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Alrighty... I'm going to ask you guys for your opinion of this situation I am in. My parents aren't close.... At all. They're basically room mates, and not even anymore since my dad JUST got this taveling job. This is like his 2nd month. Anyway, my parents have always faught. Since I could remember. I remember being like 7 and having to tell my crying brother and sister that mommy and daddy are okay, they're just a little mad at eachother. Ya know? So the fighting doenst bother me at all anymore... Kinda annoying... But doesn't bother me. Well, my mom does love my dad. But my dad rather be a jerk to her at times. Really bad. My mom is so emotionally wrecked but this its nuts. My mom and I are very close... Very. She tells me EVERYTHING. So.. Im going to get to my problem thing. It goes back to when i was like 9 (I'm now 14)... My dad was away on business for about a month or so, and my mom had an affair. The thing was she told me right then, and there. Which I totally respect because not very many parents can be that truthful. My siblings were too young to even get what an affair was so she just told me until my sister was old enough. Anyway, I saw the way he treated my mom for that month or so... and I thought... Hey she's happy. You all have no idea the stuff that my dad puts my mom through. But I was kind of uncomfortable. I wouldn't talk to her lover. I don't remember if he knew I knew. But he always wondered why I wasnt as close ti him as my bro and sis. But we moved away. And my mom talked about him for a while and still does here and there. So it was back to my mom, and my dad... Fighting, arguing, and unhappy. For a while. My mom became super depressed. And even I, for sometimes she'd vent by expressing her thoughts and feelings with me. So I was kind of upset. But dude, I'm like 14... Kind of hard to understand all the way. But yeah... So my dad took this travel job, and my mom has always, always, always been suspocous of him cheating... (lol hmm)... Anyway, My mom has this friend here. And I always thought something was between them... But my mom ALWAYS told me they were just friends. Until tonight he came over (my dads away), But he told my mom the kids had to be in bed. My mom knew I was up... She just told me to be quiet while he was here. Sooo... They talked and stuff and after he left my mom wanted to talk to me. And we talked about me for a while then we talked about her and her friend. She was telling me how her friend made her so happy and that he noticed my mom lost alot of weight, but my dad never said anything... And things that her friend did that my dad doesnt... So I was like... Okay... she's just looking for a friend. It's cool it makes her happy. And then she told me about an argument my dad and her had before he left about how my dad treats her, and how she was going to have sex with someone new. And my mom told me how she was taking about it with my sister. And yeah put 2 and 2 together... So I don't know what to do, or even what to think. I'm kinda immune to like getting mad about it.. I just don't think I like him... But I want to know everyones oppinion or what you think I should do. I mean I bet you're like.. wow.. you should go on jerry springer... lol, no, but really... I dunno why they don't devorce. My mom does care about my dad so much but I guess shes sick of the hurt and abuse.... LOL hmm yeah... What do you all think?
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ok first of all before I say nething I am soOoOoOo sorry u have to go through this. Ur so young. Have u ever sat down with ur mom and talking to her about getting help? cuz she doesnt derserve to be unhappy nobody does. Or maybe a family conselor...sometimes that really doesnt help. Ur dad seems really rude. Someitmes work does it. Maybe hes the one that needs help. If ur dad is really easy to talk to then ask him...whats up with u and mom lately??u two sound really unhappy" Although some dads arent really so easy to talk to. Be there for ur mom though let know u love her with erything. The Children in life seem to make the parents feel better. Dont let nething stress her out. That can lead to some other stuff and I dont want u and eryone else in the family to suffer from that. People wonder why the ladies always stay with the guys that dont make them happy. My friends parents are like that. Its just us gurlz though..!!! Its not good though. Talk to ur mom and see if she wants to get help xOxO*Shannon
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Well it is hard for you to have to deal with someone elses problem and there is really nothin you can do except for talk it over with you mom! tell her how you feel! cause that is very confusing to have a husband and another man. if i was answering you moms advice i would tell her go with the one she loved..which would probably be the other man..but she cant keep it a secret from her husband! divorce would probably be the right thing...just sit her down and talk to her about this and maybe you can get something worked out! =] hope this helped!
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Im realli sorry that youve had to go thru this since it started at such a young age. If i was you i would talk to both ur parents at tha same time and ask them to get a divorce bcuz things arent workin out like they shuld and its jus hurtin tha family! Hope things get better if u needa talk more jus drop one n my inbox xo`amanda
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Hello =) I'm soo sorry that you had to go through this. Since you are so close to your mom, I would seriously ask her if your parents COULD get a divorce. It would be more healthy for her, you, and your siblings. I really hope it works out ... if you need anything, drop one in the inbox <3 Steph (If you feel confortable enough telling me how it goes if you tell your mom)
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personally, i think your mom should get a divorse. He has no right to be treating her wrong. You really can't do anything. Get out more and try and avoid the fighting as much as you can (yeah kinda late for that . . .) and talk to your mom about what her descions are. Parentles fighting is always tough, and it sucks. But thats the life THEY chose, just rise above it. thats all i can really say.
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