. 2 of my friends kept sayin the other one was saying things aboyut me.Ashley of them said that Paige was saying stuff about my mom. The Paige said it wasn't true. Paige that said it wasn't true is the Ashley's friend still. I told her if it isn't true then why would you still be her friend if she is lying and she said because she is not going to not be my friend just because she said something that wasn't true. Now i'm neither of there friends. Because they ae always telling me lies. and saying things behind my back. I don't know what to do. What should I do? Thanks for listening. (link)
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well, first off, it sounds like ur friends have some issues of their own. If they are really your friends, they would not be putting you through such stuff. Personally, i'd recommend leaving those friends, and finding new friends. You depend on a friend to talk to, to console and help u, not to lie to u.
-AJ
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If *males* would answer this it would be great, but females with knowledge are good too. Please.. How do you know if a boy likes you? Or doesn't like you? Is it true that if they're kinda rude, they like you then? I have NO idea whether I should ask this person out.. But I don't think he likes me. I know him a *little* more than he does me..? (link)
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1) he pays attention to u more than anyone else around
2) he makes eye contact with you a lot, sometimes witout even talkin with u
3) he speaks softer when around you
4) he tries to make physical contact with you, from a high five (guy hug) or a hug
5) he hints at things, like going out
-AJ
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how do i get a girl to like me (link)
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1) Act like you're older than you really are
2) Make sure you act like you're strait.. girls don't like gay men...
3) Become good friends with her first
4) Don't be embarassing
5) Don't dress in stupid clothes
6) Don't beat box between every conversation
7) Make sure you let her boss you around
8) Let her beat you even if you know that you can win
9) Get to know her well
10) Don't talk about yourself all the time
11) Don't push things too fast
12) always try to make the first move
13) Get some muscle
14) Support her in whatever... -__o
15) Don't ever call her fat!!!
-Joce
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if u r younger and hav a friend who is only few yrs old, not too much of difference but can it bond more than a friendship and become somthing more? (link)
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Of course it can. A few years really isn't that much. My parents had 6 years between them and they are a happy happy couple. The part about being more than just friends is up to you though. If you choose to become more than just friends then of course it can become something more. You can become best friends, better friends, lovers... you can choose
-Joce
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My dad recently quit his job. He didn't like the managment or something. It's been like 7 months or so and I'm worried that he won't be able to find one and we will run out of money soon. I'm also worried because my dad doesn't do anything all day while im at school. I used to come home everyday and find him sitting there wastching the TV. Thankfully he's starting to get out more and do things. Is there any way I can help him find the job he is looking for? (link)
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It doesn't seem like your dad is having any worries about money if he is staying at home and watching TV all day. So I'm not sure if it is a large issue; however, if you are concerned about being unemployed then you may want to consider talking to him about it. Bring up the subject like "HAve you found a job yet?" Look in the newspaper for jobs for him and he may follow along.
-Joce
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Im a straight A student and I have never really cared much about my grades. It isn't hard for me to get a A at my school. I am in 6th grade and I know this isn't very serious but I'm worried. I have gotten a B+ on my test in math...yeah I know no big deal...and I know it isn't. I just took it as a sign to pay attention in class, which I do. I recently got a A+ on my math test so everything is fine in math. I'm not worried about any of my other classes except language arts. For the past two quarters its been a easy A. I got a B or a B+ on one of my tests and I was like alright, that was just a mistake I made and I'll be sure to pay more attention. Well we did these powerpoint presentations on the book 'The Cay' and I got a C on it. I was at a 92% and I'm not sure how far this will drop my grade. I really don't want to have to get a b+ on my report card. I know I sound pretty preppy or whatever but it's not that. My dad has been having 'trouble' letting go of me lately because boys have been asking me out and my friensd are trying to get me to go to the movies with the boys and I've been buying shorter skirts...and I know he isn't exactly the happiest man in the world. I just know he would be dissappointed if I came home. The real question is , is there anything I can do to bring my grade up? (link)
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If you really must know, your grade in middle school really doesn't matter. The grades that really matter are the ones that you get in highschool. If you want to bring your grades up then you may have to skip some events that you're invited to (such as movies with your friends etc). Don't worry too much about your grades, jut make sure that you don't slack off. One piece of advice that I can really give you (even though you never asked about this) is to do a lot of extra curricular activities outside and inside of school. Take a foreign language, plan an instrument, play sports. Trust me, you're at an age where it's really easy to start doing things like that and the extra stuff will really helped me when I was in middle school. It teaches you self confidence, determination, and responsibility. Don't worry chief, one B will not kill you. Just try a little harder and it will do you a lot of good.
-Joce
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Yeah, so I don't usually ask questions, but I'm curious as to what you all think I should do.
I've been thinking about, er...going all the way with my boyfriend. I'm sixteen. He's seventeen, turning eighteen in late May. I know I'm young, but...eh. He hasn't been pressuring me at all, so that's not an issue. He loves me, I love him, we're planning, if all goes well, to live together when we graduate. I trust him and everything, but I'm concerned about the risks involved. I could get pregnant...I'm not worried about STDs because no one in either of our families has ever had one. Oh, and we're both virgins, in case you couldn't tell...Lol. I'm also just thinking...my mom has always told me "if you ever want to become sexually active, you should come to me so we can get you birth control. I wouldn't be happy with you, but I'd get you protection. If you ever got pregnant, I'd make you have an abortion." I can't imagine actually talking to her about it. It would be so horridly awkward, and she'd be so unhappy with me...My mom and I are fairly close. I'm also not sure if I'm ready. I mean, we've come close a few times, and I sorta panicked. I've just been thinking about it more lately and it's starting not to freak me out so much. What should I do? (link)
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It sounds like you are what many would call "ready" to go all the way with your boyfriend. If you are willing to have sex with him just make sure, as you said, that it is protected. Use a condom, make sure neither your boyfriend nor you have any sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDs. Even though you SHOULD tell your mom the truth, sometimes you have to draw the line at stuff that your parents should and should not be participating in. It's perfectly normal to not tell your parents about your sexual life. I'm sure that when your mom was sexually active she didn't go around saying "Can I have sex with so and so, Mommy?" However, if you're comfortable telling her then that's just fine. All I can say is be safe and have fun!
-Joce
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If I once had some close friends, but something happened and we all drifted apart, what's a good way to decrease the distance again? I don't really know what happened. I still talk to some of them, but the others avoid me as though I was a plague or something of that sort. (link)
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If you have drifted apart from some of your friends, then you should try to talk to them more often. Join in their conversations, go places with them, spend time with them after shcool hours, etc. Sometimes things like this happen and we can't do anything about it. If you really want to keep your friends then just try to talk to them more often and talk to them about how you feel about your relationships. IF some are avoiding you, it may not be intentional. They might actually be wanting you to talk to them and may be thinking the exact same thing as you. Don't think poorly of your friends who are "ignoring" you. They most likely didn't know how you felt and if you tell them or try to talk to them, they should comfort you with opened arms.
-Joce
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i soiled my pants and got dumped...should i get diapers? (link)
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doye... -__-|| hello brent...
-Joce
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how do i noe...wen i get my wet dream?
wut does it look like..?
wut does it feel like? (link)
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well, usually u wake up, and u r all wet
wet dream= ejaculating wen u r asleep
-AJ
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My friend and I have been "friends" for about 4 years now but ever since the beginning, I've wanted to become more than just friends. Last summer I told him that I did like him in that way and I wished that we could become more than just friends and see what happens but he said that he didn't know me well enough. I've been trying to go everywhere I can with him and see him as often as possible because I DO want to get to know him better... last weekend (for the first time) he started hitting on me which kinda made me happy... ^^;; but after the weekend was over, he called me and said to forget the whole thing because he was just fooling around. I was totally crushed because he KNEW that i liked him... I don't know what to do any more. Should I move on? Four years is a pretty long time and we're both going to college in 2 years... is it too late to try and start a relationship? (link)
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Woah, i didn't noe that much. Well, where to start. First off, i'm sry that he crushed u like that, noone should be messed around like that with their emotions. Personally, i would move on. 4 years is a long time to spend on just one person, especially at such a young age. Everyone deserves better than to try and be wit someone, then be fooled into thinkin that they r, only to be pushed away again. There are much better guys out there, and there r sure to be ones that will care for u better than that one. Amazing how u r able to coordinate ur colleges, but i would recommend to at least try and be friends with him Another friend never hurt anyone, but another x-boyfriend hurts both involved.
-AJ
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My bf loves me so much and he says he wont make me have sex with him, but he says it all the time. Is it just me or should I feel like I'm a bad girlfriend for not haveing sex with him... I mean Hes saying I dont have to but in his mind i know hes saying 'i want sex, i mean we've been together for 3 month,.. havent you kept me waiting'. I guess my question is, what should i do,.. should i do what my heart says and not have sex with him because i'll be breaking my religous promise, or have sex with him so I can keep him? I know I'm making it sound like hes a bad guy bad hes not hes a sweet heart.... (link)
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Don't let your bf persuade you into doing ANYTHING that you don't want to do. If he wants sex then he can wait. It's one of those things that you just do when you're ready. If you're not ready then don't worry about it. Three months isn't very long anyways so it will probably be smart to not rush into anything because you may regret it. Don't tell him deliberately that you "do not want sex" because he has never actually said that he wants it. However, you may want to consider hinting it the next time he brings up the subject.
-Joce
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i have a crush on a girl and i dont know if she likes me i need help :/ (link)
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It's true, girls DO like it when guys make the first move. Flirt a bit, show your affection towards her. BUT! don't go strait forward into the situation where you say "I like you! ^^" that's a big no-no. This girl will not only think that you're a total flake, but if she had any interest in you then it might just be totally thrown out the window. IF you want to know if she likes you then start making some moves. Ask around and see if her friends know anything about what she thinks. Eh.. that's as much advice as I can give you. If you need anymore help, just mail me.
-Joce
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I'm 25/Female and stuck! I'm in a serious relationship, but still haven't completely gotten over my first relationship back in high school. That guy and I don't talk anymore, but he constantly visits my website, so I know he's at least thinking of me too. My question is, is it a bad idea to make contact with him, or am I setting myself for more trouble by just being silent? I guess it depends if you're practical or whimsical, and I'm a little of both. (link)
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In my opinion, you are in for trouble. If you and your ex-boyfriend broke up then there must have been a reason. If you get back together again then I'm sure that you will find another problem and end up breaking up. Then you may end up getting together and breaking up... AGAIN! Don't set yourself up for this, I've seen it happen in many occasions. Make sure you wait to find that perfect guy. You might want to consider becoming friends again with your ex-boyfriend though.
-Joce
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I Was cast as puck in act five for the school play. I really hate that part. I really want to be in the school play but I really don't want to be puck, especially in act five. I don't understand why they cast me as puck since I'm a girl and auditioned for Titania and the lovers. What should I do? (link)
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Although it may not be the greatest part, you should still take it if you want to be in the play. The more plays you go into, the higher chance you have to get a better part in the next play.
-Joce
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i have a boyfriend but he dont give it up to my satisfaction but there is this other guy and he is so georgous i mean drop dead georgous he has a girlfriend but she is a flake she is my boyfriend's daughter got it so far ok i would love nothing more than to have a fling with the mr drop dead georgous one i no i probably should not but i can hardly contain myself when he is around which is often my current relationship is not going anywhere in the sex department i dont think the drop dead guy has an interest in me at all how can i let him know that if he wants to have a fling it is ok maybe some of you are thinking this is wrong but if it wrong i dont wanna be right (link)
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If your current boyfriend doesn't satisy you then I would dump him. The "drop dead gorgeous" guy is making me wonder though... if his girlfriend is your current bf's daughter then the idea of age difference is really rushing through my mind here. Don't start anything too out of control, but I assure you that being single and just playing around is much more fun. You never know what could happen, so just make sure you have fun. ^__^
-Joce
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i recently have been excommunicated out of a great church due to not following their rules i was happy there part of me wants it back but part of me wants to live the way i want to live how do i get it all to mesh together so i can be happy all the time i loved the church i really still do i miss it all what should i do if you need more details please let me know but i warn you it is long well if anyone can help let me know (link)
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Even though you had probably made many great friends and experienced many fond memories at your old church, it is time for you to move on. If you enjoyed church so much then it would probably be a good idea to start going to a different church.
-Joce
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I have a boyfriend that i've been going out with for almost 3 months now, and he is slowly making him way to making me feel comfortable with him "sexualy". I love my boyfriend, and i would hate to lose him, and I want to but I was taught to wait until you have sex. What should I do? (link)
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I'm sorry dear, but 3 months is a really short time. Don't become sexually active until you know that you're absolutely ready. If you have even the slightest doubt that you're not ready don't lose your virginity; however, if you do become much closer to him and you do find that the time is right, make sure that you use a condom ;) that's my advice for you chief. Don't let him force you into doing anything that you don't want to do of course.
-Joce
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