my boyfriend of like a year broke up with me 4 days ago.. i'm trying to move on because he said he doesnt wanna talk anmore and doesnt care anymore, and i'm fine during the day, i have my momenst where i miss him, but like at night, when i lay down, i cant fall asleep and i've cried myself to sleep everynight sense.. please dont say to try to talk to him because he doesnt want to and i refuse to bother him.. i just dont know what to do to get over him.. i miss him so much. help :(
Well, getting over a guy can take a bit of time-- no matter what. The best things to do at night (when everything seems more scary and hopeless than it really is!) is to do something to put your mind at ease. If I'm feeling particularly mentally stressed, or like I'm going to cry, I tend to try to draw a funny picture or write poetry to put the "rage on the page". Haha. Sometimes just going on failblog.org or something is enough to make you smile just a little bit, or flipping through an old year book and rating which guys are the hottest. Sometimes just listening to happy or upbeat music will put someone in a better mood! The key to making it through the loneliness of the dark is to make yourself believe that things are going to get better (: Good luck!
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so on saturday i was at ny friends house and her guy friend came over (A) and his friend (B). well i had never met either one of them and my friend had only met (A) well (B) was superrr hot and he goes to my school but i had never seen him before and when they left my friend texted (A) and was like my friend thinks your friend's hot. and he goes no shit shit everyone does. and then he put he thinks she ok too. then today i was walking to my first period and (B) was standing right next to the door, turns out his class is right next time and he smiled at me and i was like oh hey! and then i walked away. hmm heck of a qoincidence... then during fourth period i was walking the track for class and (B) was out there running the track! it was sooo weird and he like ran by me two or three times.
but isn't that weird?
omggg hes so cute and i really wanna talk to him and stuff but im so shy!
anyway do you think that was a sign or something?? if so, please explain.
ahhh this is killing me!
please and thanks.
Well, you never know unless you try! It seems a bit early to "diagnose the situation" seeing as how it hasn't been given too much time-- that and those of us who don't know you very well or him very well can't exactly tell if it's a sign. But it sounds as if there's definitely potential. Really, the best way to tell if it is a sign is likely just to wait a bit longer. Let the signs either add up until you're ready to take a chance and see how he feels, or if nothing new comes up, then let it rest. If you start to continually see signs, then you can start thinking of things to talk about. I used to be really shy.. and being the dork that I am (in a good kind of way, of course) I would think of five topics to talk about and make an acronym with them. Then I'd either remember the acronym or write it on my hand or something. Like "Music, Electives, School, Schedule"= MESS. And-- presto! You have 4 conversation starters! Woohoo! Haha, but overall, the best thing you can do is wait and THEN act. It's just too soon to know what you're up against! (: Good luck!
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At my high school, we have a comedy club. We perforn every month or so. I'm writing something on why you shouldn't tell your kids the usual childhood myths.
Like how the tooth fairy teaches kids to sell their body for money… and how she's to blame for prostitution.
But I can't think of anything like that for:
Santa Claus
The Easter bunny
And what other childhood myths are there? But if you can think of anything to help get me started I would really appreciate it. =D
I think that the Easter Bunny further promotes the idea that we can litter plastic eggs-- and the goal is to up them where they're difficult to find. Just to add to the fun of littering! Or something along those lines.
And please don't forget St. Patrick--! Leprechauns! They portray the message that we should capture the vertically deficient and demand that they lead us to their gold!
hahahaa- i dunno. good luck!
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why am i obsessed with my boyfriends exs? like really i dont get it i compare myself.. even when i know i look better than them some times i 2nd guess myself. i find my self anonymously asking who looks better. what is my problem? i always look at there myspace and facebooks too. i cant help it..
Haha, you're not obsessed. You just want to know all about them. It's likely a mystery to you as to why your boyfriend liked them, and you probably want to learn about them so you can either A) avoid the mistakes that they made, or B) try to understand what it is that your boyfriend liked about them. Besides, a little curiosity never really hurts! I've definitely done the same-- I admit to a fair bit of facebook stalking to see what the boy that I'm in love with has been up to. And to see the various wall posts that all of his little "friends who are girls" say to him. But, eventually you'll wear out on the happenings of these girls little lives, trust me. You'll realize that they're just NOT that interesting-- especially since you've got the boy!
But, if you're truly concerned about your obsession, try budgeting your time. Such as:
"First I will clean the floor of my room, and then I can ex-girlfriend-stalk for 5 minutes, and then I will continue cleaning"
or
"I will do these 5 homework questions and then spend 10 minutes on the computer"
or think to yourself "okay, I will not compare myself to them today, and if I must anonymously ask who looks better, I must only ask once within these next two weeks"
Things like that almost make getting over an obsession like a game. Haha-- not really.. but either way, it'll help! Good luck!
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16/f so i have this friend (she's 17) and i used to consider her as my best friend but now im not sure anymore?
it seems like shes always lying to me. like she was dating this guy for about 6 months and told me she had sex with him ( i didnt ask her to tell me but she always told me everything) and it was her 'first time'.
but then they broke up a few weeks later and about a month later (2 weeks ago) she told me that it was all a lie & that she never had sex with him BUT recently had sex with two 26 year old guys ( for the first time). & when i told her that it's crazy to have sex with two 26 year old guys (for the first time) you meet in a bar she got all mad and didnt wanna talk about it anymore. like she doesnt even care that its illigal or that she lost her virginity to some stranger. & she also told me that she likes one of them now. i think the whole thing is so slutty & dirty yet she keeps talking about it but i know that when i tell her that its just stupid she'll get mad etc and i hate fighting. she's changed so much & i dont know what to do anymore
She's really not a very good friend, currently. Don't get me wrong, it's not an irreparable situation, but it will definitely require some cooperation. You should sit your friend down in a really controlled kind of way. And make sure you use the sweetest and most friendly tones of voice that you can while you ask her to tell you what's really wrong and how you two can be a bit closer. If she says something unreasonable or begins to bring up all of the *bad* decisions that she's made recently, you really just have to tell her flat out that you don't agree with the decisions that she's made and that it's becoming difficult for you to cope with. If she can't respect you being the bigger person and just sitting her down to explain what's going through your mind, then she honestly isn't worth any more effort. If she can't understand your point of view, then the answer is no, she isn't your real friend. But don't give up until you give communication a try! Good luck!
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sadie hawkins dance is coming up soon and i already have in mind the guy i want to ask. last year his date didn't dance or talk to him so he kind of got a sucky sadie experience. so i want to be a good date to him and start conversations with him but guys always hang with guys during fast dances and i dont want to interrupt their guy time it just feel awkward and the only time alone i would have with him is when we slow dance. so i was wondering is it weird if you talk during a slow dance or should i just keep my mouth shut.
Always talk during slow dances! Not nonstop kind of talk, but if you don't talk and the music is all quiet, you'll find that it'll seem incredibly awkward rather than the lovey-dovey kind of silence. Bring up stuff about the dance, such as "are you having a good time?" or "ha- i used to love this song! or.. i've never even heard this song! or.." something about the song.. haha. Or you could talk about something funny that happened earlier that day or something. Just be sure that he's into the talking idea. If he's kind of non-responsive, don't just carry on blabbing... Lol. But he'll likely respond and be grateful for the conversation. Best of luck to you! And have fun!
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so i'm 18, i have a pretty chizzled body, i've been dating the sexiest girl alive for the last 18 and i'm lead guitar in a heavy metal band. So what's my problem you ask? ACNE!!!!! i hate it and it's ruining my life. i've had acne since i was 13 or 14, i can't remember but i'm in college, this spit has to get out of my life, right now. i've been doing proactive on and off for about 2 years now, since it's been severe. also in that time i have seen 2 dermotologists. the first one way back gave me pills and a topical gel. it did nothing so i took myself off the pills and the gel and went back onto proactive for awhile. the acne just never went away for good. when one spot would go another would on the way. i went to another dermotologist about 2 months ago. he gave me atralin and nicotinamide. they both are not helping so recently i threw them both in the garbage. i'm back on proactive and i'm taking these, biodermazen. i'm so tired.....so so tired. it really upsets me because i could be a model if i didn't have acne. i want to sometimes just take a knife and cut the skin off of my face and start over. i want to gauge my eyes out with a metal spoon. i want to grow out the sickest beard of all time to hide the acne but my girlfriend isn't into jerry garcia and i can't grow a beard, only scruff. what do i do? im so tired......so very tired.
ask about acutane. i swear. it's awesome. i had horrible acne. and it was ruining my life. and i literally have none now. just a few scars from old acne. ask about acutane. it's a total pain, but it works. i swear on my own head. haha.
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So every time my boyfriend and I are doing anything together, I feel huge. I’m 5’4” and 135 lbs. I weigh a lot more than I want to weigh. And my boyfriend is only 5’8” and 145 lbs. He’s really skinny and muscular and whenever he’s touching me I always feel like he thinks I’m fat because I’m like the same size as him.
And, I’m not usually like this, but whenever I’m eating with him, I always eat way less than I want to because I feel like he’ll think I’m a fat ass. I feel really insecure about my body when I’m with him. And ever since we’ve been going out I feel the frantic need to lose weight. I’ve been eating like 600 calories a day and doing an hour and a half of elliptical every day. I still have only lost 2 lbs after a week and I feel horrible about it.
My question is to girls that have been with guys that are thinner than them. How did you feel confident about your body when you were with him? I always feel like he’s judging me, I mean I don’t know if he is, because I’ve never talked to him about it, but I feel like he is.
Wow, you sure hit the nail on the head. I feel like that a lot too. And the most frustrating part was that I couldn't lose the weight, and obviously I wasn't going to make him GAIN it to make myself feel better. Haha. Regardless, its common to be insecure about your own weight. You have to keep in mind that you are at a normal weight, and that he is skinny. If you were to be skinny like that, you wouldn't be as beautiful as you are. Being thin may work for him, but chances are, it won't work for you. As long as he likes you and doesn't "think you're a fat ass", then there really isn't any true issue. The rest that must be overcome is mental. Your boyfriend doesn't have to be bigger than you!
(Wow, I feel like I just gave myself therapy too! Haha.)
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is it possible to love someone who doesn't love them self? i have anorexia nervosa and though my boyfriend has told me he loves me almost every day for a year, i am not so sure that he can if i have such a hard time tolerating myself. i am afraid that he does not love me any longer.
i have bulimia, and my boyfriend claims to love me. in fact.. i believe that when someone else loves you, it actually helps you love yourself more. it's kind of a wakeup call to realize that there's SOMEONE out there who can appreciate you..even if you can't appreciate yourself. i dont know. that's how i feel..
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I haven't gotten my period since like maybe around October? And I was just wondering if anyone else has had this problem and know what's wrong. I'm already scheduled for a doctor's appointment on Friday about it but I was just wondering if it's anything serious or something.
14/F
if you're really skinny it can make you skip your period... that's what happened to me. i get mine really irregularly.
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heyy! ok so i was wondering what is the sexiest thing a girl could tell her guy she is wearing? like lingerie, a thong, a bra, nightgown, etc. just want to kno what guys think is extremely hot and sexy ;] thanx
buahaha. more like what she's *not* wearing...
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Why is it that some fellow advicenators tell young girls and boys it is okay to have sex or do other sexual acts "if they feel that they are ready" when they know that it is wrong. I believe they are just looking to get good ratings, do you agree? I'd much rather tell them the truth, that they are TOO YOUNG and have NO IDEA of potential consequences BESIDES pregnancy and get a lower rating than tell them it's okay. Am I the only one?
I suppose this can be seen as purely subjective, but is there anyone out there at or about my age (20) who thinks it's ok for 12 year olds to go around having oral sex and/or intercourse?
I'm going to defy common belief with a new point of interest:
It's not okay for people to make their own choices if they are harming others.
If these 12 year old are having children, it is not okay because these children will not be able to grow up normally. Dually, it stresses their parents, who will (most likely) be doing almost all of the work. It is not okay for people to make bad choices if they can't compensate for them.
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ok well does anyone else have times where they want their chest to be touched/massaged/or even just looked at.
cuz idk but i have them times a bunch
gosh yes... it's like i NEED to be touched or something.. haha.
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