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His Ex Girlfriend Is A Bother
My boyfriend and i always see his ex at this one movie theatre.
She always goes up to him, looks directly at me, and hugs him. She talks to him and purposely leaves me out, glaring at me when she can. I dont know her that well, her name is Caitlin and she hates my guts because she still likes him, and im going out with him. He tries to get away from her, so i know its not his fault, when i see her next time, what do i do?!
Im always just standing there helpless.
I want to do something, but i dont wanna embarrass myself.
ugh!
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well normally in this situation...i have just stepped in the convo...grabbed his hand... just to kinda show he's mine not yours back off... dont wanna ecourage violence lol but she has o reason to hate your guts. past is past. and if she tries anything... then its time to strike back... for example...if she's talking smack.. dont stoop down to her level. itll provoke her more cuz it bothers you. if she tries to fight you... tell your bf. he should be the one defending you after all. and if he knows then why isnt he putting a stop to it? g0od luck
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Engage her in conversation.
'Hi Catlin, how is your summer going?'
'Hi Catlin, how's your day been?'
'I really like Catlin's jacket! Don't you?'
Don't be vicious or catty. That will only make you look like a bitch and feed into her nastiness.
Be friendly, but not fake. Imagine she is a girl you are meeting for the first time and you'd like to be friends. Be so friendly it hurts. Don't just sit there like a bump on a log, dominate the conversation, make girl talk, engage her in conversation and include your boyfriend from time to time.
This will do a few things: It will make it harder for her to glare at you. It will make it harder for her to hate you, but most importantly if you and your boyfriend are talking to her (rather then her just talking to him) then you are presenting a united front to her.
You are also letting her know she doesn’t have any power over either of you.
Let your boyfriend know your plan. Next time you run into her his job is not to get away from her, his job is to talk to both you AND her and your job is to talk to her.
It won’t work unless you can truly be friendly, not fake, but friendly. The way you would be if you just met someone new. It is awfully hard to embaress yourself when you are only trying to be nice. Give it a try, and watch it throw her for a loop and after a few times, she probably wont approach you as often.
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