Am a bit of a wrinkly now (i was 24 on 4/9/05, but I had the best birthday I've ever had in my whole entire life!!!) but I know an awful of stuff about an awful lot of stuff!
I am COMPLETELY NON-JUDGEMENTAL and you can always inbox me with stuff you wouldn't ask anyone else @ MelanieHarvey81@Hotmail.Com
Mel xxx
"Dance like no one is watching and love like you've never been hurt"
E-mail: MelanieHarvey81@Hotmail.Com
Gender: Female
Location: Long story, born in Germany, Parents are Spanish but grew up in the UK!!!
Occupation: General Superstar and all around heroine!
Age: 24
Member Since: December 24, 2004
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i really like this guy...but i am afraid he wont like me and i am friends with his friends and they say he isnt into girls right now...but it feels likehe keeps flirting with me...what should i do?...should i ask him out?
ps. i rate 5's (link)
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The way I see it you have one of two choices - either way don't beat yourself up over it, chances are you will become mates anyway if you share the same group of mates.
Choice 1) Ask him out
Choice 2) Don't ask him out.
Whatever you do have fun and I hope it works out!!
Melanie xxx
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How can I get into freelance writing? I'm going to do a journalism course, but I'd be interested to know how to move into freelance occupation. (link)
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HI,
I'm no expert on this subject but if you go to http://www.freelancewriting.com/fjb.html then you will be able to see the types of freelance jobs available and the qualifications/experience you need for each.
They also have a page that you can contact hem directly on. It may be worth you dropping them a line!!
Good luck!!!
Melanie
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hey anyone know of any good sites that let you up load pictures i need good advice thanks i'll rate high. (link)
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Hiya!!
The one that I normally use (not that I use it very often!) is www.photobucket.com
Hope this helps!!
Happy Uploading!!
Mel
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does anyone know anything about fashions in the 1920's? its a project i have to do! send me some websites if you can or just tell me facts i am
netsirk07 thanks!!!!
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So you have to do a project on the roaring 20's?
Well I'm not expert but I recall a few things that may help you.
In the 1920s, a new woman was born. She smoked, drank, danced, and voted. She cut her hair, wore make-up, and went to petting parties. She was giddy and took risks. She was a flapper! (nowadays we would call her a hussy!! Or worse!!!)
Womens magazines Vouge, The Queen and Harpers Bazaar came out so you could try having a look at their websites.
Antoher site that is good for 1920's fashion is http://www.fashion-era.com/flapper_fashion_1920s.htm
It has loads of really good stuff on it.
Hope it helps and you get a great grade!!!
Melanie
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I was just shoveling yesterday alot and last night when I was sleeping I noticed my back hurt ALOT. Today even when Im typing I cant bend over because it hurts too much. What can I do to stop it from hurting? Please help!
Jacki (link)
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Take a long hot bath with some deep heat/ralgex bath oil in.
This will relax the muscles a bit.
If it is really hurting then take a couple of Nurofen or other NSAID (Non-Steroid Anit-Inflammatory Drugs) These are great for muscular pain, and rub on some deep-heat cream (Not sure whether you get this as I'm not sure where in the world you are!! It's the heating cream you can get over the counter from any good chemist)
Chances are you have just overdone it shovelling but if it's not better in 48-72 hours then I would be inclined to see a Doctor!!
Til then get your feet up and relax!!!
Take Care and hope it get's better soon!!
Melanie
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i'm in love with a guy whose a hindu and i'm a christian i love him a lot he love me to but his saying his parents won't allow what should i do?i'm 20 his 22 (link)
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If you really truly love him then you will find a way between you.
Have you actually both sat down infront of both of your parents and explained the way you feel about each other?
If not do this.
I understand how strict Hindu families are, one of my close frinds is Hindu and in love with a "white boy" and they were really against the idea at first but one they had sat down and talked to both sets of parent they realised that their children were both happy, and lets face it, that's all that most people want for their kids.
If they will not let you sit and talk with them then write them a letter.
Another option is one of you converting to the others religion.
Obviously this would have to be a mutual agreement and in honesty I personally would never dchange my beliefs to fit in with antoher persons family (cos it's not like he has a problem with you being from a different religion)
You said that you're parents think you are just friend. Would they react badly if you told them?
At the end of the day you are both adults and are capable of making your own decisions.
It looks like you have both made your decision, that you want to be together. And if you do, then yeah your families can make life hard for you but they will only succeed in pushing you closer together.
Good luck to both of you and let me know what happens!!
Take care & be happy!!
Melanie
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How in the world do I get my co-worker to stop interrupting? She expects you to respond the split second she yells from her office. If you don't respond she marches out and starts talking to me even if I'm on the phone or having another conversation. Just some sarcastic help on shutting her down would help :) (link)
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If you are still having trouble with her butting in then drop me an e-Mail at melanie4981@hotmail.com and I will send you a poster to put up on/around your desk that will stop her in her tracks!!!
Thanks!
Mel (With a wicked glint in her eye!)
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my family just bought mangoes but im not sure how to eat them. do u slice them? lol i know how stupid this question sounds but the manoges are so awkward looking. (link)
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Peel them, slice them and eat them.
Or you can make sorbet with them by mashing them adding a splodge of honey and a little water and then putting n the freezer til it's almost frozen and then putting it in the blender!
Yum!
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I am 41 year old male, at 18 I married my best friends sister who had been date raped at 16 (not by me) and was pregnant. I married her and raised the child as my own. We took in 2 foster children that we later adopted because she could not have any more. Although I was never in romantic love with her we had a good life and wonderful family. 5 years ago she had to have a hysterectomy and died for several minuets they revived her but she has never came back to "herself" I am now more of her caretaker. There is no sex, romance or even adult discussion. I can't leave her nor want to for the fact it wouldnt be right to leave her because of an illness that is not her fault.
I try to release my stress in the gym and other ways and have developed a very good physical appearance and have many friends, but Im so very lonley. I am afraid to have an affair, it wouldnt be right to either woman, but I so long for the touch, caress and conversation with a woman. I dont know where to turn. Whats your Advice?
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Wow, that was a really great thing for you to do.
I can understand that it must be hard, for BOTH of you.
Is there anyone you can call on to take care of her for a wekk or two while you take some time out on your own. I don't mean a trial separation as by the sounds of it this is not what you want, just some time out for you to get your head together and figure out what it is that YOU want out of life.
If you don't have sex, have lost the romance and don't even talk it seems to me that your relationship is pretty much on the slippery slope.
Do you think that you would be able to revive you relationship if you both put your all into it?
You haven't said how old your children are now?
What kind of effect do you think you and your partners current situation is having on them, I much preferred my parents after they split up as they were miserable together!!
I do agree that an affair is definitely not an option, as you said it would not be fair on either woman - or yourself!
I cannot tell you what to do. You must make the decision for yourself. It is your life and only you can change it.
I hope you make the decision that is best for all of you and if you ever need to talk then you can mail me.
Take care
Melanie
D'oh my e-mail is MelanieHarvey81@hotmail.com
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IM 14 yrs old and i have a pretty bad life. Im not suicidal or anything. Ive had a pretty bad past. My brother andrew hurts me he will kick me in the stomach and ribs and yell at me and it got so bad my mom called the cops. He threatend me and my moms life. I called him in detention (kids jail) and he said there was nothing to be said to me and he wants nothing to do with me and he will never find away to forgive me or forget. Now he is being senet away. my mom is never home. I told her we need some serious talking to do and we need to talk It took a long time to come out of that shell and tell her that. She just told me she has to go to her boyfriends house. I was shocked. She leaves me for her BOYFRIEND. When her own daughter needs help! I was in treatment i was sent away for 5 months. Nothing really changed over that. Im not a virgin the only reason why is because i feel thats the only thing that makes me feel wanted. Just to be "loved" for that period of time. I was thinking of the long run. Now my friend offered me to live with her for as long as i needed. To sort things out. Me and my friend had some pretty ruff times we actually we're best friends but i screwed up and that ended it but she was still there for me. So she offered a home for me. Shes not into that stuff sex, drugs, or drinking. Im trying to get away from that but its hard. Like i said... i feel like i belong then. SO how do i tell my mom that i want to just not leave her but i need a break. For a bit. my friend said that we could get both of our moms together and me and her would sit down and we would talk it out. I dont want my mom to think she is a bad mother i just need a "mother" figure there for me that i can talk to. And wont leave on me when i need help. So help me please. This is and maybe a change of life. (link)
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Wow!
I can understand why you are turning to all these other things for comfort.
But like anything the effects only last as long as the moment lasts - then you just feel worse thatn you did in the first place.
I think it would be a really good idea for both you and your Mom to take some time out.
For you because you will have the support there that you need to get back on your feet, and your Mom because it will give her a chance to get herself sorted out and realise how much you mean to her.
I think you should get both of your Moms together, sit down and tell your Mom how you are feeling and that it is not a permanent measure you just need a little time away.
Hopefully you will both come out of it better.
Hope everything works out for you.
Take Care
Mel x
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Ok..I have to go get a root canal sometime this week I think..and I guess there going to give me laughing gas. or whatever its called..i havent had it before so can anyone tell me what its like..and if you can still feel anything they're doing? and if they've had laughin gas with a root canal..and if it hurt! Thanks..im really scared =( (link)
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This stuff is great.
We only get it in the UK if we go private and pay a fortune to have our dental work done. Or are having a baby.
It's really good, makes you fell completely relaxed and drowsy and warm.
You won't feel a thing if they are using laughing gas on you.
Don't be scared, the dentist is not there to hurt you, he will fill your tooth whilst you are numb and drowsy from the gas.
Just make sure you have someone with you when you go as if you take too much of the gas it can make you a little wobbly on your feet!!!
Hope it goes well!!
Mel xxx
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ok, i have a cold sore on the outside of my mouth, like right in the corner, and it seems to be getting bigger and it hurts even if i laugh and it bleeds, if you can help me i would greatly appreciate that, and i have already tried this abreva stuff and it doesent work for me. (link)
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I personally think your best bet would be to go and see a doctor if all of the over the counter stuff hasn't worked.
Until you do get to see a doctor cover it in Vaseline to stop it from spreading and don't touch it, it will only make it worse and possibly spread it!
Obviously kissing is out of the question - these things spread like wildfire!
Make especially sure that you wash your hand BEFORE as well as after going to the toilet as these little suckers can transmit from one area of the body to the other - and you don't want that.
Take Care!!
Mel xxx
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I have a freind. The other day we went over to her house and it was scarry i didn't know that her brother was the guy i had been hanging out with before i met her. How do i tell her that i know who he is and ahe doesn't have to keep explainig him to me. Irate high!
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You have no reason to hide it from her.
You and her brother should just tell her straight - honesty is the best policy!
You just hang together, it's not like you are getting married or anything.
You didn't say whether or not she got on with her brother.
If she does then the 3 of you can all hang out together, if she doesn't then just explain to her that you are friends with both of them and spend the same amount of time with each of them.
Hope it works out.
Mel
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I was best friends with Kelly since 7th grade. We're in 9th now and we're still pretty good friends, not best friends but close. Well, she tells me all of her secrets and I never tell them. She says all the time to me and everybody else that I'm her most trustworthy friend, and she tells me that Brittany is very dishonest and lies to her alot. Anyways, Kelly did something really bad and she told me and Brittany and acouple of other people about it and made us promise not to tell. Her secret got out (one that everybody gossips about) and one girl, Julie, (who doesnt like me) tells Kelly that I told everybody the secret. I honestly didn't tell anybody. Now Kelly won't even talk to me, she won't even let me explain to her that I didn't tell anybody. She won't talk to me about it at all. Do you think that she's just not a good enough friend to even try to hold onto, or should I keep trying to tell her the truth? Ill rate if you ask :o) thanks (link)
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Sounds like she's really hurt you!
Why don't you sit down and write her a letter.
If she won't talk to you then write down how you are feeling and tell her you are sorry for her secret getting out but that it wasn't you that told.
People find it really easy to ignore someone talking to them but it's incredibly hard to ignore a letter!!
Hope everything works out for you.
Mel
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ok..me nd my bf have been together for 7 months. just recently we had oral..and he busted...so he went to the bathroom and everything was ok. later that day, he fingered me. my period has always been irregular. im late a week nd my bf is freaking out. is there any way i culd b pregnant? (link)
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Fact: You cannot get pregnant from oral sex
So I would find it highly unlikely that you are pregnant although I would reccommend a trip to you gynae or GP just to make sure!!
Sorry to sound like a real nag but one other thing I'd like to add is this.
Just cos you aren't having unprotected vaginal sex with your boyfriend doesn't mean that you can't get an STD/STI from him by giving him head with no condom.
You seem like a pretty clued up person and sound quite mature. Why don't you and your boyfriend go and get some expert advice together.
You could both get tested to make sure that you don't have anything the other can catch and maybe you could ask to go onto the pill.
A friend of mine learnt the hard way that you can catch an STD from oral sex when she got a nasty dose of chlamydia!!
Nasty!!
Anyway - enough lecturing now!!
Take care, have fun, and be careful (sorry! Had to say it!)
Melanie
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Okay so yes I have winter formal coming up on Saturday night. I got my dress and shoes, then I realized: I have no freakin clue what to do with my make up. My normal style of make up would look horrid with it. I have light blonde hair, blue green eyes and fair skin. My dress is an offwhite color with gold stitching in the top. Anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Definitely go for gold!!!
It will match your hair colour and the stitching in your dress - also if you can get one a very fine gold necklace - this will make your neck look longer, and your collarbone more defined.
Use a little bronzer to highlight your cheeks instead of a red/pink blusher.
I would also go for clear high shine lip gloss.
Take care and have a great time!!!!
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Well my parents make me see a theripist and my theripist is awesome but he has this saterday thing where its group theripy and i want to join it its all boys and my theripist says that i would like the class i dont know what to do....I really want to share my problems with other people. help i rate high (link)
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I think if you went you would probably really enjoy it.
You seem to get on with your therapist and I don't think your therapsit would invite you to join a group that would make you feel bad..... that's not what your parents pay him for!!
I think you should try it... if you don't like it you don't have to go again, but if you don't go then you won't know if you are missing something really good!!!
Take care and go for it!!! You only live once!!
Mel xxx
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Hey everyone. Well i really like this guy. he likes another girl even though she doesnt like him back and she has a steady boyfriend. we're really flirty with each other and i like it a lot. i usually find myself telling me to just go for it, and normally i would, but the fear of rejection is greater than ever because of his crush on someone else. im in 8th grade, and some of you may disagree with me and say that im way too young to be in love. and then there are others that may agree with me. for those of you who find yourself disagreeing, you can stop reading now. and for those of you who have the decency to hear me out, here it goes. we have a lot in common, and we've been through the same situations that i must say are not easy ones. we can relate to each other and usually find ourselves in deep conversations that are normally about crazy and random subjects. for instance tonight, i sent him a link to veiw a picture entitled "above the clouds". it had the same effect upon both of us and that was really nice. he opened up to me and sad straight up that it made him feel really good and that he wiches he could go there and so on. this may sound ridiculous to some of you but im sure some of you understand how hard it must be for an 8th grade guy to come out and say that. ive met a lot of guys like this and have fallen for almost every one of them. we both seem to enjoy each others company especially in our online conversations but i want it to be more than that. we have a lot of the same classes together and we talk to each other but its like he only really hears me out when its online because things are more at ease. after both seeing that picture, we calmed down and just openly discussed things. well anyway, this is getting lengthy, if anyone could tell me why im so attracted to these open and sensitive guys, i'd love to hear it. and by the sound of things, do you see anything happening between us? i mean, do you think he likes me in the slightest bit? thanks guys. i really appreciate it and i rate high. (link)
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Just because your young doesn't mean you don't know how to love!!
Sounds to me that this guy is a bit shy, and guys that are shy and like a girl tend to hide behind things (in this guys case his e-mail!!) and I do think he likes you.
You seem to have a lot in common. The same opinions about things, that stands you in good stead, you know what they say birds of a feather flock together!!
If you want things to go further then maybe you should E-Mail him and ask him to meet you for a coffee/cola etc at the weekend or after school one night then you can sit and talk about how you feel.
Good luck and I hope things work out and you pair get toghether!!
Take Care
Mel xxx
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I always study for test really hard. But all the time when I get the test back I made an F. I just get nervios and mess up. How can I get over it? I dont want to study all the time like I do and all I get is an F. It will really help me if yall tell me how to get over the freakking out on the test.THanks
I rate high (4&5)
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Depending on what you are studying for try going to www.sparknotes.com
It is a fab site with loads of study materials and some really cool stuff like tests and stuff to determine your learning style and how best you can prepare yourself for tests.
My only other advice is that the worst thing you can do is stress out about it!! When I was doing my A-Levels (Don't know what the USA equivalent is but I was 18 at the time) I used to be a huge Red Hot Chillies/ Greenday fan (still am!!) and I used to listen to them when I was revising, just before I went into a test and my stress levels were almost colliding with the moon, I used to listen to the music in my head and it really chilled me out! (I'm not crazy, really!)
Hope it all goes ok and you get the results you want in your next test!!
Take Care
Mel xxx
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Ok well i wanna pierce my belly button but my parents won't let me. So, i'm gonna do it myself. What are some good tips for piercing your belly button and wut type of needle do ya need...thnx a bunch (link)
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Don't do it!!!
There are good reasons that your parents have asked you not to get it done. The main one being that it might go all manky and green and infected!!
If you have your heart set on having it done then sit down with your parents and talk (not argue!) to them. Explain why it is so important to you and see if you can't come to some sort of compromise!!!
Good Luck!!
Mel xxxxx
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