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What if you cant see a psych or talk to someone online, then what? This is referring to your answer on the question about social anxiety. (link)
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If you cannot function properly or at all with an anxiety issue and appear to be in crisis than you can visit any emergency room for assessment by on call psychiatrist and get on the road to treatment through the hospital. If you need a psychiatrist they will get you one and determine the level of help you need.
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I'm going to a water park on Tuesday due my period today what should I do? (link)
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Aside from tampons which you will need in order to get into the water also consider Advil or another over the counter or even prescription medication from pharmacy if you have cramps associated with menstruation. If you take those if needed you should be covered well. Have fun, and don't worry about anything else. You should be fine now.
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I suffer from the WORST generalized anxiety disorder known to man. It's my genuine, legitimate disability. I am super anxious every. single. second of every. single. day. I can't work. I can't drive. I can't function like normal people even though I've tried therapy a billion times and too many different anxiety meds to name. I *CAN NOT* stress enough how *NOTHING* works to even lessen my anxiety. At all.
My dad knows this for a fact and always says he understands.
But every day he says the MOST irrelevant comments to me. He knows for certain that it triggers my anxiety horrifically. He tells me all the time that he understands that he stresses my anxiety and makes it worse.
I literally mind my own business all the time. I do my part in my family's household. I'm the one who cleans so my parents don't have to do it. I help my dad with yardwork.
I will literally be minding my own business whether it's just watching a movie or studying or cleaning or talking to my fiance. And then he'll say something so insulting to me and so unnecessary which immediately triggers my anxiety and boils my blood to the heat of lava.
For example, I'll be watching my favorite television show after I took my antidepressants. And he'll just angrily shout, "Take your pills! I know you haven't took them, I'm not as dumb as you think I am!" And that'll immediately trigger my anxiety. When I'm yelled at, especially for no reason, my anxiety is so severe that it'll just explode.
Another example, I'll go outside to spend some father-daughter time with my dad, then he'll randomly say something to trigger my anxiety.
The thing is: he's told me a BUNCH of times that he KNOWS that he triggers my anxiety and stresses me out too much. So why does he still do it?!
Please do NOT tell me to get a job and move out. I'm too sick and fucked up in the head. I've tried working countless times, but I'm always fired because they say I'm obviously "too sick to deal with it." I have MAJOR panic attacks whenever I try to work. Hell, I even have them when I'm behind the wheel of a car!
Even if I had the money to move out, I would be freaking out and probably would end up killing myself in the process of trying to live on my own. I'm TOO sick mentally to live on my own.
I'm respectful to my dad. He's the one who always starts these fusses, because he's TOXIC.
We've tried therapy, but stopped because the therapist believed him instead of listening to my side of the story.
I don't know what to do. He makes my anxiety and major depressive disorder infinitely times worse than it already is. I can't deal with it anymore. I ALWAYS am my sweetest towards him, but he just yells at me and insults me and talks behind my back. I just want to die.
Any advice, please? (link)
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There's what you are perceiving as toxic and what the reality is. He's not out to rile you up or make life difficult with anything he may say to even if if you see it as him doing it deliberate. It seems that just about anything can spark the anxiety problem and no matter what he or anyone says to you can have that affect.
Believe me he's not trying to do anything on purpose here. The things he says or anyone else to you are what happen normally with everyone else but with the disorder you have it warps this and turns it into something that to you is very different and not as benign as it is to others.
I think you need to stop seeing him as someone who is toxic and as someone who genuinely loves you but doesn't know what to do to reach you. Even in therapy the therapist is not playing one person against another.
I think what you really have to do is try to make him feel exactly what it it is like to have this problem and how intense it is and perhaps he will make comments about different things in a softer tone to you. The man is trying and hasn't given up on you. If he can see your world through your eyes you may find a deeper connection than you think.
Next, regardless of what diagnosis you have been given the problem should NOT be to the point of having zero ability to function period. Also, never trust a therapist to do the job of a psychiatrist who should be the only person treating you and doing therapy or prescribing medication.
I think what you should do is find another doctor and have them refer you to a different psychiatrist and go over your history, meds conclusion others reached and let them reassess you. You may have anxiety but I think it may actually be an undercurrent and not the main illness itself. You may have something on top that nobody has looked at and I say this having been through the system.
With medication they may not have levels set right with you or the right ones to treat it. I would get this looked at top to bottom all over again as I know you can live somewhat normally.
As far as him yelling to you about taking your pills that's actually a loving thing to do and watching over you but the bit about being dumb not so much. Point out that these remarks or snickering doesn't help. The reminder about pills does and it's so vital you take them as prescribed and when you need to and not miss or your problem does become ten time worse and treatment ineffective.
I have to level with you maybe he's yelling that because he knows and you know that if he didn't you may not take them and or forget them. Maybe you have told people you did and didn't. This happens a lot with people with mental health issues having false beliefs about pills being poison or harmful to them etc so why I mention it.
If I were you I would actually go to an emergency room and detail every aspect of your anxiety problem again and let them have a psychiatrist do a new exam to search for other causes than ones you were given for this problem because they may find something different and a treatment that actuallly gives you a decent life as right now it's lacking.
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I'm into a long distance relationship, and I celebrated my birthday in the month of May.. my boyfriend schools in another state, so all he did was to call me and wish me well,he also said he was starting exam that day so he couldn't come over for the weekend that was all.. His best friend celebrated her birthday this month June, he called me and told me few days to her birthday that he was traveling to meet her(cos she schools in another state also).. He went over because of her and uploaded over 50 of her pictures.. I feel uncomfortable and angry,cs none of my picture was posted, neither was I even acknowledged and I dnt knw what to do anymore.. what is going on?? (link)
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You can believe what he says about the exam. This sounds legit. It is also possible that he went to see her for a party and because it had been a long time since he saw her and she lives far away.
That part could be true. As far as her pictures being posted to Facebook it could just be him posting party pictures or more. You need to talk to him about this. Generally if someone has never exhibited this kind of behavior before it means they aren't going to be likely to.
You have to understand long distance relationships don't usually work because of the distance and not being physically present. The previous advice that he may have found someone else and isn't in to you anymore may be true. You need to discuss this with him. At the same time you should try and find someone whom you can see regularly because this isn't working for you on an emotional and other levels.
When someone isn't really in your daily life it's hard for them and for you too to continue to be involved on any level with that person. You need to know where it all stands.
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Almost a month ago , I found s lump in my arm pit so I went to my doctor and she said it was a boil and prescribed an antibiotic it eventually went away. Then I found another under my right breast. I showed it to my doctor when I went to my follow up about the boil under my armpit and she did s breast exam and asked if I had breast cancer in my family and honesty I don't know. Now it is leaking blood and sometimes it's red and other times it's orange. Help (link)
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If this is leaking blood and she was concerned about cancer you need to see her again and as quick as possible. If you can't get an appointment through her or another clinic visit the emergency room and explain why you think it''s more than just a boil under your armpit and that it;s oozing blood all the time. Better to do that than be sorry. Explain you had two medical scares with boils and legions in the same spot and doctor spoke to you about cancer. They'll help you.
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So, me and my mother were gonna go to the local shopping center to get some equipment for my summer sport. Well, we were also gonna get me a teething ring. I constantly grind and chomp down on my teeth, it's a habit that I can't put down. I read somewhere that chewing on a teething ring sometimes helped them, so I decided to give it a shot. Me and my mom were listing what we needed and I added my teething ring. She suddenly went all ape shit and was saying in a loud voice how I don't need one and I should just stop thus habit because I apparently suddenly have the ability to stop an addictive habit. I said to her that if I can suddenly do that, then she can suddenly stop smoking. Do now she is yelling at me at the top of her lungs, outside where all the people can hear. I told her in not going and went inside to lock myself in my room. She then comes in and starts screaming at me to get out of there and shoo with her, and there's no way in hell I'm doing that! I deliberately hide my shoes so I'm looking for them and she has to wait. After about 10 minutes of my "searching" she finally has enough and goes to leave. While she's put the door she tells me to lose my attitude and I say only if she's gonna do it first. I'm in my room at this point with the door locked again. She comes running up to my door and starts banging on it. We live in an apartment, we can't do stuff like that. We have to keep the noise to a minimum. I know I'm in the wrong somewhat, but is it all my fault? (link)
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I think she over reacted for some reason about you wanting a teething ring and did not have to blow up in the mall. I also think there's more to this about her behavior and yours that you aren't telling us.
You should have indicated politely the reason you wanted one and where you read it. You are wrong in how you added gasoline to the fire with remarks about her own habits of which she can't stop easily. That part was wrong. You should apologize for that.
As far as a teething ring goes I don't know where you heard to use one for grinding teeth. They really are meant for infants and not adults. You would look silly using one.
What you do need to do is see a dentist about it. Have him check your jaw, teeth and bite alignment and offer you solutions that will stop or lessen this. They know exactly why people chomp like this or grind teeth regularly.
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I tried warehouse, but that still involves a lot of people. Do you think that a person with anxiety can work overnight at a gas station? (link)
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The thing is a person with anxiety can work anywhere they want to provided the illness is in check with medication and doctor's care. A therapist can teach you how to manage the illness and deal with anxiety effectively rather than it control you. You may want to try a quiet place for starters like a bookstore, library, baby-sitting, grocery store.
As far as a gas station goes you still have to deal with people coming in all the time needing things or paying for gas. It's a lot safer to work there in the morning than at night as yes they do get knocked over now and then.
One thing you could do is try a movie theater. Explain to the manager while you have all the skills necessary that you struggle with anxiety and see if they will help you to best of ability to succeed. Same with anywhere you want to work.
Definitely consult a doctor about making this a manageable thing that doesn't prevent you from living your life and doing all the things you want to do including work and being in social situations.
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I am a mother of 4 and grandmother of 8. My eldest daughter C has been battling cancer the past 2 years she has now fallen terminally ill and is only expected another week or two. Her 3 children will soon need a new home the my eldest granddaughter from C has a different biological father from her other siblings when her mother passes it is likely she will be sent to live with him even though he has not been a part of her life and she doesn't know him. The bio father of my other two grand babies passed in Afghanistan in 09 shortly after the youngest was born. What can I do to insure that all of my grandbabies come to me mostly the eldest as she has a father that never wanted her. Please help me not worry as much in this very tough time
Sincerely concerned grandmother (link)
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Tell her your concern and ask here if she can write out a custody arrangement with you and a lawyer now so when she passes her wishes are in stone. Tell her you don't think kids being split up or with people they really don't know is a good idea at all. Make your desire known and see what she does. You can do no more than that other than challenge people in court when she does pass and hope a judge sees things your way when you present a case.
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I'm an eighteen year old girl and I still don't know how to talk to people. I know it sounds pathetic. I haven't had much (close) friends because of it. I'm SO bad with words. I can't even have a real conversation with my boyfriend because of it. I'm really insecure. I never know the right words to say. Is there something wrong with me? Help would be much appreciated. Thanks so much. (link)
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It sounds to me as though this is something that has been with you your whole life but hasn't been dealt with at least not with intensity before. From what I know about mental health you likely have an anxiety disorder undiagnosed and treated leading to all these issues.
It would be in your best interest to consult your family doctor and ask to speak to a psychiatrist and be honest and tell them what you told us. This issue and irrational fears (which they are) that hold you back may be something they can control with the correct medication. It could make your life a ton better than it is now. There's nothing to lose and it's not your fault nor are you pathetic. That belief is garbage.
Your boyfriend loves and respects you but may not know how bad you have it with this problem and you need to tell him conversing with anyone is super hard because of anxiety issues you haven't ever been able to fix until now. He will get it.
Seeing a psychiatrist doesn't mean you are pathetic or crazy either. This is very common to see them for. It's an illness like anything else and manageable. Think of it as consulting a friend who is always there to take care of you even if you have trouble at times doing it yourself.
A psychiatrist can give you ideas or point you towards an additional resource or person who can work on your social skills and getting you comfortable engaging with others.
When it comes to friends tell the good ones straight up what's going on and has your whole life and that you're trying to get help and how you feel and want to become close. I think for sure they'll understand and aim at making you feel closer and more comfortable. They may have no clue how painful this situation is. Telling them would make a world of difference.
You have to understand too that these people want to know and include you or wouldn't be friends.
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Ok, I have this friend who just broke it off with her bf a month ago. All of sudden she has 'my happiness' on her snapchat stories and all sorts of stuff like that. The next day she comes to me crying. I find out that he is texting her saying that he wants her back even though he is dating someone else. Then today he went up to her and yelled at her face pushing her. I don't want her sad no more. And she isn't over him and he keeps fuxking up her emotions. And mind I say she has been cutting too. Please help me. I don't want her like this. I love her as a friend and I don't want to lose her completely.... :// (link)
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Find an adult you can tell ie: a teacher, guidance counsellor your parents that she was in abusive relationship and you saw him push her and that she's confused and pretending to be happy when not. Tell them she is is cutting herself. Let them intervene. It's the right thing to do. Tell her that he's trouble and she is best rid of him and that NOBODY should shove her or be abusive no matter what. He's also someone who screws around on people he's with. She's free to talk to whomever she wants. Who does he think he is? Aside from asking adults to keep an eye on her and intervene if they see she needs it you've done your part and the rest really has to be her doing the work and realizing she needs support and out of this situation.
Also, she may not know that at this age if someone hits, shoves or physically lashes out at her she can have him charged with assault and have the police warn him to stay away from her. That may be the right route to go. She can also charge him with harassment if he's not leaving her alone and trying to dictate what she does and who she can even talk to.
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20/female.
I have struggled with MAJOR, MAJOR, MAJOR depression and MAJOR, MAJOR, MAJOR anxiety for practically my whole life it seems. And when I say MAJOR three times, I mean, I can't even IMAGINE anything worse. Frankly, my anxiety is FAR WORSE than my depression. EVERY single second of EVERY single day I am anxious. There's never been JUST ONE moment where I feel no anxiety. I constantly wish upon death, for example I was turning on the oven for my parents' and I's dinner PRAYING it would blow up JUST ENOUGH for it to kill me, but not hurt the house too much or hurt my parents or my dog at all.
My parents want me on disability because EVERY SINGLE TIME I've tried to work, I had ongoing anxiety attacks that WOULD NOT END UNTIL I left. And BELIEVE ME, I tried my hardest to stay and work so I can help my parents pay their bills (they have a hard time paying bills, because they don't make a lot of money).
My anxiety's far too bad for me to work. I can't even DRIVE, because I have ENDLESS anxiety attacks when I'm behind the wheel. I can't breathe when I'm behind the wheel. I can't even SEE it's so bad!!!! EVEN in the PASSANGER'S seat I'll have anxiety attacks, which is why I'm home practically 98% of the time.
I have a fiance who proposed to me a few months ago. We're going to be living with my parents because I'm too anxious to leave them. They stress FAR TOO MUCH for it to be healthy... my dad's known to heart attacks... and both my parents have high blood pressure terribly. My dad smokes too much and drinks too much. He has diabetes and sometimes gets carried away when he eats sugar and sweets and then his sugar goes up and he starts feeling sick.
I'm honestly terrified of leaving them. I don't want to move out of my parents' house because I'm terrified something bad will happen to them. I LOVE THEM SO FREAKING MUCH AND I CARE ABOUT THEM MORE THAN I CARE ABOUT MYSELF.
I don't want them to die from too much stress or disabetes or heart attacks or so forth. I want to live at home with them so I can care for them and make sure they don't stress too much... that my dad doesn't eat too much sugar (sometimes he can't control himself; he won't listen to my mom, but he'll listen to me)... I'm trying to get my dad to stop smoking so much, because he's had heart attacks from it and I'm scared one day he'll die from it... so I send him random texts telling him how much I need him and how he's my rock... he said it's helping him to stop, but I want to be here to make sure he's stopping for good.
I'm ***NOT*** living off them, I swear. I never ask for anything, unless it's things I need like cheap, simple foods and water... cheap shampoo... cheap toothpaste... sometimes they'll buy me gifts here and there, but I always say that I don't need it. But they buy it anyway and I feel horrible. D': But thank God it's not expensive stuff at all.
I wear clothes that I've had forever, because I can't pay for more and I don't want my parents buying me new clothes. Some of them I've grown out of, so I just wear my dad's shirts a lot which I love because I feel closer to him.
I do all the cleaning at home so my mom doesn't have to stress about it.
I do the yard work, except for the poisonous stuff because my dad says he's scared it'll hurt me.
I brush my mom's hair to make her feel good. I scratch her back. And I do things like taking her trash to the trash can for her. And I tell her she's the most beautiful woman in the world and that I wish I looked more like her everyday.
I tell my dad that he's the smartest man I've ever known and that he dresses nice for work everyday.
I make sure my fiance's happy. I watch his "guy movies" with him all the time and give him massages and make sure he feels like he's the most special and important man out there.
I never get mad at my parents, my fiance or my three friends that i have. I'm super nice to everyone, and i give people compliments wherever I go.
its just my terrifying depression and anxiety keep on telling me that im lazy and a bad person because i LITERALLY cannot work or drive and i cant have children because i cant get off my antidepressants and anxiety meds. if i got pregnant and had children then the meds would give them scary birth defects and stuff. plus anxiety and depression is genetic in my family.; im not going to bring someone into this world if theyre going to go through what i go through.
i just feel meaningless and such a bad person and lazy. i dont want to live off disability, because a lot of people think mentally disabiled people are "just lazy" and "don't want to work". I want to work MORE THAN ANYTHING. I would have LOVED to be a psychiatrist and followed in my psychiatrist's footsteps and helped SO MANY PEOPLE with mental illnesses, but I can't work at all. my anxiety literally won't let me do it.
its not like im going to buy stuff i dont need like get my nails done or dye my hair or buy clothes/shoes/jewelry, etc with the disability check. im not like that. i only wnat it to help my parents with their bills and buy food for us all.
im SO sorry for the long question. its just i hear in my head that Iim lazy and a bad person all the time and that i should just kill myself. im so mentally ill and no pill or treatment or hopsital or therapist has ever helped EVEN IN THE LEAST.
am i a bad and lazy person? :'( (link)
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You have NO idea just how normal you are anxiety disorder and all. If anyone else thinks you are lazy that's their ignorance and not for you to worry about. Furthermore, mental-illness especially bipolar disorder is the number 6 cause in the entire world for permanent disability. Think about it 1 in 50 people internationally have it. The stats are similar to the disorder you have.
There is ZERO shame in going on disability support because the government and your doctor both know that you need to live and that this is a disability you will have your entire life. They're out to protect and advocate for you. By all means if this is available to you take it. You are entitled to it.
Some people think a disability has to be physical but it can also be mental and that again is ignorant. They can't see the internal and what you deal with. Again, it's on them to learn and for you not to worry about.
Living with your parents is NOT a bad thing and actually a safe thing--a good thing. They can watch out for you, know your triggers better than anyone else and can get you help when you need it and make sure you are okay and lack nothing. Do not feel bad if they help you out provided you make a attempt to do some things on your own and have independent interests of your own.
Not being able to work because of mental illness of any type is common and why you would be on disability. I know you want to but if you can't it's not something to be angry at yourself over and believe me reasonable people will understand and your doctor does too.
The inner soundtrack about being an awful person, lazy or whatever else it's saying really isn't your thinking but rather your illness trying to rattle you and act as your own thought.
This is why it's vital right now to go call your psychiatrist and tell him or even show him/her everything you wrote here about how you are constantly feeling. I have a hunch if they adjust your medication levels and make changes based on what you have told us here that in fact your illness may be something you can manage on your own and feel a sense of peace again. They need to know for stuff to get better and definitely have them place you on disability as that's a good idea.
I know with anxiety how crippling it can be or the fear that can exist going places etc but one of the things you can do is go somewhere and time 10 or 15 minutes to do a certain task and then leave as you go to the same places and see over time nobody or nothing will hurt you it will get better. Try going to a movie and watching all of it or to a quiet place like a library.
As far as having a baby goes believe me if you want to become pregnant you can. Doctors know how their patients with an illness like yours can do so and not affect a mother or baby's health in any fashion. They won't be deformed and won't have any mental health issues related to you or at all. Most of these illnesses are not hereditary.
Also, you need to learn through help you are receiving from the doctor that you are not a burden on your family, impact stress or control it and that your father's heart condition or mother's medical issues have ZERO to do with you and would exist regardless and that nobody around you is going to die or abandon you suddenly.
All of this takes work and time but you will get to a point where you can have an enjoyable life even if you never work again due to the stresses etc. You're a good person.
The thing about working is that most psychiatrists put people on disability because of severity of illness and tell them they are entitled to it for life which they are. If a job offer comes up or work does they want clients to know about the stresses and how an illness can make it unbearable and NOT to commit to anything without being 100%. It's difficult to get back on disability if a doctor takes you off to work full-time or part-time. It's better to stay on.
I think either with fiancé or alone that you need to come up with a couple of hobbies and establish a daily routine even if you go for a jog or a coffee and ease the fears of going about daily life. In reality you can and you'll learn this go about your business and know in back of mind that if you run into trouble that people can and will help. If you find something new or exciting to do every day you'll find that it takes precident and not the fear. Hit me up in my inbox anytime you need something.
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At the beginning of the year, my resolution was to be transparent and build closer relationship with people. I felt like I only had surface relationship and I wanted to change that this year. I started with my sister, I told myself I would reach out to her and go beyond the surface. Unfortunately, we had a misunderstanding and I quickly realized that she was incapable of giving me what I needed. I expected her to be more emotionally available, I expect her to be consistent in keeping in touch, I expected her to be understanding. She let me down and I built a wall. Then, there was the relationship I had with two women that were once my friends. The first girl she was understanding, supportative and there for me. But, she changed. It seems like she didn't care about my feelings anymore. Then, the last girl I don't know what happened. I expected so much from her. I remember we were working on a group project and I left and didn't come back. I was disappointed that she didn't text me and asked if I was okay. I was stressed and I expected her to be there for me. Well, after letting go of these relationships because I feel like they weren't meeting my need, I feel sad. I just expect more from my friends and family and tend to let go of relationships that don't meet my expectations. I guess I am protecting myself. I just need to know if their anything I can learn about myself from these relationships. I know what I want and I feel like I deserve it. Is there another way to look at this? (link)
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You really have to ask yourself if you are asking for more than is what can reasonably expected from other people. Secondly, why are you so unwilling to bend? That's your problem you cannot bend and see that not everyone is perfect or capable to living up to this idea you have of how they should be all the time. Then ask should they expect the same standards from you all the time? Your relationships are suffering because of that and that you cannot navigate social situations for long and wind up in this situation a lot.
What you should do is work on all of this with a therapist and admit to the others that this is a problem you have and that you do it out of being insecure (which is the truth) about your own place and have ideas on how people should be towards you that you can't live up to yourself. Than relax and just be who you are and them who they are and let this other crap fade.
If they disappoint you from time to time don't let it kill a relationship. Every single person you will ever encounter will one day do something you don't like and or are disappointed over but you have to remind yourself that you and all of us for that matter are guilty of doing the same damn thing.
I think your problem has a lot to do with being secure in who you are and that you are worthy of friends and in knowing nobody is perfect all the time and relax your standards and you'll find it all will work smoothly if you work on this.
The problem isn't them it's with what is going on in your own thinking and that's what has to give before any relationship you have will be as satisfying and as deep as you really wanted. I would start with your sister and work with her and consult a therapist in general.
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I am getting a new phone. I currently have a Sam sung Galaxy Core prime ,but I am getting a samung galaiamp 2 today so I am going to sell my Samsung Galaxy core prime . I paid $115.00 for it how much should I sell my Samsung Galaxy core prime for? (link)
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Ask your provider how much money you would get back towards something new you traded this phone in against something new and that right there should give you a ballpark figure to sell your phone to them or someone else used. Even if your phone is relatively new prepare to be offered a shockingly low rate from them or people expecting to get it for whatever trade in amount they told you. In other words, I doubt you will get your $115 back or near it from experience trying.
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I've grown up with depression. Literally. I cannot remember one moment when I never experienced it.
Some months ago, I found out about Lexapro and suggested it to my psychiatrist. I took a low dosage of it for a few months, but lately, I've been taking 30mg (about to start taking 40mg). My happiness has soared higher than my depression now! :D
Before this 30mg, I never EVER wanted to get out of bed and take care of myself. I looked absolutely HORRIBLE.
But now, I have an obsession with taking care of my appearance which makes me genuinely happier the more obsessed with taking care of it I am.
So does anyone have any detailed tips on how to take PERFECT, PURE care of my hair, skin, body and teeth?
And I'd appreciate about health too if you can. Thank you SO SO SO MUCH! I can't put into words how much I'd appreciate any tips and help!!!! (link)
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When it comes to your teeth depending on the condition of them brushing daily when you get up in the morning and between meals if possible and then again at bed time is what dentists normally recommend plus flossing. However, if your teeth are in rough shape you may need to brush 3-4 times a day and right down to the gum.
While there are a lot of products you can put in your hair showering daily and washing it should suffice. Nobody has perfect anything including skin or hair except in magazines. The goal is to find a style and look you can maintain easily and feels "perfect" to you. Washing your face twice daily for starters is good and perhaps consulting a pharmacy about products for skin and anti-acne would help.
I am glad you are happy but when you have depression or mental-health issues you really have to be sure whether happiness isn't soaring into elation, grandiose ideas/feelings and crashing back down and up or even delusion in some people as that's a warning sign of manic depression. I'm just pointing it out.
If the doctor and yourself are happy with where you are and that the happiness is 100% real and because of this new treatment than that's terrific. I'm glad you can get out of bed and care for yourself but don't be obsessed with appearance. As long as you groom yourself as much as everyone else does you'll be fine.
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I started a new job. I really like someone there. I want to know if the signs show he also likes me. He most always says hi or good morning with a smile. I notice him looking at me. I feel I always catch his eye. If he knows where I am he seems to hang around. He talks loudly to others when im in ear shot. But seems quieter when I talk to him. I feel chemistry. When he is walking down the hall we make,eye contact and say hi when passing. Sometimes seems nervous around me. Last time I saw him I smiled really big and said hi he did the same with a huge smile.when I first started working there he had someone introduce us. (link)
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Proceed with caution especially if you work with this person every single day. It could make things awkward especially if co-workers and bosses pick up on it or he balks. It can cost you a gig.
You don't know much about this guy yet or what his private life is like such as is he married, divorced, single, plain not looking or even if he's a decent person outside the enviornment you are in at work.
There's a chance that you do have chemistry albeit as friends and that maybe the eye contact, nervousness etc could all be friendliness but could also be shyness too.
I'm not saying he doesn't like you in the manner you like him but you have to weigh this as well as how much you like your job before pulling the trigger so to speak and finding out where you stand with him.
Perhaps you can pull together a group outing with friends to a comedy club, bar, party etc and ask if he would like to join you and explain you don't usually ask co-workers along but felt you were becoming friends.
If he's in to you he will move mountains to go and be enthused about it. However, if he rejects the invitation or has an excuse that sounds less than reasonable than you'll know to move on or not. This way you protect your rep around the office because you didn't ask him out directly nor tipped your card that you like him. It keeps you safe but gives you the answer you need at the same time.
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So I'm 13 years old, nearly 14 and I've been fingered the first time it was only for like 30 secs, I thought this was a long time. A few days later I was fingered by someone else for much longer I couldn't really feel anything so he uses two fingers and it was better not too tight tho. Does this mean there's something wrong, am I too young, am I a slag (link)
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I have never been one to criticize a fellow advice giver but the advice given below by Dr. D to put it politely is off-base. This will NOT lead to pregnancy or other activity you aren't ready for or something that ruins your life. If you aren't ready for anything else know that and communicate it to partners. They are right in saying sex is best left alone until and unless you can support a baby.
Anyways, as per your question every female is different when it comes to what they respond to sexually and in your case you didn't find what your partner(s) were doing to be pleasurable. And guess what? That's perfectly normal. What you need to do is tell them "that's not working for me" and outline what you prefer.
Make sure he's not being too rough either. Most women find pleasure from clitoral stimulation and not insertion. My only concern here is that you have let more than one person do this within days of each other. You might want to hold off on this kind of thing and find the one person you want to be with as having multiple partners doing this with you can lead to a reputation if the boys blab about it.
There's nothing wrong with what you are doing and it's considered a form of self-pleasure (masturbation) but with a partner. As long as you remain in charge and they know that you mean business and NO is NO than you're okay. You have to communicate what you aren't ready for and make sure you trust your gut. That way nothing can lead where it shouldn't yet.
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To make a not so long story short, I was very casually seeing somebody for about 3 months. Seeing as in I literally saw him FOUR times in three months. One time we took a walk together and the next three times he would come over and fall asleep in my bed within an hour (no intimacy or anything like that). We kissed a few times if even that. He would text me about once every couple weeks and the first three times I just assumed he was really busy. I suppose I was a little infatuated with him because he was cute, but otherwise I kept telling my best friends what a loser he was (sleeping on his friend's couch, no job, trying to make it big in a small town as a singer for a band)and that I just needed to kick him to the curb once and for all.
The night before the last time I saw him he "confessed" to me how much he liked me and then the next day he told me he was drunk and didn't remember anything he said. Obviously at that point I pretty much made up my mind to cut him out of my life. So I let him fall asleep as usual and when he woke up in the morning I bid him farewell and deleted his number out my phone (should have blocked it).
I signed up for a dating site that he apparently also happened to be on and sent me a nasty message about seeing that I'd signed up for it. The best part about all of this is that he obviously also had to be on the dating site to see my profile.
He made it sound like I was leading him on, but I think he was the one who was leading me on if anything. I literally hung on to a small glimpse of hope for 3 months that he liked me more as just a bed to sleep in when he didn't want to sleep on his friend's couch.
I ignored the message and I'm now seeing other people, but I just wanted confirmation that I didn't do anything wrong here?
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Nothing wrong. You know what he probably knows this and that his behavior if you've told us everything and truthfully is wrong. He just wants to take a jab at you, Ignore it and document any abusive messages. He will move on if he sees you cannot be bullied. It's best not to say anything because that's attention he craves. You owe him nothing and if he harasses you relentlessly can get him charged with doing so especially if threatening to you.
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I'm seventeen and live in Kentucky. So, I'm supposed to be taking several psychiatric medications, and I've been diagnosed with bipolar, anxiety, ADHD, and potentially OCD. I got in trouble recently and now my parents refuse to take me to the psychiatrist or pay for the medication. They also won't allow me to have a job anymore so I can't pay for it myself. Just so you know, it's not like I'm just trying to get pills or anything. I've actually struggled quite a bit with the idea of having to take medication, but I've kind of accepted that it does help a lot and I can't handle this on my own. I've attempted suicide before and I become very depressed and very manic without this medication. I don't like being dependent on drugs for any reason, but I'm just worried about what I might do without it. So I guess my question is, is what my parents doing legal? (link)
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No--It's negligent. If something happened to you they would be in a lot of hot water with authorities. They cannot do this. What you need to do is call your psychiatrist who takes care of your ADHD, OCD, Bipolar and tell him/her in confidence that they are refusing to pay for your treatment any further or the psychiatric medications you need to survive because of X,Y, Z reason. He/she will take them to task and make sure that you get your rightful treatment. They cannot deprive you of it being responsible for you until age 18. This is being someone with bipolar (and even without) fucking disgusting actions from a loving parent supposedly.
You can tell your psychiatrist, teacher and any adult really exactly what you said here and they would be appalled and know the correct action to take. You can also have any person and even do it yourself call the Children's Aid Society and tip them off to your situation and be anonymous,
Nothing you tell your shrink can ever be shared with your parents unless someone is harming you or you are in crisis or of harm to yourself and cannot make decisions for self. Even then it's limited what they can tell.
I would tell the psychiatrist, teacher, trusted adult or anyone else you can think of about this and them threatening to end treatment. What the hell have you done anyways? Regardless they have no power to keep you from what a doctor has mandated as right. Talk to your psychiatrist in the morning with concerns. This is a BIG thing and what they are here for. They are your advocate and can end this nonsense fast.
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A while back, I was friends with my coworkers and very close to them, until a new female employee started working and excluded me from my group of work friends. She is now dating one of the other coworkers. It is very obvious and others have been asking me if they're dating to which I answer yes. I was unaware that this was a secret. Our boss now knows. Also, the female employee texted my best friend saying that I am selfish and a bad person because I gossiped about them, rather than confronting me. P.S We are adults in a post graduate career. However, I honestly feel terrible, should I feel bad? Should I apologize? I just feel very uncomfortable at work and now get anxious about even going into work. I'm just not sure what to do about this situation. Although it does not seem to be a big deal it clearly is to my female coworker. What do I do? (link)
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I will be blunt. She is an insecure bitch and has probably and most certainly have had this behavior her entire life. She is likely uncomfortable with how fast you make friends or do your job better than she can etc . Your boss probably gets that she is this way as are the two males.
However, you should point out to HR the way she has been acting, your inadvertent gaffe and that you are uncomfortable around her. That should fix things. I would NOT apologize for anything to her. You really haven't done anything wrong and that gives her ammo.
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For five days now I've had an extremely sore throat with mouth and tongue pain, redness and swelling of the tonsils and throat, and two tiny white spots on both sides of my tonsils. I went to a walk in clinic this morning where I got an ARNP (nurse practitioner) that flashed a light in my mouth for maybe all of 2 seconds, did a swab, and then sent me back to the waiting room.
Step test came back negative...but then he put me on a high dose antibiotic that he said would also treat Strep "in case" the test was wrong and he said Strep was going around.
I'm not sure why, but I just feel like he overlooked something. I've never had a sore throat this bad with pain also on the inside of my mouth and back of the tongue.
I saw those two white spots before AND after the doctor appointment today, but he said he didn't see them...
Should I just wait it out a few days and see what happens or should I call my primary care physician tomorrow?
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You definitely must see another doctor for a proper diagnosis and treatment. Nurse practitioners can help with some things but have a limited amount of knowledge and skills and cannot diagnose anything. A doctor can and should. I had a nurse practioner tell me what turned out to be a serious potentially deadly issue was something benign when a second opinion told us I needed surgery. So, definitely see someone else especially if your gut tells you something is wrong here or overlooked.
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