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I'm a med student, so health related questions I can usually answer pretty well. I also like to think I'm somewhat decent at giving advice. I can also give you an honest opinion."I love waking up in the morning not knowing what's gonna happen or, who I'm gonna meet, or where I'm gonna wind up. I figure life's a gift and I don't intend on wasting it. You don't know what hand you're gonna get dealt next."
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what else is there to do besides tic-tac-toe, paper football, paper airplanes, note-passing, and hangman?
umm pay attention? haha. but i know what you mean, you can go with the technical options like texting or ipod with your hood up but i know some schools don't allow hoods. or i remember in 6th grade me and my friend used to write a sentence then pass it to another person and they would write another one, and it would turn into a story, it was actually really fun of the things we came up with.
hey ... so i am 14 & i just got my period and i DO NOT WANNA TELL MY MOM! but i only have enough pads and stuff to last me maybey 2 days and i am gonna have to tell her if i want to be able to buy more!?? sooo what do i do? because if i tell her she wil laugh and tell my sister. and if my sister finds out she will tell the WORLD !! sooo embarressing. and i also wanna know what am i supposed to do? am i supposed to wear a pad all day? change it? tampon vs. pad??? HELP PLEASE!
just tell your mom, every girl goes through it so it shouldn't be embarrasing at all. why would she laugh? she's gone through it too, i think if she would laugh at anything it would be you trying to keep it a secret from her. if you wear pads i'd change it like 2 or 3 times a day and tampons 6-8 hours. i prefer tampons because you can go swimming and you can't feel them but you might wanna start out with pads til you get the hang of it.
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I always feel the need to rectify and straighten out ( or I guess reiterate) every little problem, situation, or misunderstanding.
For example: This boy, at my school, about a year ago he told everyone I was stalking him and although everything is cleared up now every time I see him I still feel the need to go up to him and talk to him about it.
When is it best to just let things go?
when you see him, instead of going up to him to talk about that, talk to him about something else. develop a new relationship with him and eventually the whole stalking thing will fade.
K, soo a few days ago my bf fingered me for the 1st time and it was the 1st time I've ever done anything sexual like that w/ a guy. So I tried to return the favor (if you catch my drift?) but I started and stopped after about 10-15 seconds because I freaked out. Like I thought I was doing it wrong and I got scared.
Is that normal? How do I get over my nerves and fears and just do it?
Oh and I told him I was really really sorry that I didn't do it and how I thought it was unfair, and he told me it was completely fine, and did it to me 2 more times that night.
From a guys point of veiw, is it like a turn off or something if you do it for a girl and she doesn't rtf? Or do some guys really not care much?
yeah its normal, i actually did the same thing haha. you might be over-thinking it, its more of a go-with-the-flow kinda thing, so don't think about it. and if the guy gets turned off or pissed, he's most likely an asshole, so your guy seems good :)
So i have a boyfriend and i really like him a lot. We've been dating for almost 6 months now. How can i tell i am in love and it is not just another crush? Are there any signs? Because idk. How can i tell he really likes/loves me? Please give advise on the signs of falling in love.
this is hard to answer because when people say, you'll just know, that pretty much explains it all. but you get a feeling that they're your other half, your heart stops every time they call/text you, you remember the little unimportant things they say, you can't help but look into their eyes, you always want to be with them, you miss them pretty much all of the time, this list can go on for awhile, if you're not sure, you're probably not in love, but it can grow, it takes time.
i'm 15/f.
here in about a week, i'm going camping. i dont really want to have to worry with my hair the whole time, and i dont want it to poof up when it get's humid.
i kinda dont want to take the time to straighten it. and it dosent curl well..natuarlly..it dosent. and creams and gels and mousse dont really work well for me AT ALL.
i really actually dont want to put it up..cause it's medium length and dosent look good up.
so what's something i can do with it to make it look good..but not take a whole lot of time??
you could french braid it if you know how, or have one of your friends do it for you.
about what size breasts do you think she has? i dont care so much about band size just cup..?
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i'd say B, almost C...just curious, why do you wanna know?
there was this song and it went like
"if you asked me to stay (? i'd be there in the morning?)"
and then later on it said "what can i do to make you stay"
it was like soft rock?
i need title and artist please.
I've checked google and every other search engine
i think you're thinking of Stay by Safetysuit.
okay..i'm about to turn 16..time to drive.
so me and my mom have two choices for a car..
basically what i want is a nice car..not too pricy..and has alot of room..
we can choose between a chevy cobalt..or a saturn view..
so in your opinion..which one will fit my needs more??
i would get the cobalt, i have one myself and its really roomy and alot better on gas than the saturn. good choice :)
hi. im getting braces and i have brown eyes and brown hair and i dont no what colors i should get them. and do you asked to get old fasioned braces or modern or does the ortho just give you what he thinx is best?
to make things simple you can just get the clear ones. or you can just get no color and just have them silver. people aren't really going to think that much about it and you can change the colors everytime you go to get them tightened so its not like a life-making decision.
I am 13 and want to have sex with my girlfriend. She said that she is ready. Should I do it. And it is legal i searched it, the legal age is 13. Should Ii avoid the vagina because of STD's. Please Help!!!!!!!
if i was in your situation i wouldn't. you're too young for this yet. did you talk about what would happen if she were to get pregnant? there's always a chance no matter how much protection you use. would you take the chance of being at father at 13 just for a few minutes of pleasure? just think about it. and if you're asking if you should here then you're obviously not ready, when you're ready you won't need to ask anyone because you'll be sure. what's the rush to lose your virginity? wait for someone you love and been with for awhile who deserves it.
ok this is a little wierd for me so please be open minded about this, i have a 13 year old daughter and well i need to know the age that girls start have periods i'm her father and only parent and i just don't know these things about girls, and also she said that she wanted to know what sex felt like and that someone told her that it would hurt at 13 years old, but i told her that she shouldn't think about things like that that she should wait until she got married but still she asked and it deserves an answer so i kinda need a womans advice on this because i'm clueless on either part, so please help, thanks
girls start their periods anywhere between 9 and 17. most girls are 10-13 though. so she should be getting it pretty soon if she hasn't already and if she doesn't get it by 17 i would suggest bringing her to a doctor. and for the sex part, at 13 years old her body isn't or near fully developed yet so i'm guessing it would be painful until she was older and more developed.
Does it feel pressure on ur teeth or does it hurt wen u get braces tighttend.
yeah you feel pressure and i wouldn't really say it hurts but for the few days after you get them tightened they'll probably be sore. nothing a little tylonol can't fix ;)
I'm 16 years old and when I went to go to the doctor's (the gynecologist) office for birth control, she asked me if I was sexually active.
Why did she ask me if I was having sex? Is it really necessary?
yes because if you're sexually active there is the pregnancy risk and she needs to make sure you're not pregnant before she does certain tests on you. you also have the risk of getting std's so she would need to be aware of checking that too. it's probably the most important thing that they need to know.
prob. wrong categorie, idk..
15/f
basically, i hate myself.
i hate my life and everything about it therefor i hate myself.
i have absolutly NO real friends.
my family is so f**ked up its not even funny..
i mess up BAD with every nice, decent guy i meet, screw up every relationship i'm in..
my parents hate me, legit.
i dont wanna tell you my life story and all the reasons im like this.. and im not trying to be dramatic, i seriously do have a bad life. the only thing i can think good of about me is that i'm pretty. but it doesnt even matter because people dont think i'm pretty when they look at me, they think im a miserable, mental, bitch.
i dont mean to dump all this on you, but i clearly have some depression issues.. that have been diagnosed by my therapist.. and my mom 'doesnt believe in depression medicine' so i cant even take a friken prozac to make me happy. >:o
ive even tried turning to religion..
and i have no one to talk to..
idk what to do with myself anymore..
the other day i ran away from the school and went missing for 2 days.. clearly im going insane and need help. i have counceling.. doesnt work..
anyone know how i can make myself happy? im sick of being like this and crying 247.. someone be my friend..?
my ex boyfriend of 8 months had depression.
he said i was and still am even after we broke up, the best person he's ever talked to about it.
feel free to inbox me and if you want my email i'd be more than happy to give it to you.
ok, you said if he starts to fall for me, i'll no, but now i have another question for you...how do you no if i guy likes you, or has fallen for you?
there's alot of ways you could tell. most girls are really good at knowing if a guy's interested in you. he'll smile at you alot, flirt, be really touchy with you(not in a perverted way), look into your eyes when you're talking to him, wait for you when he knows he'll be meeting up with you soon. all these kind of things :)
okay well first off im in high school and im 17. anyways there is this guy. And i never really talked to him but i always known who he was. Well out of no where he started talking to me and we have been talking for a few days. So,not really knowing how he is, i asked around to a few people to get the scoope. Well from what people were saying is that he tends to be a jerk. But when me and him talk he doesn't come across like that one bit. I don't know if it's just part of his act or if people just like to make things up. But he wants to hang out and i honestly don't know what to do because i like talking to him but i dont wanna get hurt. If you can, just give me some advice or tell me what you would do. Thanks in advance!
well i think everyone deserves a fair chance. if you like him, go ahead and hang out with him and see for yourself. but then again keep what these people said about him in the back of your head, like don't get so attached and then see his jerk side and get hurt you know? if you think he's so nice, when you're talking one day you can slip something in like "you're so nice, i can't believe someone told me you're not" or something like that without having to explain anything or offend him, if you catch my drift. "jerks" can change over time, and a special girl can change them too ;) haha.
You said to use an ointment or cream. What do you recommend that girls should use for there chin?
try clean&clear continuous acne clenser. i used to have acne on my chin and it cleared it all up :)
Okay...I am an 18 year old girl in high school...
This might be a little lengthy, and detailed...>.< Sorry...
Um..
Let's start in...2000..When I was in 4th grade, I met a boy, and we became good friends. I liked him, but it was a kid-crush. Well, i didn't see him again until 2005, when a mutual friend had a big get-together at her house, in my freshman year of high school. He was there, and the instant i saw him, i remembered my feelings for him. When i arrived at my friend's house, everyone was outside. I got attacked and jumped on by some of my friends, and then he came over, and asked if i remembered him. I was thinking "How could i forget you.." (because even though i had liked other guys and stuff, i had not forgotten him), but i said something else because i was feeling a bit shy. Anyway, that day, we had a good time, getting along very easily like 2 good friends who had never lost touch. After this, though we didn't go to the same high school (because, even though he lives really close to me, he went to a specialized high school that was farther away), we continued to see each other at random b-day parties and get togethers of friends. My feelings for him grew, but unlike my other friends, i couldn't simply "confess" and tell him my feelings. He was kind to me, but that doesn't mean he liked me, and rejection was one of my greatest fears. I continued to live with a painful pang of unrequited love. We would talk and joke at parties, but never hung out on our own or anything. Then, in the summer before senior year, i found great news. My crush was coming to my high school (because he got in trouble at his old one sad but...). I was so happy. On the first day, we even ran into each other, and spent the whole lunch period together. It was great. But after that day, i didn't see him again. My lunch got changed. In the second semester, it changed back. We began spending lunches together again, and really getting to know each other and chatting a lot. I was really wondering if he could possibly like me, but i kept telling myself there was no way...because i knew i was ugly, and there was nothing great about me. (i think my friend had had his heart broken in the past; experiencing unrequited love a few times the way i was at that time. Anyway) But my love for him continued to grow.
At lunch, we started meeting in a place no one really knew about. It was dark, and we couldn't really see each other, but we would just talk and i didn't feel scared. I just loved spending time with him. Sometimes i wondered what was going on; why would he want to spend time with me like that, thinking he must liked me if so. But i still was unsure. It got to a point where we would poke each other back and forth, and somehow we started holding hands. I questioned myself even more, wondering what was happening between us. At these times, there were no words, and i was too scared to ask him anything, even a simple question of "why." It just continued to go on like this.....
Then we got in trouble for being there, put into CAEP for a week long. We got out, and nothing really changed between us. We were like more than friends, but not quite a couple. I was confused, but happy.
One night, he texted me late, like 4 am, asking if i wanted to take a walk. We were together, talking and jut hanging out, until about 6, which is when i usually wake up for school.
That day at school, my friend and I both got in trouble (but he was in worse than I – he was being sent to an alternative school for about a month.). That evening, he texted me saying he was talking another walk, and I came. My mom was so angry at me for getting in trouble again; I was glad to leave the house. We just walked around, talking about what happened. It was dark by time we were coming back. Since we lived so close, I walked back to his house with him, and was going to head home alone (since I might get in more trouble for my mom for being with someone – and I never knew what to expect from her. We just sat down on his driveway for a while, kind of hugging, and just feeling sympathy for ourselves and each other. Finally, I was going to leave, and he gave me his jacket, because it was cold outside. Not quite understanding, I took off mine and said “Here! Take mine!”, and put his on – so we kind of exchanged. >.< haha.
I got up, and just went to hug him one more time, and he hugged me back tightly… then without warning, he just came closer and we kissed…I was alarmed and though I liked it, I was so scared and had no idea of what to do. I was just frozen there for about 2 seconds and then I sort of pulled back…right away I said “I’m sorry!” And I hugged him again…we just sat there because I was like emotionally distraught and he must have been feeling it too. We tried to talk about it, but everytime I tried to explain something or say how I felt, I stuttered or a weird strangled noise would escape my mouth, and all I could really say was sorry. He wanted to try again, but after that, there was no way I could. Well we took more walks in the middle of the night, which I loved….but after a while, we just stopped.
Eventually he came back to school, where we continued to hang out. Things kind of went back to normal. But nothing really happened until recently. We spent lunch inside the auditorium at school, which is pretty vacant most of the time. There was this dark hallway thing we just sit in (Ah, we both kind of like the dark >__.< He’s a great friend. I’ve liked him for a long time, longer than I’ve ever liked anyone. Neither of us has ever had a relationship before, and when he kissed me 2 months ago, it was the first time for both of us. I feel so regretful. Our time together is running out; the last full day of school is Monday, I don’t know if I’ll get to see him during the summer, and he’s going to college 10 hours away from me. I don’t know what I want, I don’t know what to do. I feel bad about letting him down. I’m still confused and it’s hard to believe that he likes me, but I guess he does. I actually wanted to kiss him back. Very much. Ever since the first time, I’ve been thinking about that, hoping it would happen again, and telling myself that if it ever did, I would be ready and I would kiss him back. But I just can’t. I messed up again! I get scared and freeze up every time. It’s hard for me to face people, and make eye contact, and even though this was in the dark, I still couldn’t do it.
I wish there was one more chance, and if we don’t see each other on Monday, there might never be. If things happened this way again, or if he asked me again, I would definitely kiss him this time. But I feel like I messed things up for good this time; I mean, it took a little more than 2 months for us to get to that point again. I love him so much. I wouldn’t care about looking or seeming stupid and not knowing what to do; I just want another chance. So what do I do? It’s not like I can just ask him now, after what happened. And I know he wont initiate things, after what I did…he’s pretty shy too.
So what should I do? Just live with this? It’s breaking my heart. I have never told anyone about this. That’s why I’m typing it here; I just need to let it out, and I want to see what people say about it. And all that background info is just to help people get an idea of the struggle I’ve gone through, and how long this has been going on; how long it took to finally reach this point.
Help!?!
Why is this so hard for me, and so easy for other people?
Have you ever had such an experience?
Um….what would you do if you were in my situation? D;
Love,
Confused, Idiotic, Shy, Stupid person. D; lol
aw this is so sad. it both sounds like you really like each other. it's completely normal for you to be nervous about a first kiss or first relationship (i think you mentioned that in there correct me if i'm wrong) but you're just nervous, and that's okay. you need to shake off being nervous, he's your best friend, and from what you said here it sounds like he's crazy about you and won't judge you. if you really like him then the best advice i could give you is to find him before he leaves and tell him what you said here. tell him how much you like him and that you're just nervous. you will definetly regret it if you don't, you two have got something good, don't let it slip away like that. hope everything works out for you.