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people keep saying that i cut what i dont anymore and i just wanna forget about that past and they wont let me how can i show people that i dont cut.I do get scraches on me because i have 13 pets.But i dont want to happened what happened befor.So HOW CAN I SHOW PEOPLE THAT I DONT CUT.im not sure if this is the write category
It wont ever go away what they are saying,
if you keep denying it.
I guess the best thing to do is,
tell them yes you used to but your better and you got help and you dont do it anymore.
YOu can never forget your past,
because your past is what makes you who you are today, its what makes you strong, and emotional, and happy and sad.
You dont need to prove anything to anyone, except yourself and having the satisfaction that you dont do it anymore.
Dont draw attention to yourself on this subject.
People are just being imature,
tell them to grow up, and stop teasing you about something seroius.
For sometime Ive been getting mad over tiny things. Like, someone will say something a little insesnitive without thinking and I get upset for hours. Even when they apologise I can't just, like, let it go. Then I get angry over the slightest thing.
How can I control my temper and stop myself from getting blue over everything? Its started to cause BIG problems with my friends and family.
I get like that too,
sometimes.
& I'm seeing a counsular about it,
dont let the little things bother you.
You need to let them go,
or they could bug you for the rest of your life.
You sound like me, a deep person, who is very passionate about people, and what not,
and the little things people say really piss you off if you dont really agree with it.
Just let it go, everyone has an free opinion they are allowed to voice, you know?>
We need to respect that. :]
i'm 19 and i'm about to go to college. there is a problem though i am currently always sad and down all the time, it seems that i can never be happy.. i always fake my happiness. i can't sleep and my eating habits are weird sometimes i'll eat sometimes i won't. i have a hard time sleeping too! i cna only sleep during the day but i have trouble sleeping during the night. i don't like any around my friends as much and i don't know why. i told my mom i wanted to talk to someone. i cut myself also.. but i haven't done it in about 3 or 4 weeks. i'm scared to tell my mom. what should i do?
Well your nineteen,
which gives you the option to seek
help yourself, or ask your mom.
Which ever you find easier you should do.
I mean the symptons you list are signs of depression, and if not taken care of soon,
can worsen. You most likely have low seretonin,
which can be fixed by meds if you seek help.
Try talking to a counsular about this.
Thats something I highly suggest.
OK so ever since i haev been little everyone has told me that i'm as skinny as a twig... i wasn't really, i have just had a dancer's body! and i loved it... well lets just say that i have put on some weight.. not that much, but it still bugs me! i work out every week, yet i still have fat!! and it makes my confidence go way down!! what can i do?? plez help me!
Well you could be gaining some muscle,
muscle weighs more than fat.
And its good for you to have,
dancers often have that :]
Dont let it bring your self confidence down,
I'm sure your goregous!
:]
15/f
Ok, so i liked a guy same old story. blah. well i wrote him a letter because he was leaving the next day and i couldn't say it in person. well he wrote me back. Here's the letter
my name here,
Thanks for the letter. It takes guys to come out and say something like you said. have you ever read Proverbs 27:5? "Open rebuke is better than secret love." I guess that it is best to just come out with stuff like that. To be honest, when I was a freshman, I had a crush on ___ who was a senior. So I've been in the same boat. I do like the fact that you are different from most girls. You have a good testimony. Don't blow it, build on it..... (some stuff about hanging around with some people)
Well, "Have a good summer" (making fun of something i said in my letter) and enjoy your THREE more years of school.
(his name here) SO is it a good rejection letter, and open ended letter, or what? He's home now and im nervous about talking to him.
I would say it is, [rejection letter]
because he made fun of stuff you said,
and said "So I've been in the same boat"..
You know?
And dont be nervous around him,
just act normal,
because if you act weird he will too..
Alright, so you know how there are things you spray in your hair before you straighten it to protect it from the heat? Like, the products that come in spray bottles (VO5 miracle mist, tresemme heat tamer, etc.) Well, the directions say that you should spray it in your hair before you straighten it; but my question is, should I let the spray dry? Because the directions say nothing about letting product dry and then straightening it, but when I don't let it dry and I straighten my hair, it makes a sizzling sound and it gets all smoky and stuff and I've heard before that you're not supposed to straighten your hair while it's wet or it will get fried. So yeah, is straightening my hair while the product is in okay, or should I just let it dry? Thanks.
Well I would think so,
but I think after your hair has been dried, or blown dry you know?
It burns your hair if you do it while its wet,
and it makes it smell.
And does lots of damage.
WARNING LONG I like black.I weir black nail polish and alot of black eyeliner.In a few days im dieing my bangs that hang in my eyes black to.Now i have had my hair pink,purple,green,blue,red and other colors at different times so people already think im weird also im emo and i get made fun of because i used to cut and i dont think people know but they might it was a big thing with screming and trowing things around (mostly by me) and so people no somthing happened and because im emo that what they think it is true but still.i think im ugly and i hate myself i get jelous easly realy easly also i think i might be bi.whats so bad about being emo being different.i no people are gonna hate me and think im weird but im not sure what my problem is anymore it was sposed to be about my hair but now i think i may have bigger problems.i dont eat until i start shaking alot. im a 13 female who feels alone and dosent wanna cut agian and whos going into 7th
Labels are stupid.
Be yourself, people think your weird,
becuase your not being yourself.
Your being what you see, lots of people dress up like that, but its not them.
They arent being accepted because they are pretending to be someone else.
Emo, Goth,, Punk.. they are all labels, people use to describe others, and the way the dress.
I hate labels so much.
Ask yourself, did you have reasons to cut? Or were you just doing it for the attention.
Did you put up fits so you could portray being 'emo'?
Its bad enough that you label yourself along with them labeling you.
You need to learn to love yourself, and the only way to love yourself is to BE YOURSELF.
Everyone gets jealous, we need to control it.
You might be bi? really? or are you giving into todays cultural trend to be different.
Emo is a label, its a music genre too.
There is NOTHING bad about being different,
but theres something bad about being yourself.
Some people try WAY to hard to be different,
but that just makes them all the same.
Because they are all one trend wearing the same clothes, doing the same thing, trying to be different. Just be yourself, and dont say the way you are dressing is yourself, because its impossible. Theres more than one person that dresses like that, and thats all the same,
No on is exactly like you, so thats why its best to just not try to be someone your not.
We were all born different, so I dont get why people try to change everythingn about themself, whent no one is remotely close to being them.
Get help.
Talk to a counsular, or someone you trust.
But take their advice.
Because your younger if your only going into 7th grade, trust me I hear you.
I remember sixth grade it was a horrible year, and I dont even remember why.
Stop the negative thinking, and bad habbits. Because in the end they wont help you at all.
If your cutting is really a problem, TALK TO A COUNSULAR! iTs the best thing I reccomend.
I hope I helped,
and I hope things get better,
Please dont take offence to anything I said,
Because it was all in your best interest,
and I feel very strongly about in-authentic people.
:]
ok, me and my girlfriend are planning on having sex,and she is scared that the condom might break or she might get pregnant. i was wondering if i pull out soon enough and im using a condom if that would decrease the chances, even tho theres the pre cuming thing? and i was also wondering if there are any other precautions we could take besides for birth control?
There are so many things that coulld happen.
And sex just doesnt change the relationship,
it changes everything,
including how you'll feel after.
Guilty,anxious, etc you know.
Its a big deal.
Just ask youself this,
are you ready to have and take care of a baby?
Because thats the only time you'll be ready for sex.
Because its a risk that could happen.
there is this guy that i met about a year ago.
he broke my heart once..
and now he just came back just like that..
he wants to hangout and possible be boyfreind and girlfreind..
im so parinoied that hes going to break my heart again..
part of me says to give it another try.
but part of me says dont take the risk..
what do you think i should do?
PLEASE HELP ME
thank you to all that trys.
Well in my opinion,
if hee can break your heart once,
he can do it again.
Dont give him another chance if your this paranoid about it.
Try meeting new people,
someone who wont break your heart the first time.
i'm 15 years old. I hav a problem with me,mostly about my looks,my frenz say i'm so pretty and thin( gr8 body) I sometimes look in the mirror and think yea wow,and other times i cant stand that face. I hav a bf,and feel uncomfortable with him because he is so hot and sexy,and im .....I feel like i dont deserve him. If a guy just looks at me,i get nervous,like what is he looking the big nose or somthing,I cant focus on the postive. Thank-you 4 reading this
We all can be selfconcious at times, its normal. Just remember that no one is perfect.
One thing, never question your worth to a guy, because you do matter as a person, and you are good enough for him. He could be thinking "wow shes goregous, i dont think i'm good enough for her".. But yes try to be positive, one of my counsulars told me "assume the best, forgive the rest" meaning, if you dont know what someone is thinking and they havent said what you thought they were thinking, then just assume that its something good. Otherwise if they wanted to tell you you they would tell you.
I've been having variations of the same dream over and over. I think that dreams can sometimes mean things. If any of you know anything about dream interpretation..could you please let me know what the following dreams might mean? Thanks so much!
The first dream:
My immeadiate family & I were walking down this gravel road. There was nothing around us for a long time. Then, all of the sudden, there is this big building with one door. When I get closer to the door, my friend Deven (a girl) opens it. I've always been friends with her but lately we haven't talked much. So, anyways, she hands me a note from this guy Nick that I've had a big crush on for two years now. (Just in case it matters, I asked Nick to a dance and he said yes one day and changed his mind the next. We haven't really talked since then because I've been too embarrassed). It said that he was sorry for all the stuff that happened last year and that he really wanted to make it work between us. After I read the note, I looked inside the building and there was a dance/disco going on and all of my friends were having fun.
The Second Dream:
It was the first day of school & Nick walked up to me and gave me a note. I didn't get to read it before I woke up & the dream ended but when he handed it to me..he said that he wanted to make it work with me and him.
Sorry for such a long situation but hopefully somebody can help! It is really bothering me & I want to know if this means anything! Thank you sooooo much
I think your first dream,
means that your subconsious
could be A) playing out how you wanted the dance to go. B)Or your playing out what you wanted to happen in your dream.
I'm no dream specialist either,
I'm just stating the possiblitys.
:]
2nd dream:
It means your subconsious probably really still likes this boy, despite the embarssment, and thatyour are secretley wishing that he wants you.
?
Hi everyone. I've heard this one song like a million times and I know almost every word to it, but I've never been able to figure out the artist.
Anyways the songs goes like this:
Love of mine, someday you will die
But I'll be close behind and I'll follow you into the dark
No blinding light or tunnels to gates of white
Just out hand clasped to tight, waiting for the hint to spark
But if heaven and hell decide that they both are satisfied
And illuminate the NOs on their vacancy signs
that should be enough to tell the name of the group that sings it, thanks. [=
I will follow you into the dark
- Death Cab For Cutie
dude aamzing band.
& the postal service
[same lead singers]
does anyone know any online wishlists where you can add things you want? I know amazon.com has wishlists...but only things on amazon. I want to know if you can link things from different sites onto one wishlist. Amazon.com is good for like, dvd's and stuff. But say I want clothes or handbags from like, gap.com or something. does anyone know of one? thanks!
forever21
american eagle
Abercrombie
Hollister
I really like this girl but i dont know how to ask her out
Also how to should I seem cool to people everyone thinks I emo when i aint should i be emo?
But how should i ask her out
Just ask her out.
Give her a note, or email her I guess.
:]
& just becuase people think your emo,
doesnt mean you need to become it and give into their label.
Dont let people define you, or label you.
Just be yourself.
hi, do u no of any pre-cautions i can take to having sex..because me and my boyfriend have been going out for awhile now and we think its time to take it to the next leval but we are oth kinda scared that the condom could brake or could already have a small tear thats not noticable if i can help please writ back.
thank you.
Well I answered this question for another girl, so I'll tell you what I told her.
There are tons of things that could happen if you have sex at this age. Well you lose your virgiinity, you could get a numerous amount of STDS (sexualy trasmitted diseases) and some are still uncureable today beacuse there is a growing population of them, of new ones they arent sure how to treat yet. And if you dont know how many other girls your boyfriend had slept with, the possibility of getting an STD is endless. I've never had sex, but from what I've heard it does hurt, quite bad. And that its awkward, sex isnt like on tv. Its not hot and heavy, or all that moaning and groaning. Sex is something you should save for something you are absolutely sure about them (when you are married). Atleast in my opinion, marriage is best. The main point, sex is very awkward for the first time, and if you;'ve never done it, it will be painful/awkward for you. But if he's done it before he wont seem as nervous, and thats not right. I highly suggest that you DONT DO IT, your too young, and I forgot one of the biggest things to mention that could happen, you could get pregnant, even if you havent ever had your period, its still a possibility. And never have sex until your sure you can raise and support a baby. If you cant then theres no reason tohave sex.
Once you have sex, the pressure and guilt will pile on you, and worry, especially if you werent sure but you just went ahead and did it anyways.
You'd feel pressure of what you did, what people would think if they found out, what if you were pregnant? Was what you did right? You shouldnt have done it? What if my parents find out? What if his parents find out? What if I have an STD?
What if he leaves me? What if he was just using me? What if he didnt even love me?
Its an endless list of questions, if your not sure about your partner.
You know, those are the questions you might be left answering.
OH and the thing about the condoms,
see thats the risk you take if you have sex.
Not all condoms hold, and dont break,
and your right some could have tears, that you wont know about until you have an STD or you end up pregnant, but that is a chance take but dont have to make, if you have sex.
I hope I helped hun.
If you need any one to talk to
Pleaes feel free to IM me,
KaylehMae
or my MSN or YAHOO
is on my advice page.
But send me an email first telling me what time to get on msn or yahoo.
I'm usually on aim 24/7
So yeah thats what I wrote for the other girl woh was rather "unsure due to the consquences"
and that was my answer :]
Its definitlye the same to you,
since the consquences are the same.
Where can I download for free AIM + ? The site I downloaded it off of last time wont work. I use the old AIM. Not the new one. Thanks for the help.
Go to aim.com
and click downloads
and you can download the new OR old version.
Alright, how do you iron on designs onto clothes and stuff like that? what if i want to iron a picture off the internet?
p.s. give me any advice on making clothes that you have
You need to buy special ironing transfer paper,
and when you find an image online that you like, you insert the special paper in your printer, and then print it, and then you can just iron it on your shirt.
You can put it on shirts, jeans I think (but sometimes it doesnt stay that well and peels off), but yeah, if you know how to stitch you can stitch designs or patches on shirts.
my friend is the different gender than i am.i am a boy.she gets angry sometimes when i don't give her enough info sometimes for example if we are on the phone and someone calls me in the background she would be like who was that and sometimes i really dont wanna tell her so she would start an arguement then i would hang upthe phone and after i would call back to say am sorry for no reason.she yells at me.she iz not really friendly but when am bored i could call her,shes a nice talker.should i keep her as a friend?what should i do?
Well it sounds like your friend whomn is a girl, is getting jealous, that you may be talking to another girl, or something because maybe she has a slight crush on you? I can tell you next time she trys to start an argument, tell her you arent going to argue with her, and that who you are talking to is none of her buisness, and say I'm hanging out now, call me back when you can be calm. If shes not that friendly, why are you even friends with her? You can keep her as a friend, but - you need to clarify your boundries with her and that your buisness is yours and hers is hers.
I have a horrible pimple near my chin. It's really big. What can I do to make it smaller/less noticeable by Monday. How can i even get rid of it faster without having to buy anything?
Well unfortunetly pimples take time to disapear,
if you have some like clearisil ointment, put it on to atlesat dry it out, and keep putting it on, every few hours, just to dry it out , and if you tried popping it, then put it on again, and some neosporin, and unfortunetly just wait itout.
It could look much better by monday :]
there's this "game" people play. i dunno what its called though which is what i wanna know. its where there are two people. one person puts their hand on the person's knee and moves it the other persons leg until that person says stop. and then they switch roles and sees who endured more. and the person who endured more ist he winner
its weird. do you have any weird games you play with your friends
Um the nervous game?
that game is sorta sexual though i suppose,
if you play it that way.