I'm a fourteen year old girl looking to help you people out. Leave me questions and i can try my best to answer them.
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Ok, i'm not into that whole bf/gf thing, so unless you really like me or something weird like that, don't ask me those stupid does he like me questions. i can almost garentee you're not going to like your answer.
i'm a little crazy, but for the most part, i'm not going to screw with you guys like with jokes when it comes to advice.
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omg ok i turned 15 in june & i've never "french kissed" any1..like wut tha hell..all my friends have and iduno..i've had so many boyfriends & almost all of them have wanted to make-out with me, but that's when i usually dump them and go hide b/c im soooo nervous...like i want to sooo badly but i'm scared..i don't know what to do, and i don't want to look dump b/c i'm a bad kisser or w/e..iduno..i'm seein this guy now..who i absolutely adore & i don't want to ruin it b/c i'm scared of my first kiss..i love him so much and he's 2 years older than me so i know he'll want to kiss..help..='(...i know after i get the first one over with i'll be fine..i'm just usually hesitant when it comes to doing things i'm unsure about..sorry its so long..i'm just upset & scared & confused..and i hope ya'll can be understanding and help me out..thanx (link)
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tell him. tell him this is your first kiss, and that practice makes perfect ;-)
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ok lik have my own column but i cant seem to answer my own question my ex is having alot of trouble movin on and like he asked me how to move on and i told him u cant frce it and like idk like its weird idk if im moved on either but i like this other but them again i like my ex too and my friends dont approve of me goin out wiht my ex soo yea a little help please (link)
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first off, your friends oppinion means very little in your heart. secound of all, figure out wich one you like more. breakups are hard, so be nice to your ex.
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ok my cuzin is 21 we r really close...he had a 19 yr old gf of 3 yrs....and she was really close to him...we went to get him situated for college a yr ago and it was far away frum his house and he missed his gf so bad he moved back...i mean...they wer just incredibly close...well sh got really posesive and weird on him so they broke up recently....she wont even speak to him now...hes called and she wont answer n everything...he even went to her house and she wasnt home and she had a box in the trash that he noticed and it was ALL the letters they wrote to eachother, the diamond ring he bought her, stufed animals, etc...he took the box home and hes really depressed...the bad thing is hes goin to anothr college now far away and shes goin ther too....hes really upset...hes lost wieght and everything...is ther nething i could do to help him?? =( (link)
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nope, sorry hunni. just tell him you love him, and that you are always there for him. give him your oppinion on this girl if you want, but thats about all you can do.
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well im startin my h.s on sept 8...im really nervous EVERYONE @ my middle skool is goin to this one h.s and im goin to another one far away bc i didnt like the ppl @ my old skool i just had a lot of probs n stuff....but yea this skool is a whole diff crowd of ppl my last skool was s0o0o ghetto!! this is like really not....im just so nervous i dont no ne 1 and we hav to wear uniforms that r navy blue and khaki...im afraid im gonna look like a dork and hav no friends..hellllppp...im gonna b so lost =( (link)
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hey, everyones gonna look dorky wearing the same thing. the point of uniforms is so that kids don't have to worry about what they're wearing. just be friendly. smile a lot. you make friends eventually.
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ok me and my b/f have been going out 4 a while and i trust him with everything but recenly we have been talking about sex and he wants to and he said that if im not ready that its ok and that he will wait as long as i want to wait but i like wanna have sex with him but im kinda scared still so if any one could help me it would be greatly appcated (link)
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tell him. maybe your really just not ready to have sex. maybe he's just as scared as you are.
hey, lots of people wait until they're married to have sex, keep that in mind.
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Okay, i've been having weird period cycle's.. at the beginning of the year i was having periods around the end of the month the 25th or 27th then they started earlier like the 15th every month for a few months well.. just last month and the month before i had my period around the 6th.. well today is the 10th and i haven't started my period yet! I don't understand this. I'm 17 and i feel like a dork. I have had sex before just to let you know.. last month about a week after my period well i'm pretty sure i'm not pregnant because i took a test and i'm not. But, i still don't understand why my period hasn't come yet..? I know this is probably weird but i'm having all my normal symptoms as usual.. i'm eating a lot more like i always do before my period and i'm eating chocolate "alot" and that's always before my period.. but i haven't started yet? This has been going on for like a week now. Everysense i've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months my like has been stressed with so much stuff.. do you think thats whats causing it? Stress? Or is my body just not normal..? Could someone help me please..!? (link)
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go see your doctor if you really concerned that somethings wrong. That the only way to be sure. you might just be irregular, but i doubt it because ur 17.
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well there is this boy n i rele like him n his mom always invites me over if im homealone n she is all nicce to me but when iget to there house i never no what to say to him i lose my breath rele easy if im talkin to him n i have to take rell rele deep breaths n well he is kinda a butt hole to me n i think i have a crush on him but he always picks on me like if he dosnt agree w. some thing i say he is like shut up ur stupid is that a sign he likes me or is he jsut being stupid??
i rate rele good!! (link)
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unless he's laughing when he says shut up or ur stupid, then he's just being stupid.
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Alrighty... I'm going to ask you guys for your opinion of this situation I am in. My parents aren't close.... At all. They're basically room mates, and not even anymore since my dad JUST got this taveling job. This is like his 2nd month. Anyway, my parents have always faught. Since I could remember. I remember being like 7 and having to tell my crying brother and sister that mommy and daddy are okay, they're just a little mad at eachother. Ya know? So the fighting doenst bother me at all anymore... Kinda annoying... But doesn't bother me. Well, my mom does love my dad. But my dad rather be a jerk to her at times. Really bad. My mom is so emotionally wrecked but this its nuts. My mom and I are very close... Very. She tells me EVERYTHING. So.. Im going to get to my problem thing. It goes back to when i was like 9 (I'm now 14)... My dad was away on business for about a month or so, and my mom had an affair. The thing was she told me right then, and there. Which I totally respect because not very many parents can be that truthful. My siblings were too young to even get what an affair was so she just told me until my sister was old enough. Anyway, I saw the way he treated my mom for that month or so... and I thought... Hey she's happy. You all have no idea the stuff that my dad puts my mom through. But I was kind of uncomfortable. I wouldn't talk to her lover. I don't remember if he knew I knew. But he always wondered why I wasnt as close ti him as my bro and sis. But we moved away. And my mom talked about him for a while and still does here and there. So it was back to my mom, and my dad... Fighting, arguing, and unhappy. For a while. My mom became super depressed. And even I, for sometimes she'd vent by expressing her thoughts and feelings with me. So I was kind of upset. But dude, I'm like 14... Kind of hard to understand all the way. But yeah... So my dad took this travel job, and my mom has always, always, always been suspocous of him cheating... (lol hmm)... Anyway, My mom has this friend here. And I always thought something was between them... But my mom ALWAYS told me they were just friends. Until tonight he came over (my dads away), But he told my mom the kids had to be in bed. My mom knew I was up... She just told me to be quiet while he was here. Sooo... They talked and stuff and after he left my mom wanted to talk to me. And we talked about me for a while then we talked about her and her friend. She was telling me how her friend made her so happy and that he noticed my mom lost alot of weight, but my dad never said anything... And things that her friend did that my dad doesnt... So I was like... Okay... she's just looking for a friend. It's cool it makes her happy. And then she told me about an argument my dad and her had before he left about how my dad treats her, and how she was going to have sex with someone new. And my mom told me how she was taking about it with my sister. And yeah put 2 and 2 together... So I don't know what to do, or even what to think. I'm kinda immune to like getting mad about it.. I just don't think I like him... But I want to know everyones oppinion or what you think I should do. I mean I bet you're like.. wow.. you should go on jerry springer... lol, no, but really... I dunno why they don't devorce. My mom does care about my dad so much but I guess shes sick of the hurt and abuse.... LOL hmm yeah... What do you all think? (link)
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personally, i think your mom should get a divorse. He has no right to be treating her wrong. You really can't do anything. Get out more and try and avoid the fighting as much as you can (yeah kinda late for that . . .) and talk to your mom about what her descions are. Parentles fighting is always tough, and it sucks. But thats the life THEY chose, just rise above it. thats all i can really say.
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hey i need a new sn bc ppl i dont no ims a lot so i need a new one but i can never think of a new sn
i like ole miss i playing baseball for our school team the indians and i like the braves
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hey i just ordered contacts.. im gettin them the 23rd =)) but n e ways.. i need some info on what and what not to do with them in ur eyes that the docter doesnt tell me.. please help.. =)
lilcutie910 (link)
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no swimming or sleeping in them. clean them every night
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Well their is this guy that I have know since I was like 6 or older. we have always seen each other and I have always had a crush on him. he is like 20 turning 21 in feburary. I am only like 15 turning 16 in october. Is it bad for having a crush or like maybe a thing wit him even if he is a lil older then me? I like him so much but I don't know if my parents would like that he is older and I am so young for him. When we see each other too. we have so much stuff to talk about together and we are happy when we see each other and It hurts me when other girls hurt him. I don't want to do. well thank you Jenny,16,female (link)
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nah, people get married from anywhere between 10 to 30 years.
wait a few years before you start to let those feelings out to other people. maybe with him it would be alright, but i wouldn't tell the folks for awhile. parents are weird.
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i asked before about if there was anyone that could help me..well if ur a phychic cuz well my boyfriend and i dont get to see each other alot and i juss wanna know if hes chating on me and if hes been tellin me the truth bout everything..i juss want someone that can tell me what is goin on and how things are hopefully im his only gurl.. (link)
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give the fella a break and trust him for crying out loud.
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ok in this highschool im goin to its a REALLY bad school lol its ghetto..and yea anyways im not pretty or anything im over weight and yea u get the point but my question is how do i get more boys as friends? thanks! ( im really shy by the way ) (link)
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lose the shyness. thats all u have to do. otherwise, count on not having anyfriends.
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i didnt know what to put this under but whatever. i want to have a BIG 16th birthday ( im 15 ) my birthdays in july. What should i do? I dont want to have a pool party or anything. But can you give me some ideas..like where to go..if i should stay at home and invite people over or where to have it. ( if youve already had ur 16th birthday reply! ) but if you havent thats alright lol. thanks (link)
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if ur folks have CASH coming out their ears, rent out a conference room in a fancy hotel for a hotel and party all night long. If your really loaded, get all the geusts rooms.
if not, cake always sounds good at ur house.
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im not sure if this is the rite category but im a 14 year old male and i wanna run away. i dont like tthe way im being treated at home my parents r taking away my comps cuz they saw somethin on this site that they didnt like and they think i had somthin 2do w/ it. my mom is always yelling 4 no reason she thinx im always doin somthin rong my dad gives me no privacy and tries 2 read my messages. i hate having my life consumed by them. i want a life of my own.so should i stay or should i go? (link)
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if its abuse, go.
if not, stay and tell them to leave you alone for chist's sake.
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ok.i got this new courdoroy tan/white skirt..what kind of shoes would be best to wear with it? Im not the best walker in heals lol. Would plain white sneakers be good? What kinda "fancier" shoes would be best?
Also..i have split ends...but i like my long hair..does layering it sound like a good idea? (link)
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layering is always a bad idea with long hair.
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My boyfriend is leaving for Tennesee tomorrow and im really depressed about it. He's moving in with his mom and I probably won't see him much anymore since I live in Illinois. I spent the night with him last night, and im doing the same tonight, but im wondering if there is any way to make his leaving easier on me. I really love him, and i dont want him to know how upset I really am.
Is there any way I can ease the pain of him leaving me?
**we're going to try a long distance relationship, but it still won't be the same as having him here!** (link)
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pretend it is the same. Write every day, and call all the time.
if it doesn't work out, icecream and rock n roll are the best heart heallers.
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hey what are the best clothes for back to school like the latest fashions (link)
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The same thing you wore all summer. No, sweatshirts, jeans, teeshirts and solid colored clothing.
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Hi, I'm 14 years old and my mom doesn't allow me to wear thongs!!!! So she makes me buy the regular kind or boy briefs, whatever. I used to own a whole bunch but I think she threw them away so now I only have one. And my question is that if a guy finds out that I don't wear thongs then they will think I'm not good enough, or sexy. And I don't think they should base it on that. But I feel really insecure and not good enough because I don't wear a thong. What should I do? How do I get over this? Thanks for your help! (link)
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Buy thongs and do your own laundry.
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Hey, (14/f) I am friends with my exboyfriend. We talk a lot, and are pretty close. I am going to a different school this year so it's going to be really hard to see him and talk to him, but i really value our friendship. Whenever we talk though he alwayse brings up other girls, and how hott they all are. I know that I shouldn't get jelous since we are just friends now, but i do. So I can't deside weather he is making me feel jelous so i dont forget him, or if he is just talkin to me like a close friend.
-Really confused (link)
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I think he's trying to make you jealous so you'll take him back.
Then again, i don't know you, so don't do anything because of what i just said. Just keep it in mind.
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