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15/f
ok well my boyfriend just kissed me for the 1st time. It was my first kiss but he didnt know that. it was our 1st kiss together. i went in for a simple kiss and he like ate my face. i didnt even know what he he was trying to do. OMG!
he was like i was to do that again but i told him i had to go to the bathroom. i avoided it for the rest of the nite. we were outside of his house and he tried over again. i just hugged him for a long time and then said goodbye.
what do i tell him cause i kind of laughed after
it was my first kiss and it was totally horrible =(
lol this is common.. talk to him. if theres trust in this relationship, he should be able to take some contructive criticism.. tell him how you like to be kissed, what you dont like...but dont lay it on him harsh... as a couple, everything is mutual..its not all about you or him...so find out what he likes..etc.. good luck :)
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Okay well..my friendship that I was talking about. It has turned into way more than a friendship. I am stressed out, and not getting any sleep. I really think I like him. Like I said before, just in case you hadn't seen my other question. My family is racist, and he is African American. Now its getting to the point that I don't care. I just want to be with him..even if I would be "betraying" my family.
I don't think I should have to go by their beliefs. I should get to live my own life right?
What should I do? :(
i agree. your family cannot control what you think.. in fact, no offense but they shouldnt be that way. rascism should try to be eliminated, because it just not right... if you like this guy, talk to him :) nothing can hurt! maybe a simple 'no' can...but eventually you'll get over it... family is family, yes, but if theyre going to exclude you and treat you any diff because you like someone of different nationality or race or beliefs... then wow... good luck... i hope all goes well mama :)
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i recently moved to a country where there are a lot of people with very tan skin and brown eyes.
rarely, there are much people that come here and have blue eyes.
I have a boyfriend and we already told each other that we love each other.
my boyfriend knows i have a crush on green day's lead singer billie joe armstrong.
and he knows i like when guys have blue eyes/green eyes and black hair.
he liked girls with blonde hair but went out with me(there are hardly any girls in the country that go to our school with blonde hair, infact, none have blonde hair that go to our school)
then he moved on to black hair and bright colored eyes.
my boyfriend and i were hanging out and his brother unexpectedly came up to us, we jogged into a conversation and then his brother mentioned this guy and this girl from this private school walking along the road earlier yesterday night or whatever.
the brother said the girls name and my boyfriend was like, "wow she has such pretty eyes"
I realize boys dont realize when they make girls jealous sometimes.
but his zodiac says he appreciates art.
and i asked him and he does.
.
but i feel jealous!
i have brown hair and brown eyes.
but i dye my hair black (because i WANT TO. its my choice) and my irises is what my boyfriend likes, like the shape of the way they go, instead of like an umbrella, they go circular and he doesnt cheat at all and believe me, he tries his hardest to be perfect and i completely appreciate it. i do the same for him.
i believe we're both trying to hard since im his first girlfriend and hes my first boyfriend.
i believe im being unfair though, considering i HEARD im the second cutest girl in the country. (from a group of boys that are friend's point of view)
and a lot of guys flirt with me and look at me.
and i dont flirt back.
anyways my boyfriend doesnt like the girl with pretty eyes, and he said that he cant find anything distinctive about her that would catch his eye.
i just feel awkward.
i tried to dream incubate last night (asking my mind for a specific dream on a specific subject) and i asked for a dream that would help me with my jealousy problem with love.
and i know relationships are all about trust.
i trust him in a way, but im starting to slip on the trust, and hes not doing anything that would trigger it!
its my own mind messing with me.
ive just been screwed around on trust so much.
if i could have help to kill my jealousy problem once and for all, id be SO HAPPY!
any methods,
thoughts, solutions, things i could talk about. i need help!!! pleeeasee !!
i ave this same exact problem... but if it helps, this is what i do.. we've been together for 7 months.. i just simply let him be.. and simply say hey, if he cheats, then his loss because im a great girl, pretty, great personality... just step out of yourself for once and realize your pros...forget your cons... plus, he's with you for a reason not just for fun.... i think you should talk to him about your jelousy that way he doesnt trigger it anymore... communication!!! hehe thats whats needed...a good talk from both sides... and yeah youre right, its all in your head... maybe youve gone through things so many times youve found it hard to blindly trust... good luck!!!
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okay ssooo i have a boyfriend, but i just would really like more from his side and i feel like im pulling all the wieght forward. i know that he likes me a lot, but he has a problem showing it and i just need to know how to talk to him about it. thanks
i believe the best way is communication... try sitting him down or take him somewhere just the two of you can talk openly, and tell him how you feel... is he shy? is he laid back? tell him everything..maybe you feel like you have to call him, go see him, hear from him, as if you're doing all the work...which is sometimes common in guys... especially if theyre new to the relationship scene.. just talk to him... your feelings are important too...see what he says...if he wants to change then great! and if he doesnt, then its not even worth it, youre wasting your time mama. good luck!!
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17/f
Oh dear. That sums it up. I`m starting to like a guy, I`ve only ever talked to him once. He`s not living here right now but he moves back in two months. I`ve learned a lot about him from the newspaper, facebook, and my friends. I feel like I am learning as much as possible to get an idea what he`s really like. My friends have commented that I`m obsessed. Sometimes I do talk about him a lot - hey, I`m excited to see how this works out. Really, what does it take to be labelled as 'obsessed' and really, how bad is it anyways? Thanks!
Obession- the idea, image, desire, feeling, etc., itself.
i personally semi agree with this meaning, taken from dictionary.com.
i dont think youre obsessed, just simply anxious to see him...NOW...if you have picturees of him all over your wall, you become controlling as in no one else can have him, and stalking, etc, i feel THAT is stalking. the act of making one person yours, without them wanting it... or harm being caused, etc.. youre just anxious to meet him, obsession is totlly different... be careful and good luck!!! =]
i mean me n my gf love eachother, n her friend whos a guy lovesmy gf too but my gf told him there only frds but hes still loves her anyways n were fighting for her love. she loves me , n hes starting to fall for me too n now i feel like im in a love triangle and i dont know whut to adivice him or myself or figure out who loves who when she says she loves me n she only sees him as a frd n he loves her n hes falling for me too n i dont love him just her
well, firstly, why do would you need to let her choose? if she says youre the only one for her and that she sees him as JUST a friend, give her some credit, trust her...but make sure you can... is there trust in this relationship? do you guys REALLY love eachother? if so, i'd tell your girlfriend whats going on between you and him...instead of keeping her in the dark and her finding out, then more mayhem occurs.. tell her wat going on is simply he's coming in between the relationship, and that you feel uncomfortable because it should be JUST you and her, not her you and HIM. i think the problem here is that he's falling for BOTH of you, which can turn into a competition.. and if you yourself are bi, she can possibly think "cheating". talk to her...i urge it.. good luck hunni!!!!
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16/f.
i was sick of the "you're fat" innuendos i was getting in my sophomore year..even though i knew i wasn't. i was just thick. and i was sick of people always putting me down and me taking it because of my low confidence (which is probably why they pecked at me in the first place..). i was a pretty good looking girl..with the exception of acne. really bad acne that had to have a last resort treatment. i didn't really take good care of my braces..didn't wear my elastics..late in my treatment. and now that it's summer, i plan to change all this. i'm working REALLY hard everyday. i'm very determined to lose weight, to clear my acne (which will clear itself from the meds), to boost my confidence. but as i'm doing all this..i notice this certain notion of competition in my head..i wanna be better than all my "girl"friends. i mean, i like them all..but i wanna be better than them, and i know that i can be. but i don't want this sudden determination to manifest into TOO much confidence...would you think this is way too ambitious?
well im glad you want to lose weight and better yourself.. as long as youre happy and not hurting anyone, it's all good. but thats the thing, this wanting to be better than your girl friends can push them away... have they ever tried to imply that you were inferior to them? you shouldnt stoop down to that level if so... work hard for YOU...becaseu YOU want to look nice (which im ure you already do) and because YOU feel its in your benefit.. Happiness is the key =]
as far as the wanting to be better...dont make it seem that way because you can REALLY push awayy friends like that, and they may become against you.. if theyre good friends, dont do that to them.. go0d luck!!!
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My boyfriend and i always see his ex at this one movie theatre.
She always goes up to him, looks directly at me, and hugs him. She talks to him and purposely leaves me out, glaring at me when she can. I dont know her that well, her name is Caitlin and she hates my guts because she still likes him, and im going out with him. He tries to get away from her, so i know its not his fault, when i see her next time, what do i do?!
Im always just standing there helpless.
I want to do something, but i dont wanna embarrass myself.
ugh!
hey :)
well normally in this situation...i have just stepped in the convo...grabbed his hand... just to kinda show he's mine not yours back off... dont wanna ecourage violence lol but she has o reason to hate your guts. past is past. and if she tries anything... then its time to strike back... for example...if she's talking smack.. dont stoop down to her level. itll provoke her more cuz it bothers you. if she tries to fight you... tell your bf. he should be the one defending you after all. and if he knows then why isnt he putting a stop to it? g0od luck
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Me and my boyfriend kiss eachother on the cheek all the time. But we both know we want to kiss eachother on the lips.
But how does it happen?
What are some hints i can give him, or moves i can make?
No websites please :)
hey =]
well hmm...
you can... get close to his face...dont scare him now lol but smile and get closer and closer...
look at his lips and smile.. then look at him ....
by the way...guys LOVE girls who go for things...they love the whole "wow this chick isnt like every other girl who waits for the guy to make the first move"...oor you guys can talk about it... g0od luck!!!
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I just got a job at a little store about a week ago and its my first job ever. (I'm 15) I basically stand at a cash register all day. But there's this guy who works there too, and he's about my age, and he's really great. I think I'm kind of falling for him, which isn't good, I don't think. I'm not very pretty, I'm super clumsy, I'm not particularly fun or interesting, and I have a lot of family problems and stuff that makes it very hard to open up to people. So basically, he's never gonna like me. I'm trying really hard to stop crushing on him, but it's kind of near-impossible, you know?
so, advice?
hi!
well first off let me say, dont say that he wouldnt like you! because... its the inside that counts... who know maybe he finds your clumsiness cute =]...if he's a g0od guy, your l0oks wont count, because then thats just being shallow... and as far as opening up... its okay, im sure he'd understand... to trust someone is to let them in because they earned it...not just because theyre your boyfriend and so on...buuuuuuuuuuuuut...if you want to stop crushing on him i think the only way to do that is to confirm he doesnt like you...take a stab at it... ask him... bravery doesnt hurt... the worst tht can happen is him saying no i dont like you... and im sure thinqs would qo back to normal...it is workplace... g0od luck!
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What is it called when you don't like anyone. Like you don't like girls or boys. There's a specific word for it. I know it's really random; but I really need to know.
Thanks in advance
yeo the term is asexual
when you go to get your eyebrows waxed, what do they ask you? ive never been in my life or seen it happen or talked to anybody who has ever got them waxed. and i have this picture that is how i want my eyebrows, can i bring it? but yea. i just want to know what the lady will ask me. and how long it will take. and what all they do. (:
lol well i live in NY and umm all they really do is make you sit down...grab the wax and take the strip and peel it off the area... if u want your eyebrows a certain way, you can bring the paper and tell them to do it the way its seen in the picture and if its possible they'll do it.. but if you dont bring the picture theyll probably just ask do u want it thick thin long in legth or short. good luck
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i have a laptop whiich receives wifi from who knows where... i want to know how to setup my xbox360 to get internet i have the ethernal cable ive tried connecting them, but it says limited connectivity. i right click on it then clicked on bridge connection, and it says you need to have "to create a bridge connection you must select at least two LAN od high spd internet connections that are not being used by internet connection sharing" what do i do? step by step anyine know?
i dont know about wireless... but as far as etheret cable..what i do is i reset my modem everytime i want to log into xbox live... ik why but if i dont reset it each time it doesnt work.. g0od luck and hope i helped..
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Well im a sophomore but i have been thinking about colleges lately. But my question is whether they would consider my freshmen year as much as my sophomore and junior year because 9th grade was rele hard for me(i had a 3.0 GPA) but im doin well this year wit a 3.5 GPA. Im in all difficult classes and i took one AP class on World HIstory. I want to go to gerogetown or The George washington University.
Thanx for helping
yep, they look at your junior year...its THE MOST IMPORTANTTT... and as long as they see that u prgressed into a better student as the years passed by, theyll like that...b/c u worked your way up... alsoo extra curricular activities and the type of classes youre taking.. theyd rather take a student with a 80 average who took challenging courses like chemistry physics etc etc than someone who got a 95 100 average with classes like art and music.. good luck :)
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Okay, so this has been going on for the past few months - my five-year-old sister wakes up, sleepwalkwalks through the house in search of our mom, and cries. She is practically implacable; she does not fall back to sleep easily; she is either unwilling to or incapable of telling me what is wrong. Sometimes, I have to lay in her bed with her in order to get her to fall asleep.
At first, this only happened every once in a while, but now it happens EVERY NIGHT. It's gotten to the point where I wake up the instant I hear footsteps in the hallway. Sometimes, I just avoid falling asleep until she does it, because I know she will and I also know that I become quite irritable when my sleep is disturbed.
So, my question is this this: Is it normal for a five-year-old girl to wake up crying in the middle of the night, every single night? I can understand the occasional nightmare or the midnight bathroom break, but (again) every night?
I'm worried about her, which is bad enough, but I'm also losing hours of sleep over this issue. Any help you can offer would be much appreciated.
it could be many things... i have to do a speech on this in class.. i chose sleep paralysis.. you should look deep into those areas... sleep paralysis night terror etc etc. some people catagorize these under narcolepsy but others debate on whether or not is should be related... google :) i hope things get better
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So every time my boyfriend and I are doing anything together, I feel huge. I’m 5’4” and 135 lbs. I weigh a lot more than I want to weigh. And my boyfriend is only 5’8” and 145 lbs. He’s really skinny and muscular and whenever he’s touching me I always feel like he thinks I’m fat because I’m like the same size as him.
And, I’m not usually like this, but whenever I’m eating with him, I always eat way less than I want to because I feel like he’ll think I’m a fat ass. I feel really insecure about my body when I’m with him. And ever since we’ve been going out I feel the frantic need to lose weight. I’ve been eating like 600 calories a day and doing an hour and a half of elliptical every day. I still have only lost 2 lbs after a week and I feel horrible about it.
My question is to girls that have been with guys that are thinner than them. How did you feel confident about your body when you were with him? I always feel like he’s judging me, I mean I don’t know if he is, because I’ve never talked to him about it, but I feel like he is.
great question. well personally im in a relationship with a guy, and im going to e honest...im WAY heavier than him,.. by like20 pounds.... and shorter... so i have a figure but i have that extra chubbines.. and i am self concious aroundhim... who wouldn't be lol...but when youre with someone...they should learn to accept you no matter WHAT... and he;s proved that, believe me... so if your boyfriend says he loves you and so on, he would accept you for you... fat skinny chubby short tall... and im sure he does... because at the end of the day, its how you treat them that matters to them. just make sure you love him as much as he shows he loves you. and dont worry, everyone has flaws...we just need to learn to accept them if we cant fix them :) good luck!!! and to answer the "how to feel confident around him" question, i;'d say, just give it a couple months, and im sure you will feel a little less self concious...just try to accept yourself... to be honest, your weight is NOTHING abnormal for your size.
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Hello... I'm having boy troubles. I have a boyfriend and his bestfriend [who is a girl] likes him too. He is always hanging out with her more than with me. Should i ask him if he likes her or would that damage our relationship? Pleases help
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hmm i had this problem... except she was in love with him... ask him. confront him but calmly...no attitude...no grudges... hopefully he'll be honest. you didnt specify how long you guys have been dating...but if it's been long enough he should tell you the truth because his feelings depend on your guys' relationship, and any minor mistake can break yoiu guys apart.. so just ask... g0od luck =]
p.s let him know how you feel (honestly)
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ok thanks u give great advice.thank you i might end up comin back to u for more advice.lol.
no problem =] thank you good luck!!!
ok i have been dating this guy for 8 months and things were going great until yesterday on our 8th month anniversary he started snapping at me about some guy who was asking me to be his girlfriend. he got really mad and started cussing at me. its like he lost control of himself and turned into this monster or whatever. and today he did the same thing and he kept asking the same question over and over again until i snapped at him and said something i shouldnt have said and then he got really pissed and signed off of aim. until 2 hours later and now our conversation is really awkward. how do i break this awkwardness? i apolgized and he said he forgave me. but still. how do i break it and how can i control how much we fight?
hmm... well first off hi! ...every couple argues.. and after 8 months its pretty obvious that you dont wanna lose the other person... to break the akwardness jus talk to him normally... if he's not gunna be the bigger person than you be it... and if it's still not working then obviously he needs a relaity check... talk to him about respect. NO MAN should EVER cuss at you hit you etc... its not necessary so talk to him about boundaries... if you respect him then why should he get away with saying certain things... even if its out of anger he needs to learn to control that anger... change is good and if it benefits the person themself then they should be willing to... and remember.... if he cant respect you then he needs to realize what a great person he has next to him...
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So I recently found out the title to the movie i was looking for. Now I really want to watch it online. Its called the stalking of laurie show, or rivals. Ive already searched youtube and google. Does anyone know any websites you can watch movies on?
Thanks!
http://www.watch-movies.net/
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