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My name is Kate! I'm 19 years old and I'm a freshman at Penn State Univeristy! I play tennis and love to listen to music. I love to write and I'm planning on majoring in Advertising/Public Relations.

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Alright I am a really big fan of music i listen to ANYTHING except Country and Gospel and i really am looking for some good new music to listen to. Hear are just some of the people i listen to :Chamillionaire, Hinder, Panic At the Disco, 50 Cent Eminem, DKM, Nickelback,Bone Thugs, Trillville, Metallica, Papa Poach basicaly anything rap rock pop punk i just need some good new songs to download or good old songs that you can never forget you know what i mean? just answer with a few of you fav titles thanks all i'll rate you well if you gimme some good songs old or new.

Dashboard Confessional - Hands Down

The Academy Is - Attention
The Academy Is - Classifieds
The Academy Is - Down and Out

Matchbook Romance - Monsters
Matchbook Romance - If all else fails

Armor For Sleep - Car Underwater

Fall Out Boy - XO
Fall Out Boy - Pretty In Punk
Fall Out Boy - The Music or the Misery
Fall Out Boy - Saturday
Fall Out Boy - Calm before the storm
Fall Out Boy -

The Kinson - A New Way to Dance

Green Day - Pop Rocks and Coke

Taking Back Sunday - Slow dance on the inside
Taking Back Sunday - There's No I In Team
Taking Back Sunday - Cute without the E
Taking Back Sunday - You're So Last Summer

Senses Fail - Lady in the blue dress
Senses Fail - Martini Kiss
Senses Fail - You're Cute When You Scream
Senses Fail - One Eight Seven

Story of the Year - Sidewalks
Story of the Year - Stereo

Acceptance - Different

My Chemical Romance - Helena
My Chemical Romance - Drowning Lessons
My Chemical Romance - Ghost of You

The All American Rejects - It ends tonight
The All American Rejects - The Last Song
The All American Rejects - One More Sad Song
The All American Rejects - Stab My Back

Sum 41 - Pieces

Blink 182 - Adams Song

The Used - All That I've Got
The Used - I'm a Fake
The Used - A Box Full Of Sharp Object

Straylight Run - Existentialism on Prom Night

From First To Last - Emily

Houston Calls - Exit, Emergency
Houston Calls - Bob and Bonnie

Cherry Monroe - Satellites
Cherry Monroe - Crazylove

Allister - Radio Player

Paramore - All we know

Morningwood - Nth degree

Reel Big Fish - Where have you been

Journey - Don't stop Believing


I hope that helped
Kate

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Hey guys..
I'm making a CD mix.. and I need suggestions for songs to put on it... my mind is kinda blank, and I can't think about what songs i should put on it...

so far, I've got FOB-"Dance, Dance"
Panic! At the Disco "I write Sins Not Tragedies"
Relient K "Who I am Hates Who I've Been"
Click Five "Just the Girl"
AAR- "Move Along" and "Dirty Little Secret"

any other suggestions??
thanks!

Dashboard Confessional - Hands Down
The Academy Is - Attention
The Academy Is - Classifieds
Matchbook Romance - Monsters
Taking Back Sunday - You're So Last Summer
Armor For Sleep - Car Underwater
Fall Out Boy - XO
Fall Out Boy - Pretty In Punk
The Kinson - A New Way to Dance
My Chemical Romance - Drowning Lessons
Green Day - Pop Rocks and Coke
The Used - I'm a Fake
Taking Back Sunday - Slow dance on the inside
Taking Back Sunday - There's No I In Team
Taking Back Sunday - Cute without the E
Senses Fail - Lady in the blue dress
Senses Fail - Martini Kiss
Senses Fail - You're Cute When You Scream
Senses Fail - One Eight Seven
Story of the Year - Sidewalks
Story of the Year - Stereo
Acceptance - Different
My Chemical Romance - Helena
My Chemical Romance - Ghost of You
The Academy Is - Down and Out
The All American Rejects - It ends tonight
The All American Rejects - The Last Song
The All American Rejects - One More Sad Song
The All American Rejects - Stab My Back
Sum 41 - Pieces
Blink 182 - Adams Song
The Used - All That I've Got
The Used - A Box Full Of Sharp Object
Straylight Run - Existentialism on Prom Night
From First To Last - Emily
Houston Calls - Exit, Emergency
Houston Calls - Bob and Bonnie
Panic! At The Disco - It's Time To Dance
Panic! At The Disco - London Beckond Songs About Money Written By Machines
Cherry Monroe - Satellites


I got a little carried away there...I guess I'm just really into music =]

Kate

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heyy. i just got a new computer. i had animation shop 3 cuz i make icons for iconator. and since our old computer crased there is no more animation shop 3 for me. and on jasc.com you cant get a free trial of AS3 any more. does anyone know any other animation workshops for free that i can download?? 5 stars to everyone

I downloaded psp8 and animation shop 3 off of limewire

=] Kate

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Hey advicenators.

I was just wondering if anyone here has a good/funny story on something that happened in your childhood.
Like maybe, when trying to impress someone, or some interesting tradition you had as a child, or something your parents always did...or you know, something along those lines.
Anything interesting from your childhood basically..

Thank youu :)

Well,

This one time my friend and I were at this concert and her dad had to come pick us up. Well we go to get in the car and the backseat has a lot of junk on it. So I just climb over it and get in and she goes to move all the stuff. Well then she has one foot in the car and one foot on the curb and her dad pulls away. So she is hopping along with the car and yelling at her dad to stop, and I couldnt help but start laughing at the whole thing because it was just so ridiculous. Then she gets in the car and her dad starts yelling at her for fooling around, and she gets all upset and starts crying and he says "I'm sorry for yelling at you I was just scared" and she goes "YOU were scared! You didn't almost get run over by the car!" We can all laugh about it now though


Once when my famliy was on vacation the televison in our hotel room had several channels in other languages. So my sister and I turned on what we thought was the Japanese channel and turned the volume down low and made up what we thought they were saying. Well my mom came in the room so we got really quiet and my sister goes "Kate! This channel is in English!" so the whole time we thought they were speaking japanese and making up what they were saying and they were really speaking english!

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Hi all! Okay, so I am usually great at this, but for some reason for this show I cannot pick/find a song to sing. I agreed to be in a talent show that is a fundraiser. I love to sing, and I can sing anything. I'm hoping to do something where I can belt, but I don't mind not. If you have any suggestions I'd LOVE them. I love ballads, don't really want a dance number. Any time period is fine. Thank You!!!!

Well since your user name is BroadwayBabe Maybe you could sing a broadway song? These are my favorites


People Will Say We're In Love - Oklahoma!
On My Own- Le Mes
Wonderful Guy - South Pacific


If you want a song that is alittle more fun there is :

I Enjoy Being A Girl - Flower Drum Song

Or If you dont want to do broadway:

Hero - Mariah Carey
4ever - The Veronicas

Hope I gave you some Ideas

Kate

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kay, this is kinda a weird question, but how do you pronounce the band Atreyu? I absolutely ADORE them but don't want to talk aobut them and sound like a moron.

thnx to anyone who actually helps. =]

I Believe it is said like this
Ah-tray-you

Kate

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what does dyke mean? because on mean girls in the burn book they said janice was a dyke? whats that?.... rate high for good answers!

Dyke is slang for lesbian. I wouldn't recomend using it though.

Kate

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ok so im going on my first date with my b/f this weekend..we're going to the movies
& im going w/ another one of my friends & this guy that she likes..& he also likes her
but ne ways..
i think my b/f might kiss me but idn
like i want to kiss him but not really in front of my friends..
so what should i do if he tries to?

Just tell him in the car or call him before him...and just let him know that you dont want to make out infront of your friends...Just say something like "I'm not really into public displays of affection, I dont mind if we_____[hold hands/have a kiss on the cheek/whatever you feel comfortable with]" He shouldn't get mad or anything...

Hope I Helped
Love
Kate

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Last night i was sleeping and all of a sudden i felt this extreme pain in my calf..it subsided after a minute or so. My mom thinks this is a charlie horse. I wans't in any weird position or anything..and this happened the other night too..what could be the cause of it?

This same thing happend to me awhile ago. It could be caused by a lack of potassium in your diet. Try eating some foods that have high amounts of potassium such as bananas, orange juice,Cantaloupe, Honeydew, Kiwi, Lima beans, Milk, and Oranges

Love
Kate

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ok this may sound a bit strange but does any1 know about the average bra size 4 a 13 year old because i get really embaressed getting sized up!!

Well there isn't really an average size. But I would say that when I was 13 I was an A or a B... All you really have to do is take a whole bunch of different sizes into the dressing room at the store. for example take 32A 34A 36A and so on and try those on. Then which ever fits around best go with that size. If the cups are too small Go up a letter.

Hope I helped

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F/14

Everybody is good at something right? WRONG.i suck at almost evrything. I dont't have any hobbies, im not in any clubs, sprots, or anything. I'm okay at some stuff and i can speak/read/write fluent polish, but that pretty much it. I'm so scraed about my future. I don't know what i want to do in college or high school or ANYTHING. I'm scared i won't be able to support myself as an adult and i will be a boring person with no hobbies or anything.

It's okay to not be sure what you want to do in college. Don't let it stress you out. While you are in high school take the required classes like math and science and use your elective classes to find something you like. Try something new. Take some sort of music or art class. Or maybe join newspaper or yearbook. During high school is when you can and should try new things! There has to be something you can enjoy or would like to try that your school offers.

Kate =]

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Well me and my friend Chrissy are fighting because she thinks I am acting really fake and acting like a clone because I have a new friend Krisina. I dont see how I am but she sent me this email. Here.

Tiff,
Your already turning into one of their clones. You always talk about how your original but your not !! You shop where they do-you act and talk and dress and do your hair like them too !! Don't try to deny it cuzz eveyone sees it !!
This morning,you completetly ignored me for kristina. i dont even thinks she likes you-when you said that comment thats the closest she'll ever get to an ipod she gave you a really dirt look !! You walked away from me while i was talking to you as we wree goiing down the hall..just to go to emily and kristina and walked like down the whole 6th grade hallway and came back and said all nice "Oh no, i lost you guys !!" no you didtn !! You LEFT us !! What really made me madd is this..everyone knows that we can all understand dani perfectly with her retainer..and just cuzz she was talking and kristina didnt understand her you wereall "Omg i can't like understand you at all" and said something else really rude and acted likle she was abnormal because she had one !! And now that your hanging around them your completely fake !! Your laugh, your smile, you attidtude--your friendship !! EVERYTHING !! You are just sitting there denying it all arent you ?? Well thats not what i sent this letter for..i sent it so that you would relise that your not perfect...as much as you might think you are !!
Okay i dont care what your excuse is-dont try to suck up to my mom !!
You know im madd at you !! I've been holding this in for a while and i guess just likle you said...i just blew up on you--i didn't mean to....sure!!
.:Christine:.

Well I dont think i am perfect I could point out a thousand things that arent perfect about me. My hair I am really short, my nose is large. See I am not and I know that. I have done my hair the same way for a long time now and I dont get to shop at Aeropostale often but when I do I buy alot of clothes. Yeah I was walking with Kristina an talking then I thought Chrissy was behind me and she wasnt so I was like Oh I lost you and went behind with them I didnt go to there halway. I really think she is mad because I am friends with somone that is not her. She is really mad because I think I have mad a new friend and replaced her and I havent ! I could never replace her. How do I get her to realize I could never replace her and that I am not a clone, I am not going to change the way I dress for her to think I am not a clone. PLEASE HELP !

It sounds like she may be a little jealous that you are hanging out with other people. But don't go up to her and say something like "YOU'RE JUST JEALOUS BECUASE I HAVE NEW FRIENDS!" or anything similar becuase it will only piss her off more. Just explain to her that you really value the friendship that you have with her, and that even if you do have other friends you will always be there for her. And you don't need to change who you are ever for someone else. Just explain that you aren't copying anyone elses style. You buy the clothes you like and feel comfortable in.

Kate

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Okay I am doing really bad in Spanish and I dont really know what to do. I know the words and everything but my sentances arn't good at all. And I dont get how to put all the words together. Help por favor!!

Gracias

Hola!

First don't rely on online translators like some of the other people said. They don't work as well as you may think they do. They tend to use weird tenses.

Second, In spanish the grammer is different then it is in english.
For example in english you would say "The black dress" but in spanish you say "The dress black"

this site can help you with grammer[It has mini lessons!]
http://www.studyspanish.com/tutorial.htm

You also need to remember to change your verbs
For example

for regular verbs Like Nadar [to swim] you would follow this

Yo [I]- nado
tu [You]- nadas
El, Ella Ud. [He she]- nada
Nosotros [we]-nadamos
vosotros - nadáis
ellos Ellas Uds. [they]- Nadan

For irregular verbs like tener [to have]
yo tengo
tú tienes
él tiene
nosotros tenemos
vosotros tenéis
ellos tienen

[see how the endings change]
Here is a site that will help you conjugate verbs so you can use them in the correct form
http://www.elemadrid.com/spanish_verbs.htm

This site is alittle more hands on
http://www.spaleon.com/index.php

This site will quiz you on verbs
http://www.studyspanish.com/verbs/


I hope this helps!
Love Kate

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heyyy,i need to know some free trials of paint shops BESIDES corel,links and webbies would be nice!!:]

mucho thanks ^.^

You could always download it off of Limewire...Thats where I got mine

Kate =]

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I don’t know what to do anymore, my life seems to be dying slowly even though I am alive. I don’t want to live anymore; I have imagines everyday of me jumping out my window. My life just seems all messed up. It may seem like nothing to you but all my problems put together are just killing me little by little. No one understands. Today I came from school all upset I couldn’t take it and told my grandmother I don’t want to live anymore. She got mad, called my mom and dad and was yelling at me telling me how lazy I am. She kept saying I’m just a lazy person that wont get anywhere in life without studying. She kept yelling and talking and now her and my mom got into a fight over this. My grandma tried to make this all seem like she’s the victim and I’m taking advantage of her. She kept saying with a grandchild like me the one who cries for every little reason she should just take an overdoes and die. Why on earth would she say all these things when she knows how I feel about life! I go to her are you crazy you bitch, don’t you understand why I want to kill myself you are one of the main reasons. I don’t have a main reason its juts that I’m very unlucky, I have really low self cofidecne, some people tend to make fun of my face, since I have acne and put a lot of cover up on. Which hurts the most because I had acne for about five years and I tried everything, I went everywhere, took her pill possible, and nothing works. It’s like a long rode that never ends no matter how hard you try. You keep running and running until you think you got to the end but it just keeps on going. That’s how my life feels. Now we got new teachers and new students in our classrooms. I hate most of my classes, and most of all I hate my math teacher. Now I’m really bad at math I mean really bad I don’t even know what 7 times 8 is unless I think about it for half an hour. Yeah sad I know. Hes really mean and trys to bring people who are not as smart as him down. I tired getting out of his class but my counselor is such a bitch! She told me to come early to school today so she could change my singing class since they put me in the wrong one. They put me back to the one I already took, so I would be learning everything all over and I passed her class with a 90. I come back at the end of the horrible day I had and she tells me the teacher said its okie and I can stay in that class. I was like butt … she stooped me and said theres nothing I can do. I was like but wait im learning everything over again I don’t understand. She goes yeah I know but then we would have to change your whole program I was like sooo you do it for everybody else. I know shes just a fucken lazy bitch that needs to get fired, Counselor my ass. I don’t know what to do! I hate schhol and wanna quite im only 16 but I don’t see school in my future. My grandma makes me feel like shit about this but I don’t know what to do!!! Please help and don’t say talk to her because that wont work ill just end up killing myself faster. I don’t know what to do with my life. Please answer if you ever felt like this about school and juts ur whole life and tell me what you

Suicide is never the answer. They people you leave behind are left feeling gulity and confused. Almost everyone has heard the saying "It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem"...but there are times when you feel so lost that your problems seem permanent. I've been there...There were days that I would not say anything to anyone at school...even though I stayed after for musical practice everyday...when I wasn't needed on stage I would sit in the back of the auditorium and dwell on how unhappy I was. I couldn't go a day without thoughts of suicide..I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep...Then one night I decided to attempt suicide...I overdosed and ended up really sick...but still alive. Only a few people know about it...and those people have told me that they could not live without me. Ever since then I have been thankful that I am still alive. I have "episodes" so to speak every once in awhile..I just take things one day at a time. Your grandma is just old and stressed...Old people can be very dramatic.

Don't quit school...high school won't last forever...and don't believe it when adults tell you crap like "These are the best years of your life" Everyone is different and everyone takes high school differently. In a few years it will be over with and you can move on with your life...If you go to college you will meet new people who will hopefully be more grown up and tease you about your acne..[and who knows it might be gone by then] and will like you for who you are.

I'm always avaiable to talk to. My AIM sn is Pvbandfreak..Don't be nervous if you want to IM me just tell me who you are and I'll listen to anything you have to say. Or you can always email me at pvbandfreak@yahoo.com

Love
Kate

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15/M (Freshman)
I don't really know if I want to finish school... I mean, I sort of lost all desire to finish school, I've had my heart broken this year & after that... it just seems like school isn't important anymore... I mean, I started failing... & I'm just not careing & just letting it keep going...
so, I think I want to do homeschooling next year, can anyone give me any advice on how to do homeschooling on the computer? & I'd like to graduate a year early, is that possible?

thank you so much

I really think it would be best for you to just wait it out. High school won't last forever. Perhaps you could look into going to a private or charter school nearby instead of your high school. I don't think you would be able to graduate a year early if you were home schooled or in cyberschool, and if you are failing freshman year. Freshman year can be a tough year to get through. At least it was for me. If you really hate your school look into going somewhere else. In my opinion you get less of an education if you are homeschooled. You should try to do what is best for your education.

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I am a male, 15, and lately I've been wondering about something. There are many girls in our school and grade. I am a gentleman and open doors, get chairs, etc. for the girls. It is pretty much the same way with my friends, we are all like that. But the girls in our school keep saying they like "skaters" or "skaters are soo hot" and we really are wondering what is wrong with us. Not to boast, but all of us are good looking. The girls just keep talking about "skaters." So why is it like this, and do girls not like gentlemen or something?

I'm finding this weird. All of the Skaters that go to my school are really a bunch of jerks and smoke pot. [I'm not saying all skaters are jerks and smoke pot just the ones I know] I wish more guys would act like gentlemen. Just the other day I was going in the front door of my school and I was carrying alot of stuff, and the guy in front of me let the door slam in my face. There is nothing wrong with you or your friends. You guys are acting like gentlemen, how you should act. It's the girls who are the problem, they are just being superfical. They just want to date a label more then anything else. I would say just wait it out for a girl who isn't like the others, one who likes the fact that you are a gentleman. And don't think that she's not out there. Alot of girls would rather date someone with manners than a total jerk.

Kate

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i am really concerned about my friend and i think she is cutting, what are some signs of someone who is cutting?

please help, i dont want to talk to her about it unless i know for sure.

People who cut often wear long sleeves even when it is warm out. However it is winter. Sometimes they wear short sleeves and hide cuts under a wrist band. Although not all people who self injure cut their wrists. Whenever she raises her hand or arm does she pull her sleeve down so it doesnt expose her wrist? Another sign is if she seems to itch her arms. When you cut and they start to heal they can be very itchy, but not with everyone as we are all different.
Has she been going through alot in her life right now? Does she seem down alot?

Here is a site that might help you out:

http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/selfinjury.cfm

**EDIT***
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2005/08/16/health/webmd/main781173_page2.shtml

^^This one is probably the best



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I need to know all the places Odysseus travels in his book "the Odyssey"! If you could give me the list / name of the place he goes / or what he did there that would be GREAT. Links are awesome too. I will rate 5's!!

I'd say check sparknotes and look at the summaries there.
http://www.sparknotes.com/lit/odyssey/

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i just downloaded a bunch of different brushes for psp and it worked downloading them and stuff. but now for some reason ill use a brush and sometime it will roatate around as i use it but sometimes it will just stay the same its really weird and if anyone could help me with this id rate them a five
thankss♥

This is actually quite easy. click on your brush tool like you normally would to use it. Now on the tool bar that comes up for brushes click on the little arrow under presets [there is a brush symbol next to mine]. A box will pop up and in the corner there are 3 buttons : a disk, a trash can, and a arrow. Click on the arrow to reset your brushes back to normal.

=] Kate

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