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Q: I'm painting my new room next weekend. I've decided on light blue all over, but I want to do some kind of design coming out of one of the corners in dark blue. I'm going to hang a picture of new york lit up at night in the middle of that wall aswell. I've tryed designing some flowery patterns - but failed. Then, I was thinking I could do like stars, all different shapes, just randomly spread out coming out of the corner, like going behind the picture, but I don't know :/
Any ideas are welcomee :)

you can try something like abstract or butterflies like the fairy butterflies.Or the stars would be a good idea.You can even try fireflies or dragonflies.I am not sure what youre into.But Have fun and lemme know what you picked and how it looks.

Sis15

Q: i wish to dye my hair red my original hair color is a medium ash brown and here is what i want to know.

please tell me a list of red hair colors that i should being looking for, for my hair since it is already dark, and my skin tone is white. what type of red should i do.

i was thinking auburn red but i don't know, i want a medium red whatever color that is.
any answers are welcomed

well u can try burgundy its more of a purpleish color my hair is died blonde on top and burgundy underneath and it looks good i have the same natural color u do so it works.Or you can try strawbeery blonde with as dark as our hair is it will make your hair turn a real pretty red color.Usually any kind of red will work.Good luck and Lemme know if my advice helps.

Sis15

Q: 15-f, Sophmore
So best friend 1 is REALLY starting to piss me and best friend 2 off. First off.

Basically, last year best friend 2 was apparently a bitch to bestfriend 1 when we would hang out. I didn't notice.
This year, best friend 1 is driving us insane.
She squeals, shes loud, she says 'fuck' every other word now because she think it makes her look cool.
She says 'I don't care' to EVERYTHING you say to her.
She calls everyone ugly behind their back because she's so damn picky.
Shes obnoxious, she doent listen.
She has hit my rioght in the middle of my face multip[le times after I tell her to STOP every single time. Which results into me smacking the shit out of her.

She insults us. It's either her way or the high way. She keeps bring up the past. She's basically a poser.

If you don't agree with her she'll keep going on and on.

Honestly, she is NOT smart. She doesnt go to class. She yells, if you poke her she SQUEALS so loud.
She's nasty. She gives her parents attitude when they're SO nice.

She claimes she could beat anyone up - shes a sissy.
She lies constantly

I might add more later.

I can see myself getting into a HUGE fight with her from snapping and probably being sued out the ass for breaking her teeth

Me and best friend 2 want to have a serious talk with her about her attitude lately.
But, if we tried to, she would close her walls, walk away, wouldnt listen, and would just be like "Yeah fuck you"

ok so to be brutually honest i would tell her you and her you resign your friendship with her and walk away because just talking to her would be a waste of valuable time.In middle school I stayed away from snobs and preps and people who dont care and it seemed to work.Throughout highschool(which im still in)I have been homeschooled due to violence but thats off topic.I was in your situation many times before and when i got stuck in that situation I told them IM DONE WITH THE FAKE FRIENDSHIP.I told them everything they were doing wrong and they didnt want to listen so I didnt waste my time.I said to them that our friendship was over.I said it very bluntly and walked away and the never bothered me afterwards.People can be mean and hateful but its life hun and sometimes it just something we all deal with.But Be careful because some people take things the wrong way.Tell her in the nicest way you can that youre done with her attitude and friendship because she cant respect you or your other friend.Good luck and i hope this helps.Write back and let me know if I helped.

Sis15

Q: I eat fiber everyday for breakfast and lunch. I exercise whenever possible 2-3 times a week. I drink as much water as I can. I stay constipated. I don't know what to do anymore. There are some days where I can't go for 3 days unless I use a laxative. I've asked my mom if I can go see a doctor, but she keeps telling me they're just going to tell me to do what I've been doing. Is there no medication? I've been held back because of this for a while now. I can't deal with it anymore. There must be a solution. I cry a lot. It's hurting me emotionally because I can't help myself. I feel very helpless. :'(

try metamucil or benefiber or u can try something like fiber drinks those should help but avoid laxatives and avoid cheese for awhile becausve cheese will make you more constipated and so will laxatives.laxatives dont always work so its better to ask a doctor because a doctor will be able to tell if you have stomach problems and CAN prescribe you with something to help.I know I used to be in this situation before and my doctor helped me.I am positive that a doctor can tell you whats wrong.Good luck and I hope my advice helps.Let me know if it helped and I will help with anything else you may need help on.

Sis 15

Q: Okay so last week at school I was wearing short shorts and mini skirts all week long since it was so hot out. My friends and I usually sit outside on the bleachers for lunch and there was quite a few mosquitos I think or bee's or something. (I'm not sure) and by Friday both of my legs were covered in tiny little red pumps and I'm itching like hell. My mom was freaked when she saw my legs and I was to and I just figured they were mosquito bites or something. Anyways I'm trying to relief the itching and I HAVE no idea how. I'm not sure these are mosquito bites or an allergic reaction or like WHATEVER and it has me freaked. Anyone know how to relief the itching or what it might be?!

First off I wouldnt keep itching them if i were u my brother and sister had the same problem and it is poison ivy or oak relieve itching get calamine lotion or IVY DRY.If this doesnt help than I would go see a doctor and have him or her prescribe you an itch gel that takes care of that bad itch you have.But first i would have your doctor find out what it is first.I am 95% sure it could be poison ivy but just to be safe ask a doctor they know more than I do.I hope this helps you.Oh and if it is poison ivy it should (with the medication or calamine lotion)Go away within 1-3 weeks but Be careful because if a bump is open it can spead to others.I hope I was of some help and i hope you get your itch to go away.Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SIS15

Q: ok after i went swimming i wrapped my phone in the capris and then when i went to wash my capris my phone dropped in the washing machine when the machine was going so it got water damaged. i have it sitting a bowl of uncooked rice ( i took the battery out and its also in the rice) so my question is. if the rice trick doesn't work is there any way i can take apart my screen from the LG Voyager phone to clean out the water? or is there any trick where i can get the water out from under the screen.

okay
Im not sure how to take apart a phone like that But if it is in your screen then there is absolutely no way to get it fixed.You may have to buy another phone.I did that to my SANTO KATANA 2 and i tipped my phone upside down with the screen facing down and all the water dripped from the phone luckily it saved my phone but i dropped mine on wet grass so that may be why mine was able to be saved.With what happened with yours though I really dont think you can save i and it'll be like 500 dollars to get it fixed.I would honestly suggest to buy another phone it saves time and money and not only that it save trouble too.Hope this helps.

SIS15

Q: Is age 16, female, 'very beautiful' (what most men call me) normal to STILL be a virgin ? I think something's wrong with me ! I'm starting to feel depressed that all my friends arent. help !

yes it is normal to be a virgin that means you have a good head on your shoulders.Im 17 and still a virgin.nothing's wrong with you its just some girls wanna wait and some dont.
just wait for the right guy to come along

Q: Does anyone know where i can download or buy the song "part of your world" by chely wright? i looked on frostwire and i cant find it. thanks.

Itunes.com
Limewire.com
Rhapsody.com
or even
4shared.com

Q: 16/f

i'm actually not sure if my boyfriend is forcing me to stay with him or anything, it's just that me and him has been together for about seven months. sometimes, when me and him get into a fight, i would try to break up with him.. but then he would just cry and beg me to stay. but sometimes, i feel like i want to leave and be single but hearing him cry always gets to me. i always start crying because he cries, my heart feels heavy. i wasn't sure if that him crying would hold me back from what i wanted to do... or i just notice that i really do like him? i'm not sure... help me please?

okay on this note you make the decision.All I can say is follow your heart.If he doesnt cheat on you or treat you like your nothing then he is just being a guy and always thinks he's right.But if he does that to you then i would suggest to leave.But from what i just read i seen that he is not like that.In a relationship u are gonna have fights.But trust me you will later learn the answer.Follow your heart and be true to yourself and your feelings.I hope this helps.
SIS15

Q: I was wondering what kind of outfits would look good on me. I don't wear a lot of skirts or anything.

so i weigh about 135 and i am 5'4.I have really long reddish brown hair (its either wavy or straight and goes about 5 inches above my butt) and hazel eyes, athletic body. i have freckles that seem to almost disappear in winter. i don't like wearing makeup and also, i have some acne (not real bad).

Any help would be grately appreciated. thanks =]

well you can try some camoflauge pants maybe some real cute sequinned jeans and some t shirts or long sleeve shirts and hoodies usually work
im not much of a skirt person either so i wear jeans mostly all the time.With you hair color id say pastel colors and stay away from pinks cuz it will make your hair be bright and look like really really red almost liek orangish.Hope this helps.

Q: I have dark brown hair, an oliveish complexion, and my lips are naturally a little more darker red/pink than most people's. But I really like the whole nude lip thing, but everytime I try it, it just looks.. really.. weird. I've tried pale lip glosses, concealor, I don't know, are there any tricks or anything to keep me from looking like a clowN?

yeah
try a clear lipgloss or maybe some chapstick
some people go for the same thing like me.So i use clear lipglosses or a shade lighter than my lip color itself.hope this helps.

Q: 14/m

theres a girl that I like that im pretty sure likes me, but i only see her once a week. We hang out sometimes on other days but mostly Its only once a week. Im wondering if its even worth it asking her out even if she says yes because I wouldnt get to see her a ton
your thoughts?

well it all depends on how you really feel.If you really like her then I say give it a shot because if you dont you could lose something great.But be careful because alot of people get turned down.Im sure youre an awesome person and im sure she may like you as well but if things dont work out just dont give up you will find someone someday youre still young and you still have a lot to learn.Keep your chin held high with your confidence up to and youll be great.Hope this advice helps.

Q: *i'm sorry, this might be a bit long.. but i need to say all of this so it'll make alot more sense.

sooo, i just got a boyfriend... ever since 12/29/08
he's sixteen and i'm fifteen.

what i mean by he's not that active, is not in a sexual way.. but i mean in a relationship way.
before we started going out, he SAID that he liked me.. but didn't really seem like it.
he doesn't text or call me as much as he did before, makes it seem like he was losing interests in me. and whenever i texted him, he only texts back when he WANTS to. makes me feel like i'm just there, because he WANTS me to be there.

before, i couldn't take it anymore.. so i texted him saying that he was confusing, and he FINALLY texted back asking why. and i said "tell me this honestly, do you like me or not?" he goes "yeah.. why does it seem like i don't?" and i said "somewhat" and he goes "why" and i said, "because you SAY that you do, but it doesn't seem like it." and he told said "that's because i'm not sure if you like me" that kind of made me go like "what the heckk?" because I'M the one that's been texting him, and he's the one that hasn't been answering. but, we worked that out... but he can't really use that excuse anymore since we're together now.

my last couple of relationships, i didn't take really seriously. but this time, i would actually try to make this one work out. but the relationship can't work out if only ONE person tries to make it work, right? SUPPOSEDLY i'm the first girl that had ever gaven him 'butterflies' and really liked before going out with. he says so, but it sure doesn't seem like it. i'm not sure if he's busy or what not.. but after we went out, my boyfriend doesn't even seem like a boyfriend! our last conversation ended with "HAPPY NEW YEAR!" and "YOU TOO!" *ends...

i would talk to him about it, but it'd probably end up the same as before.. i'm not even sure if he even takes this relationship seriously or not. because i don't want to, if he isn't going to.

i called him earlier.. but once i pressed the talk button, it went straight to his voicemail. and no, he doesn't have a myspace, facebook, journal, or xanga.. whatever that people has now and days. he doesn't have any of those.

sooo, the questions that i'm wondering is.. what do you think is running through his mind? do you think he lost interest? what's your opinion on this? what should i do?

your response is very important to me! please & thank you (:

to answer this is confusing because guys themselvees are confusing.One minute they say the care about you and like you alot and the next the turn around and like someone else.Maybee he is scared or maybe he is having second thoughts.Boys want alot of things but sometimes they can be down to earth.You haven been dating that long and who knows maybe things will change but for know take it slow and see where it goes.Never take anythign too fast.For all I know boys are complicated.I think by being able to keep your chin up you'll find out whats up.Keep in mind that everyone has a perfect match but may take a while to find them.Just give him somme time and he may come around.I hope this helps.if you need anything reply back to me to let me know.

Q: so im 18/female

i've always had probelms with my skin, well my face probably since 8th grade or so. i have more of an "oily" face if thats what you want to call it. i have alot of little bumps on my forehead AND around my chin area and sometimes on my cheeks. i dont play sports or anything, dont work out. i dont know why i always get this? it never goes away! sometimes they turn into pimples too. they're like blackheads, alot of them. i wash my face twice a day, once in the morning and once at night. i wash it with noxema. my parents pretty much wont pay for me to get this fixed, and i really dont have the money at all right now with paying for college and my car. is there anything i could buy though that would help clear this? not proactive, my brother tried it and it didnt work at all and my friend also. any face wash, i just need something!!

well for some people different things work
for me i use proactiv and it works really well
but for you i would try some neutrogena,acne free,clean and clear,or maybe some stridex pads.If none of this helps which hopefully this will help but if not go to a local pharmacy and they maybe able to tell you a good working medicine.You can also try selsun blue dandruff shampoo on your face i know it sounds kinda weird but it helped me with the oily skin and blackheads. Noxema I know from experience will only break your skin out worse it does for me

Q: Is there anyway to get rid of pimples and blackheads and i don't want to go out there and buy creams i already did and they don't work is there anyway else ?

try going to your doctor or dermatologists
to see if he or she can oerscribe you something
mine did

Q: Do you know of any household item/object that can help whiten my teeth . I dont want to use crest whitening strips or get them permanentaly whitened that would be too much money. :]] thanks

try baking soda or I know this sounds gross
but try gargling with some peroxide but do not swallow it

Q: so my boyfriend and i broke up (the reason why is WAY to long to explain) and i broke up with him, then we got back together, and the next day he broke up with me. anyway i was so mad at him for so many reasons, and i still get mad when i think about it, but at the same time i want him back. he broke my heart and i still want him back. whats wrong with me? how do i get over him?

thanks SO much for ur help

to start this there is nothing wrong with you
he just dont know what he is losing
secondly that means you love him
thirdly this happened to me
but the advice form me to you is move on and and be who you are
you will find someone better

Q: i'm going on sort of a double date thing on friday. Its going to be me and my boyfriend and my friend and her boyfriend going to the movies.My boyfriend and i haven't kissed yet and he said he was gunna kiss me in the movie. This will be my first kiss. Wat should i do?????
Thanx in advance

If u feel that way about him to where you wanna kiss him back just give it a shot and dont worry
if it is good or bad cuz you still have lots of time to learn
good luck

Q: hey, uhm. does anyone have quotes ot lyrics that i could use thats about...

i like this guy and he said he likes me too but doesnt want a girlfriend right now.

if you do thanks alot.

ok this same thing happned to me and usually that means he dont like you or that he likes u but he may not be sure if you will treat him right
he may be afraid you may cheat on him or lie to him
but be careful cuz some guys will use you and not care about how you feel or who you are inside
good luck

u just have to prove u wont lie,cheat,or betray him
use the song treat me right by the Backstreetboys
or fallen by alicia keys