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boyfriend doesn't seem like a boyfriend
*i'm sorry, this might be a bit long.. but i need to say all of this so it'll make alot more sense.
sooo, i just got a boyfriend... ever since 12/29/08
he's sixteen and i'm fifteen.
what i mean by he's not that active, is not in a sexual way.. but i mean in a relationship way.
before we started going out, he SAID that he liked me.. but didn't really seem like it.
he doesn't text or call me as much as he did before, makes it seem like he was losing interests in me. and whenever i texted him, he only texts back when he WANTS to. makes me feel like i'm just there, because he WANTS me to be there.
before, i couldn't take it anymore.. so i texted him saying that he was confusing, and he FINALLY texted back asking why. and i said "tell me this honestly, do you like me or not?" he goes "yeah.. why does it seem like i don't?" and i said "somewhat" and he goes "why" and i said, "because you SAY that you do, but it doesn't seem like it." and he told said "that's because i'm not sure if you like me" that kind of made me go like "what the heckk?" because I'M the one that's been texting him, and he's the one that hasn't been answering. but, we worked that out... but he can't really use that excuse anymore since we're together now.
my last couple of relationships, i didn't take really seriously. but this time, i would actually try to make this one work out. but the relationship can't work out if only ONE person tries to make it work, right? SUPPOSEDLY i'm the first girl that had ever gaven him 'butterflies' and really liked before going out with. he says so, but it sure doesn't seem like it. i'm not sure if he's busy or what not.. but after we went out, my boyfriend doesn't even seem like a boyfriend! our last conversation ended with "HAPPY NEW YEAR!" and "YOU TOO!" *ends...
i would talk to him about it, but it'd probably end up the same as before.. i'm not even sure if he even takes this relationship seriously or not. because i don't want to, if he isn't going to.
i called him earlier.. but once i pressed the talk button, it went straight to his voicemail. and no, he doesn't have a myspace, facebook, journal, or xanga.. whatever that people has now and days. he doesn't have any of those.
sooo, the questions that i'm wondering is.. what do you think is running through his mind? do you think he lost interest? what's your opinion on this? what should i do?
your response is very important to me! please & thank you (:
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to answer this is confusing because guys themselvees are confusing.One minute they say the care about you and like you alot and the next the turn around and like someone else.Maybee he is scared or maybe he is having second thoughts.Boys want alot of things but sometimes they can be down to earth.You haven been dating that long and who knows maybe things will change but for know take it slow and see where it goes.Never take anythign too fast.For all I know boys are complicated.I think by being able to keep your chin up you'll find out whats up.Keep in mind that everyone has a perfect match but may take a while to find them.Just give him somme time and he may come around.I hope this helps.if you need anything reply back to me to let me know.
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Ahhh young love.
The good news is you havent been dating him that long, and you already see the signs so you are not too attatched.
I'm going to tell you something, and memorize it ok?
"Never make someone your top priority if you are their last resort"
Take that with you for the rest of high school and college. The teens are hard enough without worrying about some dude.
The truth is, I have no idea what's going on in his mind and I used to be a 16 year old boy... but you shouldnt have to worry about it either. Break it off, tell him if he snaps out of his funk, you'll consider talking to him again, that puts power in your court. It sucks to be alone for a while, but who knows? You'll probably find someone better suited in the long run anyway.
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hm, you should try calling him or texting him asking if he wants to hang out like in person.. it sounds like all you have is a cell phone relationship witch always ends bad because you dont know how the person is saying things, and like you said you think hes losing interest but it could just be he wasnt looking at his phone at the time you texted him, i would definitely try hanging out in person it gives you a better feel if he likes you or not and you can tell by his expressions and such, hope that helped a little bit.
goodluck
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