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While I am still young, I have had a great deal of life experience. It is from this that I give advice. I am open minded and try not to be judgemental. If I can help in any way, I will. Just ask. However, like everyone else in this world, I am not perfect. My advice may not always suit you, since my experiences are not the same as yours. If you want clarification on any answers I give, feel free to ask me. If you don't like what I said, or if I offended you, let me know. This is the best way for me to improve on my responses. Thanks for looking at my page!
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is it necessary to breast feed? like does it HAVE to be done or will the formula stuff work just as well ?
No, it isn't necessary. If it was necessary, formula wouldn't exist.
A lot of research says that breastfeeding helps with the child's health and even intelligence.
Looking at my child, I would agree. I breastfed for a while. He is incredibly bright and couldn't be healthier.
Of course, I don't know how he would have been if I hadn't breastfed. Perhaps he would still be just the same. But here are some things to consider:
Breastfeeding is supposed to lower the mother's risk of breast cancer.
It is a good time to enjoy your baby. You are just quiet and cuddling. It is like an enforced break.
When you breastfeed, a chemical is released into your body that relaxes you.
Breastfeeding doesn't cost anything. Formula does.
Your breasts go with you everywhere and the milk doesn't get sour in the heat. Milk in bottles has to be put in a bag with ice, then rewarmed at feeding time, and it can go bad.
Bigger boobs. I weaned my son many years ago and I am still two cup sizes bigger than before.
Your periods take longer to come back.
On the other hand:
The father (or anyone else) can give the baby formula. Only you have the breasts.
Leaky breasts are seriously awkward to deal with.
Engorged breasts are painful (if you don't breastfeed, you will still deal with this for a while though).
One word: Mastitis. It is a breast infection. Bacteria get in and cause all kinds of pain. This mainly happens if the nipples get cracked enough to let the bacteria in, so it can be avoided.
I lost my virginity about 2 months ago
aand I've only had sex 4 times
but recently I've been using a dildo and it hurts and stuff, but I keep going anyway because I want the pain to go away.
But now I'm really red and I kind of hurt
"downthere"
Could I have an STD?
or is this normal?
Yes, you could have an STD. Any time you have sex, it is a risk.
However, I don't think that is what is causing the pain.
When I first started having sex, I was sore for a while. And doing it more made things worse. There are muscles down there that you are working out in new ways. Not to mention that friction can hurt. Ever get a rug burn or an indian burn? By pushing yourself to keep going when you hurt, you are just adding friction and causing more pain. Be gentle with yourself. Use lubricant. Explore what kinds of touch and pressure and movements feel good to you. I
f you continue to use the dildo, make sure it is kept very clean. You can't get an std from a dildo, but you can give yourself an infection. If you do not keep it clean, bacteria can build up. Then you put that bacteria into your vagina and you get an infection.
My immediate advice is to stop using the dildo, or anything for that matter, for a few days. If it was a friction and muscle problem, it will go away on its own. If you continue to be sore, go to a gynecologist. You most likely will be diagnosed with an infection that is easily treated.
Good luck, and be good to yourself!
Schools starting in a bit and I really hate it. Whenever Im in school i realize that I feel the need for thearopy becasue I honestly get so sick to my stomache when I have to deal with people. I need to knwo what to do to start my year off right.
Does this happen only when you are around the people at school, or in any social situation? Do you feel sick in crowded stores, or at family gatherings?
If you do, then you are likely dealing with social anxiety. The way to deal with it really depends on the cause. Is there a school counselor you can talk to? Since this happens at school, that would be a good choice of person to start with to find out what you need to do to handle it.
If it is only at school, and not in other social situations, it is possible it is just the particular people giving you anxiety. Perhaps just surrounding yourself with people you feel good around will help.
Do you have any other trouble in school, like poor grades or difficulty in any of the subjects? If you do, that could be a cause for your anxiety. Again, a school counselor can possibly help you.
You should also let your parents know about your anxiety. Don't just say that you feel sick when you go to school. Parents will inevitably think it is that you don't like the work at school and that won't help at all (I am saying this as a parent). Sit down with them and tell them what you told us. This is important since the anxiety can affect your school performance. If your parents know ahead of time what is going on, it will be a lot easier for them to handle. They could also take you to your doctor who can give you more information on anxiety and give you more options on ways to handle it.
I know it is hard to talk to others about it. I suffer from depression. You don't want to feel like you need therapy, and you probably don't want your friends and family to know how you feel because they may think you are crazy. They won't though. They will be able to help you to find the best way handle this.
so i started taking birth control a little less than a month ago. and i knwo it takes a month to be affective. well i had sex during this month that it doesnt work. when are you supposed to start your period? im on the last week, and it hasnt come yet.
Did you take the pills the first sunday after your last period, or on the first day of your last period?
If you started them on the first day of your last period, they should be effective. You said you are on the last week of pills. Are you talking about the week of placebo/inactive pills? Or the last week of pills that have hormones? If you are on the inactive placebo pills, you should start by the end of that week. However, since this is your first month taking them, your body may not have adjusted. If you have not started your period within a week of starting the inactive pills, you may want to check with your doctor to make sure everything is fine. Even if you did not get pregnant, it could be a sign that this particular pill may be too strong for you or that there is something else going on. Only your doctor can tell you for certain at that point.
Hello.
My boyfriend recently graduated so I'm going to strip for him when we go on vacation to the beach.
The thing is I don't know which song to stripdance to!
We both like alternative and rock but pop is okay.
I need a song that I can dance to in stilettos, seductive/sultry songs are preferred, but with enough of an update beat to dance to
Thanks!!!
Voodoo, by Godsmack
The drums are very seductive. I saw someone belly dancing to it at Faire and it was amazing. Whenever I hear the song I just want to move. It is almost hypnotic, in a very sexy way.
I usally go to sleep around 4 or 5 in the morning and wake up at 2 or 3 in the day time. How can i go to bed earlier without taking pills. If i go to bed at 11 (when i want to) im not tired, and i cant go to sleep. I cant wake up earlier either because.. the rest of the day I might fall asleep in class or whatever because when I dont get enough sleep its not pretty. THANKS!
Gradually change your body's clock. Go to bed a half an hour earlier, then get up an hour earlier the next morning. Keep active. Because you got up earlier, you can go to bed another hour earlier, and get up even earlier still. After a week or so, you will be going to bed and getting up at the right time. It will still be tough. I have read many times that it takes 21 days to develop a new habit. So, once you are getting to bed earlier, keep it up for a month or two before you decide you just can't.
Do not do anything in your bed other than sleep. No reading, no tv. Your body will associate those things with bed and it will be even harder to sleep there. Keep your room cool, which slows your body down. Use a fan to do that. It will provide white noise, which is also good for helping to sleep. Drink milk or have some cheese and crackers about an hour before you intend to go to bed. If you find your mind wandering when you try to sleep, grab a notebook and write down what is on your mind. It will help to tame your thoughts. Give it time and effort and you will be able to get to bed earlier and actually sleep.
ok me and my boy friend have been thinking about having sex and he has had sex with people befor but i am a vergin, he told me that in the past he has just pulled it out befor the came instead of using a condom... and thats what he wants to do but i dontkno if that is compleatly safe..plz tell me if this is safe i need to kno! thank you! byes
One of my dear friends lost her virginity to a guy who had had sex with others before her. She ended up with an std and a pregnancy scare because she believed him when he said the same thing. Luckily, it was an std that was treatable and she was not pregnant.
The facts regarding pulling out and pregnancy are simple. Most of the semen comes out with ejaculation, and many guys do know when that will happen and can pull out at that time. However, some comes out before, and that can't be predicted. It only takes one sperm to cause pregnancy. In the pre-ejaculate, there are still a lot of the little guys getting out. So, it is still very possible to get pregnant.
Do not have sex with him unless he gets tested for std's. As for the condom thing, you can always get the pill or a diaphram or a female condom. But if you are not making him use a condom, make sure he gets tested first and that you are aware of the possible consequences.
I babysit my cousins who all love attention. Theres three of them and it's hard to give them all attention. What can I do to keep them busy while paying attention to all of them?
Board games that are good for a their age range. My son and nieces and nephews range from 6 to 16. The younger ones demand the attention of the 16 year old and they all get at each other's throats. When all the kids are visiting, I bring board games out and they are occupied happily for hours. My favorite games are the ones made by Cranium (cranium.com, not affiliated, just a very happy customer). Their motto is "everyone shines" and the games are made so that they emphasize multiple talents (like art, facts, performing, and words) rather than just one (such as scrabble which is only words, or trivial pursuit with only facts). This makes the games more fair for a group of kids who all have different skills. They are also very active games and typically need the kids to work in groups. The kids in my family love them. So do the adults!
Crafts are also a good idea. Get a package of pipe cleaners, a bunch of puffballs, and some glue. Lay out a bunch of newspaper or an old blanket and let them loose. I kept two six year olds occupied with this for a couple hours a few days a week (started with just one day and they kept requesting it after). Just make sure they each have their own bottle of glue, or they will fight over it. And, if they are really likely to fight, divide the other supplies evenly (paying attention to color and size as well as number for the pipe cleaners and puffballs).
I'll start dating a guy and it only lasts from like 2 weeks to one day. I get bored really easily and I need adventure and excitement. All the guy's I date bore me. They can't keep up with me either. If I date a guy I like to make out and if I'm dating him for a week and we haven't even kissed yet i'll just brake up with them because None of them ever have anything interesting to say or do, and I don't know. What should I do? I hate being single, like i'll date almost any losser so i'm not alone, but then I'll just dump them like a week later because they are sooooo boring!!!! What should I do??? Please halp. Thanks a bunch!~!~!
This may sound harsh. It isn't meant to. You need an activity, or a hobby, something that will keep you interested whether you have a boyfriend or not. Not only will that help you to feel less bored in general, but it will give you a way to meet a guy that will share a common interest with you. You say you need adventure and excitement. Perhaps you should look into rock climbing or hiking. Or, depending on your area, scuba diving or cliff diving. Those can all be very exciting and give you the adrenaline rush you likely (from what you have said) crave. And they all tend to include guys that enjoy adventure and excitement. You will find the guy who can keep up with you, perhaps even give you some friendly competition, and even if it doesn't work out you will have a great time.
The problem is that my pubic hair grows very fast and it hurts to shave it. How else can I get rid of it?
Like others said, trim first with scissors. Use small ones. Big scissors are just asking for accidents on a very sensitive area.
When you shave, shave in the direction the hair grows (mostly downward, but sometimes to an angle). You can soften the hair by holding a warm wet washcloth on the area for a little bit. Better yet, take a nice hot bath. After shaving, apply some lotion to keep the skin soft. Shaving removes a layer of skin and can cause dryness that is very uncomfortable in that area.
The more frequently you shave, the less discomfort you will have.
ok yesterday me speekers worked but at like 1 in the morning they just stopped working.....i was on my limewire and myspace at the time and a song ended but it didnt get another song started like usuall.......i plugged in my other speekers but it still didnt work....is my comp. messed up or what....please help.thanxz
~trisha~
There are a lot of good suggestions already.
Recently my speakers did the same thing. I tried all those things and they didn't work.
Turns out my cat had stepped on the mute button on my keyboard. It took me two days to figure that out. So, just check and make sure that nothing happened to mute the computer. And if that doesn't work, check the specs and such as everyone else suggested. Another thing to try is make sure they didn't accidentally come unplugged. When I worked tech support for a major computer company (printers), the plugs would wiggle loose just a little bit. They would look plugged in, but not be in enough for power. Since you tried other speakers, this is not likely to be the problem, but it is something to double check.
I'm 16, 5'3" and weigh 152 pounds. I just moved to a new state and am going back to visit my friends in 2 months. I'd like to drop 20-30 pounds before I go back, and also slim down my thighs and butt. I'm a vegetarian, I don't eat fast food, and I don't drink soda. But with 6 AP classes and a job it's hard to eat right most of the time. I barely even have time to workout but I do what I can at night and on the weekends. Is there anyway that I can drop the weight?
Pack a lunch and baggies of healthy snacks to munch on during the day. Make the baggies only as much as you think you should be eating in a sitting. Stick with crunchy veggies for snacks. They fill you up and give you a boost of energy. Carry a large bottle of water with you. A lot of people think they are hungry and end up eating more when they really just need to drink something.
Also, you didn't say whether you eat breakfast or not. If not, start eating something in the morning. Grab a piece of fruit as you run off to your classes. Breakfast kickstarts your metabolism, and fruit is a good way to do that. Add some cottage cheese for protein and calcium if you have time. If you chronically don't have time in the morning, get up 15 minutes earlier, 30 if you can. It isn't much, and it will give you time to start your day right.
Try not to have dinner too late, and avoid late night snacks.
And, most importantly, don't stress about the weight. Stress creates a response in your body that makes it even harder to lose weight. With 6 AP classes and a job, you are probably stressed enough. Perhaps try meditation in the evening to ease the stress? Combining it with light exercise will add to the weight loss.
Today, I did one of the workouts in they had in Seventeen magazine. It was the first time I did it. After, I felt kind of shaky and exhausted. I felt like "woozy". Is there something wrong?
You were most likely dehydrated. Make sure to drink plenty of water a little while before working out, as well as after. Also, make sure you warm up. Stretch a lot, keeping it nice and slow at first, get your muscles ready to move. If you feel woozy, take a break and drink some water or a sports drink, like gatorade. You can do some stretching while taking your break, and then go back to your workout if you feel up to it. It is normal for your heart to race and your body to ache. That is a sign of a good workout. But if you are lightheaded and shaky, stop for a while. I had a friend pass out from dehydration, and I have come close myself. Working out is good for you, but only if you do it right and take care of your health.
14/F
lately i have been so depressed. i dont get along with my mom that much anymore & we were soo close. i just cant stop crying & i like cant stand being around certain people that i used to be so close with. i know your gonna say its growing up but this isnt normal. i have tried talking to my mom about getting me pills or something but she just throws in my face how bad her life is which makes it worse. at this point i hate just about everything about me. i think im fat; ugly; worthless; loney; friendless & i cant do anything right. idk what to do anymore. i used to cut but i dont as much anymore and i dont want to but thats the only thing i can think of doing this point. also im getting quite suicidial. i cant see myself going threw with it but i have been thinking. my best friend is the same as me; same problem & everything. we both have very messed up families. also with me thinking im fat it makes me think of becoming anorexic again. i have been threw that also. im 5'1 - 100 pounds. telling me im not fat makes everything worse. i just dont know what to do anymore with myself. i need happy pills or something but idk what to say to my mom. please help. this is outta hand.
One thing I have learned about depression is that it is often hereditary. It seems that may be your case, if your mom keeps turning it around when you try to talk to her. Hereditary depression often involves a chemical imbalance. While it can be helped by making changes in your life and your outlook, medication is often needed to correct the imbalance. Now, I am not pushing meds here. I am just speaking from my experience. I learned the hard way that sometimes meds are needed. I learned by taking about half a bottle of Excederin PM and ending up in the ER getting my stomach pumped.
You are losing relationships with family and friends, and you have stopped enjoying things you used to. Your self esteem is shot. I could tell you that with your height your weight is very normal, even thin. I could tell you that you can snap out of your mood if you really want to. But I don't think that will help. It didn't help me when I was at the point where you describe yourself. Tell your mom flat out that you are concerned about your health. If she turns it around on you, listen to her for a bit and be helpful. She may be more likely to listen to you. If she doesn't listen and get you to a doctor right away, is there any other adult in your family who could? I don't mean to be insensitive, just going by what you said, I wonder where your father is. Is he able to help you? Perhaps you have an aunt who could take you to a doctor. There are mental health clinics that you could go to that have sliding scales so what you pay is determined by income. I don't know how that works for teens, but it is something to look into.
Whatever happens, this is not something to take lightly. I am glad to see you recognize that and are seeking help whereever you can. Please get professional advice. If you do have to take antidepressants, keep in mind that since you are so young, you will likely not have to take them for too long. You can have a normal life again.
Oh, also, antidepressants aren't really happy pills. They pretty much level you out. I don't like how flat I feel taking them, but it is a heck of a lot better than the violent depression I had.
Good luck, and if you need anything, even just someone to listen too, I have been where you are and am here to help.
when is it the right time to have sex? like what age is it okay to lose your virginity? what's the avg age when people lse their virginity and would it be better to lose your virginity with another virgin or a more experienced person?
I was 16 when I first had sex. My bf was 15. We were both virgins. We were both very much in love and ready for sex. He moved away not long after (parents decision). I didn't see him again for 3 years, during which I had sex a lot, with a lot of men. I was not always smart, particularly earlier on, didn't always use condoms. I am very lucky to not have gotten very sick or pregnant as a teen. My bf and I got back together again. We are now married over 7 years, and have a 6 year old son and an amazing sex life.
So, because of that experience, I feel that sex before marriage can help you to learn what you want. Many marriages end because of sexual differences. Knowing what you want is important. Knowing you are ready is also important. And that means knowing how to be safe and doing so, and accepting the consequences should they happen.
If you are ready and so is your partner, and you are in agreement on your precautions, then go for it. The average is not the "must have by this time" age. Waiting for marriage is good for some, but not all. It is a completely individual choice.