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When me and my boyfriend get ready to have sex it takes him along time to get his private part into mine. Me and him both get each other in the mood before we even try to have sex, but it still takes a while for him to actually get in there. I've been with him for 2 years and he's the only one i've did "it" with. Is this normal?
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im sure there is nothing wrong with his PENIS while you guys are having SEX its normal i guess i hear that a lot that the guy is having trouble findidng the whole. its normal.
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lately when i've been pooping, the poop is so big that it actually made a small tear in my asshole that i bleed. i know its not blood in the poop because the poop isn't bloody. its not a lot of blood just as if you had got a bad paper cut but it hurts like OH MY GOD. and it burns. i have a fairly normal diet so im not sure why my crap is so huge. any reasons for this? (link)
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well some of the things you eat could be the problem like colliflower or beans you know veges and stuff and holding it in my brothers do that all the time to see who has the biggest poop its gross well they are boys but that probally why
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There's this guy I've been liking 4 2 years now. he likes me 2 but he also likes another girl. So I was sitting down in the back of the church and he was in front of me and was hugging and kissing a girl
(just like he does me) and he was doing all that and I started crying. When I got home he called me saying that the girl he was hugging and kissing says she loves him but really doesn't and stuff like that. Well I told him that's wat he's doing 2 me. Well he doesn't want 2 belive me he thinks that he's the only 1 with feelings. It hurts I want 2 get over him so bad but I love him 2 much I just want 2 die soooo badly someone please help me before I end up hurting myself (link)
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ok that guy isnt for you you need to tell him what you just said that hes not the only one with feelings you have them too. and if it still doesnt work out then hes a pimp and needs to go hump a tree. getting over a guy that you love is hard what you need to do is just cry thats it and hang out with friends and family that helps a lot and thats all you need try not calling him or meeting him places
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I'm 18. I'm not sexually active but I would like to be and I think it would make relationships a hell of a lot easier. The only problem is that i'm really afraid of the result....meaning....the pain and initial hymen-popping and whatnot. I've done everything sexual other than sex but I have NOT been fingered nor have I fingered myself or used a tampon. I'm uncomfortable with anything being inside. I'm worried that this will make sex completely unattainable.
Is there any way I can "train" my vagina to be a bit looser? Anything! (link)
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ok well you have to remember your body mite be ready and you think your ready but emotianlly it can damamge you it mite not make the relationship so much better but worse its sorta a fact the 2 out 4 people who have sex their relationship only lasts for another 3 months or so.. and if you do need to make your vagina bigger more ready i heard that fingering yourself or him doing it will help it.!
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one of my best friends just broke up with her boyfriend and they don't get along at all. i've been talking to her alot about it and him so i kinda have both sides of the story. ever since him and i have become pretty good friends and he sorta flirts with me, i don't know if he means to but he definetly does it. when im with him i think i like him a little but when im not i feel terrible because how can i date my best friends ex. especially when shes not cool with it? any advice.
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well you dont know for sure if you guys will be going out until he acutally asks you rite. well when he does you have a problem just make sure your best friend doesnt see you or hear your flirting with her ex shell get over it eventually but maybe she wont be ok with you. if your not honost with her shell never talk to you again. if hes does happend to ask you out you have to tell him i need to discus this with my BEST friend. no guy is worth loosing a friend over. talk to her saying that Bobby asked me out i havnt said yes yet but i wanted to know how you would feel about it if i were to go out with him and if shes not then you have to choose a guy that will break your heart in maybe two weeks or a BEST friend that lasts until the day you die!
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i'm 16/f. the Nuva Ring is my first form of birth control that i'm trying. i just put it in on February 7. the info about it saysu should use some other form of birth control during the first week. of course i didn't do that. within the first 5 days, my b/f and i had sex and he "came" inside me. we had sex on Valentine's Day, of course, and then on Saturday night. on saturday night, he "came" inside me and when he was finished, he noticed the Nuva Ring was around his penis. is there a chance that i could be pregnant? my friend said no but i'm not sure.
it seems to me that my boobs are a lil bigger but that could just be me.
all advice is appreciated
Thank you!! Muchos Gracias!!
--Lazy_One (link)
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well idk about the pregante thing you should always be safe and get a pregnancy test and well the boob thing well when a lady is about to have her period her boobs are either sore or getting slitely bigger or both it happends
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i asked my mom if she could take me to my boyfriends house, and she said no so i started to flip out at her. so i called my boyfriend and said sorry i cant getta ride there. and he said why so i explained to him what my mom said. and then my mom grabbed the portable outta my hand and threw it out the window. then she said "give me your cell phone" i threw a fit and ran upstairs and locked my door and texted my boyfriend saying "my moms going physco, shes taking my cell away, ily" and then i went to my bed to 'fake cry' "dont take my cell away stop it!" and she knocked my door down, and started crying "laura, i cant tell you why, but i need your cell phone, i cant tell you, ou wouldnt understand, i cant tell you, im sorry" and she started sobbing on me andi started crying on her, so i took my battery out i was like fine.. here. and she was liek "i need the whole phone!" andi threw another fit and she just left with half of my phone... does anyone have any idea whats going on? my mom never asks me for anything and she always gives me what i want.. but whats happening!??? (link)
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wow well i think you should be mature about this dont act like your in seventh grade and calmly ask her whats going on im not liking this. i think its has to do with your boyfriend i think she found something out about him. im not positive thou cuz im not your mother. or theres something going on and needs to work it out. if you need any more help just IM me @ slearnaro92 after you talked to her and such or you tried and it didnt work out well
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im 18, but still in high school, dont have a job, but working on a becomming a nurse along with graduating high school, and im in a stable relationship with a "commited" boyfriend.. but who knows what the future holds with those. I also have a great relationship with both of my parents...but I have these urges to have a baby or to get pregnant. iv always LOVED kids and working with them or baby sitting or playing or teaching. i always knew i wanted kids. and my mom said when i was in my mid 20s i was going to have these crazy urges to have kids esspecially with the way i love kids. im really afraid i mgith have a kid NOW. because i think they are already starting... i dont know if anybody has ever had one of these urges. i know its dumb to want one right now. but if you have ever had one of these urges or something tell me what i can do. i dont it to be a in the moment dicision.. i want to be ready and be planned. what do i do?? thank you so much. and i really hope you dont think im dumb for asking this (link)
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this is not a dumb question i really think you should wait my mom told me thats a womens insticnt that we all go through it. but your not ready i would wait until your married
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I was wondering how long does a relationship has to go on before kissing happens I mean possibly every day or once in a while and how do I let him know I wanna start doing that
PS: My parents won't let me go on a date with just me and a guy until I am 16 so we will never be alone out in public only at school.I am 14. (link)
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well i usually wait a week or two just so the guy knows im something special and if you want to get with me your going to have to treat me like im special. so around there it alaways works you dont always have to talk about it you can just look at him and do it in the rite moment of course. and the dating thing go on a group date with a couple of his friedns and yours to the movies. so that way you arnt alone. the same thing can happen at the mall or bowling or mini golfing or w.e uk!
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Okay.. this may be kinda long. My boyfriend Levi and I have been together for a year and 7 months. Earlier in our relationship [[ about 6-8 months ago ]] Levi lied to me sometimes. about things of little to medium importance. and when i told him i wouldnt stand for lying at all, and i would break up with him if he did it again. So he promised me he never ever would again. And he didnt. I'm sure. So then this past friday, i was talking to him on the phone and he said he was going to his cousin's house at 1:30 pm. which was fine. even though i hate his cousins Blake and Bryce. They get into trouble and peer pressure him into doing things. So then we were talking and he said that his cousin Blake said he would buy him a cigar and they would smoke together [[ Levi just turned 18 last wednesday ]] so i told Levi that I had planned on surprising him with a cigar for his birthday. and I had hoped that he would smoke his first cigar with me. He had been wanting to smoke one for years. Though i dont like him smoking. so long as it's an occasional thing. with his dad or something i dont care. but i dont want him doing that with his cousins. and he knows that. so anyway... he thought it was stupid that i both his cousin and his girlfriend were fighting over his first time. and he got kinda mad. i told him i had planned on surprising him with a cigar. he finally, reluctantly said "okay. I'll just tell Blake that I told you I'd smoke my first one with you..." and I said "Promise you'll wait to do that with me?" and he said "yes." Then later, he called me from his cousin's house to tell me that he was "peer pressured" into smoking one with Blake! he kept saying he was sorry and he wanted to make it up to me. so he ditched his cousins and came and spent the night with me instead of with his cousins.
[[ he had originally planned on staying the night with his cousins on friday night, then coming over to my house on saturday around noon, then spending saturday night with me and going home sunday morning to do homework.]]
he came over and stayed with me friday night, through saturday, then he left sunday at 1 pm. then he did his homework and we talked late that night and i let him know i was still very angry with him that he lied to me, especially after i told him that i would break up with him if he lied again. about anything. he just keeps apoligizing. [[ by the way, he ended up smoking a cigar that i got him also. ]] but he says cigars are stupid in the end. so anyway.. when we're talking sunday night he said he'd finished his homework and was planning to go see me on monday [ no school, president's day ] so he called me in the morning and he was on his way. we spent sunday together then he had to leave at 11:30 pm.
another problem is his mother... oh my gosh. i dropped out of school [[ which i realize was a mistake now ]] and she wont stop making stupid comments about it to Levi. I've never met her in person because she's such a bitch. Last wednesday, Levi and his mom were in the car driving home from his birthday party when they were talking about his aunt and uncle getting divorced and his aunt getting alimony. and his mom said "You see what happens when you get involved with someone who cant work?"
Levi wouldnt talk to her the rest of the night. I called him that night and he said he wanted to be left alone. But he told me what happened.
The next day was Valentine's day and he told his mom he was coming over to my house. He did, and it was great. Then friday, his dad drove him to his mom's house to pick up his xbox 360 and she checked him for hickeys! levi thought she was kidding around because she was laughing while she did it to be inconspicuous! what a bitch. he's an adult! so i told Levi he needs 2 talk to her. or move out or something! I'm not going to deal with her shit anymore. and he shouldn't either. she's a huge problem in our relationship. he told me he wont move out unless she gives him reason to. as if she hasn't... so he's going to talk to her later today i think. So I guess what I'm wanting to know people's opinions on all of this. like Whether or not I should break up with him over lying to me, and what you think about him not moving into his dad's house to get away from his mom to help our relationship? any comments would help. Thank you so much! So sorry it's so long. (link)
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ok you shouldnt break up with him for some stupid lie like that if its more serious like he cheated on you and lied to you saying he would be at his cuzins house but wanst then ya break up with him but no to the breaking up thing and i think you should talk to his mom to makes things better is shouldnt be him. you have to tell her that you feel she is recking the relationship between you and him. and droping out of school was a huge mistake and you know that.
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What are some GOOOD sites where i can get GOOOD myspace layouts for girlllls
please && thanks i rate high (link)
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whateverlife.com
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Why is it that some fellow advicenators tell young girls and boys it is okay to have sex or do other sexual acts "if they feel that they are ready" when they know that it is wrong. I believe they are just looking to get good ratings, do you agree? I'd much rather tell them the truth, that they are TOO YOUNG and have NO IDEA of potential consequences BESIDES pregnancy and get a lower rating than tell them it's okay. Am I the only one?
I suppose this can be seen as purely subjective, but is there anyone out there at or about my age (20) who thinks it's ok for 12 year olds to go around having oral sex and/or intercourse?
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i totally agree i tell most kids that age that i think its wrong for them at that age to being stuff like that ive told them that people thier age will be calling them a whore or a slut. and i have no care in the world if they give me a one for a rating im telling them the advice that they wanted and im going to give it. i think its still wise to tell them what they should expect as well like not only will you have to worry about getting pregnate but why are you doing this at this age do you love the guy how long have you known him a month then dont do it. its not worth it. And telling them about the stds that could be carried and emotinal consequncees. sry i cant spell for my life but i so agree with you.
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My sister is homeschooled and is 10 in the 7th grade how long do you think it will take for her to get in collage cause my parents think that if she does work over the summer she will be in 8th by the end of summer. What do you guys think. (link)
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i met this guy who is 16 and he was homeschooled all his life and said that he was going to college now so probally around that time ya.!
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My best friend's brother and I hooked up 2 nights ago. We didn't have sex, but we did other stuff. I don't know if he likes me again or not, because originally we were talking all christmas break, but he didn't ask me out because he was still in love with a girl who lives across the country, but we still flirted all the time. He also gets mad when I talk to me ex,(but that just might be because my ex has messed with me too much, i dont know.) So, this weekend I stayed at his house and my bff went to bed and I wasn't tired yet, so we chilled like usual, except he was being more perv than usual, and we just wound up hooking up, and when I went to be he wanted a hug (which is not something we usually do) and the next day he slept all day but woke up right when I left and asked for a hug and told me sorry for being sleepy all day and that he wasnt feeling well.
I know things arent going to be awkward, but does he like me again, or do you think this was just a onetime deal? (link)
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it could have been just a hook up but who knows until you talk to him about it if you like him youll have to tell him about it just to see if he likes you and it seems like he does he got up to give you a hug to some people it mite not seem like anything but the little things count too. alot!
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I am desperate! I will buy anything to make my hair look better. I normally straightened it but it takes time and I want to love my hair not straighten it.
I'm 15/F chinese and I have curly/frizzy/dry hair. What I want is able to curl my hair, have less volume, and decrease frizz by a whole lot.
When I come out of the shower, it's like all hair...wet (haha) and easily can break. However, as it drys (very quickly) it tends to frizz and loose its curl.
What products can I use to define my curl without adding volume to it (I hate huge hair) and decreasing the frizz and able to control it.
Any products would be great or techniques. (link)
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SUNSILK has everything you need they tell you what its used for they have split ends for frizzy hair for your hair color any thing i use most of them they have shampoo and conditier and gel its great try it its not much at all just a couple of dollars!
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Okay, now most people who are going to read this, i dont really know how to word what im saying, but hopefully you'll be able to understand my situation.
now my problem is i feel weird around my parents, when im getting closer and closer with the boyfriend that i have, that they dont know about.
let me fill you in about my relationships with my parents & boyfriend. okay with my parents- im closer with my dad. hes really cool, like he's protective and cautious, but he knows when he needs to just lay off. he also is really smart, and helps me with alot of sticky situations. and my mom, im usually in that "mom leave me alone, im not in the mood. go away" phase, but shes pretty cool. but she can also be a little to noisy, and protective.
& my boyfriend, he really likes me. more then i like him. which is okay, i guess. hes extremely sweet, and respectable.
okay, back to my problem.
i feel kind of weird when we talk about our feelings for each other, like im kind of betraying my parents. i love my parents, but for some reason i just do not want to tell them i have a boyfriend. its just weird. and i do not want to tell them. so whenever my boyfriend and i get closer and closer, i just get a weird feeling like i shouldnt be with him. i dont know why i get that feeling, so i was hoping you could tell me what you think. i need some really good advice here, i dont know what to do.
i feel weird when it comes to boyfriends-family.
help?!
thank you guys (link)
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im sorta like you i wont tell anyone about who im going out with unless its been more than two weeks and thats it if i know that well be together a long time then ill tell them. i think your feeling like your lying to your parents and thats normal then do what your feeling tell them it seems like you and your boyfriend are going to stay together a while you need to tell your parents whats going on in your life so you dont feel your always sneaking around. its a lil akward to talk about stuff like your love life but whats not rite.
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Well I was in a relationship with this boy....i'll just say his name is bob. Anywayyss I thought everything was going great in our relationship but out of nowhere we're alone in my room and we get into this BIG argument that ends with him hitting me and raping me! Could it be that I did somethin wrong? (link)
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ok well NEVER should a man or anyone hit you or touch you in any way never ever NEVER i cant stress that enough what you need to do it tell on him to the police talk to someone about it this is so not rite. you cant let this happen to you ever it doesnt matter if you were arguing about what pair of socks or who cheated on who ending up in that situation is never ok you did nothing wrong as far as im concerned but for real do something about what happend to you or it will come back to haunt you.
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I split up with my best friend about a year ago. And only about a week ago he apologized and wants to be friends again but when he was a dickhead he hacked my myspace and email and said loads of bitchy stuff. All of my other friends are fine with him but he didnt do anything to them before. Should I forgive him or keep away?
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well everyone deserves a second chance he blows it this time and welll its over!
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well im 13/f and all my friends have made out, or been fingered and i havent. i really want to, but when your being fingered what are you soppose to do? if i do it to myself is that how it will feel when a guy does it? (link)
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whoaaa! your only thirteen the farthest you should get so you arnt called one of the class sluts is making out thats it. take it slow you dont want to get diseases from guys that are young and dont wash their hands. thats nastay! just becuase alll your friends have doesnt mean you should too. hey thats thier choice somem of them actually regret doing that i know i would if i was back at that age and did all that. i can tell you arnt ready taking it slow is the thing you should do and you dont want to like having sex at 14 thats just WHORE u know what i mean if you have a long term boyfriend thats not meaning 3 months or two weeks then its ok when you are like 14 15
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im 16 and im pregnant with my boyfriends baby.
i need a lot of help.
im NOT getting an abortion so thats out of the question, even if my boyfriend left me.
heres my backround information.
THIS WAS NOT A MISTAKE. I WANTED TO BE PREGNANT! my birthdays in early december, im a softmore, im currently living with my mother (hoping to move in with my dad) *parents are devorcing*, i have a dog that i will not leave without, i DONT have a car or licance YET, i come from an above middle class family, im a varsity cheerleader for my high school and i LOVE it, my moms sister had a child at 16 so my mom is always warning me not to, im a only child, and lastly, my parents are TOTALLY over protective.
here are the things i need advice on...
-how to i tell my mom
-how do i tell my dad
-am i too young for a house/apt. with my boyfriend (same age)
-how will i finish high school/ go on to collage
-should i start work/get a job
-what do i do about cheerleading. do i have to quit
-what should i do with the child while in school
-could i get home schooled for part of the pregnancy
-how can i hide the bigness
-how where do i plan everything
-how do i get parents support
-how do i get friends to understand
-how will friends throw baby shower
-how hide it from friends parents
-will parents but baby stuff or make me pay for it
-any other things that i need to know.
-if its a girl/boy
-baby names
although this not a "planned" preg. its not like it was like one day, OH IM PREGNANT. we decided this. and its a big responcibility but i feel we can handle it. please, i need as much help from anyone and everyone including boys, and girl, other teenage mothers, and older mothers. anyone who can help me. it would be greatly appriciated. thank you. (link)
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well i wouldnt say anythin to the parents until you are sure after two weeks of missing your period then take another pregnancy test if you already done this then here is
1.how to tell your mom and dad you sit them down and do a juno haha just say it im pregnate. their reaction may not be like congrats but it has to be done!
2.i think you are to young you have to be at least 18
3.you may not finish high school or even go to collage for that matter it all depends
4. that again is what you talk with your parents with
5. you can not play a sport if your pregnate
6. the child you can leave with your mom or dad if they let you
7. thats should be talked over with your parents and how your school feels about this
8.sweatshirts big cloths old navy has good stuff
9.planing is with your folks or between your boyfriend and you
10. you ask for it you just say i need you guys in it
11. they may not but talking to them is all you can do and hope for the best.
12. it all depends if they are wikid good friends
13. you really shouldnt hide it you may damage the baby and can even kill it or it can be born into disabilities. please tell your parents so you can go to a doctor there are certain things that you cant eat or do. and hiding everything is a litle hard the morning sickness and the overeating and you getting bigger is a litle hard to not notice
14. they have to help you out becuase you arnt leagal yet
15. you have made a very hard choice if i were you i would get an open adoption thats where you give your baby to someone you picked out and still get to see the baby pictures birthdays and the baby knows that you are the birth mother so its not clueless for the rest of his or her life. but if you want it to keep for you then it will be hard you will make many sacrafices like not going to parties or school sometimes the cost is alot and changing dipares all the time the crying at night what if the baby gets sick do you know how to take care of it. sometimes you want to parent your own child but your mother or father might get in the way it becomes a family issue. and if your boyfriend doesnt stay for the baby then what do you do. but luckly the father today HAS to be on the certifacate and has to pay childs support until the child is 21 if you are keeping the baby. if it comes down to it and you know you cant handle it please do not get an abortion it seems you arnt but some people can chnage thier mind.
16.doctor tells you
17.i love the name skylar it works for both genders.
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