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I feel huge.
So every time my boyfriend and I are doing anything together, I feel huge. I’m 5’4” and 135 lbs. I weigh a lot more than I want to weigh. And my boyfriend is only 5’8” and 145 lbs. He’s really skinny and muscular and whenever he’s touching me I always feel like he thinks I’m fat because I’m like the same size as him.
And, I’m not usually like this, but whenever I’m eating with him, I always eat way less than I want to because I feel like he’ll think I’m a fat ass. I feel really insecure about my body when I’m with him. And ever since we’ve been going out I feel the frantic need to lose weight. I’ve been eating like 600 calories a day and doing an hour and a half of elliptical every day. I still have only lost 2 lbs after a week and I feel horrible about it.
My question is to girls that have been with guys that are thinner than them. How did you feel confident about your body when you were with him? I always feel like he’s judging me, I mean I don’t know if he is, because I’ve never talked to him about it, but I feel like he is.
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Wow, you sure hit the nail on the head. I feel like that a lot too. And the most frustrating part was that I couldn't lose the weight, and obviously I wasn't going to make him GAIN it to make myself feel better. Haha. Regardless, its common to be insecure about your own weight. You have to keep in mind that you are at a normal weight, and that he is skinny. If you were to be skinny like that, you wouldn't be as beautiful as you are. Being thin may work for him, but chances are, it won't work for you. As long as he likes you and doesn't "think you're a fat ass", then there really isn't any true issue. The rest that must be overcome is mental. Your boyfriend doesn't have to be bigger than you!
(Wow, I feel like I just gave myself therapy too! Haha.)
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Ok, im sorry if you dont like this answer... But heres what i have to tell you:
I am over weight. I weigh 168. and im 4 feet 11 inches. I am short! And my boyfriend actually weighs more than me, by like 10 pounds. and he is like... 4 inches taller.
I feel fat. (most girls do, its an insecurity thing, caused by hormones.)
I tell my boyfriend I am fat, and he tells me im not. I feel like a fat ass, but he tells me im not, and he likes my body, and likes me the way I am.
Ask your boyfriend, if he thinks you are fat, or say you are fat, and see what he says. If he doesnt like you for you, and everything you are, you shouldnt be together.
i hope i helped, and dont feel insecure about yourself. You are what you are, and dont let others define you.
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Good question. I am 5'3 and I am now roughly 116 pounds. Before the school year began I was about 145 pounds. (So as much as your Boy Friend!!! lol) I was with a guy who was about the same height as your BF, but he was 130 pounds!! I was bigger than him!!! I was really aware about being bigger than him and embarrassed. What I did was think about my good qualities. Why is he with you rather than other girls? Are you funny? Nice ass? lol What makes you special? He probably thinks you are really beautiful-besides, why would he want to go out with a 'fat ass?' he wouldn't. That's why he's with you! XD
Oh, Btw: I reccomend about 1,200 calories a day- that's how I lost the weight. It's tough, but healthier and safer than your doing it.
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great question. well personally im in a relationship with a guy, and im going to e honest...im WAY heavier than him,.. by like20 pounds.... and shorter... so i have a figure but i have that extra chubbines.. and i am self concious aroundhim... who wouldn't be lol...but when youre with someone...they should learn to accept you no matter WHAT... and he;s proved that, believe me... so if your boyfriend says he loves you and so on, he would accept you for you... fat skinny chubby short tall... and im sure he does... because at the end of the day, its how you treat them that matters to them. just make sure you love him as much as he shows he loves you. and dont worry, everyone has flaws...we just need to learn to accept them if we cant fix them :) good luck!!! and to answer the "how to feel confident around him" question, i;'d say, just give it a couple months, and im sure you will feel a little less self concious...just try to accept yourself... to be honest, your weight is NOTHING abnormal for your size.
flirty :)
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