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i want a baby? but i dont
im 18, but still in high school, dont have a job, but working on a becomming a nurse along with graduating high school, and im in a stable relationship with a "commited" boyfriend.. but who knows what the future holds with those. I also have a great relationship with both of my parents...but I have these urges to have a baby or to get pregnant. iv always LOVED kids and working with them or baby sitting or playing or teaching. i always knew i wanted kids. and my mom said when i was in my mid 20s i was going to have these crazy urges to have kids esspecially with the way i love kids. im really afraid i mgith have a kid NOW. because i think they are already starting... i dont know if anybody has ever had one of these urges. i know its dumb to want one right now. but if you have ever had one of these urges or something tell me what i can do. i dont it to be a in the moment dicision.. i want to be ready and be planned. what do i do?? thank you so much. and i really hope you dont think im dumb for asking this
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this is not a dumb question i really think you should wait my mom told me thats a womens insticnt that we all go through it. but your not ready i would wait until your married
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You control yourself, like an adult.
We all have urges we shouldn't act on. I'm in a happy commited relationship, but that doesn't keep me from having the urge to flirt with cute people I know. I also have the urge to buy stupidly expensive clothes sometimes, or to run up my credit card bill. Sometimes I have the urge to punch a wall in anger.
None of those things do I actually do.
If I had the urge to become pregnant, I wouldn't also NOT do that.
Unless you are mentally ill, you are reponsible for your own choices AND in control of them.
So, use the birth control and plan your life so that children are a possibilty in the future. Remind yourself an urge is just an urge, and don't give it more power by worrying about all the time. Then just choose to do the smart thing.
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