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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
Much love, Teza
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Ok so I went through your advice column and I think you give pretty good advice.
I went out with this guy Jonathan for 8 months
and 1 week and I can honestly say we love each
other, we broke up on October 13th because my
father hates him (though my dad has only seen
him once and doesn't know a thing about him other
then that Jonathan doesn't do drugs or drink)
We went out behind my father's back and my
brother helped us through out most of our
relationship, but once we got to 7 months
he realized that Jonathan and I were in a
serious relationship and got scared so he
made it harder for us to see each other &
made it so hard that we HAD to break up or
else he'd tell my dad. So fine, we decided
to break up until I turn 18 (next October)
or at least until things calm down with my
dad and brother, fine, I could handle that,
but then 2 days after we broke up he asked
this girl out and they've been going out
ever since, he said it's just a distraction
and so he doesn't feel so heartbroken over
me and that he doubts it'll last long. He
keeps starting stupid fights with her so he
doesn't get so attatched, and she's also a
REALLY shitty girlfriend and acts like she
doesn't care about him all that much so I
don't really like her. The last few times
me and Jonathan hung out we acted like we
were still going out without the physical
intimacy. We're still extremely close friends
and talk to each other every day, I know we
still love each other but I'm worried that
he'll start loving her instead of me, idk
what to do. This whole situation is really
complicated. I'm not sure if I should try to
move on until we're able to date again, move
on completely, or wait for him without going
out with someone else, or if I should try to
convince him that we should be together again
behind my dad and brothers back again. My dad
is REALLY strict so even though it seems really
disrespectful to do that to my dad and brother,
I didn't live with my dad until 3 years ago and
I'd hardly call him my father so it's not that
bad if you knew the situation with my dad and I.
ok I know that that was REALLY long and possibly
really confusing but if you could help that would
be GREAT, thank you so much
I'm sorry that it took me a while to answer your question. Anyways, don't make any decisions without talking to him about it first. It would be wrong of you to go behind your dad's and brothers back and it could only cause more drama which I'm sure you don't want. You need to talk to him about it first. Ask him if his realtionship with that girl is getting serious and if you two could ever be toghether again. If they are serious and if he really does like her, it would be best to move on because you shouldn't wait for someone who has no feelings for you. So, before you do anything, talk to him about everything and see where you stand.
HEY TEZA!! so Matt has been walking me to my class for like 4 months now and we were SO CLOSE to going out, but all of the sudden he just stopped. He ignores me now, i've tried talking to him twice asking if he's mad at me. He's really sweet and cute and i've liked him to TWO YEARS and things were just starting to happen it was amazzzzing.. i dont think its possible for me to get over him and i don't know if i can try talking to him first again bcz its like im just bugging him. how long should i wait for him to do something? should i ignore him?
It doesn't make sense why he's ignoring you and stoped walking you to class. You need to talk to him about it and see what's really up because there has to be a reason. It's going to be hard getting over someone that you really like but just talk to him and see what's been going on and talk about it and try to fix it. You shouldn't wait for him to do something because you would be wasting your time if he's treating you like that. If you ignore him, it could ruin the realtionship completley and you don't want that, do you? I'm sorry that I can't be a bigger help.
ok. listen i used to be goth and a skater boy becouse im a skater but now i want to be a skater but in a prepy way like everyone else im in to goth but i want to have good friends and be pouplar at school...
Okay, well first of all, the one thing that gets on my nerves the most is when people like you try to fit in and be something that they're not. If you're into the goth style, then dress that way. It's who you are and if you start changing just to fit in and be "popular" people will see right threw you. Be yourself and not a cookie cutter. It's so unoriginal. If you like to skate and stuff then do it. Wear the clothes that express who you are not what everyone else does.
ok you're the same age as me so maybe you can help. I'm a 15/f freshman. There is this boy i like who is a Junior. His name is Ryan. He is what you would call a super genius. He seems really shy and sweet. I asked some of my Junior friends about him and they said he was a sissy/pansy but i don't care. He has never spoken to me before. I left a note saying "your really cute" and "you're very attractive" in his locker. I called him last night and asked him if he got them he said yes. I asked if they bothered him, he said "a little bit because i didn't know who they were from." He does not have a girlfriend. He's in my lunch and always sits alone. My question is how can i get to know him enough for him to start to like me? thanks sooo much!!
If you want to get to know him better, then start talking to him in person. Since he sits alone at lunch, maybe you could go over and sit by him. It would show that you're friendly and actually interested in him. Leaving notes in his locker saying you're attractive and stuff is kind of weird lol sorry but since now he knows who you are, get to know each other and maybe he'll end up liking you too. Good luck with everything.
Hey I have the same layout as you [the Default Space] except you have lines seperating each question & I can't figure out how to get that. I also saw various columnists with the same layouts & lines also. I checked all of my font colors & none of them are white. Any ideas?? Thanks!!
I'm sorry but I honestly don't know. I have everything changed to black and I don't know why your's isn't showing up that way. Ask DN about it and maybe he can help you out. Sorry again.
im a 15year old girl in 10th grade.
so theres this boy, let call him john. I've known him since 6th grade but we just started talking this year. We've gotten really close lately and im not sure if he jusy wnats to get with me or if he really does like me. He's one of those guys that flirt with any attractive girl. Everyday on the way home from school he always sits with me and put his arm around my waist and gives me a kiss on the cheek or forehead. One day he tried to kiss me on my lips but didn't want to kiss him because my cousin was sitting behind us. Sometimes he texts me but its normally like "hey sweetie" or " hey beautiful" so i have a feeling im not the only one hes send theese texts to. Im just not sure if he really likes me or not. The thing is i think i sorta like him but i dont want to get with him anf then him totally forget me. pleaseeee Helpppp
I don't really know what you're asking but it's hard to tell if he really likes your or not. He does flirt with you a lot and if he wasn't attracted to you, he wouldn't be doing it so he definetly has something for you. Keep talking to him and get to know him better. Try hanging out with him outside of school and see how it goes. I don't think he'll forget you lol. Take things slow and see how it works.
hi, i was just wondering if you knew of any sites that have free ringtones for phones .. without like subscribing to anything or whatever. my phone has bluetooth but my company has song sending blocked. so whats the point of bluetooth..what else can you send on it?
Your company should allow bluetooth or else they shouldn't sell phones that have it. It's free so I don't see the point of blocking it. I don't know of any websites for free ringtones, sorry. Have you tried recording music on your phone and applying it as your ringtones. Some phones allow that, try if yours does. Other than that, I don't know what else. I'm sorry :(
Alright, well, i pretty much am happy with the way i look except for one thing, i'm not tan at all. And its not just because its the winter, i've never really been tan. I don't wanna be like OMG tan or anything, i just don't wanna look white, you know?! I won't go to a tanning salon because 1)its expensive 2)it's stupid 3)my mom would never let me # 4)i'd get skin cancer. So yeah, i guess that just leaves tanning lotion. Do you know of a good product that doesn't leave you streaky or orange? Alot of people have said Jergens. I feel embarrassed about this but you don't understand how self conciious i am about it. I mean even if other people don't notice it, if i know i'm tanner, i'll be more happy and outgoing. It's getting to the point where i don't wanna wear certain shirts. Hopefully you can help =) Thanks in advance.
I personally don't like using lotions because if you don't put it on evenly, it will leave you looking blotchy and you don't want that. Have you ever thought about going mystic tanning? It's not bad for your skin and it doesn't leave your orange and you get a golden tan. I recommend doing that and it's not expensive. Talk to your mom about it and see what she says.
I've had a huge crush on this boy for like a year, and thigs are FINALLY started to happen a little bit, but I know he used to like this other girl (Allie*) And I thought that since highschool started and everything that he didn't like her anymore, because she didn't like him. Well now I think that she might like him now, but didn't she already have her chance? And shes alot prettier than me but she just tries to talk to him and it scares me. I like him ALOT, how do I know that he's into me and not her?
It's hard to tell and it takes time. Keep talking to him and keep him interested in you, not her. Time will tell and if he's interested in her, you'll know but don't let that happen. Be yourself and don't ever try to change who you are for a guy and as cheesy and that sounds, it's important.
First off I think you give excellent advice, And i'm really glad you have this.
But anyway, Right now i'm 13 yrs old soon to be 14. I have kissed only one guy, But we only kissed whenever we left. But that was about 6 months ago, I havn't kissed anyone since, (ive had boyfriends though). I don't understand what my probablem is. I know i'm VERRRYY self concious. But I really like my new boyfriend even though we've only been together for about 2 weeks. I want to kiss him, But i'm scared. And i'm too embarresed to talk to him about it. Cause I feel ready, I just can't get up the courage to go for it. What should I do? Thanks.(:
Thank you so much. I appreciate it :)dd
You guys have only been going out for two weeks. That's not a very long time. Don't rush for the kiss, it won't be as special. When it's meant to happen, it will.. trust me. I don't think that you're completely ready to kiss him yet, You seem nervous about it and it's normal. Just wait until you're more comfortable around him. The kiss will happen and when you're fully ready, make the move. He'll like it.
I have been with this kid for a longlonglong time, and lately.. weve been taking alotta breaks. he makes me so angry. were in love. i know that for sure, no matter what anyone says.. we are. even though we are young. even my mother says it, so its no joke. we were ina serious relationship until some girl came along & took my place. he finally just dumped her for good, and started dating me again obviously. just earlier he asked for another break after we just did some stuff last night. but its not like hes using me.. don't get the wrong idea. i think the break is so he can just talk to some other girls.. but when guys called me to hangout today he was bitching about it. another guy asked me to chill to, but of course.. i hafta be in love with a guy that i wish i never met.. and didnt go with the other kid. i rly wanna be done & move on, but its MUCHMUCHMUCH easier said then done. even though were gon get back together, itll jus happen again & im so mad. i can't be done, but i can't get screwed over again. help?
I honestly think that breaks don't work or fix anything. It's just a lame excuse. If he is going to keep taking breaks, it's not worth it. It only hurts you more and he knows that you'll always come back to him. It's not fair that he gets mad at your for talking and hanging out with other guys. You're allowed to have guy friends and he's just jealous that he might lose you for good. I think that if you're really seriously about this, end this for good. Try talking to him about it if you already haven't. Let him know that you're willing to try and make your relationship work if he is and this should be the last time. You shouldn't give him any more chances because in the long run, you will keep getting hurt. I understand that it's hard to end things with he one you love but if he really loved you as much as he says he does, why does he keep doing the same thing over and over? Just think about what you think will be the best thing for you and what would make you happy. Put yourself before him for once. I can't tell you on what to do, but hopefully you make the right decision. Good luck girl.
i want to know if anybody knows of a site to edit pictures on.
things that make pictures look nice && cool. thanks alot =]
www.picnik.com
I need help
im a male 15 and i have a very large penis, its huge actually. normally this isn't a problem for most people, but if i get an erection during school, its sooooooo noticable. is there anything i can do to keep my penis down in my pants?
I wouldn't know, I don't have a penis sorry. =/
well right now im twelve and i haven't had my period yet but, im always so cautious about it and im afraid im gunna have it at gym and my gym teacher is a guy and he doesn't let you go to the bathroom. how can you tell besides seing blood through your pants that you have ur period because i KNOW im going to have it at school.
Bofore your period, you will get white stuff and that means that you will be getting it soon. You should defenetly buy panty liners and wear them. That way if you do start your period you won't leak. Always carry a pad or tampon in your purse just in case though.
So i take a shower @ night then go to bed with fairly wet hair. Sometimes i put it in a bun, but that makes my part all messed up in that back and it makes my hair stay wet when i wake up. Another thing i try it to blowdry it before bed, but again, my part gets all messed up because i end up laying on it wrong. so I end up putting my hair up because it all puffy in the back. I hate it! How can i get my hair to stay nice overnigt?? And taking a shower in the mornings isn't an option.
I take showers at night and when I get up I just brush it and straighten it. After you get out of the shower, towel dry your hair and brush it. Then blow dry it and brush it again and tie it in a loose ponytail. Pin your bangs to the side or however they go with a bobypin and it won't be messy when you wake up.
okkk well you see ive liked this one boy for along time, but than he got a girlfriend so i stopped and started looking for someone new and i finally found someone hes sweet and nice and everything, but hes really immature reaal bad. and i know it takes awhile for boys to mature quicker than girls but hes really bad, and now this other boy tht i liked in the beginning is single and stuff and idk if i lke him and i really dont know wht to do about this kids immaturity, i tlked to him about it and we got into a really big argument and he said im trying to change him idk wht to do , can you help me !?
If you like this guy, don't try to change him. He is who he is and being immature is his thing. If it bothers you that much, maybe you guys aren't right for each other? If you want to make things work, you would have to accept it. Don't rush yourself to figure out if you like this other guy or not. Time will tell and if you really do end up liking him, then go for it!
im 13 years old and a female and my mom treats me like im 30
she wants me to wash the dishes every night and clean the kitchen , and the bathroom , and my room, even my 8 year old brother's room
am like cinderella?
the worst part is that when i do these things she wont even say thank you or tell me that i did a good job, she just acts like's it's nothing.
but wen i do something wrong she yells so much till i just feel like crying.
at the same time of cleaning those and doing all the chores, she also expects me to get straight a's in skool
like she'll freak out if a get an 82 on test and tell me that ill never get anywhere in life if i dont do good in skool.
how do i get her to let me be a kid and just have fun and hang out with my friends and relax
thnxx
I've been in your position and I know how you feel about it and when you get a little bit older, you will understand why she is treating you like that. Your mom isn't trying to make your life miserable, she is just trying to teach you responsibility. As girls, we're expected to clean around the house and help out. I had to clean up after myself and family for a while and now, it's something that I'm used to. You have to understand that your mom can't do everything. She has other responsibilities and needs your help on things. It won't hurt you to wash the dishes or clean the bathroom. Those are things that you will have to know when you live on your own. She's only doing this for the best, not because she likes seeing you mad. Parent's expect a lot from their kids when it comes to education. They want their kids to do better in school than they have and it's for your future. She knows that you're capable of getting straight A's but school does get tough. Earn your moms respect. Clean up without her tellings you to. That way she will be easier on you and she will see a much more mature side of you. Your brother is old enough to clean his own room, but it's okay for you to straighten it up a bit once in a while. You will have plenty of time to hang out and have fun. Things will get tougher and she is only trying to prepare you for it.
alright let me explain my situation:
theres this kid (mike) he likes me, but hes too much of a friend for me to like him. i cleared that up last night.
and i like his friend (cory) its not the reason i dont like mike though.
my friend.. not that close of a friend, (michelle) has been messing with cory's mind lately. cory has liked her for a really long time, but she hasnt given him the time of day. shes been really unclear about it, and everyone tells cory that he shouldnt like her.
well me and cory are good friends. we always talk about each others relationships. ive been helping him with the michelle situation, and hes pretty much over her. meanwhile though, im kinda starting to like him.
last night we were texting and he was like i heard that you said u liked me (which is true) i kinda beat around the bush, but i eventually admitted that i liked him. after i said that, he was like "i like you too, but u just ended things with mike" so im under the impression that we were just gonna give it time..
well apparently michelle and cory got in an argument last night and now she says she likes him.. i really hope he doesnt go back to her now, because i just admitted to him that i like him and he said he liked me... so what do i do??? what is your opinion of this situation and how can i get this guy with me???? thanks!
Michelle could be saying that she likes him knowing that he has feelings for you as well as you have feelings for him. She probably doesn't like the fact that he is over her and wants him back. See how he is going to react to that situation. Maybe you should talk to him about it and see what's up. I don't think that he'll go back to her since she never gave him the time of the day. If he does go back to her, he is for sure not the right guy for you. Don't ever let it get to you because he wasn't good enough for you but just talk to him and see how he feels about her still and ask him to be honest with you.
ok, yano when you shave your legs, how far are you suppose to shave? you dont shave past your knee do you? my mom alwys tells me not too.
If you have hair above your knees, then shave it. I personally shave above the knee because I don't want hair but if you have none, don't. It's okay if you do, tons of girls shave above.
Okay this might sound dumb but hey it happens. This boy is gonna ask me out, everyone is talking about it and hes just been waiting for the right moment. Well idk how to act, sounds stupid right? im 17 and ive had boyfriends before but its been about 3 years or so since ive had one, ive had boys since then but nothin official and ive always been kinda shy and this boy definitely isnt shy. Hes veryy outgoing, so i mean how do i act and stuff? i dont know if that mkaes sense but im shore yall know what im saying
I know what you mean. Act like yourself. I know it's probably not what you wanted to hear, but seriously. This boy obviously likes your for who you are and you shouldn't act or change around him. It might take you a while to feel comfortable and outgoing around him, but that's fine. Have fun and don't take things too seriously. He likes you the way you are, so don't change for any reason. Good luck with everything! =]