...Im shay, I love giving advice. I've learned a lot of lessons from myself and my four other siblings. If I havent been through it, my friends have, or my family has, I can pretty much solve peoples problems. I do it all the time, thats why I love giving advice. I'm a sucker for music, ask me questions about it, Im sure I can help you. I play guitar, I play tennis, I'm pretty atheletic.
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Last week for some reason I'm still trying to find I kissed my best friend. First kiss evar. My best friend is female. As am I. I have a boyfriend. Last night I told him about the kiss. He said he had to leave and hung up. I don't want to lose him and the kiss with *Sarah meant nothing. Has anyone been in my situation? How do I tell my boyfriend I want him over *Sarah and the kiss meant nothing and have him believe me? (link)
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Im trying to put myself in you and your boyfriends shoes right now. So Im wondering why you kissed a friend of your if it meant nothing to you. It seems kind of gross and Im sure your boyfriend thinks so too. Hes probably very confused and wondering if your lezbian or strait. I dont think there will be much future for you two, but I hope for the best anyways.
-shay :-)
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Everybody's always getting colds and the flu and stuff in the winter... my question is, how do you know if you're so sick you should see a doctor? (link)
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Well I think YOU should know when you're feeling sick enough to see a doctor, but sometimes when you feel that way you could just stay at home and rest. Your parents will know when they should take you to the doctor so dont worry!
-shay :-)
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just before christmas i had a fight with two of my at the time best friends my mum was there and everything one of my friends called my6 month pregnant mum a f*****n fat mole and i whent off my head at her like any daughter would about 3 days after that we came back from our x-mas holidays to find a notice in our letter box asking either me or my mum to ring the police station. the next day my mum rang the police and a cop came to talk to us the bitches had put out a report on me saying that i said i was going to kill them and i was going to stab them which i DID NOT say the cops let it be and said that she is just trying to get attention. now they have gone around telling other people that my mum said she was going to stab them, but she told the police it was me so they are lying to everyone trying to press charges on me so i really need some advice on what to do here please (link)
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I would ay they arent your friends they're just really mean. Try getting your mom and their moms together to talk about all this. Im sure they wouldnt just sit around and let it happen.
-shay :-)
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I know it's not really polite to pick your teeth at the dinner table with toothpicks (well, better those than your finger I guess, but that's not the point). So if you keep toothpicks on your table all the time as just part of the centerpiece art or whatever, does that make you trashy or what? (link)
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No that does not make one trashy, but if you arent going to use the toothpicks at the table whats the point of them sitting there? I mean they arent the best accesory for the middle of the table, but if you like it.
-shay :-)
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how do u give oral to a guy????
~> confuses! (link)
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How old are you? I dont think you should be doing that. You should wait.
-shay :-)
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I can't tell if i am but i can't stop thinking about him and i have a not in my stomach (link)
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You may, but I dont thnk so. Its just a strong feeling for this person. So I wouldnt say its love.
-shay :-)
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I like this guy... He's really nice and all and i think i'm in love cause i can't stop thinking about him and i have this not in my stomach and all my friends say that he likes me too but i dunno. (link)
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Hmm. Ive felt that way too. You cant enjoy anything because thats all your thinking about. I think its just that you feel for this person, but you dont love him.
-shay :-)
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Hey, snarfism here, I've been getting complaints about my answers. Like, They're too long-winded/too mean/ect. I was wondering if this happens to everyone, or if i'm just a freak bad advice-giver? (link)
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So?? You dont have to listen to them. Give advice however you want!
-shay :-)
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I am confused because I like this kid and I think he likes me but i can't tell how do i know? (link)
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Well does he flirt with you? Guys tend to ask girls who they like a lot and try to find any possible way to touch you. Like your legs, hair, face etc. If he makes up silly names of guys he "thinks" you like he probably likes you. For example, "You like Jake that ugly guy".
-shay :-)
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Okay for spacefem.com Im having a hard time finding some perfect fit photos. I shrink them and everything but they dont seem to want to fit. So my question is where are some good sites to find perfect fit photos? Pleeezzze HELP!!!! (link)
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That is very hard! I know. I took me forever to find a perfect fit. Just get a photo you like and shrink it or take off some of the picture to make it size. Or you may just want to talk to Spacefem about it.
-shay :-)
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Is it wrong to copy software to your computer that you don't pay for? (link)
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These days copying music etc. can get you arrested, sued, or fined. So I would say yes.
-shay :-)
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How do I win back my ex boyfriend that cares for me and I care for him but he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now? I mean we flirt, cuddle, play around,and hug.I'm very confused. (link)
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If you still flirt, cuddle, hug, and play around I think you have already won him back. Dont push him into a relationship just stay doing what you two are doing.
-shay :-)
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Ok, so I'm still hung up on my ex boyfriend. And he has a new girlfriend. But, everyone tells me not to give up on him. (There's a lot of reasons why they say this.) And it would be so easy to make him jealous, but I don't really want to do that...and I don't want to use and hurt another person in the process. Does anyone have any ideas on what I should do? Thanks. (link)
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If you feel you dont want to make him jealous then dont. Im sure you'll find someone else to like. There is plenty of fish in the sea.
-shay :-)
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theirs this boy named Dorian I really like him but he doesnt want a relationship and when he does he's confused and I really want it to work and dont know what to do Should i keep trying or give up what should I say to him (link)
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Dont keep trying. If hes not ready then hes NOT ready. You dont have to give up either though. Stay a good friend of his until he is ready. Or maybe he doesnt think of you two more then friends. Talk to him about that part of your relationship.
-shay :-)
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I like this 1 guy and i knew him from my old school. I think he likes me by the way he acts. he isnt all out going and flirty bcuz thats not his personality. My friend said that This boy (we'll call him Fred) asked if she knew me. Since Fred asked if she knows me i seems like he likes me. My friend said she thinks he likes me 2,
Do u think he likes me??
~> confuzed * (link)
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Well it seems to me like he likes you as a close friend. Right now I am in the same position and all my friends think he likes me. So Im going to guess he is the shy type who want to remain mysterious and he likes you!
-shay :-)
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I like this kid named Orlando...I just look at him and I melt. But the thing is, I've never ever talked to him before, and he's never talked to me before and I'm so confused because I don't think it's just a crush, and he is just so cute and funny from what I've seen from him.
In the beginning of the day at school all the students have to go into the cafeteria because classes didn't start yet...and usually I walk in and only him and his friend are there and he looks at who came into the caferteria and I feel like I'm gonna trip or something because his stare catches me off guard....
As you can tell...I like this kid, and my mom works for the Board Of Ed in that particular city, and she lets me do some extra help with her work and she pays me for it. Well, since he goes to the school in the city my mom works for, one day when i was doing a job I came across his address. So my question is, do you think it would be like I'm stalking him or something if I write him a letter just saying how I felt about it...because I'm only going to write it when this school year is over so if anything happens I'm not there. (I know..but I'm shy and I feel like this is the only way I could do it) If I explain to him in the letter that I'm that girl (because he's seen me before, and noticed me) then do you think this is a good idea? Please help me...I really want him to know, but I'm extremely shy.
I'm very sorry for the length, but Im desperate. (link)
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Writing a letter wouldnt be like staliking, but he may think your totally crazy. Writing a letter to him will make him wonder how you got his adress and he may think you are stalking him. After he reads a letter writen from someone he doesnt even know will also freak him out. Just try to get to know him without expressing your feelings. Like when you go to the cafeteria sit by him and say, "Can I sit here I hate to sit alone". Then talk to him!
-shay :-)
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Chatspeak burns my eyes. How can I jump through my computer and kill people who use it? (link)
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How does chatspeak burn your eyes? And Im very sorry, but it is quite impossible to jump through a computer :-(. I know Ive tried it! No j/k. My advice is to just not use chatspeak if you hate it so much.
-shay :-)
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My friends are bugging me to go to this party tonight, but I'm sick. Seriously. They don't believe me, they just think it's me being anti-social. Should I go anyway and make them all sick just to prove a point? (link)
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If you are sick you probably shouldnt go and spread whatever it is you have. If they dont believe you have them come over and see how you're feeling and afterwards go to the party. So stay home and get some rest!
-shay :-)
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ok my xxbf sed i kissed to rough and my lasted xbf sed i kissed to low like on his lower lip! i wanna be a GR8 kisser.... soo how do i do it?? my xbf was SUCH a good kisser and left me breathless but how do i kiss then?? HELP!! me!!!! thnx
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Well usually kissing is a very natural thing. I remember answering a question like this before so you may want to look in my column to find the steps. But I know some other things to help you practice. You must be able to do the following:
1. Open a Starbust wrapper with your tounge
2. Tie a cherry stem with your tounge
3. Roll your tounge
So I suggest you go shopping!!
-shay :-)
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ok here we go ..... Im soo ugly ... my boyfreind now x boy friend dumped me after he had sex with me and now i think im pregnet.... he sed i was the uglyest person alive and and i belive him!! i havent seen my parents since i was 5 cuz im they ran away cuz im soooo ugly!! so my uncle tells me everyday of my life... :-( i have no friends... no 1 wants to be friends with me.... at times i think seriously about suicide cuz its the only way out that i can see... i dont want to have a baby or be UGLY n e more... so if n e of u no a good plastic surgun or a good abortionist let me now PLEASE!!.. and if n e one knows a good hiT MAN let me kno so i can give my xbf wat he deserves.... !!!!! (link)
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Your uncle said your parents ran away because your ugly?!I cant believe that! Well I think you should talk to your uncle about the way hes treating you and what you think is going on with this pregnacy thing. Do not get an abortion that is a wrong thing to do. If you're pregnat that is your responsability you should have been more careful. That is why you are supposed to keep your virginity. Go to your doctoe and if it turns out your pregnat talk to your ex and see how he feels about taking part responsable for this.
-shay :-)
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