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Need advice on an ex from hell....
12 years ago, my hubby was married to a woman that left him for his b/f. He had friends who claimed to be neutral, but were really not (they let ex and b/f use their home as a hotel, and helped the affair in other ways). When we met they became carrier pigeons for her, as did her bro.I put the skids to it. Her marriage fizzled.She kept up trying to corner my hubby about me (b/f and hubby sometimes worked together and she would see him then), and our relationship. She re-remarried, had kids (none with my hubby-thankfully), moved 6 houses away from us, started dressing like me and wearing her hair like me, and walking past our house, looking in our windows. Tried the courts and was told it was a public street and she never left it to look, and cuz she lived there, too bad for me. The only way to stop her was if she became violent towards me. We moved 3 years ago. Last weekend, a relative who is friends with the carrier pigeons wanted to know why I didn't like the ex, and what could she have done to make me not like her, and on and on. Hubby figures if he buries his head in the sand, it will all go away. I say no. We moved 45 minutes away, stopped associating with people who know her. She runs away from me (literally) if she sees me, but when she's with her friends and I'm alone, she calls me names (even did so in front of my son), so confronting is out of the question. I think she needs help and is just plain weird. How do we get rid of her????
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Yow, that is freaky. Indeed, it sounds like she needs some severe help, possibly medicated. Since you've already moved 45 minutes away, I would wonder if that wasn't far enough (not that moving is just the easiest thing in the world to do). Sadly, the legal implications are correct - they can only do something if violence has been threatened.
At best, all I can think of would be to no longer address her. If others mention her, simply state that for the safety and sanity of your family, you will no longer discuss issues regarding the ex. I am guessing that she thrives off the attention she recieves from all this, and when she acts out against you the way she does, that is yet another way to garner attention. By stopping the attention, by no longer addressing her, by not acknowledging her existence, you cut off the attention she so craves. Hopefully, this will get her to move on with her life.
Good luck.
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Wow this sounds bad, kinda like you can make a scary movie about her! Well..
-did you try getting an order of protection sent against her? This will make her stay at least 500 yards away from you(i beleive thats the distance)
-I agree, it does sound like she needs serious help..maybe if you try and convince your hubby to talk with his ex and tell her its over and to leave his family at peace,this might be resolved.
Does this woman continue to harass you in your new home which you said was 45 minutes away? If so, then go to the police again. She can be considered a stalker possibly?
Hope I gave you some options that will help...drop one in my inbox if you want me to help further :)
-Melissa
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